I am always confused inside, and I can't quite tell which is my true heart's voice?

Hello, question asker?

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From what you've said, it seems like there are always lots of different thoughts and voices in your mind, along with images. It's hard to tell which one is the real you. You also seem to be pulled in two different directions. On the one hand, you want to be a great person, but on the other, you want to be insignificant. It's like your whole self is going back and forth.

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Freud thought the human psyche was made up of three parts: the id, the superego, and the ego.

The id follows the pleasure principle and is made up of desires and needs. The superego follows the morality principle and is made up of consciousness and personal ideals. The ego follows the reality principle and manages the relationship between a person's internal psychological activities and the external world.

I think the awe-inspiring and great person you're talking about is the superego.

The "nobody" might be the ego.

It seems like your self is a bit contradictory.

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There's a concept in psychology called self-dissonance.

We tend to think we're contradictory, switching back and forth between different thoughts. In reality, this is a pretty normal thing to do. Maybe others see us as just ordinary, but we feel awesome about ourselves. I'm the same.

It's actually beneficial to just let it be. It's like having two little children playing in your head, one saying that you're awesome and the other saying that you're nothing, and it's exhausting.

However, when another little person is emo, the super-courageous little person can better handle the challenges of life. Some people say not to be afraid to show off, and not to be afraid of not being the person you want to be, because the future is uncertain and no one knows what kind of person we will become one day.

The power of the present moment. What can we do in the moment to make a difference?

Start with the simple things. Accept yourself as you are and give him a hug.

Connect with him.

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It's okay not to be that perfect self. I'm loved even at this moment.

In reality, our brains are always in control, making us anxious about time. We can't let go of the past and are even more worried about the future.

But in reality, we can only live in the present. Everything that happens is happening right now, while the past and the future are just concepts of time. By surrendering to the present, you can find true strength and the gateway to peace and tranquility.

That's where we can find true joy and embrace our true selves.

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The more we care about something, the less likely it is to go our way. Instead, let's think about what I would do if I were in that great person's shoes right now.

Can I solve my problems right now? Take a step back and look at the situation with a fresh perspective.

It might be tough.

The more you want something, the more likely it is to happen. So think big and take action while you're thinking. Even if you don't succeed, at least you've taken a step in the right direction.

It's time to stop spinning in place.

I'm overdue for a change. One mind, one world, and I love you.

Hello, question asker! I am Enoch, your answerer.

From the questioner's description, there may be a possibility that the questioner may have a multiple personality or a bipolar disorder.

I find myself thinking about the different roles I play in life. Some of these roles may present challenges in adapting to life, or perhaps I am seeking a way to move beyond the role I currently play and become the ideal state I aspire to be.

The questioner may have high expectations for their life, hoping to become a great and important figure, and may find it challenging to accept the reality of their current situation. However, they may come to realize that it is difficult to achieve this, and may develop the idea of wanting to be an ordinary person and live an ordinary life, to adapt themselves to society and life. But they may still occasionally have expectations and demands for themselves. The questioner may repeatedly explore the relationship between this ideal and reality, and this produces many voices and thoughts.

Perhaps the most effective way to adjust your state is to restore your rationality and combine your own situation and expertise. This allows you to maximize your abilities and achieve outstanding results in your planned career field. This approach may help you avoid regret, feel a sense of accomplishment, and avoid daydreaming.

Excessive ambition can result in excessive trepidation. A multitude of thoughts may be a source of constant distraction. It is possible to discern the underlying cause of this phenomenon. Is there a fundamental apprehension, an unerasable imprint?

It is possible to record these chaotic thoughts in order to gain awareness of the actual situation. Many of the issues that arise are, in fact, things that need to be faced. While it may seem chaotic at the time, once the situation has been resolved, it can be accepted.

For example, during a scheduled break, the leader unexpectedly assigns you a simulated training task for a school garden tour. Despite being on vacation, you are suddenly required to complete a task. You will likely resist this assignment. Furthermore, the thought of having to give a lecture for three hours straight is also a test of your physical strength and endurance.

It is likely that a significant number of thoughts will arise at this time. It is also possible to identify the source of these thoughts. Some may be unresolved issues that have not yet been fully accepted, creating a sense of inability to cope.

The process of self-improvement is also a process of balancing ambition with reality. You have a goal of becoming a high achiever. However, it may be more beneficial to focus on becoming an average performer, which will be less exhausting.

