Work is not going well, relationships are not going well, I don't feel like I'm liked, I feel like a failure.

Hello, I understand you. You've just taken the wrong path, but it's never too late to change. Just quit and find another path. The setbacks you encounter now will make you stronger and more resilient, which will in turn make you more adept at your work in the future. Development is a wave-like progression and a spiral-like ascent. The setbacks that arise are actually what ordinary people have to experience. As long as you don't forget your initial aspirations and keep going, life will not fail you.

Plus, as they say, "Every cloud has a silver lining." Losing something isn't necessarily a bad thing. This is true for work and relationships, too. The next one might even be better. You have to look at things from a developmental perspective. Just because you don't feel like you're good at something now doesn't mean you won't be in the future. So don't give up so easily. You should face yourself squarely, look for your strengths and weaknesses, learn from others' strengths to make up for your weaknesses, make your own career plan, and work hard to achieve your goals.

When it comes to relationships, think of them as a seasoning for life. It's better to have a few good ones than a lot of mediocre ones. You can expand your social circle when it makes sense, and work hard to find your own comfortable social circle with people to talk to and listen to. When you're stressed, you can exercise, run, jump rope, etc., or you can listen to music, eat a good meal, and relieve your stress.

Once you've found your goal, just go for it. Don't overthink things and don't let self-defeating behavior get in your way. Don't feel sorry for your parents because you haven't achieved anything yet. You're not a reflection of your future self, so have confidence in your future.

That's all I've got to say for now. I hope it helps.

Dear questioner, You feel like a fighter who has come home defeated, wrapped in a tight cocoon of frustration. It seems that this relationship has not harmed your body, but your soul has been devastated. Let's take a look at what's going on inside us and see how we can turn this around!

It's clear to me that you're a very emotional person. When I say "emotional," I mean "attached to." You care deeply about how you behave in relationships. You regard relationships as an important battlefield in your life, where you fight a life-and-death battle. At the very least, that battle has killed all your enthusiasm. But there's so much more to you than that!

[A soul that is absolutely thrilled to be accepted]

I see a soul that is absolutely bursting with desire to be accepted! You feel that "the whole world doesn't like you" because you know that when the whole world likes you and welcomes you, you will truly be able to live in this world. Being liked by the whole world is your passport to this world!

[Nurturing your inner child]

I think this relationship experience has revealed a hidden trauma that has been waiting to be uncovered. The external injury is just a "physiological arousal." You will keep entering relationships again and again and getting hurt again and again as long as your trauma remains unhealed. But now you know what you need to heal it!

Guess what? Trauma is closely related to our childhood experiences. Amazing, right? When our physical needs are not seen and met by our primary family, we will always be reminded in the form of trauma that we still have needs.

The need for acceptance is a wonderful thing!

If you have an extreme desire to be accepted by others, it simply means that you haven't yet accepted yourself. And that's okay! We all crave to be part of a group (relationship), and socializing and intimacy are important to us.

I think you have a lot of room to grow! You might think you're not smart enough, not good-looking enough, or not slim enough. But you are! And you can be! One of the challenges on the Yi Xin platform is to find 30 different positive traits in yourself over 30 days. Come and join us! By the time you find 30 different positive traits in yourself, you'll be amazed at how easy it is to accept yourself.

Repeat these affirmations every day: I love myself and accept myself as I am; when others do not accept me, I accept that. Until it becomes your inner belief!

The need to be appreciated and approved of

People who seek "recognition" always put on their best face, and it's a joy to see! You spare no effort to please others, your work is always flawless, you are always there for others, and you are constantly giving.

Seeking "approval" is like seeking permission. It's a great way to get someone's opinion or hope they'll praise you!

Your goal is to please others, and you love to hear praise! You also enjoy friendly smiles and nods of agreement. The opinions of others mean a great deal to you.

It's time to let go of the pain that criticism from others can sometimes cause.

You need to recite the following affirmations every day: I accept and approve of myself as I am. I love myself and am proud of myself. I don't need the approval of others to feel good about myself.

I accept criticism with a neutral attitude. And I refuse to indulge in praise! I can be at ease even if I don't get praise.

And when you do, these will become your own true beliefs!

Hello, I'm Teacher Zhang Huili, and I'm happy to help! If you find my answer useful, please click the like button and leave a comment. Thanks!

Hello, question asker! You asked, "Work is not going well, my relationship is not going well, and I feel like no one likes you. I feel like a failure."

From your question, I can tell you're feeling a range of negative emotions. It's natural to feel sadness, pain, and disappointment. These feelings can make you doubt your worth and even feel like a failure. I'm here to tell you that you're not alone. I'm going to give you a hug from afar to soothe your wounded heart.

