A high school girl always makes mistakes answering questions, and she has made a fool of herself. What should she do?

Hello, I feel for you and I sense your desire to learn again. I had the same worries in school.

I'll share my thoughts with you, and I hope you'll love learning again!

You say that every time the teacher asks you a question, it's the one you got wrong or don't know. You think it's bad luck.

This is a chance to find out what you don't know. You write it down and fix it.

You're just being misled. Don't listen to outsiders.

Good students make mistakes.

Teachers make mistakes too! Does that mean they aren't good teachers?

No.

Everyone gets questions they can't do. It has nothing to do with being a good student.

Why did you learn so well in the past?

You solve all the problems you encounter.

Why can you solve problems?

You know the answers, right?

Let's get back to the present.

Why can't you solve these?

You just missed that piece of knowledge. It's like losing a key and finding it again.

You're still a good student even if you lose your keys.

This proves nothing.

If you think you have to solve the problem to be a good student, you will eventually solve it.

You won't become a bad student just because you answered it incorrectly. You just forgot the answer.

Don't let the world distract you.

You don't have to prove you're a good student.

Pick up the keys and rebuild your kingdom.

I hope you enjoy solving problems again.

Dear question asker,

It seems that you have always had the image of being a good student, but recently, after entering high school, your studies have not been as satisfactory as you would have liked. You have also made a few small mistakes, which have made you feel a little embarrassed in front of your teachers and classmates. I can fully understand how you feel right now, so I would like to offer you some suggestions.

1. When you come to high school, you will find that the learning environment is quite different from what you may have experienced in the past. It is important to understand that the pressure to learn in this environment is certainly greater. Everyone is doing their best for the college entrance examination, and the competition will certainly become more intense. It would be beneficial to adjust your mentality to better cope with these changes.

2. We all feel embarrassed when we make mistakes in areas where we excel, and nobody is perfect. It's important to remember that nobody can guarantee that they will never make a mistake. Success is built step by step, and learning from our mistakes is an opportunity to grow.

3. It is important to remember that getting the answers to simple questions wrong or losing points through carelessness does not necessarily indicate a problem with your learning ability. Additionally, when the monitor saw that you did not do well on the exam, he obviously regarded you as a strong competitor. There is no doubt that you are a good student. Could the current situation be influenced by your own state of mind? It might be helpful to encourage yourself and remind yourself that you are actually not bad.

4. It might be helpful to consider that your inner sensitivity could be a contributing factor to the current situation. It's possible that you may remember a particular comment made by a classmate in class, or the test scores of a certain classmate from last semester. It's understandable that you might hold on to these things and never forget them. However, it's important to remember that the past is just a memory, and being sensitive to these experiences might limit your ability to move forward. It's not necessary to dwell on how others perceive your failures.

The three years of high school are an important stage of growth. You are only in your first year of high school, and it is normal to have some problems. Please don't worry about it. You should always have confidence in your future self. What we should do is not to think about how I should answer a question this time and how I should answer it next time, but to think about what kind of person you should be three years from now and keep working hard in that direction.

6. It might be helpful to abandon the image of junior high school. In this brand new environment of high school, it's likely that no one knows what each other's past was like. It's possible that the image of a good student may burden you, forcing you to be the best. It might be beneficial to lower your expectations to prevent disappointment. You just need to know that you have sufficient ability, and maintaining this confidence is enough.

I believe high school is a wonderful stage. I hope the questioner will soon find a way out of this dilemma, change his mindset, and enthusiastically welcome the beautiful high school.

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

Starting high school is a big change. It's normal to feel a bit emotional. But if these feelings are affecting your studies, you need to deal with them.

Let's talk about each one.

High school is a new stage of life, but you're not ready.

In high school, we live in a dorm and our parents don't guide us much.

In high school, parents can only do logistical work.

In high school, parents may be more concerned about your studies. This means you have more freedom to arrange your own studies.

In this stage, we need to figure out who we are. This is about having our own thoughts and values.

