Why do I always feel restless while watching movies, feeling that it's a waste of time?

Good evening.

I offer you a 360-degree hug because you have been holding back from allowing yourself to be happy. You might also benefit from exploring the concept of the "guilty pleasure" syndrome, which can manifest as a fear of being happy. When something happy happens, you may experience a sense of unease, as if you shouldn't enjoy yourself, that you don't deserve to be happy, or that if you are happy, bad things will happen soon.

I'm not sure of the specifics of your situation, but it's possible that you feel you don't deserve to be happy, or to go to the movies, or to spend money. It's understandable that you're cautious and that you resist being happy and enjoying these kinds of things.

Perhaps you are also hesitant to laugh out loud in a crowd.

The feeling of unworthiness can be described as a sense that one does not deserve something good, such as happiness and enjoyment. In some cases, this can lead to feelings of panic if one experiences these positive emotions or if they are perceived to have them.

It is not uncommon for this sense of unworthiness to have its roots in childhood experiences. In some cases, this may be the result of growing up in a strict family environment where the child's needs were not always met and a sense of being valued was lacking. As adults, we may find ourselves asking questions like, "Do you deserve it?"

It might also be helpful to consider your own situation. Over time, children may begin to feel that they don't deserve anything, which could potentially lead to a reduction in their self-esteem and self-confidence, and a gradual decrease in their sense of self-worth.

For instance, some parents may express to their children when they are young that they have experienced significant challenges in their lives and therefore expect their children to do well in life and provide them with a comfortable future. If these children are unable to meet these expectations when they grow up, they may feel that they are undeserving of happiness and enjoyment.

They feel that their parents have invested so much in them, and now that they have not yet repaid them, and they are still facing challenges, how can they be happy? Therefore, they may view their happiness as something to be questioned.

Another kind of guilt is when you can't be happy when someone else is unhappy. For example, some people like to offer advice, saying, "How can you smile when someone else is having such a hard time? This person may not even be related to us."

In today's world, there are many people who express their opinions on social media without fully understanding the context of a situation. When something tragic occurs, they may comment on a celebrity's Weibo, questioning the circumstances and the justification for the high salary. However, these two aspects are not necessarily connected.

I hope you don't mind me going off on a bit of a tangent, but I feel some people can get caught up in this logic and feel that they don't deserve it.

I'm not sure if that's your situation, but it seems that the logic behind it is similar: a low sense of self-worth, feelings of guilt about being happy, and the belief that you don't deserve it.

Perhaps it would be helpful to suggest an alternative approach.

Perhaps it would be helpful to adopt the mindset that you deserve everything that the world has to offer.

This is not a significant issue. You may wish to repeat this affirmation in your own mind each day: "I am a unique being in this world, and I deserve to be happy and enjoy life."

You may be wondering if this approach is effective. I can assure you that it is.

You might find it helpful to repeat this affirmation each day, perhaps first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to avoid taking on the lives of others.

I'm not sure what your situation is, but I think it's important to remember not to take on other people's expectations, not anyone's.

Everyone is responsible for their own lives. Even if someone chooses a very difficult life, it is their own choice. I believe that if parents have to choose a busy life and work hard for their children, it may be best not to pass the responsibility of this life onto their children.

It is possible that your schedule would be just as full if you did not have children.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider returning the responsibilities of others to them, while focusing on your own responsibilities.

Thirdly, it would be beneficial to identify your strengths and areas of value.

For instance, your work, your strengths, your specialties, your patience, and so on. Even your smile, for example, represents a strength.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to amplify it.

I believe that you have the power to create a bright future for yourself. You deserve to have all the good things in life.

I am a psychological counselor who experiences a range of emotions, including periods of depression and moments of positivity. I extend my love and appreciation to the world and to you.