Why do I feel so scared when someone sits behind me?

Dear questioner, I'm Whale Social Worker 53 Hz.

Hug OP.

I don't like being watched when I'm doing something. I understand the questioner's feelings, and I hug them again.

Maybe the questioner doesn't like feeling insecure with someone behind them. We often leave our backs to people we trust because the back is vulnerable and out of sight.

When someone is behind you, you feel exposed. This makes you feel unsafe. The driver will react by looking at the person behind them or moving to a different position.

If you don't like it, find a safe position to relax. Or talk to your teacher.

Or, the questioner can try letting close friends sit behind them to get used to having someone behind them.

Best wishes? (Whale Social Worker?)

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, your answerer. From your description, it's clear that you have an intriguing experience from junior high school that has left you with an intriguing feeling. You're looking for a way to get rid of this feeling, and I'm excited to help you find it!

Let's dive in and analyze the root cause of this situation!

1. When the questioner was stimulated in junior high school, he was young and had the opportunity to learn and grow from the experience.

When the questioner was in junior high school, a girl, probably out of jealousy, competition, or a desire to compare herself with others, always liked to pay attention to the questioner. The questioner believed that she was secretly competing with the questioner inside, so the questioner felt the pressure of being supervised, and the questioner also felt very annoying about the other person and felt very uncomfortable in this situation. In fact, the questioner may not have received reasonable guidance and help from parents or teachers in time. But you know what? You can completely relax in response to this situation. You have your own talent for learning and the freedom to master your own learning style. There is no need to be affected by the attention and judgment of others. You see, not only are those celebrities being watched, they are even being scolded online. You need to improve your psychological resilience and not let the attention of others cause you psychological pressure. But you can do it!

2. The good news is that the problem is not that the emotions have not been adequately released. This means that there is an opportunity to work on generalization of these emotions to situations involving interactions with other people.

The questioner has not yet had the chance to release his emotions in the previous situation. This means he has not yet formed a reasonable perception of this matter and has not yet adopted a corresponding approach that would enable him to truly accept this matter from the bottom of his heart and prevent it from affecting him. Therefore, for him, this matter has become an unresolved issue. The questioner feels a sense of powerlessness in this matter, and whenever a similar situation arises again, the questioner feels that he needs to resolve this matter, but he does not know how to do so. This causes the questioner emotional distress and also affects his studies and life. But there is a solution!

3. The questioner feels helpless in this situation and also feels affected, so he seeks help.

The sense of helplessness prompted the questioner to want to solve this problem fundamentally, so as to avoid the impact on their studies and life. This is a truly forward-thinking idea!

I've got some great suggestions for you! I'm really excited to share them with you and help you out in any way I can.

1. You can do it! Build up your courage and be brave enough to accept the attention and challenges from others.

In their future lives and studies, the questioner can try to improve their courage, try to accept the attention and challenges others pay to them. In group life, there are many different types of people with different values. This is an amazing opportunity for us to learn and grow! Often, when we live in groups, we have to learn to adapt to different people and situations, so that we can try to understand others in various environments, get along well with others, and also insist on ourselves in the right things. As for the attention and challenges others pay to them, we don't need to care about or respond to them, we just need to be serious and do our best. This is our chance to shine!

2. Be yourself! Don't worry about what others think. Form your own opinions and be proud of who you are!

In the future, the question owner will have the courage to accept others' doubts and strange treatment of themselves in many things. They will also insist on being themselves, not catering to others, nor being influenced by others' attention. This will help them adapt to the environment in a group better than ever before!

3. Get along with others, work well with your surroundings, and banish your nerves!

The main reason is that the questioner has strong feelings about his classmates. This can lead to some misunderstandings about their behavior or create a distance between them. However, good interpersonal relationships are the foundation for maintaining positive emotions and forming strong cooperative relationships in group settings. This is why it's essential for the questioner to be friendly and show sincerity in all relationships, regardless of how others may act. By doing so, he can eliminate his own suspicions and nervousness, fostering a more harmonious relationship. Not only that, but his self-regulation and adaptability will also flourish!

It's not uncommon to feel uneasy when we imagine people behind us, under the bed, or above us. These imagined figures can easily trigger feelings of fear in many of us. When we're particularly afraid of someone sitting behind us, or afraid of someone interrupting us, or something similar, it can help to identify what our own fears might be.

Sometimes early experiences can also have a significant impact on our lives, influencing our ability to trust others or ourselves, creating a sense of constant danger, or leading us to perceive ourselves as always being restrained. Additionally, excessive attention from others can often feel like pressure.

It is possible that having too high expectations might leave no room for heroes. There was a time when your grandmother sat behind you, perhaps wanting to supervise your studies and keep you in line, worrying that if you weren't kept in line, you simply wouldn't be able to do any of it.

There was once a girl who was perceived as annoying. The other person would stare at you with their eyes, constantly comparing you in terms of academic performance. In fact, this kind of comparison can also cause a lot of harm. The truth is, you just really want to study hard, so it might be helpful to adjust your mentality.

Everyone has their own worries, fears, and phobias, and often these fears actually come from within themselves. You might find it helpful to practice mindfulness meditation in the Meditation Planet section on the homepage to calm yourself down. You could also read more books on emotional regulation of fear, such as Fear: The Hidden Force That Drives Global Events, Courage, The Fear Book, Fearless: Confronting Vulnerability and Failure, and The Gift of Fear.

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