Let's tackle this together.

You say you're having trouble at work and in your relationships. You feel like a failure and you've wasted all the time you spent reading in the past few years. You're sorry to many people, especially your parents.

Since losing your love, you've been unable to muster the motivation to get back on your feet. Before falling in love, you saw life as just so-so. You believed that as long as you were happy, it didn't matter how you lived.

After being dumped, you are afraid to face your situation head-on. Everything in your life is in chaos, as if everything has changed. You want someone to keep you company and chat with, to encourage you more, but you can't find that person. You know exactly who he is.

You feel like the whole world doesn't like you. I'm going to share my thoughts after reading your question to help you relieve your stress and anxiety and get out of this difficult situation sooner.

☀️ Accept yourself in your depressed state after being dumped.

You say you've been dumped, you're in a bad mood, you're depressed, you're not interested in anything, you can't muster any energy, and before you were in love, you didn't think it would affect you so much. You're not alone, and your reaction is normal.

Let's be clear: falling in love with someone you like means that person has entered your heart. If they hadn't, you two would never have fallen in love.

Love is wonderful. When you're together, it fills the air with a warm, sweet scent. But after a breakup, the pain can be just as intense as the love you felt during the relationship.

Feel whatever you need to feel after falling in love. You have lost someone you loved dearly and cherished.

You were inseparable during your relationship. You may have felt that he belonged to you. But after the breakup, he doesn't belong to you anymore. Of course, losing someone you love will make you sad for a while.

☀️Do something to distract yourself.

You need to distract yourself from your sadness. Focus on the fact that you've lost your love. If you can't distract yourself and can't stop thinking about the fact that you've lost your love, and it also brings back a lot of memories of your relationship with your significant other, you need to write down the process of your relationship. You will feel better after you write.

If you don't want to write, talk to someone. It's a great way to sort out your relationship and release a lot of emotions.

You can and will find someone to talk to.

As we grow older, especially after adulthood, we will find that there are many people in the WeChat and phone book, but when we take out our phones and want to find someone to chat with, we don't know who to call. This is now the norm for many adults. What you need to find now is not just any friend. You need to find someone who can give you a sense of security and allow you to unreservedly tell them things that make you sad or upset.

This person must be able to understand you and be a good listener. They should also provide feedback when needed. You are exposing your vulnerabilities to this person, so they must know how to protect you and not take control of your vulnerabilities or exploit you in the future.

You need someone who is unique and special, not just another ordinary friend. That's why you should look for a listening therapist or counselor on this platform. They are professionals who are bound by professional ethics and morals and will be able to meet your needs.

You must decide for yourself whether or not to seek help. I am simply offering suggestions. You have the final say in how you choose to heal. I am certain you will overcome the pain of a broken heart.

Topic Master, I wish you well! I am certain my answer will be helpful to you. The world and I love you.

Dear Question Asker,

From your description, it is evident that you lack inner strength and are seeking assistance. When you become aware of these distressing emotions and begin to search for solutions, you are already on the path to change.

You have described the adverse experiences you endured following the dissolution of your romantic relationship and the significant alterations to your lifestyle that preceded it. This suggests that you invested a considerable degree of emotional and psychological capital in the relationship, indicating the presence of underlying frustration. Is this an accurate interpretation?

It would be erroneous to assume that these feelings are unique to me. As time progresses, one becomes increasingly aware of the presence of individuals whose gaze is perceived as unwelcoming and intimidating.

It is, in fact, a common experience to feel this way in real life. However, it would be beneficial to ascertain whether the cause is the breakup or something else, and to determine whether a solution has been identified.

In the event of a miraculous occurrence, resulting in the cessation of the aforementioned discomfort, what actions would be taken to ensure its recurrence? What would be the nature of one's life in the absence of this discomfort?

What is the rationale behind this discrepancy?

It is not possible to provide advice that will assist in the elimination of negative emotions without further information regarding the specific circumstances in question.

It is not uncommon to experience these feelings in life; however, it is crucial to adjust one's mentality and approach challenges with a positive mindset. The most fundamental aspect is to present oneself in the most favorable light.

It is not uncommon to experience these feelings in life. However, it is crucial to maintain a positive outlook and address challenges in a constructive manner. The most essential step is to cultivate a positive self-image.

If the feelings experienced prior to the incident can also facilitate recovery, it is recommended to learn relaxation techniques, such as meditation or breathing exercises, to gradually adjust to the situation.

Secondly, the utilisation of positive mental suggestion

From your description, it is evident that your self-love has led to the experience of considerable discomfort. When confronted with such discomfort, it is common to persist in dwelling on the negative emotions. However, it is crucial to recognize that the antidote to these negative emotions is the application of positive mental suggestions, accompanied by a belief in one's self-worth.

