With my dad beside me, I lack confidence while doing things, fearing he might criticize me.

Hello, question asker. Let me give you a hug.

I understand your problem. From the words, I can tell how the questioner feels. Here is some reference:

Summary: When Dad is around, we feel insecure. For example, if Dad is there when we serve the rice, we won't even be able to serve it. We'll always worry about what Dad will say.

From the question, we can see that Dad is important to us because we care what he thinks. We may have been strict with us in the past, which is why we feel fear even in a common task like serving food.

We can ask ourselves what we're afraid of and if we can solve the problem.

What are we afraid of? What problems will this cause?

Example: I'm afraid my dad will scold me. I'm afraid of his negative comments, which will make me insecure. This will make me feel like I can't do anything right, and it will make me nervous around my dad. The questioner just needs to feel according to their true thoughts. Does that feel better?

Instead of worrying about what hasn't happened, accept your feelings, even if you haven't done a good job. We can change our thinking and ask for advice. We don't mean we can't serve rice well, but that Dad's actions have caused our bodies and minds to act in a protective manner, making us feel nervous.

The first thing to do is tell your father how you feel. Or ask him how he usually serves food well and quickly. He might scold you, but that's not the point. The important thing is that he's happy to talk to you. The most important thing is that we've learned to communicate.

If you're embarrassed to talk in person, you can write letters.

The questioner can write a success diary to boost their confidence. It doesn't have to be a big deal; even ordinary things can help.

When we feel tired, we can read it.

I hope this helps. I look forward to seeing a better you, and the world loves you.

Take a moment to listen to your inner silence.

There are folks like this who just love to chime in on what others are doing. They'll comment on anything and everything, big or small.

Oh, that was just his way! I'm sure he didn't mean it as a criticism.

Have you ever noticed that he also evaluates other people, apart from you?

If you care about his comments and become nervous, it's natural to feel like he's targeting you in every situation. It's a vicious cycle, isn't it? The more nervous you become, the more harsh his comments seem to be, and the more nervous you get when he gets harsh.

So, it's really important to keep your mind calm. We should absolutely accept fair comments, but you should automatically block unnecessary comments.

It's so important to pay more attention to your inner psychology and not let external interference get to you. This is the fundamental solution!

Because you're such a sensitive soul, it's only natural that you're affected by the opinions of others. It's not just your father's evaluation that can get to you — it's the opinions of anyone who matters to you.

Sometimes, this interference can be a bit of a problem for you. It's totally normal! The reason for this is that your heart is not as strong as it could be, and you are not as confident in your views, ideas, and practices as you'd like to be.

You don't have to live your life according to what others think. You have your own special place in the world, and that's enough! Even if you do everything right, you can't please everyone. Learning to accept that is part of being able to live your life on your own terms.

From now on, it's really important to focus on building your self-confidence. It's not something you can achieve overnight, but with a little bit of effort, you can do it!

But when you make positive changes in your life, amazing things start to happen! You'll notice your life taking on a new sense of direction, and your energy levels will skyrocket!

Bless you, my dear!