This world is terrifying, unchangeable, and I am in pain. Yet, I am also weak.

Take a moment to recognize the various painful entanglements and unhappy mindsets you experience within yourself. This mentality may reflect your own painful and loathed family of origin, as well as some of your own blind spots in your character and some extreme thoughts.

If you've been having a lot of thoughts about feeling overwhelmed, it's a good idea to look for the "Crisis Intervention Hotline" on the platform as soon as you can. This could help you to save your body and soul. We don't need to change the world; it's too big for us to try to be small. It's already very impressive to be able to adapt to and accept this challenging society.

You feel like the world is a scary place. You're looking for warmth, but at the same time, you feel very weak. It's a contradictory state of mind. You might still have a lot to face and a lot to reconcile.

You can take the Rainbow Personality Psychological Test to gain a deeper understanding of your personality and see if you've lost your sense of direction on many levels, or if you've experienced family trauma that makes you fearful and in need of reconciliation.

You're under a lot of pressure, like a flood surging with mudslides. It'd be best to get some proper training on the meditation planet on the platform, meditate on your own unwholesome thoughts with a positive mindset, and make some real changes in yourself so you can adapt to our world. I also sincerely hope you'll take the initiative to seek psychological counseling.

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It is understandable that many people are afraid of not being able to change many things. When doing these things, it is important to first look within yourself. It is also important to adapt to the world, as many of the underlying laws of the world are the laws of the jungle: the weak are prey to the strong. This can seem quite cruel.

It is important to adapt to society and to be able to bring your own strengths and competitiveness to the table. It is also important to be able to adapt to this and to integrate into society. We are all natural people and social people, even though the law of the jungle is relatively cruel.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to consider focusing on the things you can control. There are many things that are out of your control and you can't solve them, but you can do well in every little thing you can control.

It can be challenging when we feel unable to change ourselves, particularly when we are facing significant pressure. It's important to recognise that there are many aspects of our lives that we cannot control. From a psychological perspective, it's beneficial to focus on the things we can influence. While there are many factors beyond our control, we can still strive to excel in the areas we can directly impact.

If you are able to eat well, sleep well, adjust your mood, exercise appropriately, keep a diary, go out into nature, and find some close friends to chat with, that would be beneficial.

If you're feeling particularly tired, you might consider listening to music, speaking with a professional counselor, or seeking the guidance of a third party. They may be able to offer a different perspective on your inner child's emotions and help you gain insight into any deeper subconscious issues you may be facing.

Hello, question owner. Reading your words, I get the sense that you're feeling sad, heartbroken, helpless, and in pain about your situation. I'll share my perspective, and I hope my answer will be helpful to you.

You said you thought you'd become a beloved princess, but you got disillusioned because it didn't work out that way. The thing is, when you were living with him, he was meeting some of your internal requirements. Otherwise, you would've divorced him.

Think about what you get when you live with him, and what happens if you decide to divorce him.

Which of these relationships is easier for you to accept? Ask yourself more often, and you'll understand why you're so dissatisfied with the status quo.

I still think it's worth living with one person!

It's important to remember that the impact of our original family on us is something we can't escape. However, we often have a negative bias about this impact. We think the harm brought to us by our original family is unavoidable or that we cannot change it. But according to lifespan developmental psychology, human personality is malleable. It's not fixed and unchanging. If you want to change this state of affairs, you can try to do all kinds of things to change the status quo of your life.

Secondly, parents love their kids, but they don't realize they're unintentionally hurting you because they may have been taught to behave this way by their parents. You can't ask someone who can only afford bread to bring you cake.

You said the world is cold to you, but the world's perception is also shaped by what you know. For instance, if you think everyone is out to get you, the world seems dark and closed off. But if you believe the world is beautiful and worth exploring, you'll find it's full of new and pleasant things.

It's important to look at these things with a positive attitude, not with negative emotions. Instead of being pessimistic every second, it's better to live every day happily.

Here are a few tips to help you feel happier: try listening to music, meditating, or taking deep breaths to calm your emotions. Then every night, write down five small things that make you feel happy, and then you can write down five things you want to be grateful for tomorrow. And in the process of doing these things, try to look at them with a positive attitude, not feel that other people are being malicious towards you.

I wish you the best of luck!

I just wanted to say that I love you and the world loves you too!

Hello!

If we want to change but feel powerless or can't, we feel sad. What should we do? Let's talk.

(1) Relationship with parents

"I hated my parents. I inherited their weaknesses and extremes.

We learn from our parents how to deal with things.

We are different ages and generations, but our emotions are similar to our parents'. Can we forgive them? They had bad perceptions caused by the environment, which made us not get the love we wanted. We let go of our disgust for them and accept ourselves.

(2) Marriage isn't happy.

Some people think that changing one's situation through marriage is the answer. Some people have lived happily after marriage, but this is rare.

We hope our partner will love us because we didn't get love from our family. But we don't know how to love others, so we don't get the love we need.

Here are some ways to deal with this:

(1) Learn to love yourself.

When we love ourselves, we can accept others and see their strengths. When we love ourselves and our abilities improve, we can love others too.

(2) Lower your expectations.

If our expectations are too high, we will feel that no matter how hard we try, life will remain the same. We will become anxious and sad.

Some psychologists have studied poor black people and found that telling them about the rich world outside makes them feel worse.

