A 30-year-old woman has lived under the shadow of a malicious aunt for nearly 10 years. What should she do?

Hello, questioner!

"I really hate them so much that even though I've been away from them for five years, I still feel the same way." When we are deeply hurt by someone, the various painful experiences generated during the process of being hurt will be firmly remembered by our body and never forgotten.

This is why it's so hard to move on from the past and let go of negative feelings towards certain people.

It can be tough to forget, but there are ways we can let go of our emotions.

(1) Record the past

One way to move on is to write down what happened and how you felt. We often avoid painful experiences, so we might need to start by saying, "Try." If you can't write, that's okay. You can come back to it when you're ready.

Writing it out means we acknowledge our feelings and give ourselves a reason to feel the way we do about certain people. In this way, we may slowly forget the unhappy people and things.

(2) Open up to your colleagues or friends and talk about it again and again.

Talk to your family or friends, repeat it as much as you need to, and you'll start to feel better. The more you do it, the more you'll feel like things are getting better.

(3) Admit what you're feeling.

It's important to remember that all emotions are neither good nor bad. We've been taught since childhood to be "magnanimous" and not to bear grudges, so we often don't admit our innermost and most truthful feelings.

Hate is hate. We should be open about it and give it a place in our hearts. If we accept it, it won't constantly come back to haunt us.

(4) Look at others from a different perspective and see the positive side.

"Every cloud has a silver lining!" When we learn from the people and things that hurt us, we can gain insight into a person's character, realize that the other person is not worth getting along with, and understand that the more upset we are, the more the other person feels a sense of accomplishment. This helps us to slowly wake up to the reality that, if we are self-reliant and strong enough, the other person cannot hurt us.

(5) Give yourself some space to work through your feelings of hatred towards someone.

Time is the best healer. When your circumstances change and you no longer have contact with the person you "hate," you'll slowly forget the "pain." This is because our brains are "seeking benefits and avoiding harm."

Our memories are more likely to stick to the good things. The same thing, when we think about it years later, doesn't feel as strong as if it were someone else's story.

I hope these suggestions will be helpful to you.

Wishing you the best!

Greetings, question asker.

A review of your account reveals a profound animosity toward your aunt.

Let us endeavor to resolve this matter.

1. There was an aunt who was very greedy and had always had a problem with my family because of her interests. Ten years ago, she began to target me. I have a question regarding the motivation behind her choice to target you specifically, as opposed to, for instance, your parents.

One might inquire as to whether the aunt in question believed that her niece was an easy target for bullying, or if there were alternative motives at play.

2. "Her younger brother resides in the adjacent residence, and the family in that residence has engaged in eavesdropping and deliberate noise generation with the intention of affecting the individual in question. They have disseminated rumors and are responsible for the individual's severe depression and subsequent development of bipolar disorder."

Please clarify whether "eavesdropping" refers to listening to you. How did you ascertain that they were eavesdropping on you continuously?

Were your parents aware that they were being eavesdropped upon? What was their reaction upon discovering this?

Were any measures taken at the time?

Additionally, are there other potential causes for your severe depression and bipolar disorder, beyond the alleged eavesdropping, rumor spreading, and deliberate noise-making? What are your parents' views on the underlying causes of your depression and bipolar disorder?

What is their perception of the situation regarding your illness?

From a psychological perspective, the emotional response to an event is not determined by the event itself, but rather by one's perception and interpretation of it. Therefore, it is possible that the actions of your aunt's family may have contributed to the development of severe depression and bipolar disorder. However, it is important to consider whether this conclusion is supported by evidence beyond your own perspective.

It is acknowledged that the influence of the aunt's family has played a role in this situation. However, their actions, including spreading rumors, eavesdropping, and making noise, have not entirely succeeded in causing significant distress. It is possible that the aunt's family has engaged in rumor spreading and suppression, and that there has been a lack of support from other sources.

If one is unable to cope with such circumstances, it could potentially lead to a decline in mental health. It would be beneficial to consider the role of parents in this context.

In the case of your aunt's slanderous remarks, what was the response?

It can be hypothesized that the oppression of your aunt is the final contributing factor to your current state of depression and irritability. However, it is likely that other factors, such as the accumulation of traumas from your own personal growth journey or your relationship with your family, are also at play.