High school students are facing the college entrance exam, which makes them reluctant to leave home. They may develop problems to prove that they are not ready to go away.

I don't know your family situation. From experience, if a child has emotional problems during a turning point, it is most likely because they are not ready or unable to move on.

Many families with poor relationships choose to get divorced after the college entrance exam. If their children get into college, it means they will no longer have a home. They may choose not to go to college, or there may be other circumstances. In short, they will cause their parents trouble, making them have to focus on their children and work together to solve their problems.

This is just something that has been observed. It is not your real situation, but it is meant to make you think. If you enter a new stage, such as high school, rank among the best in your class, and leave home to go to college, what will happen to your life, especially to your family?

Are you benefiting from your current situation?

Or will it help you in the future? Being stuck at this stage with your child is not good for you.

You can think about it or talk to a counselor.

Second, move to a new place.

In high school, many people live in school dormitories. This is a time to develop independence, so they focus on forming self-unity. They care about what others think and compare themselves to others. They want to fit in and belong to the same group.

But people also fight. Teenagers who are sensitive want to be liked. If they aren't, they doubt themselves.

We can't change the environment, classmates, or teachers. Even if you change the environment, it won't be different.

How do you deal with these emotions? Look at the big picture. The three years of high school are just three years. You may not see your classmates again after you graduate.

At university, you'll meet more people. You'll see that what you cared about before isn't important.

I suggest repeating it to yourself a few times: the purpose of high school is to go to college, not to make friends.

Talk to your school counselor.

I'm a counselor who is sometimes depressed and sometimes happy.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a modest and self-effacing person who strives to be consistent.

It might be helpful to find a rhythm that suits you.

In the description, I sensed that the situation in learning may have been caused by my own negligence or inability to adapt, which might make it challenging for you to accept. It's possible that for a long time in the past, you may have been perceived as the shadow of the outstanding "other people's children," which might make it difficult for you to accept your current self.

It's important to remember that high school will be a very different experience from junior high. In junior high, our studies were slightly easier and more diverse, while high school studies are very objective and clear-cut, geared towards the college entrance exam. It's natural to feel a bit out of place at first, but it's essential to find your own learning rhythm as soon as possible.

As the monitor of the class, you are in a position where you are held to a high standard by not only the teacher and parents, but also by yourself. While the exam questions may not have been as challenging as you initially perceived, it's possible that your performance could have been enhanced with a more thorough review of the questions. We recognize the challenge and are committed to finding a solution.

If I might offer a suggestion,

I agree that the monitor is right to pay attention to how they are perceived by their classmates. However, it is also important to focus on our studies, as this will naturally help us to establish a positive image.

There's no need to worry. Everything develops in its own time. It's important not to be too hard on ourselves too early on. It may be helpful to adjust your learning methods and pace to adapt to the demands of high school life and learning. I believe you have the potential to succeed.

It is worth noting that the opinions of others may not be as significant as we often perceive them to be. Many individuals are content to focus on their own learning and may not be overly concerned with the opinions of others. Therefore, it is important to remember not to worry excessively. Instead, focus on doing one thing carefully, patiently, and with perseverance, and you will gradually be able to bring your strengths into play.

I wish you the best of luck!

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

The questioner sees the questioner's confession and sadness and realizes that he hasn't been doing well since high school. Every time the teacher calls on him to answer a question, he either doesn't know the answer or gives the wrong answer, which makes him feel embarrassed.

Because other students tend to think that the person who asks the questions is good at English, but this has happened a lot. The person who asks the questions has even started to doubt themselves, especially after some students teased him.

Take a closer look at the problems.

We're always learning, and we don't know everything from the start. Being good at something doesn't mean we know everything about it. It just means we have a better grasp of the knowledge we've learned.

The person asking the questions is good at English, but when the teacher keeps asking questions and the person doesn't know the answers, they start to think it's their fault. Have they ever thought about why they feel embarrassed when they don't know the answers?

If you don't know the answer to a question, it just means you haven't mastered it yet. Spend more time on it and you'll be able to answer it fluently when you've mastered it. The original poster didn't announce to everyone else that he knew the answer, so no one knows whether he does or not.