Be content with the present, and try to make life more fulfilling and happy for your family.

Do things you don't want to do, but have to. Explain that these things are important and that we must do them. Do them happily and try your best.

When your mood changes, you'll be more efficient and feel better. The questioner should try changing his mood and attitude.

(3) Learn some skills.

"Knowledge changes destiny." We can learn skills for getting along in relationships and self-control. The questioner can learn and use them to meet their needs.

Hope this helps.

Best,

Greetings,

The host then proceeded to offer their input.

A careful reading of the post suggests that the author has experienced significant challenges. How have you managed to persevere through these difficulties?

Additionally, it is evident that the individual in question exhibited courage in articulating his personal distress and proactively seeking assistance on the platform. This action is likely to facilitate a more profound understanding of himself and facilitate his personal growth.

Subsequently, I will present my observations and thoughts on the subject, which may assist the individual in developing a more nuanced understanding of themselves.

1. The world is perceived as frightening due to an inherent lack of capability to safeguard oneself.

As evidenced in the post, the individual in question did not receive an adequate level of affection from their original family. Furthermore, within their intimate relationship, they sought love and care but instead became the lover and caregiver.

The world has brought the landlord a plethora of negative sentiments, and he has not been treated with the requisite gentleness. It is evident that he perceives the world as a frightening place.

However, if we possess the capacity to safeguard ourselves, assume accountability for our sentiments, and rectify our deficiencies, will the world retain its frightening aspect?

The question thus arises as to how this can be achieved.

2. Cultivate inner peace.

The concept of reconciliation can be defined as the act of assuming responsibility for one's own actions and emotions. It implies a shift in perspective from attributing external factors, such as the actions of others, as the primary cause of one's unhappiness and dissatisfaction to recognizing that these emotions are a result of one's own thoughts and actions.

It is, of course, possible to choose to blame others, to live as a victim, and to feel that it is the responsibility of others. However, if one's heart is filled with hatred and blame, it is difficult to imagine how one could possibly fit happiness and bliss in.

If we abdicate responsibility for our lives to others, we may avoid accountability for our actions, but we will not develop as individuals. While we cannot alter the circumstances of the first half of our lives, we can determine our own happiness in the second half.

It is possible to choose to reconcile with oneself from this moment onward, to assume responsibility for one's own life, and to heal the wounds of the past.

This is, of course, a challenging proposition. However, if we do not alter our approach, will life become easier?

Assuming responsibility for one's own life results in the ability to control one's destiny. This, in turn, allows for the choice of whether to pursue a happy life or not.

It is imperative to recognize that the only entity capable of inflicting harm is oneself.

It is possible to gain an understanding of oneself, identify one's own needs, meet those needs, and take responsibility for one's emotions.

3. Cultivate the ability to derive constructive insights from challenging experiences.

Once one has attempted to reconcile with oneself, the subsequent step is to reconcile with one's parents. It is necessary to release oneself from the burden of resentment and negative emotions before one can feign happiness.

Should reconciliation prove unfeasible, it is not advisable to force the issue. It is possible to adopt an objective perspective on one's personal growth from the vantage point of adulthood.

It is important to recognize that even the most exemplary parents are, in fact, ordinary people. Like all humans, they possess inherent limitations, experience disappointments, and are not infallible. They are not capable of doing everything.

In this manner, one may experience a reduction in negative affect. Conversely, it is also important to develop the capacity to identify and derive positive meaning from adverse experiences.

It is plausible that our parents may have raised us in an inappropriate manner. However, it is also true that with mistakes comes the opportunity for improvement. We can utilize this as a reference to learn how to raise ourselves in an optimal manner.

Given the considerable pain endured, it can be argued that resilience has been demonstrated. If this resilience is effectively harnessed, it may lead to enhanced career success. There are always two sides to a coin; growth can be derived from adverse experiences.

Similarly, a tree absorbs nutrients in the absence of light and flourishes in the presence of sunlight.

It is my hope that these suggestions will prove beneficial to the original poster. It should be noted that personal growth is a process that requires time and learning. The original poster may find it beneficial to explore the field of psychology.

Should you require guidance on learning strategies, you are welcome to consult with me. I am Zeng Chen, a psychological coach at One Mind.

Love is everywhere!

There is absolutely no shortage of love in the world! You just need to open your eyes to see it.

What you think, you see! The world you see is cold and lacking in love, but in fact, you have built a barrier against love within your heart.

So, you don't have to go looking for love! All you have to do is break down the barrier in your heart, and the light of love will shine in naturally!

And the best part is, love that is given returns!

If you feel that you cannot find love, then become love! If you think that no one loves you, then love others! Live your life as a ray of light, illuminating the darkness in everyone's heart. But when you see that others are happy because of your love, you will realize that love has never left me! I am love, love is me! Everywhere you look, there is great love! Love is within me in its fullness!

It's time to repair your relationship with your parents!

Everything in life is about relationships! Your relationship with your father represents your relationship with wealth, and your relationship with your mother is your relationship with marriage.

Parents are the two Buddhas in the family. If you ask Buddha for advice, you'll get it right at home!

You may feel that your parents have done many things wrong. But here's the good news: parents are also ordinary people, and of course they can make mistakes. Their perceptions may be wrong, but they have given you the best they can within their abilities. Never complain about your parents, because all misfortunes are caused by a lack of filial piety.

Wishing you the very best!