Why do I so desperately want others to like me, yet feel envy, jealousy, and resentment?

Good morning. I extend my sincerest regards to you from afar and am grateful to have the opportunity to assist you.

I hope that my sharing can provide you with some support and assistance. I also commend you for your clear awareness of your physical and mental feelings.

The desire to be recognized and liked is a fundamental psychological need that everyone has. The difference lies in the degree of desire to be responded to. From your description, it is evident that this aspect of your inner needs is significantly lacking and deprived. You have not yet attempted to respond to yourself more effectively through your own efforts. Consequently, you are more inclined to seek external responses and satisfaction.

It is important to note that no individual is obliged to respond to and satisfy your needs, and no one knows you better than you do. Once you have identified your inner needs and deficiencies, you can attempt to respond to and satisfy them more effectively through your own efforts.

It is essential to first accept and allow oneself to have these needs and desires. They should be met with a positive response and satisfaction. It is crucial to avoid feelings of shame, guilt, or self-blame for having such needs. Needs should be addressed with an open mind. There is no shame in having needs; all legitimate needs should be responded to and satisfied. What often causes shame is that needs have been suppressed and hidden, leading to certain personality distortions. Needs are often responded to in ways that hurt oneself or others.

In the event that your roommate's behavior makes you feel disrespected, misunderstood, or unsupported, it is advisable to express your true feelings in a forthright and honest manner. This should be done without making any judgments about their actions.

Meanwhile, it would be beneficial to attempt to learn to better accept yourself. This is because a person's relationship with others is often a projection of their relationship with their inner selves.

When you can fully accept yourself, recognize your strengths, and like yourself from the inside out, you will not need to look outside for affirmation excessively.

One method of improving self-acceptance is to create a list of one's strengths related to self-acceptance. This process allows individuals to identify areas for improvement while also recognizing their positive attributes.

It would be beneficial to cultivate additional interests and passions in your life, thereby increasing your control over various aspects. Additionally, maintaining a gratitude journal can be an effective method for developing self-confidence and enhancing your sense of self-worth.

Do not define or evaluate yourself based on the outcomes of your actions.

Show yourself and others the same respect and consideration you would expect in return. Build strong, mutually beneficial relationships.

We all want to be happy and have a good life, but it's only natural to feel jealous of what other people have that we don't. Some people are lucky enough to travel, have money, time, and a partner.

And then posting it online will also lead to jealousy and incomprehension from other people, who think they are showing off their wealth or something. In fact, people are just being themselves, and we can also be ourselves. In the dormitory, this is everyone's dormitory, and their happiness should not be based on your suffering.

♠You really want to be liked and admired by others.

♠You might also feel jealous and annoyed when your roommate talks while you're trying to sleep.

♠You feel bad, angry, frustrated, and lack confidence.

Like,

☂ Hate

It's clear that they can be quieter when you want to sleep, but they just do whatever they want. It's pretty rude behavior. You've already made it clear that you want them to keep their voices down, and they probably heard you.

Life in the bedroom is often full of a lot of different emotions.

It's easy to figure out what you want.

Sometimes it's just that you're in the wrong environment.

You want to be friends with them and be accepted by them, but your habits don't seem to be particularly similar. When you want to go to bed, they're still chatting away happily. When you make a request, they become even more united.

It seems like you've been heard, but not fully. You'll still feel uncomfortable. You want them to follow your ideas and also want their recognition so they'll pay more attention to you. This is a normal need.

We all want to be respected and loved. When they're happy, you might realize that it seems like happiness is theirs and you don't have any. They're still in their own world, talking, laughing, and playing around.

It seems like they're happy, while you're feeling more hatred. This could be a kind of "feeling of deprivation." It feels like your happiness is being taken away, and you're feeling powerless. When it comes to groups you don't quite fit in with, you might need to lower your expectations.

If you can't fit in, it's time to move on. You also have your own needs for respect, recognition, and belonging. Perhaps you can find other friends. I recommend that you take the necessary psychological test of the inner animal archetype to know your own background better. I also recommend that you talk to a coach who can help you discover your true self. Good luck!

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