A 32-year-old woman, always struggling to find herself, with no special skill, what should she do?

Hello, I'm Vin, and I'm thrilled to be here today to answer your question! I'm a career planner with 21 years of experience in cross-industry management consulting.

Growing up is an incredible journey of self-discovery. It's a process of challenging your own perception and embracing the journey of self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is the key to understanding your own situation and becoming more self-aware. It's an exciting journey of learning and growth!

Gordon MacLeod once told an incredible story about a Japanese friend who was so driven to become the top management of his company. He worked hard and made his work his whole life.

But just six months after he successfully achieved his goal, he died of a heart attack.

In a way, the reason he is so desperate is that he has been fooled by society, and he has listened to what society says: if you want to succeed, you must do this!

This is the way many of us are influenced and shaped.

Aspiring to a better life is a great thing!

But here's the thing: if you're looking too far ahead, you might lose sight of what's right in front of you.

"To what extent do you agree with your own value?"

This is the absolute best mindfulness book in the UK! The Chinese edition is edited by the amazing psychologist Li Songwei.

As a psychological counselor, Li Songwei asks three fascinating questions every week when he sees his visitors:

1. How has your life changed this week compared to last week?

2. Not much has changed? Well, have you made even the slightest change?

3. This week is exactly the same as last week? How do you keep it up?

Now, you can ask yourself the same questions!

Li Songwei said that he asks these questions because he's discovered that many people believe a life full of sensational events is the best way to live!

Embrace the small values and enjoy the continuous accumulation!

In the imagination of many people, change must be full of ritual, and the first step must always be grand!

If you want to live like Gu Jia, you have to change your appearance. And it's going to be so much fun learning how to exercise! Then you get to buy a luxury villa, turn your husband into a boss, and send your son to a top-notch kindergarten!

The more you think about it, the more you'll see how big the gap is and how ambitious the result is! And that's okay because it means you're ready to take the first step.

Because for you, change means, "There are huge difficulties waiting for me to overcome." And you can do it!

Li Songwei said, "Absolutely not! In the beginning, changes actually happen without notice. They seem ordinary and are no different from no change."

Maybe you dawdled over breakfast today and ate something that wasn't the best for you. But hey, no point in dwelling on it!

But for you, who haven't had breakfast in a long time, change has already happened!

The ordinary and boring cycle of life is actually full of incredible value! It's calm and ordinary, but it gives you the energy to live.

I really hope my answer can help you!

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Hello!

The man is 32 but still unsure about his career. He has no special skills, so maybe he never planned his career.

Career planning helps you find your way in the working world. Without it, you'll struggle to succeed.

Career planning starts with career analysis. The most common method is SWOT.

1. What are your strengths? What are your specialties?

You can get twice the result with half the effort.

2. Know your weaknesses, work on your shortcomings, and avoid areas you're not good at.

3. Then look at the opportunities in the environment. Consider the macro social and economic situation and the micro personal and family living environment.

4. What are the threats in the environment? Look at the social and economic situation and the personal family living environment.

Next, set your career goals, also called your career anchor.

It's normal for recent graduates to be unsure about their careers. But you're 32 and have been working for several years. If you're still exploring, you've spent too much time on it. Time is money.

Newcomers to the workplace should set their career direction within three years of graduation and set career goals.

Career goals can be short-term (within 3 years), medium-term (3 to 5 years), or long-term (more than 5 years).

Break your goal down into stages. For example, short-term goals can be broken down into annual work plans, and then annual plans can be broken down into quarterly or monthly plans.

Career planning is not set in stone. If you have problems, summarize and adjust. What is your core competitiveness?

If you can't find yourself,

Think about what you want and how you want to live your life. Think about the people you admire and what you can learn from them. Think about what you want to achieve and why.

Life changes as you grow up. It's important to understand yourself as you get older. You can't rush this. You need to keep learning and thinking. Then you will become a better person.

Good work!

As a career planner with 22 years of experience in cross-industry management consulting, I'm thrilled to answer the questioner's question!

The incredible Carl Rogers, a leading light in humanistic psychology, believes that the fundamental driving force of life is to become oneself. And by oneself, he means the sum total of all one's life experiences!

These life experiences are ours for the taking! They are the result of our own choices, and they are waiting for us to seize them.

