44 years old! But I can't help wanting to fight with my mom, feeling depressed every day?

From what you've told me, I can see you're really struggling with depression, anger and a sense of powerlessness. It seems like the anger you've been holding in is about to come out. I think if your father saw what's going on in your family, he'd feel the same way.

It's normal to feel depressed and angry at your father. Even if you have a good relationship with him, you're not him. You're your own person, just like your mother.

Your mother's current situation isn't what you want, which is why you're so angry with her. But anger is just a surface feeling. You also need to experience the other feelings beneath the anger.

How do you think your mother will handle your father's passing? Is her response aligned with her past actions?

Do you feel sad that you didn't have the kind of mother you secretly longed for, and probably never will?

When you feel depressed and angry, it means you still have expectations of the other person. You want them to become what you hope they will be. When you realize that they have never been what you expected, you may feel very sad and upset. But you can also see this as an opportunity to withdraw your expectations of the other person. You can focus on what kind of life you should lead and how to achieve it.

Once you've taken a step back and focused on yourself, you can start to think about why your parents' relationship has ended up the way it has. What problems and difficulties did they each have that led to this situation?

As their child, how can you ensure you don't repeat their mistakes in your own life and make your own future better than theirs?

You said you're 44, so there's a lot on your plate. If you keep obsessing about fighting for your father, it'll affect your own life instead.

The best way to solve your parents' problems is to focus on living your own life to the fullest.

Zhu Rong, Xin Li, Wang Chunguang

Let go of your obsession.

You don't like seeing your mother with another man because you miss your father. It's understandable, but it's also wrong.

Your mother is also sad after your father's death. She wants to talk to someone and feel better. She can complain to her children, but they can't replace her parents. We can't tell our parents everything.

If you understand this and still feel bad, you can rent them a house and live separately.

After a while, your obsession will go away, and you and your mother will get along better.

Your father is gone, but he left you love, inspiration, courage, and strength.

Your father is with you. His love and teachings will always inspire you. Live a better life to prove he lived a complete success.

Letting go of your worries is the best way to comfort the deceased.

Your mother should be cherished more now that your father is gone. She is an ordinary person with emotions and desires.

Do your duty as a son and daughter. Don't leave regrets.

Meeting in this life is about fate. Cherish it, and you'll both be at peace.

Bless you!