14-year-old boy, final exam scores have dropped, always in a low mood, unable to muster confidence

Good morning, I am writing to express my gratitude for the opportunity to meet with you. I view this meeting as a positive outcome, and I am appreciative of the circumstances that have brought us together. Best regards,

Firstly, I would like to extend my sympathies and care to you in the form of a warm embrace.

I would like to inquire further by asking you a few questions. If you are not comfortable answering, that is perfectly understandable. You have the right to refuse, so please do not feel obliged to answer. Just follow your heart and your true feelings.

Please describe your actions when you did not wish to attend school at the beginning of the academic year.

Please describe any notable emotional or behavioral changes that occurred prior to this incident.

If so, please describe your reaction. Have you discussed your feelings and thoughts with your parents?

Please describe the duration of this situation. Did you consult with a counselor?

If psychological assistance was obtained, could you kindly elaborate on its effectiveness?

If not, what were your considerations? Was it your opinion or that of your parents?

Please indicate whether you have visited the local municipal hospital or the psychiatric department. Please provide the diagnosis provided by the doctor.

Please confirm whether the treatment plan included more than a month of hospitalisation and, if so, whether there was any psychological intervention.

Following the completion of her treatment, she reported feeling like a completely different person. She described feeling high-spirited, with a love of socializing, talking a lot, and a lot of confidence. She also reported spending money without thinking, having been cheated out of thousands of dollars. She was willing to communicate and joke with her family, and was always smiling. The results of the follow-up examination were also normal.

It would appear that you have already made a full recovery.

Please provide a summary of the doctor's conclusion at the time, as well as a description of the family's reaction.

From the time the results of the re-examination were released until the end of November, I felt like I had returned to my pre-treatment baseline.

Please describe your reaction when you felt like you were back to your old self. How did you deal with it?

From late November to the present, approximately how many weeks have elapsed? Have you been in a state of self-isolation and unwilling to go out?

During this period, did you resume your studies at your previous educational institution and did you seek further medical attention?

Please describe the parents' reaction.

Have you had an opportunity to discuss this with your parents?

Have you considered consulting with a counselor?

Given the limited information available, it would be unwise for me to provide advice without a fuller understanding of the situation.

However, I am confident that I can be of assistance in your current situation.

I am unable to provide a specific solution at this time. However, I can offer guidance on a potential course of action.

You may wish to consider seeking further assistance from a psychiatrist. They can intervene with medication to first adjust your physical condition to a state that you feel more comfortable in.

I would also recommend that you, accompanied by your parents, find a psychological counselor to conduct a comprehensive psychological assessment and provide tailored treatment.

Furthermore, active collaboration between you and your parents is essential throughout this process. Be transparent and address your inner self directly to identify the underlying cause.

I believe that when you can face everything with courage and an open mind, and then actively cooperate with medication or related treatments, you will see positive results.

By requesting assistance and articulating your concerns, you have taken a crucial initial step. Demonstrate courage, extend yourself additional time, and maintain self-belief, and you will reap the benefits of a transformed self.

I wish you the best in your future endeavors.

I underwent follow-up examinations, the results of which were normal. However, in late November, I returned to my previous state of mind, isolated myself in my room, and even deleted WeChat. I have not left the house since that time.

Hello, handsome guy. Let me be clear: I can sense your emotions from your questions. They are anxiety, nervousness, worry, fear, impatience, depression, and other negative emotions. You are feeling restless and unable to sleep or eat. Your body is reacting to these emotions, and your sleep and diet are not getting the right response. This is normal. Do not worry.

Your body is sending you a distress signal because you have been working too hard, worrying too much, and are too mentally stretched. You need to rest. Accept these signals calmly, without fear or defensiveness. Take this opportunity to give yourself a holiday and get some good rest.

From your questions, I can tell that you are a sensible, filial, and grateful boy. This is very difficult, and such noble qualities are rare in today's society. I applaud you. You are really good. Reading your questions, I can feel my own fondness for you. You are such a filial and hardworking boy. I can also see that you are very motivated and excellent. At such a young age, you are so courageous and enterprising. This is really good. It is really the younger generation pushing the older generation, and each generation is stronger than the last.

You'll be disappointed with the result because you compare it with previous results and attach great importance to it. But you have to remember that as a student you have to take many exams, and one exam is not a big deal. It only tests your knowledge in a certain area. Although your score this time is not as good as your previous scores, I think this time is more valuable and meaningful because it just exposed your weaknesses in certain areas and gave you the opportunity and time to remedy them.

As the saying goes, "The process is more important than the result." You will find your weak points and attack them by carefully observing and studying the exam paper.

Come on! You're a handsome guy, and I'm rooting for you. The world and I love you!

Hello! I'll give you a big, warm hug from afar!

You can feel the deep guilt and self-blame in your heart at the moment, as well as your deep consideration, understanding, and concern for your parents.

Once you become aware of your emotional state, you can make positive changes! That's right, you can choose to stay with your current feelings of guilt, self-blame, and depression. You can experience, perceive, feel, and sort out what lies behind these uncomfortable emotional feelings. For example, you can explore the desire to be accepted, understood, affirmed, encouraged, listened to, and comforted.

