A poor child with exceptional talent who has fallen into disgrace under the yoke of the family

A gesture of physical affection is offered initially.

The circumstances you have outlined indicate that you have encountered a multitude of challenges throughout your upbringing. These include residing in a single-parent household, a lack of emotional support, over-indulgence, a dearth of guidance and opportunities for self-development. These factors may have contributed to the stunted development of your emotional capabilities, a low sense of self-worth, and uncertainty and anxiety about the future.

The decision to leave one's home and embark on a new life is a significant one, necessitating careful consideration and planning. To assist in navigating this transition, the following recommendations are offered:

1. The primary objective is to achieve self-acceptance, which entails accepting oneself fully, including one's strengths and weaknesses. One's value is not contingent on achievements or family background alone; rather, it is intrinsic and contingent on one's individuality and potential as a human being.

2. Emotional Expression: It is recommended that individuals attempt to identify and utilize healthy methods for emotional expression, which may include activities such as writing, art, exercise, or engaging in conversation with a trusted friend or counselor.

3. **Building independence**: The acquisition of the skills necessary for independent living, including financial management, cooking, cleaning, and other daily living skills, can enhance self-confidence and self-reliance.

4. Education and Career Planning: Consider your interests and talents and develop an education and career plan, which may include further education, training, or professional development.

5. It is recommended that students endeavor to establish or expand their support network, which may include friends, classmates, community members, or professionals who can provide emotional and practical support.

6. Self-care: It is important to learn how to care for one's physical and mental health. This includes maintaining a healthy lifestyle, getting sufficient rest, proper nutrition, and moderate exercise.

7. **Explore new interests**: It is beneficial to engage in novel activities and explore new interests. This can facilitate the discovery of new passions and goals.

8. Psychological Counseling: It is recommended that individuals seeking assistance with psychological issues contact a qualified mental health professional. These professionals are trained to assist clients in processing past experiences, developing healthier thought patterns, and providing guidance for future endeavors.

9. Set Small Goals: It is recommended that individuals begin setting small, achievable goals, as this will assist in fostering a sense of accomplishment and motivation to move forward.

10. Patience and persistence are essential for facilitating change. It is crucial to remain patient and maintain a positive attitude towards one's progress.

It is important to remember that each individual's growth trajectory is distinct, and they have the capacity to construct their own life. While past experiences may have an influence on an individual's present circumstances, they retain the agency to determine the course of their future.

One's departure from the familial residence does not necessitate the severance of all connections; rather, it entails the pursuit of a lifestyle and a state of contentment that align with one's personal values and aspirations.

Good day. I am a heart exploration coach, known as Gu Daoxi Fengshou Skinny Donkey.

I was also a child who was left behind. Although I was not an only child, my parents were often unavailable, and it was during my efforts to survive that my parents lacked the capacity to care about my feelings. I was still the eldest child in the family, and I bore the brunt of the blame when I made mistakes.

Although I am a single parent, the love and support that the questioner can receive may be comparable to or even exceed that of mine. My grandparents exhibited a preference for their sons over their daughters, and my parents were frequently absent from the home. I was primarily raised by my grandmother, who was not in good health, which required me to assume responsibility for preparing my own meals. In terms of essentials such as clothing, food, housing, and transportation, the questioner may not have grounds for self-pity.

It is not unexpected that grandparents lavish affection on their grandchildren. Grandparents and grandchildren have a strong bond, and modern parenting can be challenging. Grandparents also have concerns about the well-being of their grandchildren. Additionally, they may empathize with the OP due to the absence of his parents, leading to a tendency to be more indulgent towards him.

Although the questioner is a single parent, her mother did not ignore her after the divorce and would occasionally visit on weekends. Despite the lack of affection and care, the questioner may not have been left with nothing, as she perceived. Despite her mother's divorce, she still had to pay child support for the questioner. It is more challenging for women to earn money than for men.

