A 15-year-old high school freshman often feels restless and unable to focus on studying. What should be done?

Hello, my child. I'm here to support you. I can see you're feeling confused and anxious about your studies.

From what you've said, it seems like you place a lot of importance on learning and want to do well in school. When your grades aren't as high as you'd like, it can make you anxious.

It's normal to face challenges and difficulties as we grow and develop. Don't worry, we'll get through it.

Now, let's take a look at why you're having these issues. You can use this as a reference.

First, let's talk about why you haven't studied as much as you could since junior high. I think you'll have your own ideas about this.

Now, I'd like to share some insights from my perspective that you might find helpful. You mentioned that you were quite good at studying in elementary school, and it seems you enjoyed the process. However, there can also be some negative effects to good academic performance. For instance, it can lead us to seek praise from teachers, envy from classmates, attention and recognition from parents, and envy from relatives and friends more than the learning itself.

It's normal to want to do well in school and get good grades. But we have to remember that not everyone is going to get the same things. So when we put too much pressure on ourselves and become addicted to it, we'll only feel pain when we lose it.

The point of learning is to help us grow and become better people, better able to adapt to society in the future, and to realize the value of our lives. Grades can't be used as a standard to judge a person's value.

Why? Well, everyone's different. Some are good at studying, some are good at sports, and some are good at labor.

So, we just need to do our best, and the result is not that important.

So, the result doesn't matter. Do we still need to work hard? Absolutely!

Life is a process. We all come into this world and we all leave it one day.

But life is so wonderful and varied! We only have one life, and because it's limited, every day is important.

For instance, if you spent a lot of time sleeping in junior high and now wish you could go back and change things, is it too late? The same goes for our time right now. If we spend it sleeping, dozing off, or complaining, we can't go back and change things.

Ultimately, no one is responsible for your entire life, and everyone is only responsible for their own actions.

So, think about it. Wasn't junior high school a time when you weren't as responsible with your studies as you could have been? Because of that, your current studies aren't as strong as they could be. That's fair and normal.

You have to put in the work to get results. If you don't work hard, you won't get any rewards. If you don't work hard but still expect rewards, you'll only waste the time you have now to work hard! So, what's the point of working hard now if there's no reward in the future?

So, what should you do now? You're still young. Didn't someone say that life is like a marathon, and no marathon is won at the starting line?

On top of that, your life hasn't been too bad so far. At least you were able to go to high school and get a high school education. That's better than the starting point for a lot of people!

And if you know a bit of history, you'll know that it's good for a person's life if they face some challenges when they're young.

What should you do next? Accept what we can't change and change what we can. That's all we can do!

I've got a few suggestions for you:

It's time to lower your expectations and standards, accept your current situation, and reassess yourself. The glory of the past belongs to the past, and the current situation is also caused by your own reasons.

The best thing you can do is accept the status quo. Only by accepting it can you work better.

2. Identify your strengths and work on building your confidence.

3. Have a good, open conversation with your parents about your confusion about growing up.

4. Take on some responsibilities at home that you can handle and find your own value.

5. Pitch in more for the class and your classmates, but don't expect anything in return. Some students don't do well in their studies, but because of their selfless giving, they've also built great relationships with their classmates.

6. Try to put yourself in other people's shoes. If you were the teacher, the parent, or the classmate, what would you do?

I wish you the best of luck! Every life is valuable. When you start focusing on yourself and your own growth, stop demanding things from others and start taking care of yourself, you will embark on the path of self-growth! I hope you will soon find the confident, flexible you!

Hello!

Your story shows you are anxious and powerless, but also motivated to get out of this. A hug from afar!

You say you are often irritable. You have been since junior high, even to the point of moderate depression. You have gastritis, and your body is telling you. It seems that everyone has ignored you, and your body has been warning you.

You want to do well in school but are worried you will disappoint your parents and teachers. You relieve the internal conflict by "sleeping in class a lot."

I fell asleep in class a lot, so my grades are bad. This makes me anxious, which makes me irritable. This creates a vicious cycle. My grades have dropped, and I can't study.

Irritability is a symptom, and getting sick also has a protective function. All emotions come to us with good intentions. The following suggestions are for reference only:

?1. Hug yourself and tell yourself, "I will love myself. I am unique. I accept myself."

Set a small goal that is "within reach if you make an extra effort." For example, you could try not sleeping in class. When you are irritable, allow yourself to get along with it for three minutes, and jump out when the timer ends.

3. Record your progress, reward yourself, and focus on the positive to achieve positive results.

I hope my sharing helps you!