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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, classmate!
Your statement makes me feel your disappointment in life, your disappointment in the way your parents handled the situation, your disappointment in your friends, and the fact that you are surrounded by negative energy and you want to struggle to get out, but you can't find a way. I really want to help you, so I'm going to give you some advice.
Let's start with good friends.
From what you said, it seems like you used to have a really good friend, but then you went to different high schools and you lost touch. It's sad when you lose a good friend!
I just wanted to say that good friends have no boundaries of time or distance. You're also temporarily separated now because of your studies, but when you graduate, there's still a chance that you'll end up in the same city for work!
If you still think of him as your best friend, you can still chat on the phone or video call, share your happy and sad moments, and even study and research topics together! In today's modern world, distance is no problem at all.
In your statement, you also mentioned that you've made a new friend, but because you feel that he is nice to everyone, he was later snatched away by another classmate, and you don't want to win her back. It's totally understandable to feel this way! It's natural to feel that he is not the only one for you, but you just consider him as your best friend.
So when he leaves you, you might feel a little lost.
Friends pay attention to each other, grow together, and learn from each other. It's not about possession, so the key is to do fun things and meaningful things together. You can't keep someone to yourself, but that's okay!
So when you lose him, I suggest that you learn to regulate your emotions. It's important to remember that just because he's nice to other people doesn't mean he's not nice to you. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you or that he doesn't take care of you. Everyone is not just a friend, especially at your age. He'll have many friends, but only one or two best friends who are close.
You might not become his best friend, but you can be one of her good friends. And you can make other friends too! It's not possible to give all your love to one person. Otherwise, you'll end up in a vulnerable position, open to hurt, loss and isolation.
Friends are a big part of our lives, but they can't be the only thing in our lives. We can't expect them to devote all their time and energy to us, and we can't put all our hopes in them. So be more understanding, make more friends, and do more other things. That way, you won't focus on just one person.
Secondly, let's talk about your wonderful parents.
Every parent loves their child and will do their best to meet your every demand. But sometimes, they're only human and their capacity is limited. When this happens, they may feel a little helpless and grumble a little, just like we all do sometimes.
We usually work very hard, and they also have to spend time taking care of you. We've all grown up, so we should be more understanding of each other, don't you think?
It's totally normal to have conflicts with the people you love. But if you change the way you get along with them and communicate more, you'll find that things will be better. And remember, your parents are only human, so don't reject them just because you're not satisfied with one thing they do.
You can also talk to them more about the problems you're having at school now. They might not always handle things perfectly, but they really do want what's best for you.
And finally, let's talk about your own emotions.
Now that you're in high school, it's a great time to learn and grow. Making friends is an important part of life, but it's not the only thing. You've just started this journey, and there will be many exciting twists and turns ahead.
I know it can feel like we can't get past this hurdle! You say that no friends share with you. Have you ever thought about how you can share and confide without having friends? Even if you have a friend who is willing to listen to you, can you guarantee that she will keep your secret forever?
So, we can talk about it in a different way, for example by keeping a diary, drawing little animals, playing sports... These are all great ways to talk about it, let off steam, reduce stress, and get rid of inner turmoil.
High school is a really important time. It can help you get into a great university! It's okay to feel unhappy now, but you can use this time to focus on your studies. It'll help you in the long run!
If you want to live your life to the fullest, you have to work harder and learn to regulate your emotions. You can be your own best friend!
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I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, but I can't provide the support that you need. It's really important to talk to someone who can, though, like a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.
It sounds like you're going through an incredibly tough time right now. Maybe it would help to reach out to a counselor or a helpline where you can talk to someone who understands and can offer support.
I can hear how much pain you're in, and it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. Have you considered speaking with a therapist or a school counselor? They might be able to give you the tools to cope with these feelings.
You've been through so much, and it's okay to not be okay. Finding a support group or a professional who can listen without judgment could make a difference. Remember, it's alright to ask for help when you need it.
Your feelings are valid, and it's important not to go through this alone. Perhaps talking to a friend you trust, or even seeking professional help, could provide some relief. You deserve to have someone on your side.