Irritable and quick to anger, always losing your temper over trivial matters, but when you think about it, it's not worth it?

Hello, landlord. I saw your description and I understand how you're feeling. When you're angry, you can't control yourself, and sometimes you feel like you've suffered for no reason. You have to let it out, but after you've cooled off, you feel that it wasn't worth it for such a small matter. I hope my sharing can help you.

Anger is one of the basic human emotions. It's intense and has the potential to be destructive. Anger often stems from self-blame. It can feel like something has happened that makes you unhappy, and letting it out can help you feel better.

As Jacques Chirac put it, "Respect is an uncomfortable feeling in your heart, caused by a sense of injustice and an unacceptable frustration."

Yes, when we reach our limit, it's a sign that someone has wronged us or that we have an unmet need. This emotion makes us feel uneasy and needs to be expressed.

Often, we think losing our temper is a bad thing, but when we get angry, we can't control ourselves and might do things that hurt others and ourselves.

As Verena Kast puts it, "Any form of anger implies aggression against the environment and the world around us."

Given this explanation of anger, it's understandable that when we're angry, we might do something we'll regret later.

Anger has two sides, as do all things.

As they say, if you know yourself and your opponent, you can win every battle.

If we understand what anger is all about, we understand ourselves better. If we can manage our anger in a way that lets it work for us, it can be a powerful force for change. You don't have to be unreasonable to be angry.

That's why it's important to listen to what our anger is trying to tell us. It can help us identify our shortcomings and flaws.

Here's a method for controlling anger that I've seen work well with other people:

American emotion management expert Dr. Ronalds said, "A stormy anger often lasts no more than 12 seconds. It can be pretty destructive when it erupts, but afterwards, it's usually calm. Controlling these 12 seconds can help minimize the point of anger eruption."

Absolutely. Controlling the duration of anger is the key to overcoming it. If 12 seconds feels too short, try 24 or even 30 seconds.

If we can control our anger, we can overcome it.

These are my thoughts. I hope you can make good use of the 12 seconds, and I hope my sharing can give you some inspiration.

Sometimes you get angry with yourself. You think about what happened.

We often say that we need to express our emotions, not emotional expressions. Because emotional expressions can easily arouse the emotions of the other person, they do not solve the problem.

But we also need to recognize emotions. Each emotion sends us a message.

What's going on inside us that needs attention?

Anger is about anger. What good does it do?

1. Tell others when you've been treated unfairly or hurt.

2. Help you protect your emotional health.

3. It makes you stand up for yourself.

4. It lets you say you're unhappy when others break social rules.

What are you trying to achieve when you lose your temper?

To make adjustments, use these methods.

1. If a small thing makes me angry, it's likely that I often feel similar experiences with this thing, which means we have unexpressed emotions from the past. To solve this, we may need to go back to the beginning of similar events and express them fully.

2. Keep an emotional diary (Byrnes emotional therapy). Record your emotions to see if there are new possibilities, perceptions, ideas, or habits. This can help you respond differently.

3. Practice expressing your needs. Be honest and sincere. Don't suppress yourself and then vent.

To learn communication and expression, you need to know yourself.

4. Relax and expand your inner space.

Be aware of what's going on.

These are just a few suggestions. For specific advice, please seek professional guidance. Best wishes.