A 32-year-old woman, always wants to hide myself, am I going to have autism?

The symptoms and feelings you describe, such as long-term unemployment, boredom at work, a lack of interest in communication, and avoidance of marital pressure, may be caused by a variety of reasons. These symptoms may result in psychological stress and affect mood and quality of life.

It should be noted, however, that these symptoms are not indicative of autism.

Long-term unemployment can result in a decline in self-worth and financial situation, which can affect mood and lifestyle. Additionally, a lack of social interaction and human contact can trigger feelings of loneliness and anxiety. In such cases, the following measures are recommended:

1. Seek professional assistance: Schedule an appointment with a psychologist or counselor, who can provide expert guidance and support in addressing emotional challenges.

2. Actively seek employment: Utilize online recruitment platforms, social media, and job fairs to identify suitable positions. List your skills and experience to ensure a mutually beneficial match.

3. Develop hobbies: Engage in new hobbies and activities such as reading, painting, yoga, etc. These activities can help to relax and improve your sense of self-worth.

4. Build a social network: It is advisable to maintain contact with friends and family, participate in social activities or community organizations, and expand your network.

5. Adopt a new mindset. Adopt a more objective perspective and avoid self-criticism. Understand that everyone has their own pace and path, and there is no need to be anxious or compare.

6. Maintain a healthy lifestyle: Pay attention to your diet and sleep, and engage in appropriate exercise, which will help improve your physical and mental health.

Furthermore, if there are social pressure issues, such as being urged to get married, it is advisable to communicate with your family to express your thoughts and feelings. Additionally, it is recommended to seek professional support and advice. At the same time, it is also recommended to consider your own inner needs and find a lifestyle that truly suits you.

In the event that you feel unable to address these issues independently, it is essential that you seek professional assistance.

Dear questioner, I totally get it. I've been there, and I know it's tough. It's natural to want to hide away sometimes, like the whole world has nothing to do with you. But you're not alone. This feeling doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.

Everyone gets tired and wants to escape sometimes, and that's totally normal!

From your description, I can feel your loneliness and alienation from interpersonal relationships. The blow of unemployment may have made you a little resistant to socializing, and your distrust of marriage may also stem from past experiences or uncertainty about the future. But don't worry! These feelings are temporary, and they don't represent who you are.

But I want to tell you something really important: these feelings are temporary, and they don't represent who you are!

You know, there will always be ups and downs and challenges in life, but it is these experiences that make us grow and become stronger! You are not alone in this battle, and you have friends and family around you who support you silently.

They are willing to listen to your troubles and accompany you through difficult times. So, when you feel like you can't extricate yourself, try asking them for help. Let their love and care warm your heart!

I'd also love to share a little story about me with you. At one time, I also experienced a similar predicament and felt confused and powerless.

But I chose to face my fears and start connecting with people. I joined social activities and made new friends. Gradually, I realized that human connections are truly amazing and powerful!

This experience made me realize something amazing! It's true that we can discover a broader world and more possibilities when we step out of our comfort zone and explore beyond our own little world.

Now, let's dive deeper and really get to the heart of the matter. It's clear you're feeling a bit lost in your current situation and unsure of how to make a change. You're craving a break from reality, but you're also afraid of falling deeper into loneliness.

At the same time, you have this negative attitude towards marriage and feel that it is not a necessity in life. These feelings are totally understandable, but we need to find a way to balance them out!

I've got some great suggestions for you in your situation that I think you'll find really helpful!

First, try setting a small daily goal, such as keeping in touch with a friend every day or going to a social event. You'll be amazed at how these small goals will give you more motivation to take action and gradually help you rediscover the joy of interacting with others!

Second, don't be in a hurry to deny the value of marriage. Marriage is an amazing choice that allows two people to support each other and grow together—it's a wonderful thing!

Of course, marriage is not the be-all and end-all of life, and not everyone has to go through it. You can try to look at marriage with an open mind, and I'm sure you'll find that it also has its appeal!