It is also recommended to engage in more physical activity.

Indeed, for individuals who have recently experienced a romantic breakup, engaging in physical activity and expressing one's emotions through exercise can be beneficial. During exercise, the brain releases dopamine, which contributes to a sense of pleasure.

In conclusion, it is advisable to engage in activities that will divert attention from the distressing emotions and thoughts associated with the situation.

Indeed, the plethora of distressing emotions resulting from the dissolution of a romantic relationship can be overwhelming. It is essential to engage in activities that divert attention from these negative feelings and instead focus on one's strengths and interests. This shift in focus can enhance one's sense of accomplishment and facilitate the process of healing.

Ultimately, it is important to note that the experience of losing love is not inherently frightening, and that time can facilitate healing. However, it is crucial to avoid self-attack in the process of losing love. Instead, individuals must learn to engage in introspection and self-affirmation. Only when an individual believes in their own resilience can they fully embrace happiness.

Good morning,

My name is Kelly Shui from Xin Tan.

I have carefully reviewed your question and hope that my response provides some degree of reassurance.

"My work performance is below expectations, my personal relationships are experiencing challenges, and I feel unappreciated."

It is unclear how long the questioner has been experiencing these difficulties. If more than two months have elapsed, it is recommended that the questioner seek professional psychological counseling.

Given the questioner's remarks about poor work performance, relationship issues, and a lack of social support, I am reminded of a period in my own career when I experienced similar challenges.

I will provide an example to illustrate my point.

If I wear black sunglasses, the view outside may also be black. It is important to consider the role of emotion in our experiences. Emotion can act as a mirror, reflecting the nuances of our lived experiences.

It is unclear whether the questioner had a negative experience at work, was in a bad mood, or was in a bad relationship.

Or conversely, a poor work environment and a negative emotional state may have an adverse effect on performance.

These factors are all interrelated.

I am unsure if the original poster experiences a different mood, such as feeling positive when in a relationship and viewing situations as positive.

It is an inevitable consequence of human existence that we will experience a range of emotions on a daily basis.

Emotions are like a mirror: when you are happy, you are cheerful; when you are angry, you are furious; when you are anxious, you toss and turn; when things don't go well at work, you feel like you are underperforming; when you lose someone you love, you feel like you are being disliked; when you are sad, you express your emotions.

Emotions serve as a mirror, reflecting the minutiae of life.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience a range of emotions. However, if an emotion persists for an extended period, it can have a detrimental impact on one's well-being and potentially lead to the onset of other health issues.

I previously experienced somatization due to depression. I incorrectly assumed that I could manage the depressive episodes independently, but I failed to recognize that they were intensifying.

This process took approximately a year and had a significant impact on my life.

Subsequently, in February of this year, I commenced treatment at Yixinli. I also underwent a gradual improvement through counseling and systematic learning of psychology. My current mood is positive, and I am able to find enjoyment in most situations.

[Embracing self-acceptance]

My work performance was below expectations, and I was experiencing difficulties in my personal relationships.

By allowing ourselves to fail, we acknowledge that failure is also a form of courage. Such days are inevitable in any given workweek.

As I gain experience, I am increasingly aware of the value in embracing the ebbs and flows of life. I have come to recognize that adversity can be a catalyst for personal growth.

You stated that you have misused the knowledge gained from reading numerous books over the years, and that you are remorseful towards numerous individuals, particularly your parents.

The questioner is filial. When we were growing up, perhaps our parents exerted significant effort and did their utmost for us. In light of this, the questioner may have felt considerable pressure.

If we feel this way, it may have an adverse effect on our parents.

What emotions did the questioner experience when he felt sorry for others?

Could you clarify whether you are experiencing guilt?

I greatly admire Hawking. His emotional energy, the highest and fastest frequency he has ever encountered, is 700, which appeared when he studied Mother Teresa (1910-1997, Nobel Peace Prize 1997).

Upon Mother Teresa's arrival, an unidentified positive emotional response was observed in all present. Her mere presence appeared to negate any residual feelings of discontent or resentment.

The next item on the list is to express regret to others, such as parents. This is rated as follows:

Guilt/self-blame/sin (Guilt) [30]

Manifestations: remorse, self-blame, masochism, victim complex

It is also worth noting that guilt can manifest itself in other ways, such as frequent anger and fatigue. In addition, unconscious guilt can lead to physical and mental illness, as well as suicidal urges.