It is important to remember that all thoughts are transient and may not yet have become fixed feelings. This is something that should be reflected on regularly. It is also helpful to consider your long-term career goals. You may find it useful to take a career personality test and read books such as "It's Okay to Slow Down", "Only by Running Your Best Do You Know What You're Capable of", "Start Over Today", and "Don't Let Life Drain You of Your Beauty" to help maintain inner peace and beauty.

Please advise.

Hello, questioner! Hello, voices pulling at your heartstrings!

I'm Qu Hui Dong, a psychological counselor who likes to speak in images.

You mentioned in the title that

When there's always a lot going on in your mind,

I can relate to the feeling of being overwhelmed by chaos and noise.

What makes it even more frustrating is that you have this strong urge to identify which voice is really yours!

They can be high and passionate, full of fighting spirit, or low and depressed, sinking to the dust. This kind of ups and downs is also like our emotions.

Emotions are like that—they fluctuate and change throughout the day, and they don't always follow a straight line.

If you're often disturbed by these sounds or thoughts, I want to start by telling you:

You're aware of what's going on inside you. You're paying attention to your inner state and you're in a conscious state of self!

At the same time, it's important to remember that they actually belong to you and are all real!

And we should probably let them express themselves one by one.

If you'd like, you can try this:

Grab a piece of paper and a pen and get ready to get creative!

Let them represent the two main voices in their hearts right now.

Use a pen to help them make sounds and just write without any judgment or evaluation.

Writing with your non-dominant hand might be a bit slow, but it's an important part of the process.

Just let your thoughts go and watch the words flow from the tip of the pen, writing slowly until you want to stop.

Now, take a look at the words on this sheet. Do you start to dislike the handwriting? If so, just let it be.

Just looking at them and experiencing the emotions and physical sensations of the moment.

It might change how you see them.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on how it's going with your practice. Best wishes!

I hope my response will prove useful to you.

Indeed, the human mind is capable of a multitude of thoughts and voices. When an individual desires to undertake a particular action, they will encounter both resistance and motivation. When the resistance outweighs the motivation, it becomes challenging to take action. Conversely, when the motivation surpasses the resistance, the likelihood of action increases. When the resistance and motivation are equal, the individual may find themselves in a state of indecision, torn between the two.

It is possible that we will not become world-renowned figures or achieve greatness. However, we can strive to become better versions of ourselves. Through our own efforts and within our own abilities, we can expand the boundaries of our abilities, broaden our comfort zone, and make today's self better than yesterday's self, and tomorrow's self more advanced than today's self.

Once this state is reached, the motivation to move forward will outweigh the resistance, eliminating the constant tug-of-war. Instead, a sense of hope will prevail, enabling action on a daily basis.

In conclusion, it is of paramount importance to ascertain the reasonability of the objectives one sets for oneself. It is unwise to set oneself overly ambitious goals with the expectation of becoming an exemplary figure immediately, nor is it prudent to set oneself unattainable goals with the belief that one is insignificant.

It is essential to establish objectives that align with one's current capabilities, taking into account one's unique abilities. This approach is more likely to foster motivation and drive progress.

In accordance with the Yerkes–Dodson law, the correlation between motivation intensity and work efficiency is not linear, but rather an inverted U-shaped curve. Consequently, moderate motivation is the optimal motivational state for task completion.

In other words, one should set goals that are slightly more ambitious than one's current level of achievement, yet still within one's reach in accordance with one's abilities. This approach tends to foster greater motivation to take action.

For example, when I first began my studies in psychology, I also aspired to become a highly skilled counselor. However, I soon realized that this was an unrealistic goal. It is generally recognized that a qualified counselor requires three to five years of training and study. I was therefore frustrated by the realization that I would not be able to achieve this level of expertise at the outset of my career. I found myself comparing myself to teachers who had been in the industry for over a decade.

At one point, I held the conviction that I could achieve a remarkable career in the field of psychology. Conversely, at another juncture, I experienced a sense of insignificance, delusion, and despair, akin to your current state. Ultimately, upon acquiring an understanding of the concept of "self-esteem," I came to recognize that I had not positioned myself with sufficient precision.

In 1890, James proposed a formula for understanding self-esteem: self-esteem = success/aspiration.

It is essential to have a reasonable position in one's current life in order to pursue a sense of accomplishment. In the event of an inability to achieve one's ambitions and succeed, it is crucial to adjust one's level of ambition in order to enhance one's self-esteem.