And finally, I want to remind you not to be too demanding on yourself. Everyone has their own pace and way of facing the challenges of life, and you've got this!

You can absolutely find your own happiness! All you have to do is be willing to try and work hard. And don't forget to love and care for yourself. You are the most precious existence, so treat yourself well!

In short, dear questioner, I absolutely believe you have the ability to get out of your current predicament and find your own happiness! Please believe in yourself and take that brave step!

No matter when or where, remember that there is someone who is always there for you, supporting and caring for you! Come on!

You can do it! Your heart is warm, and your world can be full of sunshine. Go for it!

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your inquiry. Best regards, [Name] [Title]

From the description, it appears that since being laid off, you have been spending your time alone, reading novels every day. You feel very relaxed. Apart from the nagging and urging of your parents during the Spring Festival and the negative news about your mother that you had no choice but to accept, you feel that this way of life is very good.

You have no intention of getting married, but rather of enjoying life on your own. At the same time, you hope to stay in this quiet and undisturbed environment and continue to be carefree, which makes you doubt whether you are autistic.

The individual in question is fully aware of their actions, and this sense of comfort has alleviated the exhaustion previously experienced. I also encountered a similar situation once. Initially, I found these moments enjoyable and believed that any disruption would negatively impact my mood.

However, if this situation persists over an extended period, it can lead to feelings of panic. It is possible that the initial period of leisure without disturbances has become a state of social isolation. When parents are not available to contact, and friends no longer do so, except for reading novels daily, it becomes evident that no progress has been made. Additionally, one's eyesight may deteriorate, and one's body may become weaker. The prolonged hours of irregular work and rest have resulted in physical exhaustion and spiritual emptiness.

Furthermore, reading a plethora of novels, in addition to experiencing fluctuations in mental state, also reveals the same narrative repeatedly. Therefore, the current situation allows for a period of recuperation, but after an extended duration, one may become weary of this lifestyle.

However, since this situation cannot be expected to last indefinitely, it is important to allow yourself sufficient time to regain your energy. Making minor adjustments, such as incorporating exercise and healthy eating habits, can help to gradually restore your vitality.

Ultimately, the decision to enter into marriage is a personal one. It is evident from childhood experiences that these experiences still have a significant impact on individuals. If you wish to reduce the influence of your family of origin on yourself, it is possible to do so.

However, attributing the issue to the influence of the original family often indicates that no changes have been made on one's own. Blaming others without justification suggests a reluctance to take personal responsibility.

I hope this information is useful to you. Best regards,

Hello, question asker!

Given that you informed me you were laid off in October, I feel the current environment is unfriendly and poses a new test for many. You haven't worked for more than three months, yet you find peace of mind in reading novels. You can stay at home quietly and catch up. It's now the time of our traditional Spring Festival reunion, and I believe you are already doing great.

You came here to ask a question. You haven't looked for a job for three months. You've been uncommunicative about this. You've hidden yourself in your comfort zone. You've become more aware of yourself. You're worried about your future.

It doesn't matter why you were laid off. You were working overtime a lot, and then you were laid off. That kind of exhaustion takes time to dilute. These past few months of lying down flat can be described as a kind of balance for all the work you've done over the years.

You're in the mood. It's normal. When the fatigue, anger, and grievances from before have been diluted to a certain extent, you said:

This is a daydream that doesn't match reality.

I know this is wrong, but people need society and relationships.

This feeling will become more and more intense. And just as spring is in the air, you will become aware of this sense of imbalance. You will realize that your body doesn't have the strength to support your mind. You will understand that you shouldn't just lie around at home like this. From the original comfort, you will see that the unbalanced need has reached another level of assertiveness.

I am strong. I have encouraged myself to be strong.

I am not yet ready to take that step and make a change.

I'll tell you what we should do.

First, allow yourself to be like this for now, and just let it snow for a while. It's okay. To answer your question:

My family and friends are concerned about my marriage, and I can't hide it anymore. I'm tired of it, but I'm not going to disappoint them. My current employment situation, my experience of being unable to find a job that suits me, and the age threshold are also putting pressure on me.