As the questioner stated, since the dissolution of the relationship, I have been unable to muster the energy to pursue my usual level of activity. Prior to the dissolution of the relationship, I perceived my quality of life to be satisfactory. Regardless of my circumstances, as long as I was content, that was sufficient. However, following the dissolution of the relationship, I am reluctant to confront my current situation directly. My life is currently in a state of disarray.

We accept the situation and engage in introspection, which provides insight into our own motivations and behaviors.

1. For example, you may wish to consider the advantages and disadvantages that the other person in a relationship has mentioned. You can refer to this.

2. The questioner has expressed remorse to their parents. You may wish to reflect on how you can improve your own situation.

3. Please identify the reasons why the questioner feels sorry for his parents. You may wish to conduct a review of your personal development and consider instances where you have felt sorry for your parents.

Please clarify.

4: Develop self-love, self-care, and self-growth. Understand your strengths and weaknesses.

Your genuine thoughts and opinions.

If we learn to love ourselves, we will be better equipped to navigate the complexities of the next relationship. We will be better positioned to identify and address issues as they arise.

5: Gain insight into your own personality and that of others. This will enable you to understand your current situation more fully and to identify the factors that have shaped it.

You have the option to explore further.

[Longing for someone to keep you company]

Based on the questioner's response, I am pleased to inform you that I am happy to offer further encouragement. It is evident that you are seeking a change in your current situation and a new source of companionship. I am here to support you in achieving this goal.

1. You may wish to consider speaking with a counselor.

2. You may also wish to consider seeking the services of a listening therapist.

3. You may also engage in conversation with other users on the platform via the chat function. Additionally, there are dedicated chat rooms for specific purposes.

4: If you wish to implement a change, you have the capacity to do so. I have confidence in your ability to take action. Are you prepared to take the necessary steps?

5: To effect change in another person, it is essential to have a strong sense of motivation. Without taking action, even when contemplating for an extended period, it is challenging to achieve meaningful results.

6: Engage in dialogue with your relatives or close friends to ascertain their feelings of affection towards you.

7: It is also important to communicate with yourself and develop a positive self-image.

8: Adopt a more positive and confident mindset, and spend more time with individuals who inspire you.

It is advisable to expand your social circle and avoid limiting yourself to your current situation.

9: When you have time on your hands, read a book and engage with the author through the words.

It may be beneficial to take the opportunity to relax, identify your personal interests, engage in leisure activities, express yourself through writing, art, or music, and recognize that when you are in a state of personal growth, opportunities will naturally arise.

I believe that the right person for you will come along when you are ready for them.

It is unlikely that anyone in the world hates him completely, and similarly, it is unlikely that anyone in the world likes him completely.

Some people have a positive view of you, some have a negative view, some have a neutral view, and some have a negative view. The questioner should not deny themselves because of one person.

The individual's departure may have provided insight into certain truths.

I find the following saying particularly apt: "There are flowers everywhere."

It is important to allow yourself to experience negative emotions, accept that you are not feeling well, and simultaneously maintain a belief in your own worth and the value of love in your life.

I have benefited greatly from the support of numerous individuals on Yi Xinli, and I am confident that you will experience similar positive outcomes. Our team and I are committed to providing you with words of encouragement and support.

You are a remarkable individual, courageous in your willingness to openly share your struggles and challenges. There is a profound truth in the psychological concept that "seeing is healing."

We observe you, and you observe yourself.

My name is Kelly, and I extend my best wishes to you.

The world and I extend our best wishes to you.

Hello, question asker!

I understand your feelings and state completely. I can see the depression, anxiety, guilt, low self-worth, and helpless frustration in the lines. Let's take a look together:

"My work and my relationship are both going poorly. I'm a failure."

Everything seems to be going wrong. As the saying goes, "Life is full of disappointments." You're not the only one who's experienced this. Don't be anxious or panic. We can't change the past, but we can control the present and plan for the future.

Take some time to think about what caused the problems at work and in your relationship. Find some free time in a quiet environment and you'll make some unexpected discoveries. You may be a bit blunt, or you're careless and fail to notice the other person's emotions in time.

"I've wasted all those years of studying. I'm sorry to so many people, but especially to my parents."

There is no such thing as a wasted book or a wasted journey. You just haven't discovered the benefits of reading yet. In fact, reading has already changed your views on yourself, others, and the world in your subconscious. Or perhaps some books you read may not seem useful at the time, but you will realize their value at a later point.

Don't feel sorry for a lot of people, especially parents. They don't expect their children to achieve much; they just want them to be healthy and happy. Everything else is trivial. Other people also hope that you can live a good life, so you don't need to feel too guilty or blame yourself. They would rather see a

Don't feel sorry for many people, especially parents. They don't expect their children to achieve much; they just hope they're healthy and happy. Everything else is trivial. Other people also hope you can live a good life, so don't feel guilty or blame yourself. They'd rather see a positive and optimistic you.

