A 20-year-old girl, in college, has lost interest in everything. What should she do?

Hello, question asker!

Given that you say you have no interest in anything, that nothing seems to matter to you, and that you have no expectations for the future, what should you do?

I'd say that many people have been in this situation before.

But we can look at why you're currently uninterested in everything. Has anything happened recently that made you feel bad?

You mentioned some of your views on handling friendships. You said that you are very suspicious of everyone, that you feel that people are mutually exclusive, and that if you are friendly to others but they are not friendly to you, you will definitely not get along with them anymore.

We shouldn't be suspicious of others, but we should also be aware of what's going on. We should have a sense of boundaries when getting along with others, which can protect our inner order and our moral bottom line.

That said, there's still a place for trust outside of these boundaries. When we trust each other and interact with mutual respect, we can achieve a lot of happiness and growth.

Ultimately, people aren't as bad as we think. It's just that the questioner is on guard because of some previous hurt? A betrayal of friendship?

If that's the case, it'd be a good idea to talk to a counselor if you can, and work through some of these issues as soon as you can. That'll help you handle relationships better, and it'll also help you grow.

Feeling like there's no point in trying anymore.

If you're feeling unmotivated or lacking in enthusiasm, it can be helpful to reflect on past experiences that have given you a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. How did those things happen?

Are we in a position to carry out similar tasks to achieve this feeling?

Another way to feel a sense of accomplishment and happiness is to help people in need without expecting anything in return. For example, I've helped pick up a bunch of cardboard for sanitation workers, who are usually very happy to say thank you.

If you see an elderly person who doesn't know how to take the subway, help them out by giving them the right directions. You can even give someone a bouquet of flowers for free. It might make you feel a little embarrassed, but you'll really feel an indescribable joy in your heart when you get feedback from others. While spreading this kindness, we can also feel the meaning and joy of giving.

I'm a big thinker, and I love the world! Thanks for reading!

Let's give you a big hug and comfort you, my friend, because you are full of powerlessness.

First, I'd love to know how long this state of affairs has persisted. If it has just started, it is still relatively manageable, which is great news!

If this has been going on for a long time, it will be more difficult and troublesome. But don't worry! You can easily overcome this challenge by going to a specialized psychological counseling clinic or hospital for a consultation.

Second, it feels like you are not interested in things that are not related to you, and you are very wary of the outside world. I think this is the mentality of many women, which is totally normal!

However, in the second half of your speech, it's clear you're eager to get attention and interact with others. You want to keep things equal and friendly, which is great! It shows you still want to socialize and communicate with others.

This is perfectly normal, and we encourage you to do so!

Third, we get to get rid of a few habitual ways of thinking! People are mutually dependent, but just because you are kind to others does not mean that others will necessarily be kind to you.

Everyone has their own opinions and feelings, and that's what makes the world so vibrant and full of color!

Another thing to remember is that when you are nice to others and really want feedback, it's a great way to fulfill yourself and seek self-improvement. But remember, it's important to first have the spirit and habit of loving and caring for others without any ulterior motives.

When you are full of love and actively interact with the people around you, it is no longer just for the sake of exchange. This will make you feel better in the long run, and you will gradually get the response and affirmation from others. It's a win-win!

At last, 20-year-old college girls are in the best years of their lives! It's time to get out of that low mood of conflict, enjoy life, and pursue growth and progress.

I really hope this helps! Keep up the amazing work!

Hello, questioner! The twenty-something years are always great.

Thanks for letting us connect, chat, explore and share.

First of all, I'd like to share a lovely modern poem with you.

? Ask in this world

Which young person

Who doesn't want a bright and splendid tomorrow? But in this world, can everything go as planned?

This life is either mediocre or extraordinary. It's actually pretty straightforward.

The path is laid out before us. It's up to us to decide which way to go.

We've all been given the same love and compassion, and the same talents and deadlines.

Our youth is limited, but our dreams are not. It's up to us to make the most of it.

How to make the most of your limited time as a young person and turn your dreams into reality. Look, there's hope ahead, and your dreams are not far away.

The success story is how we make it happen. Maybe success is just around the corner.

Or maybe it's just too far away for us!

From what you've shared, it seems like you're emotionally flat, have a low self-evaluation, social anxiety, inner conflicts, loneliness, increased feelings of depression, and lack a sense of self-worth.

To do this, we have to be honest with ourselves.

?1. Identify the problem: a lack of passion in a dull life

2. Set goals – what do you really need inside?

?3. Take action. There's always a reason to take action if you're willing.

4. Boost your confidence. Robert's theory says to get out of that negative spiral and not let yourself be defeated.

5. Adjust your sensitivity. Schwartz's theory is that whether something is good or not depends on your own state of mind.