As we adjust our level of ambition and achieve the smaller goals that are within our reach, we will continue to gain a sense of accomplishment and our self-esteem will also increase.

It is therefore necessary to set an ambitious goal for oneself, but to break down the necessary actions into smaller, more manageable components, with a timeline for completion. In other words, the overarching goal must be broken down into smaller, more specific goals, with a plan of action for achieving them. With this approach, the individual will gradually approach the goal, until it is ultimately achieved.

My objective is to become a professional psychological worker. To that end, I have devoted the first three years to acquiring fundamental theoretical knowledge, the next three years to personal growth and various practices, and the next three years to in-depth learning and practice of select schools of thought and information technology. I am confident that, with time, I will become the ideal version of myself. I believe the same is true of you.

Let us endeavor collectively to actualize our aspirations.

Hello, I am Heart Exploration Coach Yiyashu. I will help you overcome your current problems.

From your description, I can see how you feel trapped between two opposing voices. I'm here to help you understand that you don't have to choose between them.

It is normal to have multiple voices within us. Many people are like this, but sometimes we don't understand why there are so many voices. Which voice is our true voice?

Of course, there will be a lot of confusion.

These voices are all our own, and they represent our different needs and desires.

You don't have to distinguish between the two voices. What matters is understanding what they represent and what they mean to you.

First, you mentioned that there is a voice that seems to say, "I want to be a world-shaking great person." What does this voice represent? It represents the desire to be extraordinary, to improve, to be better, and to win in competition. This is a desire in our nature to succeed and strive for excellence.

The other voice says, "I just want to be an insignificant nobody." This voice represents your desire to be less ambitious and just have a simpler, more relaxed life. You may want to express that at this stage, you don't want to pursue so much advancement and excellence. You just want to relax a little, be simple, and be yourself.

Then why do these two voices fight?

This is a result of our own assessment of different needs and desires, which are influenced by our past experiences and the social environment.

In fact, whether it is the pursuit of excellence and outstanding performance or the pursuit of simplicity and ordinariness, they are all equal and they are just different needs of people. You must face the fact that you just want to be an insignificant nobody. This kind of need is not promising or shameful.

You probably grew up in an environment where your parents and teachers told you that only people who excel and become outstanding and great are good. Society also promotes a cultural atmosphere where only if you are successful, wealthy, and have status and reputation can you gain respect.

This external judgment and guidance makes you feel that you should only pursue excellence and that it is right to be excellent. If you just want to live a simpler life, you are seen as unpromising and unworthy of mention.

We are born as human beings and cannot always pursue excellence. We also need to relax, rest, and take it easy. If your ego cannot regulate the need to pursue excellence and the need to relax, be simple and ordinary, the two voices will fight and compete for dominance.

This is your current problem.

Today, I'm helping you see the source of this internal conflict and sort out your problems so you can be aware of them. Once you figure it out and realize these two voices are your heart's real needs, you won't have to distinguish which is your own voice. You'll be free to think:

I need to know what choice I should make in the moment.

I know which need is the most important and most wanted at this stage.

I am willing to temporarily let go of one need and go after another.

Putting something aside temporarily doesn't mean you've become a certain kind of person forever. It just means that at this stage, we're prioritizing the satisfaction of a certain need. You don't need to feel uneasy about your choice at this moment.

If you can't sort it out yourself, find someone who can. There are plenty of people out there who can help you solve and face problems.

I am confident that my answer will be of help to you. I wish you the best of luck!

Hugs, I feel this way too. There are two forces within me, fighting.

You want to be self-reliant, but you have to be ordinary. This can drive you crazy.

To get rid of this feeling of being torn inside, think about the following:

1. Know yourself. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Know what you can and can't do. Know what you want to do and what you can't do yet. Give yourself time to prepare.

Those in the know are confused, and the outsider sees clearly. You can understand yourself better through communication with family and friends, as well as some psychological quizzes.

2. Take your time. Our lives are like seeds. We have a lot of power within ourselves, and it is only under the right conditions that we can grow.

When we can't do anything, remember that spring will come.

3. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Set small, achievable goals every day, like walking for ten minutes, getting up early, or reading two pages of a book. This will make you feel fulfilled and give you a sense of control over your life.

4. Find a hobby you enjoy. It will help you relax and make life more fun.

I hope this helps.