The question thus arises as to how one might reduce such anger.

It is imperative to cultivate an ability to accept.

Firstly, it is necessary to accept the events that have occurred. It is important to recognise that, despite the anger and resistance that may be experienced, it is not possible to alter the facts of the past.

The present and future are the only aspects of one's life that can be genuinely influenced by an individual. Therefore, if it is known that the other person is untrustworthy, it would be prudent to limit future contact in order to avoid further hurt. Acceptance is the initial step in releasing oneself from resentment. Letting go of resentment is also a process of letting go of oneself.

2. One might also consider whether it is beneficial to perpetually resent the family of the other party. Could it be that by attributing blame to the other party for all circumstances, one effectively absolves oneself of responsibility for one's own condition?

3. Consider the potential consequences of maintaining the influence of the aforementioned parties and allowing their desires to be fulfilled. Would you be willing to comply with their wishes?

In the event that one is disinclined to pursue a particular course of action, what alternative options are available?

4. Identify the role you play in the formation of resentment.

Occasionally, individuals harbor resentment toward others due to feelings of vulnerability and susceptibility to injury.

An adage aptly elucidates this phenomenon: "Resentment is akin to ingesting poison oneself, yet harboring the hope that the other person perishes." The decision to dispel resentment, embark on a new trajectory, or persist in one's anguish ultimately rests with the individual.

I wish you the best in your endeavors.

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, your coach, Fei Yun.

Thank you for sharing your emotional story with me. I can sense your anger and resentment, and I empathize with the pain they have caused you, as well as your own sense of powerlessness.

Perhaps we could start by giving you a warm hug, and then take a look at what's troubling you.

?1. Anger and hatred:

It is possible that beneath anger lies a pain that we are reluctant to acknowledge. When the pain is significant, when the other person is more powerful than us, and when we are unable to confront them, this emotion may potentially transform into hatred.

While anger is a relatively short-lived emotion, it can have serious consequences when it turns into hatred.

Hate can become a lifelong burden, and it may not bring happiness. It can consume one's life.

Furthermore, it is important to recognize that hatred can potentially lead to a transformation of one's own character, aligning oneself with the very qualities one despises.

If anger is a form of self-punishment for the mistakes of others, then hatred could be seen as a similar form of self-abuse.

Hate can develop from anger, which is the discrepancy between what one believes should be and what is actually the case. When things don't go as one would like, it can lead to a sense of deep hurt.

It can be said that the root cause of hatred is a sense of hurt, or at the very least, a perception of hurt.

It can be challenging to acknowledge and accept this hurt. We often look for an external source of blame to avoid facing the pain directly. However, if we are unable to overcome the situation or for some reason we are unable to do so, we may start to hate.

It could be said that there are two types of hatred: hatred of others and hatred of oneself.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that there are two sides to hatred. On the one hand, it can temporarily make you forget your pain. On the other hand, it can lead you to become the kind of person you hate.

If you look more closely, you may find that hatred is really about hatred of oneself, hatred of one's own powerlessness, and hatred of one's own suffering. Some people choose to express their hatred outwardly, venting it on others.

Some people may choose to hate themselves, which can be a challenging and potentially harmful decision. It can lead to various mental health issues, ranging from depression to suicidal thoughts.

Hatred can have two sides, and it can also temporarily make you forget your pain.

It can be challenging to avoid the pain associated with hatred. Some may even feel that if they distance themselves from hatred, they will have to face the pain they have endured. Even if hatred leads to difficult circumstances, some may be willing to embrace the qualities they perceive in the person they hate.

I wonder if I might ask you a question.

2. It would be beneficial to forgive and move on from the situation.

? 2. Forgive and forgive:

Hate can be a painful emotion for both the person experiencing it and the person it is directed towards. So, how can we deal with it in a constructive way?

Hate can be a painful emotion for both the person experiencing it and the person it is directed towards. So, how can we deal with it in a constructive way?

Forgiveness can be defined as the expression of understanding for the negligence, fault, or mistake of another without rebuke or punishment.

Forgiveness often requires us to focus on the faults of others, which can be challenging.

This is why forgiveness in real life can be challenging.

It might be said that because we always look at the other person's faults, forgiveness can sometimes seem to be a conditional process.