In our daily lives, let's try to make the following changes:

Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and build up your confidence.

Get involved in public welfare activities and share the positive energy.

Be happy to be with others, lend a hand when you can, and don't forget to say "thank you" more often. Over time, you'll gain a sense of self-worth and recognition.

Make plans for the short and long term and embrace new experiences every day!

Stay true to your choices and embrace positive energy to fuel your passion for life.

What's the difference between a person with no dreams and a salted fish? Know your worth and believe in yourself.

I hope you have a happy day, and I love you!

Hello, question asker.

From your description, I can tell you're deeply aware of the situation and reflecting on it. You're here to find answers and change the situation. I admire your awareness and courage.

Tell me what you don't know that's making you feel this way. How long has this been going on?

Tell me, is this feeling indirect or persistent?

When did you not feel this way? What was different then? What did you do to not feel this uncomfortable feeling?

The questioner said that people are interdependent. I can feel the kindness and empathy in the questioner's heart. It's normal to be wary of and distance ourselves from others if they don't treat us well, even though we're kind to them.

The questioner said that they don't expect much. So, what kind of answer does the questioner want here? Or what kind of method does the questioner want to improve your current situation?

If a miracle happens and you improve your situation, you will look a certain way. You will make certain efforts to achieve that look.

You will be different after the improvement. Someone will notice your change first.

I'm going to give the questioner some tips on how to improve their low mood because I want to be of help.

First, adjust your mindset and become one with your body and mind.

Do everything you say you will do, and you will significantly boost your self-confidence in no time. Following through on your words means doing what you say you will do.

This applies to both others and yourself. When your words and actions match, you are fully aligned with your inner emotions.

Don't doubt yourself.

Never doubt yourself. When you doubt yourself, you lose confidence. When you do things, your lack of confidence is exposed to others. They may not even notice you, but they will have a negative opinion of you.

Be good at discovering the beauty and fun in life.

Some people have a plain life, some have a glamorous life, some have a miserable life, and some have a passionate life. Life is not problematic. It is up to us to see the beauty in it and find the interesting points.

Vision determines the height of life, perspective determines the direction of life. If you want to see life in a different light, look at the people and scenery around you in a different direction. You'll discover that life is multifaceted.

Believe in the power of accumulation.

No matter how big a rock is, it cannot stop a seed from sprouting. The reason is that once the seed starts to sprout, the division of cells, although not fast, will never end. Everyone knows the truth behind the saying "a drop of water can wear through a stone." People at the starting point are like a cell or a drop of water, but most people mistakenly believe or hope that they are strong and sharp like a laser beam at the starting point. This is unrealistic.

We cultivate patience through learning, and we use patience to wait for the unimaginable benefits and power that we will gain over the long term.

Exercise motivates.

Exercise releases a lot of dopamine, which makes us happy. It can also improve bad moods, make people feel happy, and effectively prevent and treat the effects of emotional stress.

When you feel down, don't just sit there. Get moving! Go for a walk or go for a run.

Hippocrates, the father of medicine, said it best: "Sunshine, air, water, and exercise are the source of life and health."

Exercise is a mood regulator and a cure-all.

Henry Ford was right: "Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right."

Believe you can do it. You will find a way to succeed. Don't believe you can't do it. You will find excuses not to try, and you won't succeed.

Belief is the power!

Good day, question asker. I am Enoch, the answerer.

Given that the questioner is currently enrolled in university but appears disinterested in their studies and the future, it is evident that they lack direction and a clear understanding of their next steps.

The current situation of the questioner may be due to the following reasons:

1. There is a lack of clarity regarding your life goals and motivation, both in your personal life and in your studies. This may also result in a lack of interest and engagement in various aspects of your life. This is likely to manifest in your behavior as a reluctance to take action.

2. There may be some gains and losses in interpersonal relationships. Sometimes we just expect not only a return but also a timely return for what we have given. If we don't see a return, we will lose hope in the relationship. In fact, we often need to learn to put ourselves in other people's shoes, to treat others as we would like to be treated ourselves, and to love others as we love ourselves. Some rewards only come after many years of hard work. You can look at the experiences of many successful people. Musk's team failed several times while researching rockets, losing hundreds of millions of dollars. Musk didn't blame them, and in the end, they were indebted to the team and finally worked hard to achieve success.

It is my hope that the questioner will learn to remain calm and achieve better results in the future.

3. I lack the motivation to pursue hobbies that would inspire me to exert more effort. Instead, I believe the questioner would benefit from observing the actions of exemplary individuals and identifying strategies that have proven effective for others. In some cases, a role model can provide valuable guidance.

It is my hope that the questioner will be able to identify their own life direction, apply themselves fully to it, and pursue it with dedication.