I remember that during my school days, once in an English class, the teacher asked the monitor a question first, and the question was one that I could answer. I thought to myself that if I was called on, I could answer too. So I was really surprised when the teacher asked the second question and called on me. The word was too long to remember, so I thought about it for a while and admitted that I didn't know it. The teacher gave me a review and I remembered it.

It's not about luck. If you look at it the right way, admitting you're not good at something doesn't make you feel ashamed.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

The questioner thinks he's good at English because other people think so. But he's come to realise that he's not particularly talented in this area and still needs to work hard to achieve results.

After drawing a confident conclusion and seeing the results, some students spoke to the questioner in a strange and ambiguous way, which drained the questioner emotionally. This was exactly the effect the other person wanted, causing the questioner to become distracted from studying due to their emotions.

If you didn't get a good grade on a test you thought was easy, did you misunderstand the question or were you too worried about what others thought?

It's up to you whether you learn well or not. No one else has the right to tell you what to do. We don't need to set high expectations for ourselves just because others have high expectations of us and push us to reach certain goals. When we can't do it, the pressure of being overloaded will make us burn out.

Find the joy and freedom in being yourself.

It's easy for your emotions to be affected by the affirmation of others. Think about what you can gain from other people's comments. What can you gain from other people's attitudes?

We're all just ordinary people, and we can't make everyone like us. So why should we let ourselves be defined by other people's opinions?

True self-confidence comes from within, not from others. Being sensitive doesn't mean caring about what others think of us. It means using their comments to see our own shortcomings, face them, work on them, and improve so that we can grow.

I'd suggest reading "Low Self-Esteem and Transcendence" and "The Courage to Be Disliked." The more you read, the more you'll learn to adjust your mindset. When you're not afraid of being hated, you'll feel confident, and you'll stop worrying about what others think.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner. Best regards.

Hello, classmate! I totally get where you're coming from in your description. I really hope that what I'm sharing can help you!

When we were at school, we all had this mentality: if we made a mistake in our strong area, we would doubt ourselves. But after experiencing a few minor setbacks, coupled with the ridicule of other students, we would become increasingly distrustful of ourselves, and even develop a deep sense of fear!

Anxiety is simply a fear of mistakes.

Anxiety makes it tough to calm down. It's like you're on a rollercoaster! You get more impatient and agitated. This can lead to a decline in work or study. But don't worry! In the long term, you'll feel disgusted with everything.

Yes, classmate, I can totally see your fear of making mistakes in your description!

You know what? Making a mistake doesn't mean anything. It's not a disgrace. Don't take it too seriously. It will make you feel very depressed. The more you look at something, the more you don't like it.

And this will become a burden for you. You feel like you have failed, and you will never succeed in other areas that you consider your weaknesses.

As you mentioned in your article, you made a mistake in an English class, which was also your best subject. This led to a different opinion of you from your classmates, who now see you as even more impressive than before!

Plus, in a few exams, you told your classmates that they weren't difficult, but you didn't do so well yourself. This gave the other students a chance to see that you're not perfect, and that's okay!

As a result, you are constantly surrounded by this negative emotion, constantly living in the process of making mistakes, unable to move on. But here's the good news! You can change this!

This same emotion also made you not perform as well as you would have liked in a few exams. But that's OK! It's all part of the learning journey. You just need to pull yourself together and adjust your learning state. We've all heard the saying "examine yourself three times a day," and you can use this to remind yourself. What do I worry about most? What should I do? You can talk to your teacher and get some encouragement and advice from them, so that they can help you out of your current predicament. You can also communicate with your parents to let them know about your recent studies and psychological state, so that they can

Classmate, you can do this! All you need to do is pull yourself together and adjust your learning state.

We've all heard the saying, "examine yourself three times a day." And guess what? You can use it to remind yourself, too!

What's on my mind? What can I do to make things better?

Absolutely! You can talk to your teacher and get some encouragement and advice from them, so that they can help you out of your current predicament.

