Why is it that I'm too shy to play music loudly?

Hello, question asker.

We've all been there. You're listening to music and you wonder if you should play it through the speakers. It's a common dilemma. We don't want to disturb others, and we don't want to be seen as inconsiderate. It's a simple choice of thought that shows kindness and respect for others.

From what you've said, it seems like your friends and father have expressed disapproval or even criticism of the songs you listen to. It's not just about disturbing others. It seems like you care more about others' opinions of your taste. You seem to be afraid of being criticized after being heard and of being rejected by others.

You've done a great job. Now you think it's enough to just be yourself, and there's no need to care so much about what other people think. After all, you're not bothering anyone. But you're still a little sad about your own psychological barrier, right? Just because you're not bothering others doesn't mean you won't be heard. As long as you're speaking up, you're likely to be heard, right?

Everyone's psychological perception is shaped by their past experiences, observations, and auditory input. Given your history of rejection and criticism, it's understandable why you've been hesitant to fully let go of these experiences. It's like you've tried to spread your wings before, but they were pushed back. You're now very cautious and don't dare to try again. This feeling of yours is really very normal and reasonable.

You might feel a little weak. I'm here to support you as a tree hole. All music is made to be appreciated. Others can express their dislikes, and you can express your likes. Find your own taste. The world is wonderful because of its many facets. Give you a little strength, you can try it, turn the volume down a little, listen for a while; the second time you can turn it up a little, for a little longer. You'll get used to this kind of sound and it won't feel like anything. It's nice to enjoy music on your own. It might get better slowly. You might feel a little weak. I'm here to support you as a tree hole. All music is made to be appreciated. Others can express their dislikes, and you can express your likes. Find your own taste. The world is wonderful because of its many facets. Give you a little strength, you can try it, turn the volume down a little, listen for a while; the

I just wanted to say that the world and I love you. I hope you will soon find the feeling of being free and relaxed, and stop being so cautious.

Hello, Kimu the Little Angel here!

I hope this helps!

The questioner's problems can be summarized as follows:

What if someone criticizes you while you're showering and listening to music?

2. What if my music isn't appreciated?

3. I can't stop thinking about unhappy memories from the past.

4. What if you want to sing out loud but are afraid?

Problem analysis:

First, the questioner should be clear about these things:

1. Many people listen to music on shuffle in the shower. The questioner is not unusual.

2. The music you're listening to is niche. Many people have different tastes.

3. If you haven't done anything wrong, don't worry.

Advice for the questioner:

Three steps to overcome music anxiety

1. Understand your anxiety.

You want to play the music, but you're worried it will lead to problems. As long as you're prepared for these problems, you shouldn't worry.

2. Shame attack exercise

You're worried someone will come to your door to scold you for playing music outside. You've already done the first half, so be careful when you shower not to disturb the neighbors. Just enjoy it for yourself.

There are two possibilities:

1) A neighbor comes to your door and says your music is too loud or disturbing. Pay attention to this event and repeat to yourself, "Everyone makes mistakes. I won't always be perfect. It's impossible to never make a mistake. Admitting mistakes is the greatest virtue." You'll find the consequences aren't as serious as you thought.

2) If your neighbor doesn't come, you can enjoy a bath and music. You'll see that some things aren't as bad as you think.

You can handle it. Practice makes it easier.

3. Don't worry too much.

You can let things happen at the right time through shame attacks. You will slowly discover that some catastrophic imaginations will not actually happen. Then, you will feel very relaxed.

Finally, I'd like to share with the questioner:

Anxiety caused by certain things is healthy. It can motivate you to make progress. But excessive anxiety or catastrophic thinking can harm your health. You can learn to transform excessive anxiety into normal anxiety.

The questioner may want to remember this tip:

1. Be accurate and don't be anxious.

2. Practice shame attacks to ground your anxiety.

3. Don't worry too much.

The final theme lets you stop worrying about music and listen to songs while bathing!

Good day! I perused your query. You mentioned listening to music. You are reluctant to play it at a high volume, so it is imperative to discern the psychological pattern underlying your apprehension.

1. The primary concern is the fear of being subjected to disapproving comments by those in one's immediate vicinity when listening to music at a high volume.

The issue is not the act of listening to music; rather, it is the underlying psychological pattern that gives rise to the fear that is preventing you from doing so.

What is the underlying cause of this fear? Is it a fear of rejection?

The question then becomes whether the fear is of other people's comments, or of comments on songs or on oneself.

Ultimately, only the individual in question is aware of the true nature of their own experiences.

It is erroneous to consider fear a problematic entity. The crucial point is to refrain from denying oneself the pleasure of music listening due to fear. It seems that you are not apprehensive about the potential consequences of listening to music on the radio. I surmise that, in the absence of others, you would be emboldened to play music outdoors.

3. Therefore, it can be concluded that the source of the problem is the fear of other people's comments.

What, then, is the appropriate attitude to adopt when confronted with such comments? This is the crucial question.

4. Additionally, you have indicated that the musical selections you enjoy are not widely popular. You have also shared these selections with friends. It is not uncommon for individuals to express that they do not connect with these musical choices.

It is, however, somewhat extreme to request that others listen to music in accordance with one's own preferences.

One should not attempt to impose one's own preferences and tastes upon others. However, it is perfectly acceptable to have one's own preferences and tastes. There is no need to be connected to others in this regard.

5. If others do not appreciate one's musical preferences, they will inevitably adopt a critical stance. Consequently, it is unnecessary to allow the opinions of others to influence one's own feelings about music. However, it is important to recognize that not everyone shares one's musical tastes.

6. One may disseminate the material in question to those who evince a positive response and to those who evince a negative response. It is inevitable that one will encounter individuals who deny the veracity of the material and who pass judgment upon it.

7. In the event that one is unable to alter one's surrounding environment, it is advisable to learn how to adapt to it. One may choose to explore one's own personal space, engaging in activities that bring one joy, without expecting those who do not comprehend one's perspective or who hold negative judgments to also possess such an understanding.

Additionally, you asserted that it is acceptable to be oneself, which is indeed the case. In the event that one is unable to alter circumstances that are beyond one's control or to extricate oneself from one's current situation, it is advisable to establish one's own personal space and to pursue personal growth at a measured pace.

In lieu of dwelling on the futility of unalterable circumstances, it is more prudent to adopt a constructive outlook and strive for personal fulfillment.

The aforementioned responses represent my conclusion, and it is my hope that they will prove beneficial to you.