Self-selection is an amazing opportunity to take responsibility for your own life! Many people in life let their parents decide which major to study, who to marry, and what career path to take. They're used to having other people make decisions for them, but there's so much potential for growth and discovery when you take the reins and chart your own course!

When the day comes that he has to face everything alone, he becomes at a loss, unable to make decisions, unable to shoulder responsibilities, desperately trying to grab onto anyone who can help him make a decision, like a straw to clutch. But what an opportunity for growth!

In life, many single men and women marry someone they don't like because their families are pressuring them to get married. Or they give up on the person they like and marry the person their parents like, only to find that their marriage is unhappy in the end. But they learn from it! They complain that they made the choice under the pressure of their family, and it's not the life they want at all. So they make a new choice!

It seems much easier to be a baby and win or die, but what's the difference between that and being a salted fish? A life without active participation will not generate a sense of pleasure or value. So, let's get up and get involved!

Passive acceptance is essentially an avoidance of responsibility. But taking the initiative means you take the outcome into your own hands! You get to face the consequences yourself, regardless of whether the outcome is good or bad.

Embracing your true self is an incredible journey. It means standing up for your values, challenging the opinions of others, and taking charge of your life. It's about embracing the challenges, making tough choices, and becoming the best version of yourself. It's an exciting adventure where you get to define your own path and make your mark on the world. So, get ready to embark on this amazing journey and discover the true meaning of being yourself!

So it's no surprise that so many readers want to be San Mao! But there can only be one San Mao in the world, and freedom comes at a price.

When you make a conscious choice, you realize something incredible: you are in control of your life! No one can control you, not your parents, not your friends, not your leaders, not even God. You are your own God!

The cover of "Silent Confession" has the following quote: "We spend our whole lives trying to escape the expectations of others and find our true selves." This quote perfectly sums up the theme of the book, and it's a great reminder that we can all become the best versions of ourselves!

Embrace the journey of becoming yourself! It's a lifelong adventure, and you can start by exercising your freedom to "project disapproval."

I really hope my answer is helpful to you! If you'd like more case analysis and consultation, just follow the WeChat public account: Career Planner Vin.

Good day, question asker.

Furthermore, it is imperative to gain a comprehensive understanding of one's current situation. It is a widely acknowledged fact that the majority of individuals lack specific, ambitious goals and consequently lead unfulfilling lives. The reality is that the majority of people are ordinary. What is particularly concerning is that a significant proportion of people remain unaware of this and have not considered ways to enhance their lives. Therefore, I would like to commend the original poster for their efforts.

Furthermore, the majority of individuals in society lack specific objectives and consequently lead unremarkable lives. The concerning reality is that a considerable proportion of people remain unaware of this and have not considered self-improvement. Therefore, I would like to extend my commendation to the original poster.

There are several methods for attaining accurate self-knowledge.

There are several methods for achieving accurate self-awareness.

Furthermore, a correct and comprehensive self-understanding is essential.

Correct and comprehensive self-knowledge

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Each individual possesses distinctive characteristics and is inherently unique. A comprehensive and accurate self-understanding encompasses an individual's interests, hobbies, personality traits, ability levels, and other pertinent aspects, along with a comprehensive assessment of their strengths and weaknesses.

Each individual possesses distinctive characteristics and is inherently unique. A comprehensive and accurate understanding of oneself encompasses not only one's interests, hobbies, and personality traits but also a comprehensive assessment of one's strengths and weaknesses.

A comprehensive self-evaluation from a multitude of perspectives is essential.

It is recommended that individuals actively seek feedback from friends and family members. This feedback should then be analyzed, synthesized, and compared with other information. In addition, individuals should compare their current selves with their past selves and their ideal selves. They should also compare themselves with the people around them.

It is recommended that individuals actively seek feedback about themselves from friends, family, and relatives. This information should then be analyzed, synthesized, and compared. In addition, individuals should compare their current selves with their past and ideal selves, as well as with various people around them.

Furthermore, it is essential to establish a goal that is realistic and attainable in the long term.

It is essential to set a goal that is sustainable.

Integrate the aforementioned self-awareness with a more comprehensive examination of job websites, a deeper reflection on the industry and the desired position, and a comprehensive assessment of one's strengths and weaknesses.

Integrate the insights gained from the aforementioned self-assessment with a more comprehensive review of job websites, a deeper reflection on the industry and the desired position, and a comprehensive analysis of one's strengths and weaknesses.