This is also a good way to protect yourself. It's snowing heavily right now, and I'm sure it's the same in your area. It's the perfect time to go out and enjoy the snow.

Second, we should use this time to write articles or do live broadcasts. We don't want to temporarily interact with society and people; we would rather read novels, from one story to another. The media is so developed now that I can see you have your own thoughts and way of thinking in your problem description here. With some practice, your writing will be good too. If you also do live broadcasts, you can avoid some of the interpersonal communication in reality. It might even open up another world. This is a way to deal with the pressure you mentioned, so give it a try!

You will gradually grow and get better. We always encounter various problems in real life, and we can make our lives better and gradually grow by resolving these problems. I can also see the efforts you have made after encountering the layoff problem. First, you found comfort in your heart by reading novels, and then you deeply reflected on the situation to find a new starting point and your own motivation. As long as you are internally unbalanced, you will definitely rely on your own wisdom to break through and make yourself better.

You will overcome the pressure to get married. You will grow and improve, and you will find your own way to deal with it. You will make your life better and better.

The journey of exploration is endless. Come on, the world and I love you!

Hello, question asker.

You enjoy being alone, but worry about being disconnected from society and the pressure to get married.

When we face major pressures, we retreat.

You don't like communicating with people, staying alone, or reading novels.

Being alone is okay, and you can choose to be alone if you want to.

You need a break. Life doesn't have to follow society's rules. You don't have to excel, be independent by 30, or get married by a certain age.

You need your own life.

Not wanting to find a job.

Ask yourself what you're afraid of.

Are you afraid of not being recognized? Are you afraid of not getting a promotion or a pay rise in a normal job?

Scared of comparisons at work?

Afraid you won't do a good job?

Scared of being laid off again?

Some people find a job they like, but some people work just to support their families and stay socially engaged.

Ask yourself what you want to do and what you can do.

What are the chances?

Some people quit their jobs at big companies to go home to farm, but it can be lonely and boring. You won't know if a choice is right for you until you try it.

It's the same with work or marriage.

Love heals. It allows us to pay attention, care for, and support each other.

A good lover is also a good friend and partner for life.

Find joy in life and work. Even ordinary things can be full of flavor.

I don't know if you've seen a documentary about life, even if it's about skewers. Each owner has their own secrets when it comes to meat, ingredients, and sauce. When they see diners tucking in, they feel accomplished. When they go to the market, the butcher keeps the best meat for himself. This is the kind of human connection and trust that exists.

I hope your life will be more colorful too. Best wishes!

Hello, question asker. I see the confusion you're facing, and I'm here to help.

You were laid off last October, and then you laid at home for three months.

That's just how we are. The more you stay home, the less you want to go out.

You've realized this is a problem, and that's a good thing.

Start with small actions.

For example, when you step out of your house, say hello to your neighbor.

Or, for example, going to the entrance of the community to pick up a delivery and saying hello to the security guard.

You say that because of your experiences in your family of origin, you don't envy marriage and don't see it as a plus.

Your parents' marriage was not good, so you have no expectations for marriage.

Your parents' marriage may not have been a model of success, but that does not mean your marriage will be doomed to fail.

You can avoid passing on the bad parts of your parents' marriage to your future husband. When you have a family and career one day, you will be in a position to do so.

Seek help from a professional counselor if you are still confused.

A counselor is a professional who can give you better advice.

I am confident that you will find a solution to your problem soon.

That's all I have to say on the matter.

I am confident that my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. As the answerer, I can assure you that I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, the world and I love you. Best wishes!

I am confident that you will find the answer you are looking for.

Hello, question owner!

Hi, I'm Yao, a consultant on the platform with a dynamic orientation.

It's a long post, and it expresses the subject's many sorrows and helplessness, as well as his confusion and bewilderment about life, marriage, and so on.