Once you can get along with your emotions and perceive the needs hidden behind them, you'll be ready to respond to them in the best way possible! For example, you can try to sincerely tell your parents your true feelings and needs at that moment to gain their strong emotional support and response.

Another great way to work through painful emotions is to keep an emotional diary. This is a fantastic way to make your painful emotions visible and express and release them. When you can see and express your emotions, you can start to reduce or even eliminate the harm they cause you. This is because you're giving your emotions a voice and letting them know that you've heard them.

At the same time, you must understand that learning is not all there is to life. You study better for a better life in the future, but there is so much more to life than just studying! There are other more beautiful things worth doing. So, an unsatisfactory result in an exam does not mean that you have not tried your best, that you are not a good student, and that learning is a lifelong thing. An exam result will not determine your future or your life.

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!

From what I can tell, the questioner was feeling down because of his grades and had been taking extra lessons. It seems like he has high expectations of himself and is working hard to achieve his goal.

In the second half of the story, the questioner was feeling a bit down because he felt sorry for his parents. It seemed like the questioner was under a lot of pressure. The parents have high expectations for the questioner's studies, and when expectations aren't met, they might criticize or scold, adding extra study tasks.

Or maybe the parents didn't directly say they were disappointed in the questioner's grades, but their usual language, tone of voice, or expressions might show it. This can put a lot of pressure on the sensitive and well-behaved questioner. There's no need to directly criticize the child.

It's so sad to see that the questioner himself feels that the biggest impact of not doing well in school and taking extra classes is disappointing his parents, not his own feelings. This is totally understandable because the questioner is not planning and expecting for himself, but to please his parents. In junior high school, the driving force for learning can only be sustained and stable if it comes from within. If it comes from the demands of family members outside, it is easily affected by too many negative influences and fluctuations, and the learning effect is also difficult to guarantee.

As a mom to a 12-year-old boy, I really hope that my little guy is willing to talk to me about anything, happy, angry, disappointed, sad... I might not always understand or agree, but I'm always ready to listen and support, giving him a safe space to share all his feelings, both good and bad.

If you have a good relationship with your parents and can talk to them easily, it's a great idea to chat with them about your academic performance. They might have some helpful insights to share!

I think it's really important for the questioner to be able to clearly identify their future plans and learning goals, and that they are what they want, not what their parents or other family members want. As long as they can keep moving towards this clear goal, it'll be easier for them to accept and adjust their plans if there are some detours or minor setbacks along the way. It's just like when they were a child learning to walk – if they fall, they can get back up, dust themselves off, put on a Band-Aid, and keep stumbling forward. As they walk along, they'll learn, and they can even run and jump, discovering a bigger world!

I also understand that as a junior high school student, I now have my own ideas. I really hope to grow up and become independent as soon as possible to help my parents share the pressure. I think that's a great idea! At the same time, as parents, we also want to ask our adolescent children to believe that mom and dad will always support you and will always be willing to be your best listeners and strongest supporters.

Given your assertion that you feel guilty-and-remorseful-what-should-i-do-6164.html" target="_blank">remorse for your parents, it is evident that you are experiencing feelings of self-blame, guilt, and loss, as well as a sense of powerlessness and even distress. I extend my support and empathy to you in this challenging moment. It is clear that you are experiencing a complex emotional state, characterized by a range of conflicting emotions.

Given that you indicated a high level of satisfaction following the examination, it is probable that you invested a considerable amount of time, effort, and financial resources in supplementary educational programs in the period preceding the examination. You demonstrated a notable degree of dedication, had your own aspirations and expectations, and were even under the scrutiny of your parents and educators. You aspired for your endeavors to yield positive outcomes, for the examination to proceed successfully, and for you to obtain a commendable result and demonstrate advancement. This would ensure that you would not disappoint yourself, your parents, or your educators. Given the extent of your efforts, it is reasonable to anticipate a favorable outcome. During the examination, you perceived a sense of advancement and believed you had performed quite well, which contributed to a positive emotional state and optimism regarding the results.

The outcome was not as anticipated, eliciting feelings of disappointment and sadness. A sense of frustration and depression was also experienced, accompanied by a perception of powerlessness and weakness. Despite significant effort, the result was a regression, which was not in line with the desired outcome.

You desire to make progress, to see the fruits of your labor, and to be able to justify the investment of your parents and the efforts of your teachers. However, you have not yet achieved this. Do you feel like you want to but cannot, like you are not good enough?

Given your assertion that you have experienced a lack of appetite, poor sleep, and a general sense of lack of confidence over the past two days, it appears that you are struggling to accept this reality. It is also plausible that you are having difficulty adjusting to the water change, and it may be beneficial to allow yourself some time to adjust. It is possible that your situation will improve within a few days. It is essential to consider these factors.

We will now examine the reasons for this regression.

