How to control oneself from shedding tears and becoming irritable?

Dear question asker,

From your description, I am reminded of a condition called "tears incontinence." I'm not a professional, but I can imagine how challenging it can be to always have tears in your eyes.

From my perspective, I feel that the OP is a very gentle person. They are sentimental and gentle, and when they are happy, they are overjoyed. When they are sad, they are sad. When watching movies and novels, they have a high degree of empathy, which allows them to immerse themselves in the story and appreciate it deeply. They treat themselves as characters in the story and cry for them.

It's possible that sometimes crying doesn't necessarily mean negative emotions. However, the questioner said, "Crying to the point where I feel like living is meaningless, and I feel like a burden." This suggests that the questioner may have cried because of something bad, or perhaps someone has told the questioner that crying is bad.

If that's the case, I empathize with the OP. Crying is a way to express emotions, and it can express a wide range of emotions. I believe it should not be labeled, let alone considered a burden.

I wonder if a person who has no tear ducts and therefore no tears could be considered a successful person.

In my opinion, the questioner seems to be in a bad mood recently. This is not something that happens to me often, so I'm not sure how to analyze it. However, I can share some suggestions based on my past experiences.

If I may share my own experience, I have found that when I am alone late at night doing homework, I can feel irritable too. However, if I am outdoors, in nature, without the sounds of human activity, the songs of nature are wonderful, and the more I listen, the calmer I feel. You might find it helpful to play some white noise.

The sentence "But it's probably better to not be in this world than to be deaf" makes one appreciate even more the challenges the questioner is facing. In addition to feeling the frustration caused by the crying and noise, I also learned that the questioner is currently experiencing a low mood.

You are not a burden. You are gentle, sentimental, and perhaps a little sentimental.

There are boundless possibilities in life, and it would be a shame to give up on this world.

I would like to express my love for the world.

San Mao once said something really lovely: "I cry when I want to cry, and I laugh when I want to laugh, as long as it's natural. I don't seek profundity, only simplicity." Hello, you! You're the one and only person in the world!

It's only people with rich emotions and love who have lots of tears and emotions. Happiness and sadness are the true thoughts in your heart. Those feelings that you get from watching movies and novels can only resonate with people with delicate hearts.

In today's fast-paced world, it's become more and more common for people to hide behind masks. We've lost that desire to sit quietly with a good book, a soothing song, or a movie that touches our hearts.

And you can just feel those soft, lovely feelings. This warms you, and you'll cry for books and movies. What a wonderful person you are!

Maybe arguing is just a natural part of life, and when we're facing someone we disagree with, it can bring up a lot of feelings. Anger can make us cry, and sadness can make us feel a whole range of other emotions. When we're feeling a lot of different things, it's only natural that we'll shed a few tears.

You're doing great! And it's totally okay to cry.

If you're feeling irritable, why not listen to some music?

Because music can make even the most ordinary scene come alive with meaning. It can turn the ordinary into something beautiful and passionate, breaking out of its shell through music. Let music in and let it soothe your emotions.

I really hope you're happy, safe, and that you love yourself just as you are, with your own special soul.

Hello, I'm White Hat.

Hearing you say this, I know this is an unbearable process for you. When you cry, get irritable, and make irritating sounds, you even think that if you were deaf, it might be better.

When you came here and told me about it, I didn't think I could help you. But I'm going to give it a try and see if it helps.

You're currently facing two main issues: how to stop yourself from crying and how to stop yourself from getting irritated.

You want to use a controlling method to face and deal with your tears and irritability.

I'd like to know what you think control means. What does it mean to be in control?

It's simple: you press the power button, the computer turns on, and you get to the desktop. Or you're asked to enter a password. Or you can just press the power button, remove the battery, unplug the power cord, and the computer stops working. The source of all the trouble and annoyance disappears. I'm not sure if the control you're talking about is similar to this, or if it has some other meaning.

