15-year-old student in school, emotional disorder, desires self-harm and end one's life?

Hello, my dear friend! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

I can tell you're hurting, and I'm here to help. You've been through a lot, and it's clear you're struggling. But you're here, and that's a start. You have the strength and resilience to get through this.

When you're in tune with your past and current emotional state, you're more likely to make decisions that align with your needs and the needs of those around you. This helps you avoid acting in ways that might hurt yourself or those you care about.

It's okay to feel the way you do. It's also okay to accept your current painful emotional feelings, as well as the actions and thoughts that want to harm yourself. You're doing great! Now, try to be aware of these emotional feelings and the hidden needs behind the motives for your actions. That is, when you have committed self-harm, what is your inner experience and feeling? What needs do you feel are being met at that moment, such as being valued, being noticed, being cared for... You're doing great! Now, can you give yourself satisfaction and respond to these needs in a better way?

For instance, you can simply and directly express your needs to your family or friends.

It's also important to remember that we can't choose our family of origin or our parents. What we can do is try to accept them. If you've been traumatized in your family of origin, it's okay. You can heal yourself by growing and learning. And you can love yourself just as much as you would a good parent.

From what you've told me, it seems like you might have some low self-esteem and feel like you don't accept yourself because of your own growth. I totally get it! The good news is that you can work on changing your current emotional state by trying to accept yourself a little more and building up your self-confidence. One way to do this is by making a list of all the ways you accept yourself already. And on the other hand, you can also try keeping a gratitude journal to help you feel more confident and worthy of love.

If you're feeling down, why not try keeping an emotional diary? It's a great way to understand your feelings better and work out what's really going on for you.

I'm your little ear at the Q&A Pavilion, Lily, and the world, and I love you!

Hello, my name is Q&A Pavilion Little Ear Lily, and I just wanted to say that I love you, the world, and I love you too!

As a speech teacher, I have had the opportunity to visit more than 2,000 schools across the country. In my experience, I have encountered many students who could be described as having behavioral challenges. Many of these students have a tendency to engage in self-harm. I recall one particular instance when I had the chance to visit a high school in Dazhou, Sichuan, where I gave a speech. I posed a question to the high school sophomores: "If you have something on your mind, who would you talk to?"

At that time, there were almost eight classes, with less than 400 children, and less than 10% of them raised their hands. It seemed that 90% of the children were reluctant to communicate with their parents. I inquired about the reasons behind this reluctance.

Through my research, I have found that many children who face challenges often come from families that are facing their own difficulties. It is often the case that the parents in these families are struggling to maintain a harmonious relationship. This, in turn, can lead to challenges in the way they interact with their children. It is important to understand that many parents may not have received guidance on how to love, how to love others, how to love themselves, and how to accept the love of others. This lack of guidance can contribute to the challenges they face in their own relationships and, subsequently, in their parenting.

After the speech, a boy who was originally in the second year of high school came up to me and shared with me that sometimes when she was in a bad mood, she would take a razor blade and cut her arm. After learning about it, I realized that her mother gave birth to him when she was 19, and then gave him up to his grandparents to raise, while she went out to work elsewhere. His father was 20 at the time, and because his parents were so young, they didn't have a sense of responsibility. His parents didn't exist in his childhood, and now the pattern of getting along with his parents is to yell at each other. When he is angry and has no way to vent, he feels a sense of relief when he sees the blood flowing.

He is aware that this is not the right approach, but on occasion, she finds herself unable to resist. She sought guidance from me, her teacher, on how to proceed. What advice did I offer?

1. It might be helpful to find a sport you like and get moving, as exercise can have a positive effect on your mood (✪▽✪). You might also benefit from spending time with people who share your interests.

2. We have no control over the circumstances of our birth, and the entirety of our present reality is shaped by the events of today. Our future is also shaped by the choices we make today, so it is important to take responsibility for our actions and live in the moment.

3. It might be helpful to identify your interests, hobbies, and talents that you are willing to devote time and effort to. Interests can play an important role in maintaining passion.

4. If there is a girl you secretly like, and you believe that she could be your future wife, then it would be beneficial for you to work hard today and strive to achieve your dream of going to university. Because only if you are outstanding can you attract an outstanding woman, and because you love her, you are willing to make an effort.

5. It might be helpful to break down your big goals into smaller, more manageable ones and work towards them one step at a time.

I hope this will be of some inspiration to you, my dear. Hugs.