In relationships, we often hear people say, "If you change this or that, then I'll be more open to forgiving you."

It might be said that expecting others to change in order to change one's own choices could be seen as handing over the remote control of one's life to others.

The word "forgiveness" is made up of two parts: "heart" and "as." Looking at the structure of the word, it seems to have two meanings.

1. As others perceive it, psychology calls this the "position perception method."

2. When the heart is broad, the mind is at ease.

Forgiveness is about oneself and the result of one's own cultivation. Even if others are wrong and we cannot change them, we have the option of forgiving ourselves and becoming more comfortable with ourselves.

Forgiveness is a personal process that requires self-reflection and growth. Even if others make mistakes and we cannot change them, we can forgive ourselves and become more comfortable with ourselves.

Forgiveness can be a way of focusing on others, while also focusing on oneself. While we cannot change others, we can control ourselves.

Forgiveness can be seen as focusing on others, while forgiveness can be seen as focusing on oneself. While we cannot change others, we can control ourselves.

Forgiveness is a hopeful process because it allows us to focus on healing ourselves, rather than on the actions of others.

Forgiveness is a hopeful practice because it allows us to focus on healing ourselves, rather than on the actions of others.

Forgiveness is not about excusing others, but rather about stepping out of one's own subjective and narrow worldview and seeing things from a broader perspective. When you forgive yourself and open your heart, you may find that you see the truth of things and realize that there is nothing to forgive.

Forgiveness is not about excusing others, but rather about stepping out of one's own subjective and narrow worldview. When one's horizons and heart are broadened and one sees the bigger picture, one may come to realize that there is nothing to forgive.

Forgiveness is not about excusing the other person, but rather about finding a way to let go of the pain in your heart and return to a state of peace.

If you find yourself unable to sleep at night due to past hurts, you might benefit from taking a step back and viewing the situation from a broader perspective. By doing so, you may gain a different understanding of the truth.

If you feel you would benefit from letting go of past burdens and embracing a more peaceful way of living, you are warmly invited to try the following exercise.

1. Find a safe space to reflect on the people you still have negative feelings towards. Identify the one or two you find the most challenging to let go of. Then, using Gestalt therapy, imagine that they are standing in front of you. This will allow you to express your emotions in a constructive way.

2. You might find it helpful to try the position perception method to re-examine these things from a different perspective and see if you can discover something new. At the very least, it may help you to see the truth: the other person only hurt you once, but you have been hurting yourself for years.

When you can see this truth, you may find your heart returning to a state of peace.

I hope the above is helpful to you. I also hope that the world and I can show you love.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. I also want to express my love for you and for the world.

If you would like to continue the conversation, please click on "Find a Coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom of the page. I would be delighted to work with you one-on-one as we move forward.

Hello!

You seem angry.

I can feel your depression/unable-to-express-emotions-and-when-angry-do-you-turn-from-anger-to-sadness-instead-5366.html" target="_blank">anger and helplessness from your words. I can also feel your pain from your description of how your relatives have affected you.

If we stop talking about your relatives and focus on what bothers you the most, is it depression or hate?

1. The text mentions depression. Follow your doctor's instructions and take your medication as scheduled.

2. I understand why you hate these situations: "making trouble for my family, picking on me, being eavesdropped, deliberately making noise to affect me, being gossiped about."

3. Depression is anger without heat. When you can't express your anger, it can lead to depression.

4. Depression can make it hard to feel good about yourself. We need to accept ourselves.

6. "They make a fuss about me. The family next door listens to the wall and makes noise to affect me and spreads rumors." Even if you move, the rumors will still happen. How do we interpret this experience?

7. You know your feelings best and how long the bad days lasted. I think you want to try new ways to live.

8. How do you think when something stressful happens?

Exploring these two issues may help you gain a new way of life. Thinking habits affect every word and action.

When this way of thinking no longer helps us, we need to replace it with something more positive. Habits take time to form, so we need to set a reasonable goal and slowly cultivate positive thinking habits.

9. When you're embarrassed or rumored, think about what you're thinking.

Our mood is often affected by our thoughts and perceptions.

10. Express anger in a reasonable way, stop directing anger at yourself, and try to slowly move away from the emotion of "hate."

