Why does the injury of a child cause me such immense worry, and upon contemplating the worst-case scenario, I feel like dying?

Dear host, I hope that my response will prove to be of some assistance to you.

I empathize with your situation. I was also a stay-at-home mother with limited knowledge about parenting. I lacked understanding of my child's psychological development and had no independent life. I was constantly occupied with my child's meals, daily activities, and other responsibilities. During that period, I felt a strong bond with my child, as if I was one with him. I believed that without me, my child would not exist. When something adverse happened to my child, I felt a sense of personal responsibility and blame. As you described, when my child fell, I experienced intense anxiety and worry, reaching a point of despair and feeling helpless (although the situation was not as severe as you described, I did have those thoughts). In retrospect, that period was the lowest point in my life. It seemed like there was no hope for the future because I had lost myself.

Subsequently, I continued my research and discovered my own area of expertise, acquiring a wealth of knowledge about child education and developmental psychology. Concurrently, I underwent significant personal growth. I discovered that when our inner strength is enhanced and we cultivate our own, circumstances improve.

In light of the particular circumstances of the original poster and my own experience, I offer the following counsel:

1. It is important to recognize that children are not merely extensions of their parents; they are independent individuals with their own unique needs and capabilities. It is, therefore, unproductive to assume that parents are solely responsible for their children's growth and development.

During the process of acquiring the ability to walk, the child will inevitably experience falls. However, with persistence and resilience, she will eventually succeed in overcoming these challenges. It is not always feasible to provide comprehensive protection, therefore, it is essential to prioritize the provision of support and guidance within the limits of our capabilities.

Furthermore, as the child matures, she will undergo significant psychological and physical changes. At different stages of development, she will require different forms of psychological support. Therefore, it is essential to gain a deeper understanding of developmental psychology. This will enable parents to become more confident and targeted in their parenting approach, while also fostering greater calm and composure, rather than anxiety and confusion.

The child is not solely the progeny of the mother; she also has a father and other elders, and thus, her growth will be influenced by a multitude of factors. It is not possible to control every aspect of her development. Furthermore, every individual is born as an independent entity. It is imperative to respect her growth and development, provide her with the autonomy to flourish, and allow her to encounter the experiences necessary for her maturation. Failure to do so may result in an inability to navigate the challenges of the future.

In the event that one feels that they are unable to cope any longer, it is important not to bear the responsibility alone. It is possible to inform one's loved ones and friends about the difficulties one is experiencing and to ascertain whether they are willing to share some of the burden. Additionally, it can be beneficial to engage in conversation with other mothers, as it is likely that many of them are facing similar challenges due to their shared status as mothers and their inherent capacity for profound love for their children. This can help to alleviate feelings of isolation and provide a sense of support and care.

2. It is advisable to employ a variety of techniques on a regular basis to facilitate the release and relief of emotions.

It is important to acknowledge and accept the full range of emotions that one experiences. Attempting to suppress these emotions will not result in their disappearance; rather, they will manifest in a more intense and disruptive manner when they are not expressed. There are various techniques that can be employed to facilitate the release of emotions.

1. It is crucial to cultivate a support system comprised of individuals who can provide emotional sustenance and constructive feedback. It is imperative to prioritize the quality of these relationships, ensuring that the individuals in question possess the capacity to offer genuine assistance and encouragement, while also fostering a sense of comfort and rapport.

2. It is recommended that you engage in physical activity, participate in sports activities that you enjoy, and allow yourself to experience relaxation as a result.

3. Writing Therapy: The objective is to record all of one's feelings and thoughts on paper, without concern for the clarity or neatness of the handwriting or the logical coherence of the content. The aim is to express one's feelings as fully as possible.

4. A recommended method for releasing anger is to punch pillows and sandbags, which can be considered soft objects.

5. The empty chair technique may be employed to facilitate the release of emotions. In a room, an empty chair should be placed, with the assumption that the individual with whom one wishes to communicate is seated therein. One may then express oneself to the chair, utilizing any emotions one wishes to release, including anger and abuse.

3. It should be noted that the role of a full-time mother does not necessarily entail lifelong commitment to this role. It is possible to maintain one's individual identity and pursuits while fulfilling the responsibilities of motherhood.

Although we have elected to assume the role of full-time housewives and have temporarily relinquished our personal growth for the benefit of our family, we must not relinquish our autonomy in making decisions about our lives.

The role of a full-time mother is a relatively short-lived one, typically spanning the years preceding a child's enrollment in kindergarten. It is crucial to recognize the value of one's contributions during this period and to embrace the significance of parenting as a meaningful endeavor.

Children are a source of growth and learning, offering opportunities to gain wisdom and experience the wonders of life.

It is also important to remember that it is essential to engage in activities that facilitate growth and development. It is crucial to avoid the pitfall of wasting one's free time. Instead, it is vital to prioritize constant improvement, learning, and exploration of novel experiences, with the aim of acquiring new skills.

It is recommended that individuals communicate more with the world, both online and offline, so that their talents and values can be expressed through the appropriate platforms and channels. This will enable them to achieve their own value while also fulfilling their familial responsibilities.

I am of the opinion that I am capable of achieving this goal, and I am similarly confident that you are able to do so as well.

It is imperative that we do not allow others to define our lives; we must always retain the right to choose our own paths.

I wish you the utmost success and best wishes for the future.

Hello. I'm honored to meet you and hope my advice helps.

Your situation is normal. Many stay-at-home mothers suddenly lose their jobs and start taking care of their children full-time. They have sacrificed a lot and worry that their children will be hurt or that their love will be shared with others.

Don't worry. You've realized the problem is serious and have taken the first step. You can still start changing.

A mother's love is not overprotective. You want your child to grow up healthy and strong.

We need to teach our children to be independent. This means letting them dress themselves, make their own choices, and learn from their mistakes. We need to let them fall and hurt themselves so that they understand the importance of hard work. As mothers, we need to be tough with our children so that they can learn to be independent.

Third, your child is getting older. Enroll him in an early childhood education class or a half-day nursery. Give yourself time to calm down. Wean yourself from your child. Otherwise, he will never grow up. You will have endless worries when he is young. You will also have to worry about him when he is older.

A successful mother knows how to give her child the right amount of love, grow up with her child, and give her child space to grow.

I hope your child grows up safe and happy, and I hope you find a solution soon. Understand the truth.

You have a lovely baby and a husband who loves you. Your child will grow up healthy and safe!