From the original poster's words, it seems there are many thoughts and feelings about other people's interactions. Some of these feelings may be imagined conversations with others, such as what was posted and what was said. The original poster may also imagine the people they see and what kind of attitude they might have. These attitudes could potentially lead to feelings of self-doubt and even self-hatred. It's also possible that these feelings may manifest as anger towards oneself, which can be uncomfortable for others. It's worth considering whether the original poster treats themselves in a similar way.
It is also possible that you may feel negative emotions such as hatred or anger towards yourself due to your gender, as if you have experienced such feelings on numerous occasions.
Perhaps we could consider this aspect as well? It's actually quite beneficial. When we reflect on ourselves and gain self-awareness, we often have an inner helper who is always there to help us see what kind of person we are, what kind of person we want to be, how we see ourselves, how others see us, and there will be a lot of curiosity, which is quite good, because it is often an important way to enhance a sense of self-autonomy, and to be able to communicate with others more and more convinced of what kind of communication we want, what kind of person we want to be with, and thus manage our lives.
On the other hand, these feelings are focused on the less positive aspects, which can mean over-reflection, i.e. our inner helper is being overly critical, he is not very satisfied with and fond of me. This often leads to feelings that people outside don't like me either, which in turn leads to relationship tension.
It is not uncommon for couples to have differing opinions and express their disagreement with each other. This can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. It is important to recognize that these differences do not necessarily reflect a personal dislike or animosity. They may stem from differing perspectives or a lack of communication. If we frequently dwell on these thoughts or feelings, it can hinder our ability to form close relationships, particularly those of a romantic nature. It can also make it challenging to envision a future where we can find happiness in a long-term partnership. This can lead to feelings of frustration and isolation. It is essential to approach these situations with understanding and compassion. Recognizing that our differences do not necessarily reflect personal dislike or animosity can help us move forward with greater understanding and respect.
It can feel like we're caught in a cycle that's hard to break.
It is beneficial to be able to reflect on oneself. However, this raises the question of how this can help us achieve happiness and contentment, and to form and maintain relationships with others who like us back. This may require us to make more effort, and it also includes the suggestion that we sometimes need to pay less attention to this inner helper, but instead try, deal with relationships, and interact with others. This approach may involve some risk, and we may be unconsciously affected by these inner experiences. If this situation always leads to similar results, then perhaps we can consider trying this in a counseling environment. The experience of counseling often involves paying more attention to how our unperceived inner thoughts and feelings affect our communication, and a process of dialogue with myself and my inner helper, so as to find what is more conducive to my own sense of satisfaction and happiness.


Comments
I can totally relate to feeling inadequate when things don't go as planned. It's tough when we're our own worst critics, and worrying about what others think just adds another layer. Learning to be kinder to myself is something I'm working on too.
It's hard not to feel down when you're constantly questioning your choices and fearing judgment. But maybe it's time to focus on what you think of yourself instead. Your worth isn't defined by others' opinions or the mistakes you've made along the way.
Feeling this way can be really overwhelming. It's important to remember that everyone has moments they doubt themselves or make choices they later regret. Try to take a step back and give yourself some grace; you're doing your best in a world that often feels like it's against us.