It is my considered opinion that the original poster's assertion that no individual has demonstrated interest in the poster's personal growth and future aspirations is inaccurate. There are two reasons for this conclusion. First, each individual bears responsibility for their own life. The indifference of others cannot be used as a justification for one's own shortcomings. Second, the capacity of parents to plan for their children depends on their own vision, abilities, and other factors. It is not a question of whether they are capable but unwilling.

Some individuals express concern that their parents did not adequately prepare them for life's challenges, while others allege that their parents exerted excessive control over their lives. A more comprehensive analysis suggests that these sentiments may reflect a tendency to evade accountability, attributing personal shortcomings to parental shortcomings.

This may be an attempt to avoid responsibility.

The questioner may be able to discern whether their own constraints originate from their original family or from their own lack of acceptance. As the adage states, "Trauma is not your fault, but recovery is your responsibility."

The original family exerted a profound influence on the questioner during the first two decades of his life. However, does the questioner truly desire to perpetuate the consequences of those formative years for the remainder of his life? It is possible that a shift in perspective might yield a different answer.

The questioner may benefit from maintaining an emotional diary to facilitate the recognition of their emotions, the identification of their inner emotions, and the discernment between facts and emotions.

One should endeavor to accept oneself and achieve a state of inner peace. It is important to recognize that no path in life is inherently futile; each step contributes to the overall journey.

Despite the presence of past experiences characterised by adversity, the potential for positive outcomes remains. The questioner may recognise that they were unable to decline or alter the circumstances of the past.

However, you have reached adulthood and are capable of self-sufficiency, with the capacity to create the life you desire for yourself.

Forgiving others does not necessarily result in an improvement in one's emotional state. However, the act of letting go of the past and reconciling with oneself can assist the individual in question in relinquishing the psychological burden and moving forward with a sense of optimism. In "The Wuxin Master 3," the immortal Wuxin has been unable to commit suicide due to the immense pain he has endured.

Qingluan posited that death is not the sole avenue for finding solace; rather, it is the act of letting go. Thus, the mind, every 100 years, seals away memories, sleeps for a while, and wakes up to a brand new beginning.

One might suggest that mindfulness is a beneficial practice to adopt. It is unlikely that continually focusing on pain and self-pity will lead to an improvement in one's quality of life. Indeed, the tendency to remain in a state of emotional distress, coupled with an inability to disengage from it, may actually exacerbate the situation. Instead, it may be more constructive to direct one's attention to one's positive attributes and the actions one can take to improve one's circumstances. This shift in perspective can provide a sense of agency and control over one's life.

It is recommended that the following texts be read: "Finding Your Place in the World," "Living a Life You Don't Own," "A Single Thought Can Change Everything," and "Cognitive Awakening."

I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

The questioner wrote at the end of the article, "Break away from your family, face yourself, and start a new life." Let's focus on these three points.

First, we will answer the question of leaving the family through the content of the introduction to roughly understand some of the situation of the questioner. Here, we will not discuss who is right, who is wrong, who is good and who is bad. We know that these are irrelevant to us. If we want to break free from the shackles of our family, we need to examine what we can do now.

If you don't know what you want yet, that's okay. First, figure out why you want to escape from your family.

Here, talking about motivation and initial intention is about "facing ourselves." Understanding motivation helps us identify why we do what we do. Initial intention is our purpose and pursuit at the beginning, which is shaped by our wishes. Understanding these elements helps us recognize ourselves and see the importance of our current actions. They influence our decision-making and planning our life direction and goals, which in turn affect "starting a new life."

Starting a new life also means a new beginning, a new life, and new hope. "But when I face the pressure of reality, I feel the helplessness of the shackles formed during my growth." In fact, no matter who is growing up, there will be various problems that will form various shackles and restrictions. It is also a normal reaction for us to feel helpless. We should not be disappointed about this, and we should not feel that such a self lacks strength. In fact, starting a new life means that we need to acknowledge the existence of these shackles and restrictions, and have the courage to face the reality.