You can also chat with your parents about your recent studies and how you're feeling, so they can cheer you on and help you out!

When things happen, we should face them head-on with confidence. We should make renewed efforts, bring our strengths into play, and let everyone know that "in three days, you should be impressed."

Come on, believe in yourself! You are the best, and I know you can do it!

Hello, sweetheart! I'm a heart coach.

You can feel it. After entering high school, you've encountered all kinds of mishaps. You've fallen from the pedestal of being a recognized "good student" in junior high school, and you feel a great sense of disparity. This makes you feel very embarrassed. You're annoyed, you blame yourself, and you're annoyed by the ridicule of your classmates. You even don't want to go to school anymore.

I'm here for you, my friend. I know you care a lot about your appearance, especially how you look in the eyes of others. It's natural to care about the comments from your classmates and friends. When you get positive appreciation and encouragement, it fills you with confidence and strength. But when you get negative comments, it can also affect your sense of worth.

Let's chat about this together, shall we?

1. It's totally normal to feel a bit lost when you move from junior high to high school. It's a big change! It's important to give yourself time to adjust and find your own way.

I can see that you were recognized as a good student in junior high school, especially in English. Everyone had high expectations of you, and your teachers liked to ask you questions. This all shows that you are a studious and high-achieving student, which I think is great!

What you see here is your confidence, but after entering high school, things have gone wrong again and again. I know it can be tough, but you've got this! The words "every time," "all the time," and "always" have implanted a limiting belief in you: "I know I'm capable," but "why is bad luck always on my side?"

It's totally normal to worry about things when you're starting high school. It's a big change and it's natural to have some concerns. But it's important to remember that your brain is wired to find evidence to prove you're unlucky. This is called Murphy's Law. It basically means that the more you worry about something, the more likely it is to happen. So, try not to think about that white elephant!

I just want to check in with you for a second. Is it really a white elephant in your mind?

The transition from junior high school to high school is a big one, and it requires a lot of adjustments and changes in mentality and learning methods. It's totally normal to need some time to adjust to the new environment and to find new ways of learning that work for you.

I'm sure you'll find this semester a great opportunity to look back on your experiences and feelings and do some good summing up and reflection.

It's amazing what you can achieve when you turn passivity into initiative, problems into resources, and remember that it's never too late to make a change. Don't let the past hold you back, take responsibility for your actions, and things will naturally improve.

?2. Why do you care so much about what others think and say? It's because you care about yourself and your worth.

I can't "prove" myself, and that's okay! When we're confident in our own value, there's no need to "prove" it. It's like a rich person who doesn't need to prove they're rich. At the same time, life is ours, and there's no need to prove it to others.

It's totally normal to feel embarrassed when you can't answer a question. Studying is a great thing to do, and learning new things is really fun! But when your classmates tease you about it, it can be pretty frustrating. It's natural to care what others think of you, but try not to let it get to you.

Let's take a look at the two levels of self-confidence. One comes from the outside, like affirmation, praise, and recognition from others. These can really enhance our sense of worth and thus our self-confidence! But these external factors are beyond our control. When we hand over the choice of our lives to the hands of others, we can end up feeling pretty desperate.

Another great way to build self-confidence is to have confidence in yourself as a person. You don't have to prove anything to anyone because you already know your worth. Your sense of worth is just your own personal opinion of yourself, and it's not affected by what others think.

It's so easy to lose sight of our own value when we're not sure of ourselves. We can end up living in the eyes of others and letting others' opinions define us.

The monitor's response was simply, "My heart suddenly became balanced." Sometimes it's really nice to have a little A-Q mental victory in life. It's a great way to free yourself from the pressure of thinking and go into battle lightly.

The three years of high school will soon be over. It's a big moment! Have you been studying to prove to others that you are strong, or have you been fighting for your ideals and goals?

Self-exploration and self-growth is a process, and with the help of this life experience that has lasted almost a semester, you will gain new insights. I wish you all the best and lots of happiness!

I really hope this is helpful for you. I love you so much, and so does the world. ?

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