"I've been unable to motivate myself since I broke up with my boyfriend."

You can do this.

Everyone has experienced a painful and unforgettable love affair. It's okay. Give yourself more time. Allow yourself to feel unmotivated and experience bad moods. Accept your current state.

When you accept yourself as you are, you won't care about the opinions of those around you. It will get better slowly. Then change your thinking. Being heartbroken is not always a bad thing. It is a kind of growth for yourself. If you still can't let go, you can try to win them back. If it is already impossible to win them back, it means this is not your true love.

"I want to change. I need to find someone to talk to and encourage me, but I can't find that person. I need to figure out who he is supposed to be. It feels like the whole world doesn't like me."

I want to change and find someone to talk to and encourage me. I just don't know who that person is supposed to be. It feels like the whole world doesn't like me.

Embrace change. It's about recognizing your problems and being committed to making a change. There are many ways to do this. Talk to friends and family, or explore other channels like the Yi Xinli platform. The fact that you're asking a question here is a great start.

Embrace change. It's about recognizing your problems and being committed to making a change. There are many ways to do this. Talk to friends and family, or explore other channels like the Yi Xinli platform. The fact that you can ask a question here is a form of change!

If you don't feel like doing any of the above, write down some of your feelings and thoughts. Overthinking is annoying, but you'll feel relaxed as you write. Distract yourself by doing sports, cooking, etc.

If you don't feel like doing any of the above, write down some of your feelings and thoughts. Overthinking is annoying, but it will get easier. Distract yourself by doing something else, like exercising or cooking.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best wishes!

Hello, dear host!

After reading your post, I thought I'd share a couple of words that came to mind: adversity.

You've been through a lot, just like you've been through a wind tunnel.

After thinking about it for a long time

I just had to ask you first:

I'm really sorry to hear you feel like things aren't going well for you.

I'm really curious to know why you feel like the world doesn't like you.

I'm really curious to know why you feel sorry for everyone.

I'll start with the first question.

Everything is going wrong, and it's so frustrating!

I think this must be your state of mind.

It's totally normal to feel this way. You've already developed a negative mindset, and that's okay!

I totally get it! I had this mentality when I was young too.

When I come across this kind of mentality, I've found some helpful methods that I'd love to share with you.

[Relax your mind]

It's totally normal for this kind of situation to come from stress.

We all get stressed sometimes, and when we do, it's only natural that our minds can sometimes play tricks on us and make us feel negative.

I've come to a conclusion that I'd love to share with you.

"Give yourself time and give stress back to time."

It's so important to give yourself time!

It's so important to remember not to let negative emotions get the better of you.

I really think you should set aside some time every day after work to take care of yourself.

Tell yourself, "I know it's tough now, but trust me, tomorrow will be better."

Then, take ten deep breaths to help you relax.

I really think this will help you get rid of those bad moods!

Give the pressure back to time, my friend.

The next day, go to work with a calm mind. You've got this!

Then, give yourself a little pep talk: "I will definitely do better!"

Work hard and fight hard, my friend!

I know you can do it! Believe in yourself and your ability to succeed.

You know, you don't read books for nothing!

Books are great, aren't they? They can help you go to college!

I wish it were that easy! This book isn't a magic box for job hunting.

Applying for a job is all about how you perform in social university.

Books are just the gateway to the wonderful world of social sciences!

Good grades in social university depend on two things: being sociable and your words and deeds.

Once you enter society, you don't rely on your IQ. You rely on your EQ!

Your emotional intelligence can make a big difference in how your leaders and colleagues feel about you.

I'd love to share a few ways you can improve your emotional quotient!

Let's try to praise more and criticize less, okay?

And don't forget to give compliments behind someone's back (trust me, they'll know).

It's so important to get along with your colleagues, communicate more, listen more, and let them know that you see them as equals.

It's always best to be kind and avoid speaking ill of others, as words can travel a thousand miles and hurt people's feelings.

And don't forget to respect your leaders!

And remember to love your work!

It's so important to get along with others and blend in with the group at work.

And if you can do this, the second and third points will be solved!

Let me sum it all up for you!

You are someone who has not yet fully realized how truly outstanding you are!

You should fight hard and shine, my friend!

Remember, always be good to yourself and don't forget about others!

You'll make a real difference in society when you do this!

Wishing you all the best!

A kind and anonymous spiritual guide

November 27

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

I can see that you are struggling at work and in your relationship. I don't know the full details, but I want you to know that I'm here for you.

You and I were not meant to meet, but I came here to give you a big hug anyway. This hug may not be truly felt, but I hope that through the words, I can make you feel the love and warmth.