And it also presents the dilemma of escaping from reality at work and the pressure of marriage to choose.

I sense there might be a dilemma brought about by being alone, is that right?

I'm just wondering, why do you present your current state of life as autism?

I have a feeling that if you were a different kind of autistic, you could really solve a lot of real-life problems!

(Please don't laugh at my joke!)

A kind of

Oh, it looks like there's been a little mix-up!

It's totally normal and understandable to believe that anyone who, in the face of work frustrations, marital pressures, and numerous social problems, chooses to

It's totally normal and understandable to want to relax at home for a bit.

I get it. I really do. I don't think you need to worry about whether or not you have autism. It's not something you need to rush to figure out.

Let me make a wild guess: perhaps what you want to solve is how to get out of the situation of lying down, without

I can see how you might feel like you're being kidnapped by marriage, which is a very paradoxical problem, right?

From what you've shared in your post, it's clear that you've developed some resistance to marriage and that it's not something you're particularly interested in at the moment.

Maybe it comes from a subconscious fear of marriage because you were born single and grew up early.

You don't feel that marriage is the determining factor in building a happy life, especially for women. Perhaps this conflict between

It's totally normal to feel lost and confused when your views on marriage don't align with the worldly views around you.

I'm wondering if you know how to be yourself? Or are you following the worldly view of marriage and looking for someone to marry you off?

How can we find a way forward together?

Take a moment to think about your views on marriage and life.

From a multicultural perspective, marriage is just one way to experience secular life, not the only way.

You can live alone for the rest of your life if you want to, or you can get married as many times as the law allows.

So, if you can be relatively sure that a person can live a good life reading books and growing flowers for the rest of their life,

I fully support and respect your choice, my friend!

Secondly, we have a really important and tricky question:

If we don't get married, it might mean living alone for the rest of our lives, especially after our parents lose the ability to take care of the family and we are gone.

How will we take care of our parents when they get older?

Third, if we stay home and never go out, what can we rely on to make our lives comfortable?

If you're a novelist and you make a living writing novels, that's great! If you're just

Have you ever thought about filling your empty life with novels as a way of escaping from reality?

So, how can you solve the problem of survival? It's something we all need to think about from time to time.

I just wanted to say that the above analysis is for reference only due to the limitations of the data involved. I hope it helps!

I'm here for you at Yixinli, my friend. I'll be by your side through thick and thin. You've got this!

Embrace the question owner! I admire your honesty in admitting that you often think about it and hide yourself. It's a bold move, and I admire your courage. I even looked up the definition and symptoms of autism to better understand your situation. My advice to you is to embrace who you are and not label yourself lightly.

Secondly, I saw that the original poster described her situation in detail, and I can actually call you sister because you are a few years older than me. You said that you laid at home for several months because you were laid off, and only then did you realize that not going to work is really happy. Hahaha, I actually envy this kind of life very much because who doesn't want to live a stress-free and anxiety-free life? So, are you actually feeling at peace and comfortable? Because most of our worries come from interpersonal communication, so it's great that you're not worrying about that anymore!

But then again, we shouldn't let fear or disgust stop us from planting trees or getting a dog. Life is full of surprises, and it's important to embrace them. Staying in a comfortable zone is great, but don't be afraid to venture out and explore!

But what I want to tell the original poster is that we can't be in an extremely comfortable environment for the rest of our lives. Just like flowers grown in a greenhouse can't withstand the wind and rain, we can't stay in one place forever. So can you do without working and live without worries? In other words, do you have the conditions to not work for the rest of your life?

If you can't do that, no problem! We can still open the job search app. The motivation is to make money. Someday, when you are financially independent and free, you can consider retiring early to enjoy life, because we are at an age to strive for our goals. If you don't fight for it when you are young, you will have wasted your prime—so let's make the most of it!

Regarding the matter of being pressured to get married, we can ask ourselves if we can disregard the opinions of others. If so, then be brave and be yourself! The result is not the only destination for women, so let's choose to be happy!