It is important to ensure that the goal is realistic and achievable, without being overly ambitious or challenging. It should not be so distant that it causes hesitation or discouragement, nor should it be unduly straightforward, as this could lead to a lack of motivation or a sense of ease that might not be sustainable.

It is important to ensure that the goal is realistic and attainable, without being overly ambitious or challenging. It should not be so distant that it causes hesitation or discouragement, nor should it be too straightforward or effortless to implement.

In formulating the plan, it is essential to consider the long-term implications. For instance, it would be prudent to envisage what the industry will be like in 10, 20, or even 30 years, and to anticipate one's own circumstances at that future point in time.

The process of self-improvement and self-perfection.

The questioner's assertion that a lack of skills hinders their ability to perform their job effectively and earn a competitive salary indicates a high level of motivation. However, it also suggests a need for guidance on how to develop and apply their skills effectively.

Then, consider the skills you wish to learn (in conjunction with the aforementioned text) and the extent of the gap between your current abilities and your desired level of proficiency. For instance, you may aspire to obtain a certificate, enhance your educational qualifications, or pursue other similar objectives.

Furthermore, it is essential to refine the specific goals.

Based on the results of the previous step, for example, if one wishes to improve one's education, then one must consider which institution to attend, which major to pursue, how to structure one's daily schedule, and so forth, down to the specifics of the reading material and exercises to be completed on a daily basis.

Furthermore, it is essential to have confidence in oneself.

Furthermore, it is imperative to cultivate self-belief.

One must believe in one's unlimited potential and ability to change oneself.

Many ideas are promising, yet I have not yet taken the initial step to implement them, and thus they remain unrealized. It is imperative that we actively exert our own initiative and be courageous in embracing our authentic selves.

Furthermore, it is important to accept the possibility of temporary setbacks.

It is possible that when one first begins to implement a plan, they may do so with short-term enthusiasm. However, over time, this enthusiasm may wane, leading to a gradual decline in motivation and eventual abandonment of the plan.

It is therefore recommended that a buffer time be allowed for. Based on an individual's knowledge of their own behaviour, it is possible to identify the point at which patience is likely to be lost. At this point, it is possible to take a break and return to the task at hand with renewed energy.

It is recommended that a period of rest be taken, during which the previous day's activities can be reviewed and a plan for the next day formulated. Following this, it may be beneficial to engage in some form of physical activity, which can help to replenish energy levels.

It is my sincere hope that my response will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question. Furthermore, I am optimistic that the individual will soon encounter a more positive version of themselves. I encourage you to persevere; success is within reach.

You mentioned that you've never had a clear sense of self since you were a child, and you still feel like you don't have any skills or goals in life. I can see why you're confused about wanting to pursue something but not knowing exactly what to do.

But you've asked the question, and at least that gives us a starting point: you've always wanted to know exactly what you want to do? After all, you're an adult now.

Then you can ask yourself, "What do I like best? What is the life I long for?"

What do I really want most? Maybe by asking these questions, you'll gradually figure out what you truly want.

Take a moment to think about what kind of person you really want to be.

If you ask yourself this way, you'll still be unable to find yourself. There is another way.

Take a piece of paper and write down everything you already have. Then, write down everything you want to have but don't have yet.

Make sure you include everything you have and everything you want to have, like your life, air, sunshine, water, family, children, etc. Just write it all down.

Then go through each one until you're left with the last five, three, or one.

When you make a list of what you have and what you want, you can really get a sense of what you're feeling. As you cross off items on your list, does anything stand out to you?

If you feel a different way from the others, it might be important to you. It could even be the direction you want to go in.

I hope this is helpful. The world and I are rooting for you.

Hello, question asker! I'm so happy we met here.

From what you've told me, I get the impression that you're a strong, confident woman, but you seem to have a bit of a hard time accepting yourself. You didn't do so well in school, but you still managed to study abroad for a few years, which is a huge accomplishment! It shows that you're highly adaptable and have excellent language skills.

I'm really curious, what made you feel so bad about yourself? You said you didn't do a good job at work. Was it because you were doing a job you didn't like, and therefore didn't do it properly?

Dear Questioner, I know that 31 can be an age that makes women anxious. I've heard that "at 30, one is established," so I'm wondering if you've achieved much in your career yet.

Your friends and colleagues might have become leaders or obtained advanced degrees. In the eyes of the world, they're the epitome of success, while you might feel like you're falling behind.