I can feel your emotions in your writing. Show me this ability of yours. Now you see that you are not as bad as you said. You are still worth loving, even if it is just a stranger.

Work and relationships are challenging. It's inevitable that we'll face difficulties in both. It's not a problem if we're temporarily defeated by adversity. We all experience frustration in the face of challenges.

You said, "All the books I've read over the years have been useless." Can you be 100% sure that they have been useless?

This idea is unreasonable. In a difficult situation, we tend to make the impossible seem absolute. Now, let's find evidence to disprove the idea that "all books are useless." The evidence we find will prove that we are not that bad.

You said, "I'm sorry to many people, especially my parents." I want to know if this is based on your feelings or facts.

We often mistake feelings for facts, using them to justify our failures. If we can go to the people involved and ask them what they think, we may be pleasantly surprised. I want you to know that no matter what you do, parents will always be our safe haven, and your friends will give you even more support. I am an example of a new stranger friend.

The reality is that it's not as bad as we think. The difficulties we face in reality are far greater than we imagine, but we can't let imagined suffering and difficulties defeat us in reality.

Take a deep breath and calm your mind. Now, identify the most challenging aspect of your current situation and consider the worst-case scenario. Is this a minor inconvenience, or is it something that could potentially derail everything? If you've experienced this, determine how you can effectively cope or address it.

Depression can be beaten. When we are depressed, we can improve our emotional state through high-intensity exercise, paired with mindfulness breathing or mindfulness meditation. We can also choose to seek help from someone we trust, to accompany us through the current predicament by listening.

Once you've calmed down, think about the issues mentioned in the article. When you're ready to make a change, go for it! Taking action is often the best way to overcome challenges.

Dear questioner, I empathize with you when I see that you are struggling with self-doubt and criticism due to difficulties at work and in your relationships. I am here to offer you a supportive and understanding presence as we navigate these challenges together.

When things don't go well at work, it can also affect my relationships, which can make me feel like I'm not meeting expectations.

Life presents us with disappointments. It is important to learn from these experiences and use them as opportunities for growth. By doing so, we can turn today's challenges into stepping stones for future success.

It is important to remember that dwelling on frustration can prevent us from having the time and energy to prepare for success.

We can empathize with the pain of setbacks at work and in relationships, and recognize that they can create significant psychological pressure. It's natural to feel frustrated and depressed in such circumstances, but it's important not to linger in those feelings.

After a short period of frustration and sadness, it would be beneficial to gather yourself together and continue to fight and level up.

I regret to say that I have spent many years reading books, which has caused me to be unintentionally disrespectful to many people, especially my parents.

I believe that our books will not be read in vain, and that the paths we have taken will not be forgotten. They will undoubtedly serve as valuable resources in our lives, and we can be confident that they will find expression in some form in the future.

For all those who care about you and love you, your happiness is the greatest reward for them. So if you want to give back to them better, you might consider trying to cheer up, do your work well, and live your life well.

Since the breakup, I have found it challenging to muster the energy. Before the breakup, I felt that life was just so-so. No matter how life was going, as long as I was happy, that was all that mattered. But after the breakup, I have been hesitant to look directly at my situation. I feel that everything in life is a bit chaotic at the moment.

Before falling in love, I felt that life was just so-so. After being dumped, I felt that life was even more meaningless. I found it difficult to muster the energy to do anything, and I was afraid to face my situation head-on. I felt that life was a bit of a mess. In fact, even before falling in love, you may have sensed that your life was not going as you wished. Falling in love briefly distracted you, and the dopamine produced by falling in love made you feel that life seemed to be fun again. After being dumped, the dopamine was gone, and you may have felt as if you had lost the focus of your life and could not find the focal point of your life.

It's possible that the source of stress and frustration may not be the failure at work or in relationships, but rather the fact that you have not yet found your life's direction. When we cannot see the way forward, it can feel as though we are lost and insecure.

It might be helpful to take a moment to reflect on your immediate concerns and engage in a constructive dialogue with yourself about your future aspirations and desired outcomes. Identifying clear goals and developing a well-defined plan to achieve them could be beneficial.

When you have a goal in mind, a plan in hand, and action on your feet, you may find that life suddenly becomes clear and everything falls into place.

It seems as though I am seeking a change, a person with whom I can chat and who can encourage me more, but I am having difficulty finding such a person. I am unsure who this person might be.

It's beneficial to aspire towards change. If you're unable to connect with someone to chat with or receive encouragement, it might be helpful to explore online resources or join a relevant group to interact with others.

"I feel like I'm not very popular."

