How to make one's emotions more intense when unable to lose one's temper?

Dear Question Asker,

My name is Kelly Shui.

I am aware that I have a tendency to lose my temper, but I am unable to do so. Could you please advise me on how to make my emotions more intense?

I must admit that I was somewhat perplexed by your question. Could you please clarify how you came to the conclusion that your personality is stubborn and extreme? I feel that you may be applying a number of self-defining labels.

I do not believe that a person's character is fixed or unchanging. Furthermore, I perceive you to be a perceptive individual who is amenable to seeking assistance.

I believe that an individual who is open to seeking assistance is also receptive to guidance from others and is not overly influenced by ego.

It is important to accept emotions.

It is important to note that all individuals experience emotions, which can be influenced by various factors, including environmental and caregiver influences. To illustrate, I previously exhibited a tendency to express my emotions in a manner similar to my mother's, which was observed during my childhood.

Subsequently, I came to understand that I had adopted a similar approach to self-expression as my mother. It may be the case that I have more avenues open to me than my mother does for seeking out counselors, or for learning through psychology, reading, and communicating with friends, and gradually discovering that there are in fact numerous ways to express myself.

For instance, I benefit from spending time with individuals who possess a gentle nature. They effectively instruct me on how to communicate honestly and express my emotions when I am experiencing negative emotions, thus preventing the accumulation of such emotions.

We encourage you to explore yourself further.

As an illustration, you proactively seek out intense emotional experiences in your daily life. What emotions do these experiences evoke in you?

Please describe the benefits you have gained.

Please describe the potential benefits of continuing to pursue such emotional experiences.

Please indicate which of the three methods for experiencing emotions you would prefer to utilize.

This process allows you to create your own unique expression. We encourage the exploration of intense emotions and behaviors. Which emotions allow you to express suppressed feelings?

Anger? Injustice?

Or is there a negative emotional response?

If you have not yet had the opportunity to fully express your emotions, you can allow yourself the time to do so. By expressing your emotions gradually, you will be able to gain a deeper understanding of the reasons behind their suppression. I believe that when these emotions are seen again and again, just as a child is constantly understood and loved by their parents, they will gradually lose their intensity.

It can be challenging to recognize emotions that have been present for an extended period and have served a beneficial purpose. As we mature and enhance our self-development, and continue to identify and examine, it is possible that you will gradually achieve emotional stability.

Additionally, it is beneficial to express gratitude for the diverse aspects of one's self, including the intense and the calm. These experiences may be perceived as genuine. By cultivating an attitude of gratitude and appreciation for the ongoing support, individuals can enhance their ability to navigate and benefit from the present moment.

[Regarding self-acceptance]

It is important to recognise that we all have a number of different aspects to our personalities. Recently, I have been practising self-care.

I have observed that when I experience a sense of calm, I tend to feel a certain degree of apprehension. I recall how I perceived my parents' interactions at home during my childhood, and I have come to recognize that the periods of tranquility within my own family were not as enduring as I had assumed.

In fact, these are all examples of subconscious mind activity that may be perceived as problematic. I would suggest that in this case, the most constructive approach would be to…

It is possible that you are not accustomed to maintaining a calm state of mind. It may be the case that you believe that expressing anger is the only effective way to cope with challenging situations.

If that is not possible at this time, you may wish to watch a movie and observe the feelings it evokes.

Additionally, reading a preferred book may help identify repressed emotions and foster empathy.

Additionally, you may wish to consider undertaking some charitable work, engaging in sincere interactions with people, and observing how those with similar emotions and experiences support themselves.

We are always our truest selves. Regardless of circumstances, this self is our most reliable ally. It is essential to have confidence in this self, to provide support and guidance, and to believe that it will generate valuable insights and gradually develop a positive self-image.

There are numerous options available today, including counselors, listening therapists, psychiatrists, and mutual aid communities. Writing, drawing, and other forms of self-expression can be beneficial as a means of coping and self-care.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my personal regards to you and to express my appreciation for your contributions to our organization.

I would like to recommend the following books: "Self-Healing and Growth," "Appropriate Defense," and "The Care of a Sloth."

Hello, landlord. I am honored to answer your question. As stated in the information, you are stubborn and extreme in character, and you actively pursue and experience strong emotions in your daily life.

You crave extreme emotions and behaviors. You believe you are too stable emotionally and feel unable to express your emotions. Friends, I need your advice.

A calm tone of voice and emotional stability during communication are signs of good psychological quality and mental health. You did not indicate your age or gender, but you made it clear that you like to actively pursue and experience strong emotions. You also made it known that you have very extreme emotions and behaviors.

I believe that people who seek out strong emotional stimuli display very extreme emotions and behaviors because they have internal pressure and need to vent.

A large part of the attraction is through exaggerated behavior, which attracts the attention of others. It is similar to a child suddenly swearing and causing a scene to get the attention of their parents. Once you understand your own needs, you will know exactly how to solve the problem.

Don't wait passively for attention. Seize the initiative and attract it by actively seeking it out. Pay attention to the other person and help them with something, meeting some of their needs. In return, they'll be more willing to pay attention to you.

This satisfies the idea that they are appreciated and paid attention to.

There are two functions of losing your temper. One is to establish a more obvious boundary between you and the other person when they violate your boundaries.

The second effect is to show your strength. When you feel that the other person is putting pressure on you, you will show that you are strong by throwing a temper tantrum to hide your inner weakness. You use throwing a temper tantrum to attract people's attention and focus on you.

The effect is not very obvious. I am happy to have an appointment in 1983. The world and I love you!