11. With medication, you can seek help from a counselor. Medication helps improve symptoms. It can stabilize your condition and change your thinking. Your body and mind are connected. Take care of your body first.

Thanks for your question! I hope all is well.

Hello, dear. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this.

It's so sad that when you were young and at a sensitive age, you suffered such unfair treatment, experienced such a long, dark, and difficult time, and suffered so much psychological discomfort that you are still suffering.

Luckily, you're physically distanced from these people now. But, the scars and shadows they left in your heart will always be there. As long as you think of them or hear others talk about them, it will touch your heart in all kinds of ways, with difficult emotions like anger and hurt.

I know it can be really tough to feel angry and not be able to express it. I've been bullied too, so I can imagine how you're feeling.

I'm really sorry to hear about what you went through. I don't know how your family responded when you experienced those terrible things. Did anyone help you? Did anyone stand by your side and stick up for you?

I'm so sorry that no one listened to you. I'd love to know how you responded to injustice in those years.

I'm just wondering, did you express your anger or did you bear it silently?

We all get pretty mad when we're treated unfairly. So, if you can, stand your ground, stick up for yourself, and let the other person know that you won't put up with any nonsense.

Or someone will be there for you, supporting you, expressing your anger, and soothing your grievances. These emotions will flow.

Don't worry, these things won't stay with you forever. They won't accumulate in your heart. This incident won't hurt you too much, and it won't stay in your heart for such a long time.

I can only imagine that at the time of the incident, you were probably isolated and helpless. Perhaps the people around you always advised you to be patient, that anger is bad, that you shouldn't speak ill of others, and so on.

So, when you suffer injustice, it's like all that anger and pain has been pent up inside, and your grievances and injuries have never been seen. This can really weigh on you, can't it?

It's totally normal to feel depressed when you're keeping all that hurt and anger inside. It's like you're running on empty, and you just don't have the energy to enjoy life. It's a really painful feeling, and I'm here for you.

I also had to deal with some harsh words from others for a few years. I was a good girl who was afraid to express herself and defend herself.

I remember those years. I lived with depression and anger, often torn between grievance and anger, torn apart inside and in great pain. My rational mind always told me to live my own life, that other people's evil deeds are their business and have nothing to do with me.

It's actually not possible to do that, because it will just lead to more depression. If we don't really look at and accept our feelings of anger and resentment, they'll just keep building up inside us and make it impossible to live a happy, peaceful life.

It was during a low ebb of depression that I started to care about myself, to experience my own feelings, to acknowledge my anger, to release my emotions, and to gradually see how I had tolerated myself in the past. I was so afraid to express myself because I had been obedient since childhood.

As a result, when they grow up, they are afraid to express themselves or defend themselves when they encounter injustice. This can lead to a slow descent into depression and suffering, anger, and confusion.

After going through this, I've learned that even the darkest moments in life can be seen as opportunities. They help us reflect on the past and recognize how we've been hurt, how we've responded to people and events in ways that didn't serve us, and how pain has gradually built up in our hearts. But with this awareness comes the chance to heal and find joy again.

Once you've taken a good, honest look at your past and all the ways you've played a part in it, you'll gain a whole new perspective. Your heart will feel soothed.

You'll also get lots of new strength to face old people and start a new life.

You are your own best guardian. I really hope this helps! Wishing you all the best!

The family feud has caught up with you, the younger generation. Not only are your father's family members not on your side, they're turning their backs on you too. You have nowhere to turn for support, and your bipolar disorder is causing you a lot of pain and suffering.

It's like living in the dark for ten years. It's hard to imagine how you've endured these difficult times with such perseverance.

I hope you find this sharing helpful in changing your perspective on this situation.

1. The best way to fight back against an enemy and make them look bad is to live a beautiful life.

Your greedy aunt is spreading rumors and making a fuss to disrupt your daily life. This kind of influence is making you severely depressed and is causing you to develop bipolar disorder.

This will make the person who is trying to harm you happy.

In this situation, the best way to fight back against hatred is not to let yourself fall into the trap of others and become unable to extricate yourself. Instead, find ways to live a beautiful and wonderful life.

If you already have bipolar disorder, work with the treatment team at the hospital and get psychotherapy. Make changes in your life that will help you get better. Get back to your daily routine, studies, and work.