We all hear some gossip in life and work that makes us feel bad sometimes.

Questioner, have you ever thought about what might help you get out of this state and into a better one? Being able to maintain this level all the time, rather than letting yourself keep falling, is also a reflection of your ability.

How would you like to change it? You can do it! Just take a deep breath and feel it.

I'd love to hear about a time in your past when you felt the most overwhelmed. What happened?

I'd love to hear how you slowly came out of it, and what the result was. Was that moment the happiest moment for you?

I'd love to know what you did at the time! How did you do it?

I'd love to know how much effort you put in and how you managed to persevere!

I'd love to help you transfer the experience from these two moments to your current work so that you can take that first brave step!

Kazuo Inamori writes in his book The Way to Work: "In such an environment, it's tough to love your work. But whether quitting and changing careers would be successful, I had no choice but to stay."

So I decided to change my "state of mind." "Get down to work!"

"I tried to convince myself. If you really don't like your job, you can absolutely change jobs and find something you love! If that's not an option, you can learn from Kazuo Inamori and work hard.

When you're feeling motivated to work, you'll do whatever it takes to get the job done!

I'd also like to suggest that you check out Inamori Kazuo's "Gemba Method" and Nilka Niemann's "Thinking, Fast and Slow."

Hi there! I'm just me, so please don't be shy. I really hope my answer will be helpful and give you a new perspective. ?

Dear Sir/Madam, I am grateful for the opportunity to respond to your message.

I sense that you may benefit from a more in-depth exploration of your self-worth, and I believe you may be ready for a change.

If I may, I would like to summarize the points you mentioned.

1. You may feel that you haven't achieved much.

2. You are interested in exploring new avenues for personal growth and development.

[It may feel like you've not achieved much]

From what you have said, I can see that you said you didn't do well in school and didn't have a skill. In fact, everyone dislikes studying. People like to do happy and enjoyable things, but studying can make people feel painful and sad. People will choose the way that makes them feel most comfortable to avoid pain. Some people will become academic prodigies in order to avoid studying frequently, while others will study with a calm mind. This makes a difference in academic performance. You chose the way that suited you best to study at that time.

You feel you're not able to do a good job and that the work you're doing is not particularly rewarding. However, every job has the potential to support yourself and your family. Every industry has its own division of labor and occupational settings. For example, sanitation workers play an essential role in maintaining clean roads. It's crucial to find a career that aligns with your interests and skills.

You mentioned that you haven't achieved much after studying abroad for a number of years. It's possible that the academic or work you studied abroad wasn't entirely aligned with your interests, or that the country you went to study in didn't fully capture your attention. If you studied in an English-speaking country, it's likely that your spoken and listening English is stronger than average. Similarly, if you studied in a country where a smaller language is spoken, you may have gained some unique insights and advantages in that area.

It would be helpful to try to see the bright side of things and your own outstanding qualities, rather than letting others put you down.

If you're looking to find a direction for self-development,

If you're considering a change, you've already taken the first step.

If you're interested in finding your own value, you might consider starting with something that piques your interest. When people engage with activities they find engaging, they tend to give them their all and become fully committed. This can be a useful approach for developing interests into future careers.

You might also consider basing your future direction on your personality and your strengths. People who do what they are good at can often be more handy and can also make the work last longer.

It would be beneficial to have a sense of direction and to believe in your ability to achieve your goals.

Hello, dear friend!

Your description reminds me of a song by the incredible Mao Buyi called "Someone Like Me." The reason why this song is so popular is that it resonates with so many people and they feel like it's about them!

Ordinary is what we all share in common, but each of us is a one-of-a-kind, extraordinary being!

Think back to everyone you've met, and can you help them find 1-2 characteristics and strengths? I think you should also focus your eyes of beauty on yourself!

Your description is based on your parents' comments about you, not your own. It is still very important to understand and evaluate yourself objectively, and you can even be biased in favor of seeing more good aspects in yourself!

In your description, there are two main points of confusion, which we can easily work through together!

You've got to have a goal to feel that amazing sense of achievement!

Absolutely! You should definitely set a goal for yourself, start with small goals, take action, make progress in action, and then gain affirmation for yourself.

The great thing is, you can start with anything! Even if it's practicing calligraphy or going to the library, encourage yourself to start with these small habits.

