Feeling conflicted, want to reduce internal friction but don't know how?

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling confused, and I'm here to support you!

I totally get where you're coming from!

It just means that you're sensitive and easily influenced by the things people around you say and do.

You might even be a "highly sensitive individual," which is a term used in psychology.

Absolutely! There are definitely people like that out there.

When you come across something, try your best to separate the issues.

There are only three kinds of things in this world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven.

I just wanted to let you know that the above concepts come from the book A Single Thought Can Change Everything.

If it's someone else's business, like what they think of you, that's their business. But you can also disagree with what they say if you want to!

On top of that, in today's fast-paced world, not many people pay attention to what you're doing.

In psychology, there's something called the "spotlight effect."

Next time you find yourself being affected by other people's opinions, try this: tell yourself that you are actually not as important as other people think you are.

I really hope the problem you're having gets solved soon.

Now, all I can think of is the above.

I really hope my answer helps and inspires you, the questioner. I'm the answerer, and I study hard every day.

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Take care!

Hello, you are always very sensitive and always hurt by the unintentional words and actions of others, right? Then there is constant internal mental depletion, always feeling that there is something you haven't done well enough. Sometimes if you think about it over and over again, you will become numb. You need to let it go, do whatever you want, and then you will fall into a state of powerlessness and negativity.

If you're constantly battling internal conflict, it's a clear sign you're not taking care of your relationship with yourself. It's not the event itself that makes us feel bad, it's the conflict within us. If you're overly sensitive to one thing and every little thing stirs up an emotional storm, you'll gradually become less and less confident in yourself and even feel disillusioned with life.

Ultimately, even if you haven't done anything, you will still feel tired.

To reduce internal friction, stop regretting things you've done or not done, or whether you should have done this or that. If you keep regretting, you'll fall into endless mental internal friction.

Stop striving for perfection. There are two types of perfectionists: those who strive for perfection internally and those who strive for perfection externally. No matter which type you are, you are destined to live a very tired life because there is no such thing as a perfect person in the world. It is impossible for everything to go as you wish.

You must stop living in the eyes of others. One of the most particular weaknesses of human nature is caring about how others perceive oneself. This is caring too much about the reactions of those around you. Life is ultimately a process of pleasing oneself. Most of the things that happen to oneself have nothing to do with others. You must care about your own inner feelings, not the opinions of those around you.

Let go of your concerns and expectations for others. Reserve your time and love for yourself.

Shift your focus to yourself and live your life to the fullest. Go for it!

Hello there!

A little pat on the shoulder goes a long way!

It's totally normal to feel conflicted sometimes. We all do! But it can be tough to know how to reduce internal conflict.

It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed and under a lot of pressure and anxiety. It can feel really helpless when you don't know how to help yourself relieve stress. It's natural to avoid and evade stressful situations and anxious things when you're feeling this way.

I feel very sensitive, and I get hurt at the slightest touch. But I also feel a bit numb, thinking that since this is the way it is and it has nothing to do with me, I should just let it destroy me. I always feel like this, back and forth, and I don't know what to do, or what to say anymore.

It's important to remember that not everyone is the same. We all have different ways of reacting to the same things. Some people are more sensitive to sounds, while others are more sensitive to self-evaluation. And some people may experience a traumatic experience when they fail to handle small things. Some people are even born with a special sensitivity to the smell and environment around them! So, it's really important to understand that the methods of dealing with emotions and relieving stress are different for different sensitivities.

First, it's really important to identify what kind of sensitivity and anxiety you're dealing with. Then, you can choose a solution that's better for you based on how you're feeling.

For example, the question of being sensitive to possible "offenses" involves a lot of information, but don't worry! In terms of interpersonal relationships, how to clearly express one's feelings and needs can help relieve internal pressure.

We all make mistakes. If someone accidentally expresses negative feelings in a communication, it can feel really hurtful. And if the other person is a close friend, such comments will never be harmless or careless. They can really impact the relationship in a negative way.

So, it's really helpful to be able to give each other feedback about how we're really feeling. This helps us to respond to each other in a way that's more in tune with what we're saying, which can lead to better communication. It also helps us to feel more in control of our emotions, rather than letting them get the better of us. And it helps us to understand each other better, which in turn helps us to respect each other more, which in turn helps us to have happier, more harmonious relationships.

"I'm sorry, I may have misunderstood your expression, but this kind of statement makes me feel uncomfortable because it reminds me of ******. I hope you can understand."

Maybe at this point you'll think about how your words might affect others and choose to be more careful. But remember, real relationships are built on mutual honesty, which is the foundation of trust. The next step is to avoid words and actions that could be hurtful. We can do this by learning to express ourselves better, sharing our feelings and ideas. True friends are there for each other, and when we're with them, we're more likely to have great relationships. Not only will this not make you feel bad about yourself, it will also help you communicate better and build stronger relationships.

I really hope this helps!

Wishing you all the best!