Don't let the rumors of the backbiters and the insatiable fall apart.

Spending your best time on people who don't deserve it is a waste of your own potential.

2. Try to unite with your closest family members, and if that's not possible, focus on taking better care of yourself.

The most heartbreaking thing is:

My father's side of the family is so used to seeing her like this that they don't think she's wrong. Instead, they blame me, which makes me angry. It's obvious that they're the ones hurting me, but not a single one of them is on my side. They've even got the facts wrong.

This could be a way of raising your family's awareness of bipolar disorder and explaining to them how it affects you. It might also be a chance to tell them about the suffering you've endured over the years.

Bringing family disputes back to the family can make your personal life a little easier. It's possible that family members still don't understand this.

But handing over family issues is also the first step to finding our own personal meaning. By devoting more time and energy to ourselves and finding our own personal meaning in life, we can enrich our lives.

I'm not a psychologist who studies human nature. I'm a spiritual therapist who cares about the human heart. I wish you well.

It's not a long message, but it seems like the aunt's actions have had a lasting impact on you, even after being away from them for five years. You still feel a sense of longing for them from a distance.

"I have an aunt who is very greedy and has always had a problem with my family because of her interests." When did this start and how long did it last? Why did she have a problem with your family?

Did your family get in the way of her financial success?

"Ten years ago, they started picking on me. Ten years ago, when you were twenty, what did they do to you?" "Eavesdrop, make noise on purpose, and spread rumors outside?"

What did they think they were going to achieve by making such a fuss about it?

It caused me to become severely depressed, I developed bipolar disorder, and for many years I lived in despair and darkness. Then I moved house. Is this what they wanted when they started picking on you ten years ago? If so, it seems like you've inadvertently made their wishes come true!

Maybe there are some reasons for your suffering that you haven't thought of yet.

"I heard from a friend that they are still spreading rumors. It seems that Auntie and the others are just like you. Even though you were apart for five years, she still "misses" you through spreading rumors, and you still "miss" them by "not being able to dissipate" your hatred for them.

Maybe, without realizing it, you've made your aunt's dislike a central part of your daily life. If that changes, it could throw your life out of balance.

Maybe, without realizing it, you've made your aunt's hatred a central part of your daily life. If that changes, it could throw your life out of balance.

The questioner has spent five years "repaying" your aunt for the five years of hurt she has caused you. She feels that you have done her "justice," but that you've also "wronged" yourself.

The questioner is looking for help now, and he might also realize it's time to focus on his own needs.

I encourage the questioner to consider what he would do if he could erase all his aunt's negative feelings in one night.

I really do think this could help, and I hope it does. Best wishes!

Hello.

You are a very persistent person. Your aunt started making trouble for you 10 years ago. You moved 5 years ago, and you still hear your friends say that your aunt is still spreading rumors.

It's evident that you're both long-term people, and she never gives up making a fuss about you, even though you probably never hear about it. And you never give up hating them.

I'm certain that if one of you says, "There's something I'm not doing anymore," the other will disagree.

My aunt said, "I've stopped spreading rumors for ten years, and that's enough." What would you do?

You could say, "You like to spread rumors, so go ahead. I'll just pretend you farted and it affected the local air quality. I'm far away from you anyway, so it won't affect me."

I want to know what will happen to your aunt.

Your friend is still talking to you about it, so you have mentioned it to your friend, and not just once. We avoid people with whom we have conflicts when we talk to someone.

But your friend will tell you, which proves that you keep bringing it up. Of course, maybe my guess is wrong, and I hope it is.

What can you do then? I'll tell you what you should do: stop letting your thoughts cause you pain. Attach to them, but don't let them attach to you.

Then we'll discuss the next steps. The first method is to create a paper doll.

If you don't see it, it's just a paper doll. Draw one or pinch one out of Play-Doh. Buy Play-Doh at a stationery store for 5 yuan.

When you feel hatred for them, do it. Be careful not to let anyone see you doing it, and be careful not to stab yourself when you do it.

If you try to use this method like Aunt Zhao and Madam Ma in Dream of the Red Chamber and get caught, it simply won't work. Of course, if you don't believe in this trick, then I have other, even bigger tricks up my sleeve. This big trick is the Transference Exercise.