2. There's room for improvement in assertiveness, values, and independent thinking skills.

Reading is a great way to improve your knowledge, thinking ability, and outlook!

Guess what? A sense of meaninglessness is often due to a lack of consistency. We need to engage consistently in something, set goals, and invest consistently. And guess what else? We'll reap rewards!

I truly hope that we can all externalize our abilities through doing things and truly devote ourselves to production and life! This is the best way for us to gain a sense of self-worth!

Hello. I understand your feelings. I also don't know who I am, what I'm good at, and what I can do now and in the future. These questions occasionally come to the surface at night, causing anxiety and insomnia, which exhausts both my body and mind.

I have not yet escaped this dilemma, but I am not standing still. I have experience to share with you.

1. Goals and achievements

We must realize that we can only achieve success by reaching our goals. This is true, but we must ask ourselves: What are the goals?

I want to know the relationship between achievement and goals.

I want to be an excellent and top-notch psychologist. This is my end goal. It's ambitious, but I know I can achieve it. There will be difficulties along the way, but I'm prepared to face them.

I have seen many people associate big goals with a sense of accomplishment and then fall into a state of mind where they cannot be satisfied with themselves or recognize themselves. This is a sad and painful process.

Break down the goal, refine the goal, and turn the goal into an executable plan. Be as detailed as possible about what you want to do, what you can do at the moment, and what you can do in 5 years, 3 years, 1 year, 1 month, 1 week, and 1 day. This will greatly reduce the sense of anxiety and self-blame that arises between the goal and achievement.

We must also learn to reward ourselves in a timely manner. Self-identity is a habit of thinking about self-evaluation. If you are negative, you will miss out on rewards.

Therefore, reward yourself. You may only have completed today's goals and still be a long way from your big goal, but you should still reward yourself.

This is the first aspect.

2. Think and act.

Fortunately, I already have a goal that I can strive for in the long term. By breaking it down according to the above goals, I will carry on with my implementation.

You haven't found your goal yet, and you're anxious about it. I know it's tough, but it's worth thinking about: what's the relationship between thinking and action?

Many people fall into the trap of thinking that thorough and complete thinking is a necessary step before taking action. This is not necessarily wrong, but we must ask ourselves what we are thinking at this stage for.

Is it to solve a problem and come up with a solution? Or is it to make the process go smoothly, to think deeply, or is it that we are using thinking to compensate for the anxiety caused by a lack of action? If it is, then we need to think outside the box and go ahead and do something. In the process of doing it, we can think about specific and actionable things. For the time being, let's not think about longer-term and broader goals, but focus on the events that can be dealt with in the present.

We often experience thinking fatigue, but this is not caused by thinking too much. It is caused by thinking too diversely and not relating it to reality. We must learn to distinguish between thinking and action and find the right balance.

3. Accept your current state.

You went abroad for a long time, and it was a great experience. I don't know what you consider an achievement, but I know this experience has given you something many people don't have or can't have.

Your parents have high expectations of you, and you've internalized these expectations as your own. This may be causing you psychological pressure that's hindering your actions.

We must establish our own reasonable expectations based on the current situation. This will help us accept ourselves more easily.

Self-acceptance is not easy, but you must accept yourself. If you don't, you'll be punished and whipped by yourself, making it difficult to move forward.

I have found the above three points to be helpful in my own life, and I believe they can be helpful for you too.

Hello, I really understand you and I'd like to offer you some support and help.

1. Your self-image isn't determined by whether you've achieved anything.

From what you've said, it seems like you think your lack of self-awareness is why you've struggled in school, earned a low salary, and haven't achieved much. I don't think there's necessarily a connection between the two.

For instance, despite doing well in school, getting my doctorate, and becoming a university teacher, I was always afraid to be my own "good girl." Deep down, I'm just as vulnerable and confused as you are. I have no ideas of my own, no thoughts, no idea what I like, and I live a life of confusion.

This was the first reason I started exploring and learning about myself.

2. Whether or not you have self-awareness is up to you. It's not something that others can decide for you.

You said, "My parents say I have no thoughts, no opinions, no values, no self-awareness, and I wander around like a ghost all day." It's clear that you love your parents and are influenced by their views.

Many adults are still like children inside, unable to grow up and develop a strong sense of self. This is often because they had parents who tried to "influence" and "control" them during their childhood. However, it's not fair to blame all parents for this. Of the four children in our family, only I was most deeply affected by my parents' "negative comments."