Of course, no one can predict matters of the heart. But you never know—some people who don't believe in marriage may change their minds if they meet the right person!

So in the end, I want to say, what is it that you don't feel right about? It's totally okay to not know what you want right now! Take out a notebook and make a quadrant while you're still not sure whether to work or not, and list out opportunities, disadvantages, threats, opportunities, etc., to sort it out before making a decision.

As social beings, we cannot avoid interpersonal interactions, so we can enjoy being alone, but we should not indulge in it. The above is all I can think of. At Yi Xinli, the world and I love you ???, I recommend that the questioner watch the recent hit movie Hot and Spicy. It may be inspiring. It's not too late for everything. Love yourself and come on ???.

Hello there!

You're a 32-year-old woman who was laid off last October and stayed home for three months. During that time, you didn't look for a job, but just relaxed and read novels. You spent the whole day lying around, and your mood was generally peaceful and comfortable.

Before you know it, you'll be feeling right at home in this kind of life. It'll feel good and you'll feel comfortable.

I think you've made a great choice! It's so nice that you've been able to spend the past three months at home, without any anxiety or depression, in a peaceful and comfortable state. As long as you're comfortable, enjoying yourself, and not bothering others, then living the way you like is truly a wonderful choice.

Maybe it's during these three months that you'll find a way of life that makes you feel at peace with yourself. Maybe in the future you'll often choose this way of life at certain stages. This isn't autism, but a way of life that likes tranquility and solitude.

Then, they gradually become less inclined to talk and communicate, and want to hide and be left alone; they begin to resent friends and family members who seek them out for conversation. The forced smiles, awkward small talk, and being pressured to get married during the Spring Festival holiday are even more tiring than overtime work.

I think your friends and family might be a bit different from you in that they like to be in the thick of things, while you prefer peace and quiet.

If you meet someone who also likes to be quiet and read, you'll find you don't have this mentality when you read your favorite novels together. You'll sit together, occasionally making eye contact or discussing your understanding of the novel.

I truly believe that two people with the same frequency will be happy together.

You're thinking about looking for a job after the New Year, but you're not quite ready to leave your comfort zone. You're not ready to leave yet, so you don't even have the energy to open the job search app or revise your resume. You've really been enjoying being at home these past three months, and you're not sure you're ready to leave your comfort zone and return to the anxiety of work.

The difference between working and resting is so great that you really like the current situation, and that's okay!

It's time to get out of your comfort zone! Life goes on, and adult life is always like this, full of anxiety and fatigue.

It's hard to stay in our comfort zone for too long, isn't it? We still have to earn money and survive, after all! You're very reluctant to communicate and interact with others because it consumes a lot of energy. This is the helplessness of adulthood, and it's something we can all relate to.

It's totally normal to feel like you're not on the same level as your friends sometimes. But that doesn't mean you can't still be friends! You can also find new friends who are on the same wavelength as you. It's okay if your family and friends are pushing you to get married. Not everyone is interested in marriage or the opposite sex, and that's okay! The pressure from your current job, etc., makes you want to always return to your comfort zone. That's totally understandable!

We all need each other. You're not alone in this! You can still connect with the world through your mobile phone. It's okay if you don't have the energy to look for work and socialize. We all need a break sometimes.

Maybe the pressure of reality makes you want to escape, but the pressure of survival doesn't allow you to do that. This is where your inner conflict lies, and your point of anxiety.

You can try to allow yourself to be yourself for a while, and then work for a while to survive. There is a time node for these time arrangements, and as long as you allow yourself to be within that node, you'll be just fine!

For example, you can think about it now. You've been here for three months, and you feel very comfortable. Then set a date, and when that date comes, go out and earn money to support yourself. After earning a certain amount of money, you can take another three months off to rest. This could be the life you want, repeating over and over.

And you know what else? You can also make friends who like quiet. That way, you'll understand each other and get along without being tired.

The world loves you, and you should love yourself too!