As you said, happiness, sadness, watching movies, arguing, etc. can cause you to cry. You may even cry until you feel like you can't feel the meaning of being alive anymore. Being annoyed while doing homework, eating, and sleeping can also make you feel like you'd be better off dead.

I don't know if this situation has only recently occurred or if it has been going on for a while. I need to know if anything different has happened in the process.

I agree with you that you don't know why this is happening. In fact, I'm not sure what caused it either.

You need to tell your parents about this situation. If you haven't already, go to a demand counseling center or the psychiatry department and talk to a doctor about your worries.

If you told them, they should have taken you to a psychological clinic or made an appointment for counseling. They need to understand the situation.

Tell me how you spent each minute of the days before you came here for help. I need to know if you had enough support around you.

For example, have you tried calling a professional psychological assistance hotline?

Tell me what methods you have considered and what efforts you have made.

These are all important parts. You should also inform your parents of the situation and seek professional psychological assistance. This will help us understand what is going on, deal with it better, and make the necessary adjustments.

Finally, you say that the world seems to have no meaning. Tell me, is this just a thought of yours, or do you have some plans? And will you engage in self-harm?

These are all worthy of our attention. If the thought is strong, call your local psychological crisis intervention hotline for support and help.

That's all for now. I expect to hear good news from you. If you need more support and help, you must seek professional help first. You can also continue to come here and talk to us about your recent situation.

Dear questioner,

I am a psychological counselor, and when I saw your question, I just had to stop and chat with you about my experiences and views!

#About Crying

The great news is that there is no such thing as a good or bad cry!

It is an expression and release of emotions, and it's actually good for regulating the body and mind!

You just need to learn a little bit about emotional regulation. I can see that you feel that crying is worthless, but I'm here to tell you that's not true! Once you cry, you'll feel better.

Healthy crying is an amazing way to express your emotions and connect with others.

Here's the exciting part! You get to understand yourself and why you cry.

I can see that you seem to think crying is bad and a burden to others, but I'm here to tell you that many people have this same thought!

But you cry because you need to! First of all, accept yourself for this and allow yourself to cry.

You can choose an environment that is friendly to you and that makes you feel good! For example, you can cry in front of someone who understands and accepts you.

But first, you have to allow yourself to cry with yourself — and you can do it!

I have written an article about crying, which you can find on my homepage by clicking on "Articles." I really hope that my experiences will be of some help to you!

Second, it's time to get creative! Try using emotional vocabulary to understand and express your emotions.

There are seven basic emotions: love, anger, sorrow, fear, shame, and disgust. And in the animated film "Inside Out," the characters representing the different emotions are Joy, Anger, Fear, Disgust, and Sadness!

It's time to get to know yourself better! Try to identify which emotion you are feeling when you cry, and try to understand yourself a little bit.

Now, let's dive into the fascinating topic of irritability!

There are so many reasons for irritability! I don't know when you started, but I'm excited to find out what happened in the meantime!

And the best part is, you can get concrete help!

One thing is for sure: noise is a direct distraction. So, if you want to improve this, try soothing music to calm your irritability!

Guess what? During the college entrance exam, Nicola's guitar music was my absolute lifesaver! It was there for me every day, accompanying me while I studied and slept.

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Oh, why can't I be deaf so I don't have to listen to all the noise? It'd be so much better not to be in this world than to be deaf!

I don't know how old you are, but from your message, I think you're a student! At this age, mood swings can be quite extreme, which is related to the rapid development and reconstruction of the brain during puberty.

The great news is that many children are like this!

If you feel that emotional disturbance is too much to bear, you can absolutely find resources to help yourself! You can call a hotline or find a professional counselor to help you.

If you ever find yourself in a tight spot, I've got your back! Here's a link to the national public welfare crisis intervention hotline psychological hotline: https://www.xinli001.com/info/100441159?from=search. This is a phone number I hope you'll never need to use, but if you do, please call! Just as you were brave enough to leave a message, find a professional to help you. The world and I love you!