This is a method developed by the American Len Kabbati. It's simple but powerful. It's a method he developed in his own painful life to help him completely get out of his terrible life and completely change his life.

I will now present the six questions that form the basis of this problem-solving exercise.

First question: Who makes you angry or disappointed?

Your problem stems from your aunt. She made a fuss about you ten years ago and never stopped.

Write out your anger and resentment. The more honest you are, the better the effect of doing the transference homework will be.

Second, you must decide how you want her to change.

Your aunt needs to stop spreading rumors.

Question 3: She should do the following, and she should avoid doing the following.

She must apologize to you and stop spreading rumors about you.

Question 4: Tell me what you need from her to make you happy.

She must apologize to you and stop hurting you.

Question 5: She is a mean, profit-oriented, malicious person.

My aunt is a mean, profit-oriented, malicious person.

The sixth question is: What is the last thing you want to experience with this person?

I never want to see my aunt again.

These six questions are similar because they allow us to express as much criticism of the other person as possible.

This is already helping us express our emotions and become aware of things we're not normally aware of.

Next, we will answer the four questions and review what we just wrote.

First, ask yourself: is that true?

For example, my aunt did spread the rumors.

You likely answered that it is true. You heard it yourself at the time, and now you are hearing it from a friend.

Then ask yourself the second question: Are you 100% sure that's true?

You would undoubtedly answer this question with a resounding "yes."

Question 3: What kind of reaction do I have when I have these thoughts?

You're probably saying that you hate them, you're desperate, you're severely depressed, you're bipolar, and so on.

This question requires your full attention. Think about how you react when you feel targeted by your aunt. Consider how you treat yourself, what your mind and body feel, and what images come to mind.

You must see the truth to escape the sea of suffering.

I gave you a sentence at the beginning: What brings us pain is not our thoughts, but our attachment to them.

See the truth and choose again. You are free when you choose. Find your way out of suffering.

Today, I have given you two methods: one is to learn from Auntie Rong, and the other is to learn from Katie's "A Change of Heart."

You will come out of this soon and stop hurting yourself. You have the power to make this happen. I highly recommend the book A Change of Heart.

I am a psychological counselor who is both Buddhist and pessimistic, but I also know how to be positive and motivated. The world is a wonderful place, and I love it.

Dear Question Asker,

After reading your question, I have formed the impression that you have experienced significant challenges over the past ten years. I empathize with your situation, so I will offer you a gesture of support.

Ten years ago, you were 20 years old. At that age, you were unfortunately involved in a situation between adults, particularly your aunt's business. Typically, matters involving interests are interactions between adults from both families, often involving negotiations. It can be seen that you are discussing your aunt here, and ten years ago, she was already exerting influence over you. I have to say, apart from being greedy, she is also quite calculating.

It is unfortunate that you fell prey to her machinations and allowed her to achieve her objective. I am uncertain as to whether the bipolar disorder you referenced was diagnosed in a medical setting. Could you please elaborate on your current circumstances? Are you still taking medication?

It is unclear precisely how many years have elapsed since the onset of this phenomenon. However, it is reasonable to infer that a minimum of five years has transpired, given that the subject relocated due to a profound aversion to their aunt.

However, I also consider you fortunate. It is not a simple matter to relocate at one's discretion. We are indeed fortunate to be able to do so, and to distance ourselves from individuals who cause us distress and embroil us in conflict. As you did not specify the reason, I am uncertain of the particulars, but his brother and his family are free to eavesdrop and engage in idle chatter, and they have even identified the root of the problem. I am compelled to observe that human nature is inherently unpredictable. These individuals are presumed to be among your closest, yet you have encountered someone like him, a person who is close to you. It is, regrettably, a situation that could have been avoided. I extend my sympathies once more.

It is evident that your primary objective in visiting this forum was to solicit answers to a specific question. Despite having been separated from your family for a considerable length of time, you have not yet managed to extricate yourself from their influence. Even now, you continue to receive information from friends indicating that your family is still engaged in the dissemination of unfounded rumors. It is likely that this information has only served to intensify your feelings of resentment and anger. I empathize with your situation. Your family has consistently failed to meet your expectations over the past ten years, resulting in a profound sense of despondency and isolation. If circumstances permit, I would be interested in engaging in a direct dialogue with your family to inquire about their actions and motivations.

