26-year-old male, why should I bear a 3 million yuan wedding? Blame it on my own incompetence.

Dear questioner,

From what you've shared, it seems like you're facing a significant financial challenge to complete the wedding, and it's understandable if you're feeling overwhelmed by your mother-in-law's expectations. I'm here to offer support and guidance as we explore the reasons behind your mother-in-law's actions.

1. It seems that the mother-in-law is not entirely pleased with the match, but the conditions are just obstacles. In this situation, the mother-in-law may not explicitly say that she is not happy, but might make things difficult for you in the form of a house or a bride price. I imagine the 3 million you mentioned should include a house and a bride price. The house may require the full amount, and no loans will be allowed. This is a challenging situation, but have you had the opportunity to discuss with your mother-in-law your concerns about the conditions?

2. It seems that the mother-in-law comes from a privileged family and may have reservations about the suitability of the prospective match. You haven't mentioned this situation, but if the two people come from very different backgrounds, it's possible that the parents may have certain expectations or conditions in mind, and the mother-in-law may have similar expectations.

3. If you are unable to see your girlfriend, it would be helpful to understand whether there are any underlying issues, such as threats or concerns about her pregnancy before marriage. Similarly, if your girlfriend is unable to see you due to her parents' influence, it would be valuable to understand whether this is a cause for concern or if she is simply following their guidance.

Without further information, it is difficult to make a judgment.

It might be helpful to consider the following suggestion:

1. It might be helpful to consider your own conditions in more detail and to be open about your limitations. If you have a good relationship with your girlfriend, you could consider negotiating with her parents to see if there is any flexibility on the conditions.

2. If your girlfriend is more inclined to seek her mother's guidance, you may wish to consider whether this is a compatible long-term arrangement. Everyone is an independent individual with their own thinking and judgment abilities. If your girlfriend is unable to be independent, even if you get married, you may still experience some conflicts, which could potentially arise from your girlfriend's original family.

3. If your girlfriend and her parents are both insisting on such conditions and not budging, it might be best to consider whether this is the right relationship for you. Love is only a part of life, and there are many other things we can do besides this. Perhaps there are other options you could explore.

It is important to love yourself, as everyone has their own limitations. It is also helpful to accept your ordinariness, create your own life, let go of people who drain your energy, and strive to become a better person. If you do so, you may find that the butterflies will come.

I hope these humble opinions are helpful to the original poster. Best wishes.

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It is understandable that you may feel a sense of helplessness, powerlessness, and self-denial, as well as a degree of harshness, in this moment.

It's important to recognize that everyone has limits and that there are times when we feel powerless. However, it's crucial to understand that feeling powerless doesn't define us as individuals or as parents.

Given the limited information you have provided, it seems that you already have a child. Could the 3 million wedding be indicative of a child being born outside of wedlock?

Could it be that your girlfriend is using this as a bargaining chip to prevent you from seeing your child?

It's understandable that you might feel disrespected and misunderstood when he makes such demands, which can lead to feelings of frustration. It's important to allow yourself to feel these emotions and accept that you're currently experiencing discomfort.

It might be helpful to try to identify the needs behind these emotions, such as the desire to be respected and understood.

When you can, it might be helpful to explore the underlying needs behind your emotions. This could help you to understand and accept your emotions more. Then, you might like to try responding to your situation in a more rational and objective manner.

Given that you already have a child, even if you did not have a wedding, it would be unfair to say that you have lost the right to be a father. You are still the child's primary caregiver, and the right to visit your child is a legal right.

Regarding the financial aspects of the wedding, it is ultimately up to you and your partner to decide based on your individual financial situation and practical circumstances. It might be helpful to take some time to reflect and calm down before discussing this with your girlfriend. During this time, you could also consider expressing your love for her in other ways that might be more meaningful to her, even if it's not a traditional wedding.

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