A 28-year-old single woman, struggling with both career and romance, feels depressed and lazy. How can she break through this situation?

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you!

You're a kind girl who's serious about her work and cares a lot about what others think. You're working hard to improve your work, relationships, and health. You're feeling the physical discomfort, but you're also aware of the depression in your heart. You're looking for ways to help yourself, and you're excited to see what the future holds!

- A warm, loving hug!

I have some suggestions that I think will really help you! First:

First: accept the objective reality. Setbacks are just part of the journey. Keep working hard and make progress little by little. You're young and learning all the time. Problems and failures are part of the process. You have the opportunity and ability to handle them well.

Work is like learning: if you keep at it, you will get amazing results!

Second: Be kind to yourself! Accept and accept, and don't let anyone else influence you. When it comes to love, whether you find your perfect match is up to fate. If you're not quite there yet, embrace being single! You're a responsible person when it comes to relationships and family.

Other people may have good intentions, but you know what? True understanding and a sense of security come from within! Don't let their influence affect your mood. Stick to being yourself and don't live for anyone else.

Third: Love yourself! Your health is the first step. Work and emotional setbacks can make you depressed, and your body may become ill because of these depressing emotions. But you can beat it! It is recommended that you accept the objective facts, accept the imperfection of life, and find ways to relax, such as reading, shopping, and watching movies. You must treat yourself well and have confidence in yourself.

Fourth: You can improve yourself in so many ways! Try studying psychology, talking to a teacher, or changing your fixed thinking habits.

I wish you all the very best, world, and I love you!

When you're trying to do everything yourself, it can be hard to stay motivated. There are so many things on your plate! This can make you feel tired and confused, especially when you're not sure which direction to take.

You're now in your thirties, and everyone around you is pushing you to get married and have kids, or even three babies. But you can't rush these things. You need to want them for yourself, otherwise you'll just shrug it off, even if others urge you.

You're aware that your work and relationship aren't going well. You're also aware that you're lazy and sick. You're not taking care of yourself, so how can you take care of your partner, plan your career, and have children? It's not realistic to expect otherwise. You have to take care of yourself before you can consider anything else.

You're feeling the effects of fatigue, both physically and mentally. Whether it's external pressure to get married, unexpected challenges, or a combination of factors, it's important to address these issues and consider seeking psychological counseling.

A good counselor can help you figure out what's going on. And you should know that all kinds of pain and sadness are okay to feel. They're just part of who you are. If you know what you want, go for it! Take a career personality test and a life background psychological test to understand your blind spots and have a deeper psychological conversation. Good luck!

ZQ?

Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

You might be feeling a bit unjust, helpless, and in need of support and understanding right now.

It's important to remember that the feelings of depression, injustice, anxiety, and other uncomfortable emotions you experience aren't just caused by the real difficulties you face in life, like exams, illness, and setbacks at work. They're also influenced by the judgments of others, like your parents pressuring you to get married, thinking that not getting married is too picky or problematic. To adapt better to work and life and maintain a good emotional state and competence, you need to deal with and handle these emotions separately. What do you think?

When you're facing some tough challenges at work, in your personal life, or dealing with pressure and anxiety, it's important to accept them. Don't deny, reject, or refuse your emotions. Get to know your emotions and understand the underlying needs driving them. Then, find ways to respond to and meet those needs in a positive way.

You can keep an emotional diary to understand your emotions better. This helps you see, express, and release difficult emotions when you're feeling down. It also helps you understand your emotions better and take care of yourself. For example, when you're stressed, you can follow your physical and mental needs and take care of yourself. You can talk to a trusted friend about your emotions. You can also learn and grow by yourself.

So, when you're faced with external judgments from others, you can refer to what you think is valuable and ignore what you don't, especially when it comes to the words and actions of others. When you feel uncomfortable and hurt, try to express the true feelings in your heart at that moment in a sincere and brave way.

Often, it's not what others say or do that makes us feel uncomfortable and upset. It's how we interpret their words and actions. We tend to see their words and actions as interference, pressure, teasing, and mockery of ourselves. What really hurts is how we interpret what others say and do. This comes from our internal inferiority, lack of confidence, and lack of acceptance of ourselves.

So, it's better for you to try to learn self-acceptance from the inside out, build up your self-confidence, and enhance your sense of self-worth. This is the key to better coping with the judgment of others and not being easily hurt or influenced by their words and actions. You can see both your shortcomings and your strengths, and not define and evaluate yourself based on what you do.

You can try to accept yourself better by making a list of your self-acceptance strengths. You can also build self-confidence and enhance your sense of self-worth by keeping a gratitude journal.

We work to live, but we never live to work. So it's important to learn to love yourself first, because that will give you the energy and spirit to devote yourself better to your work.

It means facing yourself honestly and following your true physical and mental needs.

I'm Lily, the Q&A Center's resident listener. The world and I love you.

I can relate to that. I do believe, though, that after a period of time, you will be able to cheer yourself up and overcome the depression. You will also be able to take the initiative to make changes.

1. Consider allowing yourself to live a life of inertia.

When you're feeling down, depressed, or anxious, it might be helpful to give yourself permission to do nothing and not get anything done. There's no need to feel guilty for taking a break.

It's worth noting that many people have been in a similar situation and found that it does eventually pass.

2. Perhaps consider doing what you enjoy.

Since the host has his own favorite things to do, perhaps it would be beneficial to focus on those activities. When you start doing the things you like, it may help you feel better and allow you to stop thinking about those annoying things.

3. You might want to consider putting your health first and thinking about changing jobs.

It might be helpful to consider changing jobs or adjusting your work content, rather than just enduring it, since work can affect physical health. Although 28 is young, it is not an age when you can afford to squander your health.

It may be beneficial to consider earning less and gaining less work experience in exchange for a healthy body and mind.

4. It might be helpful to let others have their say.

The host is understandably concerned about what their relatives and friends say, but your own life is your own. You may choose to do things half-heartedly for them, and in the end, you are the only one who has to bear the adverse consequences. They may be able to speak with such ease because they treat you like an object, manipulating you like a doll according to their own whims.

Given that they don't consider your feelings and won't accept responsibility for any potential negative outcomes, it might be best to simply let them go.

There is no need to be a successful adult. It is also very beautiful to live a carefree life.

I'm not a counselor, and I'm simply sharing my personal perspective on life.