As an outsider, I am prompted to inquire: What actions have your parents taken over the past decade to address the challenges you have faced? It appears that you have limited contact with your aunt's family.

If this is indeed the case, it is likely due to the fact that your aunt is excessively avaricious and unable to derive any benefit from your light, nor is she capable of making a meaningful impact on your family. This is likely because you have already chosen to disregard them.

In light of the fact that you have essentially distanced yourself from them over the past five years, it is reasonable to conclude that any residual negative effects of the past would have dissipated by now. The information you have received from your friend indicates that your aunt is still engaged in disseminating rumors and causing disruption. This prompts the question of how much credence should be given to the statements of your friends in this context.

We have maintained a distance from my aunt for an extended period, and it is unclear what benefit he could derive from disseminating information that could potentially cause discord. It is also uncertain what actions he could take against us, who are now 30 years of age.

We have all matured significantly over the past two decades, and we are no longer the same individuals we were at that age. Your strength is gradually increasing, while your aunt is experiencing the effects of aging.

You are in the prime of youth and vitality, and that is your greatest asset! Our lives depend on our own struggles. It's not as if just because he spreads rumors that they become true. Let's demonstrate our confidence, our abilities, and our perseverance, and live a fulfilling and optimistic life. Let's make his aunt enraged. If rumors can become reality, can we still act according to the rumors he spreads?

We are not her children, we are not under his command, we were all born on the same planet, we are all human, and we are becoming increasingly powerful. Who is afraid of whom? Why should we be afraid of him?

As a result of the proliferation of rumors, it will become increasingly evident who is in the wrong.

I posit that your current state of awareness marks the advent of change, given that five years have elapsed since your departure from the situation in question. Despite the persistence of negative sentiments, there has been a notable accumulation of energy. I encourage you to cultivate self-belief, adopt a resolute stance, and chart a new course in life.

I anticipate that you will develop into a strong individual, capable of leading a fulfilling life. The world and I support you!

It is evident that the actions of your aunt and her family have caused you significant distress and adversely affected your reputation, preventing you from holding your head high in public. The circulation of false rumors and fabrications has further exacerbated your situation.

The proliferation of rumors has precipitated a severe depressive and bipolar disorder. It is unclear whether the individual has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and, if so, whether she is adhering to the prescribed treatment plan. In the event that bipolar disorder has been diagnosed, it is imperative to pursue the requisite treatment and psychological counseling.

♠A 30-year-old woman who lives in the shadow of a malicious aunt

Your aunt is characterized by a penchant for avarice and a proclivity for instigating discord within your family.

Her brother resides in close proximity to you and is prone to making noise by the wall.

The act of disseminating false information is a form of defamation that can have severe consequences.

Vicious

It can also be perceived that for an extended period, your emotional state has been characterized by despair and darkness, which has significantly impacted your overall quality of life and caused considerable distress in your life trajectory.

Once the trauma and hatred experienced by relatives towards the subject need to be addressed.

Cognitive reprocessing is a technique used to improve trauma.

It is imperative to prevent their minions from exerting any further influence.

Furthermore, it is evident that you have relocated, and as a result, you are no longer susceptible to further physical harm. They have inflicted damage upon your interests in numerous ways, causing you emotional distress and initiating discord and falsehoods.

The statements made were not factual, but rather a means of achieving a desired outcome for themselves. It is also evident that their actions are reprehensible.

They do not experience any sense of closeness as relatives, but rather harbor feelings of animosity. A plethora of negative emotions have been pervading your heart. In the event that you have become aware of the extent to which they have influenced you, it would be most prudent to refrain from any further involvement with them.

The trauma has caused significant distress, and it is imperative to seek professional psychological assistance. If feasible, it is highly recommended to engage in psychological counseling under medical supervision. You have already extricated yourself from the situation, and thus, you are now secure.

It is also recommended that you engage in the requisite psychological counseling and discourse with a psychological listener regarding your recent experiences. It is possible that the trauma of the past has caused you significant distress, but you are now able to begin creating new memories. It must be acknowledged that not everyone is like your aunt; it is possible to have a new future.

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