If you want the world to open its arms and extend its hands, you may find that it will do so. Just as at this moment, I am sitting in front of the computer, answering your questions with all my heart, because I can see your sincerity and the hands you have extended to us.

I hope that by responding to you in writing, I have conveyed that we are always here for you and that the world and I love you.

It is undeniable that losing love is excruciatingly painful and challenging. The two individuals were in a relationship, thriving, and on the brink of becoming family, but suddenly, they had to part ways. The heart-wrenching pain, akin to the anguish of being separated from one's flesh and blood, is a searing, unforgettable scar that leaves an indelible mark on most people's hearts, one that requires time to heal.

I can only give you my opinion since you haven't provided the details, but I'm confident it will help.

You know what? Breaking up is really, really hard. But there's a chance you'll stop wallowing in your pain, suddenly come to your senses, and work hard, study hard, exercise hard, and try to become a better person. If you bloom, the butterflies will come. I'm sure you'll enter this stage soon.

Don't dwell on the pain. Learn from this relationship. Did you identify a scumbag so you can choose the right partner with a more discerning eye in the future?

You see in this relationship what you need to grow and improve. You will perform better in your next relationship and even in your marriage, and your life will be happier.

I want to know what caused the work to go wrong.

The industry doesn't suit your strengths. You need to change.

If you can't handle the job, you need to learn how to do it better.

You need to improve your workplace relationships.

I want to make myself more valuable in the workplace. What certificate should I get?

I'm going to give you some suggestions, and they're going to be simple and direct. I hope they help. Take care.

Give yourself a big hug! I hope you feel the warmth and support you need, and I hope my answer helps you in some way.

I've been facing some challenges at work and in my relationships recently, and I know it can be tough when you're going through it. It's natural to feel sad or hurt, but it's also an opportunity to learn and grow. If you feel like crying, go for it! Don't be afraid to let your emotions flow. There are so many ways to express your feelings, and talking to someone is a great way to do it. But if you can't find anyone to talk to, there are still so many other ways to release your emotions and give yourself encouragement and support.

So, I've got some great advice for you!

Once we understand and accept ourselves, we'll have all the strength we need to make the changes we want to see!

If things don't go well at work or in a relationship, it doesn't mean we're bad or have failed. Life goes on, and our current situation doesn't have to define us forever. In fact, we can grow from adversity and gain a spiritual wealth!

So, let's stop attacking and denying ourselves! Instead, let's understand and accept ourselves. We're not perfect, but we're not bad either. We're not worthless. We have many strengths and values. We can't define our lives entirely by our work and relationships. And there's so much more to come! When we've experienced difficulties at work and transformations in our relationships, we'll become more resilient, more courageous, and more able to understand and know ourselves.

In fact, no one's life is always smooth sailing. And that's okay! We are all imperfect, just like you. We all have our own shortcomings and inadequacies, and we all experience our own setbacks and difficulties. But here's the good news: the more we attack and deny ourselves, the more internal conflict we will experience, and the worse our state will become. This will not bring any benefits. However, with an attitude of understanding and accepting ourselves, we will have a more objective understanding and evaluation of ourselves, and at the same time, we can have more energy to take action and actively help ourselves out of difficult situations and towards a better future.

2. Go out there and encourage and support yourself! Give yourself the care and warmth you deserve!

You say you long to find someone to talk to and give you encouragement, but you can't find that person. Yes, in this vast world, it is indeed difficult to find someone who is always there for you, giving you unconditional support and encouragement. But, in fact, we all have limitations, and none of us can completely revolve around just one other person. So, why not be your own best friend? You can give yourself the care and warmth you want!

But the great news is that there really is someone who can give you support and encouragement at all times, and give you the warmth and care you want. And that person is you! You can do it!

This is why psychology emphasizes self-acceptance, loving yourself, and accepting yourself unconditionally. So, how can you encourage and support yourself?

Think back to someone who has supported and encouraged you when you were in trouble. Now, even though you can't contact them, you can say those encouraging words to yourself! Give yourself positive mental suggestions every day: I am a smart and kind person, I am valuable, I can persevere, I believe I can, I am safe, I will definitely find a job that suits me better, and I will definitely meet the happiness that is truly mine... You can also give yourself encouragement and support just like you would a friend, and give yourself warmth and care just like your friend!

Then you can do everything you need to do with the incredible energy you've given yourself!

3. It's time to let go of those internal emotions! We can find ways to relieve and release them, and believe that our lives will get better and better, and the future is full of hope.

I know you're feeling a little down right now, but it's totally normal! It's okay to have emotions and express them. If you don't have anyone to talk to, you can also go to our platform's groups and chat rooms to vent, or find a listener or counselor who will give you understanding and acceptance and listen to you attentively.