I believe there is a possibility that this is the case. I am unsure as to whether you are taking supplementary lessons, and I am similarly uncertain as to whether others are doing so. It is clear that considerable effort is being expended by all parties, and that while you have not made progress, others have. Could this be the reason for the discrepancy?

As the issue pertains to a limited number of unfamiliar words, it is possible to undertake an independent analysis of the underlying causes of this regression.

It is imperative that we all learn to affirm ourselves, regardless of the circumstances. You have invested a considerable amount of time, effort, and resources in preparing for the examination, and you have demonstrated commendable results. It is essential to evaluate this progress in comparison to your previous achievements.

It would be beneficial to assess whether the efforts made during this period have resulted in notable improvements compared to previous levels.

If one continues to work assiduously, one will be able to maintain one's current rate of progress and even improve. This may manifest as the ability to solve a problem that one previously could not, or as the willingness to actively confront issues that one had previously avoided.

What I observe is a diligent student who has invested a considerable amount of time and effort into their academic pursuits, resulting in commendable academic performance. You exemplify a remarkable work ethic and a high level of conscientiousness.

Additionally, you are a filial and commendable child. You aspire to achieve commendable outcomes as a means of expressing gratitude to your parents for their endeavors.

Additionally, one may endeavor to ascertain the most dominant emotional state. In the event that this is a perception of helplessness, one may undertake a temporal journey to a specific locale and interact with a particular individual, thereby engaging in a comprehensive examination of the experience to facilitate its resolution.

It is imperative to recognize and address your own needs.

I extend my best wishes for a speedy recovery.

Good day. I extend my sincerest regards to you in the form of a 360-degree embrace.

Your description is concise and similar to that of many typical middle school students.

The only sentence in which you expressed positive affect was in reference to your feelings following the examination.

There are numerous factors that contribute to feelings of depression. These include loss of appetite, poor sleep, and a lack of confidence in one's abilities. It is likely that you have researched the symptoms of depression, and the symptoms you have described are indeed related to this condition.

A diagnosis of depression requires the input of a psychiatrist. Your current situation can be described as somewhat depressed.

From your description, it seems that you may require a similar diagnosis or label. It appears that this would provide greater clarity and understanding of the issues you are facing.

As an illustration, my academic performance has declined due to my depression.

Due to my depression, I have had to invest in tutoring services.

Due to my depression, I am unable to obtain sufficient restorative sleep.

Due to my depression, I lack confidence in my abilities.

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This hypothesis is lengthy due to the aforementioned reasons.

In general, individuals tend to exhibit greater consideration and understanding towards those experiencing depression. Some may also perceive depression as a matter of personal perception and excessive reflection.

If you are experiencing depression, you may find that the world is a little more forgiving towards you. This is a potential benefit of illness.

I recall that when I was a child, I was unwell for a period of time. My parents, who are typically occupied, expressed great concern for my wellbeing. They even used a personal nickname, which evoked a strong emotional response. While I did not shed tears, I did perceive a notable shift in their attention and care.

At that time, I was aware that there were certain advantages to being unwell.

If you are unsure, how did your family respond when your test scores declined?

Please describe how your family has treated you recently in light of your loss of appetite, poor sleep, and lack of confidence in doing things.

If you are unable to recall the circumstances, it is advisable to observe how your family treats you when you display symptoms of anorexia. It would be beneficial to record their reactions, emotions, tone of voice, and behaviour.

Then, you can feign a robust appetite and sound sleep, and observe their reactions.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the distinction in their conduct in these two scenarios.

I am unsure if this will be of benefit, so I would advise you to wait and see.

If you require the symptom of depression, please continue to maintain these symptoms. Additionally, please record in your journal each night before bedtime that your depression has been successfully maintained for another day.

The results of this approach are not yet clear. We will have to wait and see.

I am frequently both Buddhist and depressed, and occasionally display positive and motivated counseling behaviors. I express gratitude for the world and its opportunities.

Hello, I'm Vera. Let's talk about your situation.

After getting the report card, you might feel some self-reproach, guilt, and self-negation. These negative emotions can affect your daily life.

If this lasts more than two weeks, you should go to the psychiatric department of a local top-tier hospital for a check-up.

It's normal to have mood swings at your age. After all, you've spent money on tutoring and have worked hard yourself, and you have high expectations of yourself. You said that you feel very good after taking an exam. What is that like?

Why do you feel so good about this?

Do you feel sorry for your parents if you don't do well on the test? How do you feel when that happens?

If you get good grades, you're basically repaying your parents for all their hard work and money spent on your upbringing. So are parents raising exam-scoring machines?

I think your parents raised you to do more than just get good grades on tests!

Think about it: What kind of person do your parents want you to become? And what kind of person do you want to become?

Does one poor result mean you'll always fail? Does it mean you're not a good kid?

Is it a waste of your parents' money?

Think about what you're good at. Compare that to what you're not so good at. Which things make you proud and which ones do you think you need to work on?

Keeping a record is a great way to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses. It's also a good way to understand yourself better. As you go through the process of sorting things out, you'll start to see patterns in your emotions. Then you can look back and see what you want and what changes you need to make.