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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Good day. I extend my warmest regards from afar.
The emotional distress caused by the dissolution of a romantic relationship can manifest as feelings of profound loneliness and abandonment.
From your description, it is evident that you validate your worth by demonstrating your ability to be needed and loved. The conclusion of the relationship is perceived as a reflection of your inadequacy and worthlessness. Is this an accurate assessment? It is likely not.
The reason for your current situation is rooted in the way you were treated during your upbringing. It is possible that your parents were emotionally unresponsive and neglectful towards you. Regardless of your achievements, you were unable to receive your parents' affirmation and recognition. Although this is not your fault, as a child, you would attribute your parents' treatment of you to your perceived inadequacies. If you did not experience being valued and cared for emotionally during your upbringing, you would bring the part that you were once owed in your original family into your intimate relationships. That is, you always long to be loved, and in order for this need to be met, you would put yourself at a low level in your intimate relationships and even cater to and please others.
What are your thoughts on this matter? When facing a breakup, it is common to subconsciously attribute all the reasons to one's own inadequacy. However, the truth is that when facing a breakup in an intimate relationship, one is in an emotional state of extreme need to be seen and responded to. However, this need is often accompanied by feelings of guilt and self-blame.
It is therefore important to focus on self-care and self-acceptance, rather than on the treatment you receive from others. Do you feel you can accept yourself fully and without reservation?
It is not uncommon to experience rejection in a relationship. However, it is important to understand that being rejected and abandoned in a relationship does not necessarily indicate that you are not a suitable partner or that you are inherently flawed. A relationship is a dynamic process that requires the active engagement and interaction of both parties. Therefore, the dissolution of a relationship is often the result of a lack of effort or a deficiency in one or both partners. It is not necessary to assume full responsibility for the termination of a relationship. Instead, it is more beneficial to take an active approach in identifying areas where you may have fallen short or where you could have improved. Through this process, you can gain valuable insights and develop the skills necessary to love and be loved in a healthy and fulfilling way.
I suggest you read How to Make the One You Love Fall in Love With You.
My name is Lily, and I am the Q&A Museum's newest addition. I extend my warmest regards to you all, and I wish you the best.
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I can totally relate to how you're feeling. It's so strange how sometimes we realize our feelings more deeply after someone is gone. I wish I had the right words to make you feel better.
It sounds like this breakup has really taken a toll on you. Maybe it would help to talk to a friend or even seek professional support. It's important not to go through this alone.
The hallucinations and constant thoughts about him are signs that you're struggling to let go. Try focusing on yourself and doing things that bring you joy. Healing takes time, but you'll get there.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Sometimes people come into our lives for a reason, even if it's just for a short while. Maybe this was a lesson in understanding what you truly want in a partner.
Breaking up over something like dietary choices seems so trivial compared to the emotional connection you two shared. It's heartbreaking that despite all the feelings, such differences led to this outcome. Take care of yourself during this tough time.