And there are other great ways to release our emotions and maintain inner harmony and stability!

For example, you can use writing to express the mixed emotions in your heart, whether they are guilt, sadness, grievance, anger, etc. You can write them all out, without worrying about whether the writing is logical or neat. You just need to express yourself as much as you like. This is an amazing form of therapy and a form of self-support!

There are so many ways to get moving and enjoy some fresh air! You can go out and play your favorite sport, or head into nature to get your heart pumping. Not only can you breathe in the invigorating scent of fresh air, but you can also let out the pent-up depression and grievances inside through exercise, so that your body can feel relaxed and happy, which in turn brings mental pleasure and relaxation. When you can connect with your body and with nature, you will not always fall into negative self-criticism, but instead you can see the wider world and a more hopeful future. And it's always a great idea to ask a good friend to go out and exercise with you! Not only can you feel their support and understanding in socializing, but you can also enhance the motivation and fun of exercising.

And there's another thing! You've got to keep at it with positive self-talk. It's the most common cognitive phenomenon in our daily lives!

It's an amazing psychological phenomenon! A person or environment sends a message to the human body in a very natural way, and the individual unconsciously accepts this message and responds accordingly. Suggestion can be divided into self-suggestion and suggestion from others, and we're going to focus on the incredible role of self-suggestion today!

Self-suggestion is an amazing process! It's when you influence yourself by making certain ideas affect you, putting pressure on your own psychology, and making your emotions and will work.

For example, some people see that they don't look well in the mirror and immediately suggest to themselves that they have a kidney disease, feel weak all over, have back pain, can't go to work, and even go to the hospital for treatment. But some people see that they don't look well in the mirror and suggest to themselves that they should increase their outdoor activities, do more exercise, and try to feel the fresh air around them.

So, right now, we can turn our low mood around! It's time to break our negative thought patterns, give ourselves positive suggestions, and replace our old, narrow-minded, negative thought patterns with positive ones. This is a powerful technique!

Just like self-encouragement, we can keep telling ourselves: Everything is for the best! Even though I don't feel great right now, I can absolutely have a happy mindset. I love myself, I accept myself, I can easily get love and support, I believe it can be done, everything is fine...

I really hope this helps! Wishing you all the best!

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The post shows the poster is frustrated and anxious. The poster has also taken the brave step of seeking help, which will help them understand themselves better.

Next, I'll share my thoughts, which might help the poster see themselves differently.

Why do you think they dislike you?

The post says the poster is sad and frustrated.

I also want to talk about what we can do now. I want to help you.

Why do you think they don't like you? Where do you get this idea?

Who doesn't like you at work? Does a bad relationship mean he doesn't like you?

These questions can help you think about it. Sometimes our feelings may not be real.

Psychology calls this "projection." What is projection?

Some people don't like themselves, so they think others dislike them.

A rich man and a poor man were neighbors. The rich man lost some money and thought the poor man stole it. He kept an eye on the poor man and thought he looked like a thief. Later, the money was found and the rich man felt the poor man didn't look like a thief.

This story shows what projection is. The poster can think, "Do they really not like me?"

Do I dislike myself a little? I project these thoughts onto other people.

Psychologically, relationships are between two people.

2. Where does guilt come from?

The original poster said work and relationships weren't going well. They felt like a failure and had wasted years of study. They were sorry to many people, especially their parents.

Why does the original poster feel sorry for many people, especially parents? Why do you feel some self-blame and guilt?

Psychologists say that sometimes being too hard on ourselves is what makes us break. But being kind to ourselves helps us keep going. What do they mean?

From a psychological point of view, self-blame, guilt, and self-attack are harmful. They also consume our energy and sap our spirit.

We can't do everything. If we keep blaming ourselves, we'll run out of energy. So, we have to stop when we're blaming ourselves. We have to understand that self-blame is a reminder that we can do better.

3. I feel like a failure.

Do you feel like a failure because of your work or your relationship?

Many people feel this way after a breakup. They feel frustrated and worthless.

But some people don't think this way after a breakup. Why?

From a psychological point of view, their relationship with themselves did not change before and after the breakup. When they were in love, they believed they were worthy of love and worthy of being treated well.

After the breakup, I still feel worthy of love, deserving of good treatment, and valuable. Being unloved doesn't mean I'm not good enough; we just weren't a good match. There's a part of the reason for this in me, and a part in him.

If a person's relationship with themselves hasn't changed before and after a breakup, the experience is different. The original poster can think about why they feel like a failure.

Do you try to prove your worth through relationships? Or do you try to prove your worth through others?

Why do you need others to prove your value? Think about it, landlord.

I hope these help and inspire you.