This may be difficult for the original poster, but change is never easy for anyone. Growing up means breaking free from shackles and restrictions, just like bamboo shoots breaking through the soil after the rain. The bamboo shoots grow and accumulate energy in the soil until the spring rain arrives and they break through the soil. This is like our own experiences. The "spring rain" may be a change in reality, an episode, or this question. We can show the parts of ourselves that we are good at and talented at.

We will break the shackles and become the person we really want to be. This requires courage and a clear goal and plan. Starting a new life means saying goodbye to our past selves. In fact, on the journey of pursuing our true selves, we will improve ourselves and find our true selves and direction.

When we look back, we see that those shackles and restrictions have been unable to hold us back, and we have achieved our goal of escaping from the family.

A thousand-mile journey begins with the first step. We must consider the most important things and missions at hand, achieve these plans and goals, and start from now to become ourselves and start a new life.

The key to personal growth and transformation is learning to truly love others and adapt to people and situations. This helps to correct our energy field and avoid or alleviate negative emotions.

To truly love others means to wish them happiness and to accept or forgive everyone, the outstanding, the ordinary, and the weak mentally. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, they can be corrected. Everyone has the right to happiness, no matter how close or distant the relationship is, whether it is right or wrong, gain or loss. We all hope that others can be happy. People can bring each other spiritual comfort and even joy. It is good to love and accept others and yourself, to tolerate shortcomings and lack of ability, and to be kind at heart. In other words, it is beneficial to others or society, not to despise or reject ordinary people, not to be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you don't get along with most people, it can lead to negative energy and emotional problems. To truly love others and adapt to people and things, you need to correct your energy field so that you are more likely to find and have a loving and suitable relationship and career. You can also share and exchange what you see, hear, think, feel, or are interested in, including books, movies, music, etc., with others in real life and on the Internet, such as Douban communities.

At the same time, make the most of your love life and enjoy the little things.

Negative energy can affect your physical health. Treating your body right can give you a full-body massage. The head massage includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. Give the head a deep, firm massage, and massage the stomach with a firm massage brush. Don't massage the stomach on an empty stomach, and then take a walk.

If you're feeling negative, it'll affect you physically and mentally. You'll often come across unhappy people and situations, conflicts with others, relationship and marriage problems (which will affect your energy), and even problems at work. This is because when you're too focused on yourself, you build up a lot of negative energy. The more self-centered you are, the more your energy will be out of sync with other people's. You need to learn how to truly love others and adapt to them, so you can correct your energy, resolve conflicts, improve your emotions and relationships, and better solve the above problems. In addition, if you know how to truly love the people and things in the world, you won't be too attached to love, and you'll be able to alleviate negative emotions such as separation anxiety and pain. You won't feel lacking inside, and you'll be able to feel happiness. Only in this way can your life become fulfilling and meaningful.

If needed, they can also help those around them grow and change together.

How excessive self-centeredness shows up varies from person to person. It can manifest as a psychological motivation to pursue self-satisfaction, compete for self-importance, suppress self-deprecation and ingratiate oneself, give unreservedly in order to gain, or fear losing. It can also show up as being too narcissistic or inferior, paying too much attention to oneself, generating stress and worry, social phobia, being caught up in one's own emotions and thoughts, attaching too much importance to what others think of oneself, not accepting one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, striving for one's own perfection, being obsessive, controlling, possessing others or forcing others to satisfy oneself, otherwise resenting and being discontent, being unable to let go of oneself to forgive and forgive, brooding, and more.

If you focus only on yourself, you'll end up feeling anxious, depressed, and tired. You might even struggle to adapt to the people and environment at your school or workplace. But if you truly love others and adapt to them, you'll naturally look down on yourself and restore positive energy.

In short, do your best, have good intentions, and don't cause harm to others because nobody wants to suffer.