I'm the most introverted and sensitive, and I have the strongest perception of my environment. But being introverted and sensitive is not a mistake. "Being highly sensitive is a gift." I just didn't make good use of its advantages and let myself be "controlled and influenced" by my parents.

So, whether you have self-awareness and your own opinions and ideas isn't something others can label for you. You have to ask yourself: can you really tell what you like and prefer, and what you don't, even when you encounter anything, in any place, even when you are alone?

Don't you have your own thoughts about some people and things? Or are you afraid to share them because you think others will think you're indecisive?

3. Everyone can find their true self if they change their perspective.

You might think, "I've been abroad for many years and haven't achieved much," or "I've done poorly at work and in school." Is that really true? There are plenty of people in their thirties who've never set foot abroad.

Just because you're not great at studying doesn't mean you're not good at practical work or have poor communication skills.

If you step outside the usual ideas of "good" and "accomplished," you'll probably find some new strengths. For example, you're well-traveled, you like to make friends, and you enjoy trying new things to eat, drink, and do.

As long as you're open to seeing yourself in a positive light, start by keeping a success journal, noting your achievements and events, and you'll gradually realize that you're actually pretty good. Everyone has unique strengths.

4. How to discover talent and find your forte

Of course, everyone is unique and has something to offer, but it would be great if you could leverage your strengths to achieve success. So, it's still important to identify your strengths.

There are lots of tools and methods for discovering your talent advantages. These include lots of different assessments, professional interpretation, and combining them with your past experience, personal character traits, and what kind of person you want to become.

The simplest way to start is to take a look at your life and see if there's anything you really enjoy doing. It could be something as simple as growing a plant, eating something, or watching a movie.

Start by paying attention to these small things and figuring out what you're really interested in and what part of it you like.

The future society is going to be highly individualized and segmented. The more niche it is, the more it can meet the personalized needs of others, and the greater the development will be. So, for now, don't worry about whether there's a market for what you're interested in, whether there's a corresponding job, or whether you can quickly realize your value.

Instead, you should nurture a small hobby, figure out how to use your abilities in that area, practice that skill, gain confidence, and compete in a differentiated way.

I'm sure you'll be able to find your own path to success.

You're great at what you do. As you gain more confidence, you'll be able to live a better life!

Dear questioner, I am the respondent Huba, and I am thrilled to answer your question!

As you described in the question, you have never felt like you had a clear sense of self since you were a child. This has led to poor academic performance in school, and you have no skills. You don't do well at work, and your salary is very low. At 32 years old, you feel that you have achieved nothing after returning from studying abroad for many years. Your parents say that you have no thinking, no opinions, no values, no sense of self, and you are like a ghost all day long. But here's the good news! You can change all of that!

Huang Qituan, the head of the group, once said something really inspiring: "How others treat you is what you teach them."

Have you ever thought that maybe it is because you think you are not good at this or that that others "recognize" you in this way? Well, it doesn't matter! The good news is that it doesn't matter at all. The present is the best time to grow, as long as you are willing to actively seek reasonable help and grow actively.

How can you help yourself?

1. Develop a growth mindset!

There are no failures, only people who are unwilling to grow. If you feel that you are not good enough, it is because you have fallen into the pit of the brain game – fixed thinking – and feel that you will always be like this. But there's no need to worry! You can easily overcome this obstacle and become the best version of yourself. All you need to do is reject other people's denial and embrace the reality that the best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, and the present is the perfect time to do it!

Reality doesn't tell us that! It says the best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, and now is the perfect time to do it! So if you don't have any skills now, you can learn them and become skilled!

2. Have the courage to reject other people's denial and embrace your true potential!

You have the courage and strength to ask the world for help! And you also have the courage and strength to reject others' denial and prove to others that "a person who has not been idle for three days deserves special attention." This is not just an allusion; it's the result of the verification of many people in reality who "change when they are in trouble."

Similarly, if you are willing to believe, then you absolutely can!

3. Learn to self-encourage!

Self-encouragement is an essential part of emotional intelligence and plays a vital role in navigating the ups and downs of life. When you learn to self-encourage in the right way, it's like having armor, and it's almost impossible for others' denials, criticisms, and attacks to hurt you.

I'm so excited to recommend this incredible book: Emotional Intelligence!

I absolutely love The World and I Love You!