After four years of diagnosing with depression, facing numerous hardships and challenges, I am truly exhausted.

Hello? Questioner, after reading your description, I can see you're feeling confused. Let me give you a warm hug, if that would help?

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I'm going to quote from the book The Power of Self-Growth here. It says that as long as we're still judging, we want to kill ourselves and become a stereotypical character. But our instinct is to live our own lives. We're alive, so how can we allow you to just kill yourself? Our conscious mind wants to change through education, but the subconscious mind's drive to live our own lives does not want to change.

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We experience internal conflict, contradictions, and entanglements in the struggle between consciousness and subconsciousness. It's really tough when you think too much and can't achieve your goals. I was depressed for several years in high school. At the time, I really wanted to get into a good university, but I just couldn't do it. The pressure was so intense that my thoughts just stopped working, and I couldn't study anymore. I was just rambling on and on!

The good thing is that it's tough to keep a diary, and I think you've got your own way of doing it!

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When we hit a snag, it's only natural to feel down and think about death. But I believe that the difficulties will soon pass and won't last forever. It's a necessary process for self-improvement, just like an electrocardiogram, which has its highs and lows.

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If you're diagnosed with depression, you're in a good position to recognize the signs and find ways to adjust and solve it. Online counseling has also improved since the pandemic. There are more counselors on this platform, and you can consult via video.

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You've also thought about a few different safe places. People in the countryside go to bed and get up early. Would it be better to choose staggered times? The fields are huge and empty.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that my ideas have given you some inspiration and help!

Hello!

Thank you for sharing this important moment with us.

Depression and socializing must have been difficult for you.

After all your hard work, it must be very important for you to have enough money.

I can see you're working hard and taking counseling seriously.

You've looked at different counseling options and considered what makes a good counselor.

You're eager for the next counseling session to go well.

You're eager for the next counseling session to help you get out of depression.

You want counseling to help you return to normal social and work life.

I believe that no matter what happens in counseling,

Your commitment to the consultation is enough to get things started.

The more you value the consultation, the more you get out of it.

All costs during the consultation are valuable. This includes time, money, and energy.

Advice:

Your surroundings make you feel insecure.

Your expectations are high, but the consultation is gradual.

If you can afford it, have your first meeting in person.

This lets the consultant assess your situation better and discuss a suitable goal.

Online counseling requires a suitable space. You should feel safe, private, and distraction-free.

If you can't find a good place for the consultation, it's not unusual to spend an hour or two on the way there. Ask your family to provide a quiet environment for you at a fixed time once a week.

Or find a fixed space where you can get undisturbed time. Or spend more time on the road so the counselor can help you.

I hope this helps. Thanks for your question.

Dear questioner, I'm Peilü.

I'll give you a hug.

I have suffered from depression for four years. It has been torture.

You decide to do an online consultation, but you can't find a place.

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The person asking the question said they have been depressed for four years. They did not get support, so their depression has not gone away. Now they can have an online consultation, but they have not found a place for it. They feel anxious and worried.

Hug you, don't worry. Online counseling is a good option for you right now. As long as you have a good internet signal, a quiet place, and privacy, it's fine.

You can find a place to hide in the countryside. Think of a riverside or an open field. You could also look for a room in an internet cafe. These are good options because you can avoid people while staying private. They are also cheaper than a hotel.

During the depression, you felt your social skills had declined and you were unable to work. You did not receive understanding or support from your family and friends. Furthermore, your family had a complex structure and you had many acquaintances in the countryside, so you were worried about your privacy. You often thought about death, but you still wanted to get out of this state as soon as possible. You did not want to continue suffering from the misunderstanding, cold eyes, and contempt of others.

You've been depressed for years, alone with loneliness and despair. I'm sad for you, so I'll give you a hug. I still see your desire to survive, which is a good start.

If you work with your treatment, you will get your life back. Don't give up.

Causes of depression

Depression.

Depression is the main type of mood disorder. It is characterized by low mood, slow thinking, reduced activity, cognitive impairment, and some somatic symptoms.

Depression is a common mental illness. We don't know exactly what causes it, but it's related to the patient's physical, mental, and social environment.

People with depression often feel sad, hopeless, and have suicidal thoughts. But you can help yourself by seeking help from professionals.

—Personal advice—

Eat a balanced diet.

Not getting enough vitamins B1, B3, B6 and minerals like calcium, magnesium and iron can cause depression. Eating on time and getting the right nutrients is important.

Exercise to improve your fitness.

Exercise helps your body to stay healthy.

Your health is the foundation of a revolution.

Think positively.

Every day, cheer yourself up, have a positive mindset, and boost your self-confidence. For example, every morning, smile in the mirror and tell yourself, "You're the best!"

Know yourself and learn to express negative emotions.

When you're depressed, don't try to get out of it. The more you resist, the worse you'll feel. Stay calm and try to understand what you're feeling. Then, let it out in whatever way feels right for you.

I hope this helps.

I hope you get better soon.

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I love you, world.

Hello, dear.

From your description, it is clear that your life situation and personal circumstances are extremely challenging. However, I can also see that you are doing your best in your own way, striving for the life and lifestyle you want.

You have the ability to adapt to this real life. You have your own thinking and awareness, and you must acknowledge the limitations that the environment brings. Your own family of origin, living environment, and the influence and mode of getting along with your parents and relatives are also linked to your own situation.

You feel insecure in a specific environment, facing the intricacies of your parents and loved ones. If you do counseling in your own room, you worry about being found out and having your neighbors gossip. They may not understand the matter and use their limited knowledge and thinking to judge you.

This is particularly the case if you are in a situation where you feel depressed and insecure. For instance, if your parents and relatives are not the kind of people who can communicate and interact with you effectively, and if they are always secretly reading your diary behind your back or secretly paying attention to your behaviour, but then they don't communicate with you, interact with you or participate in your life and studies, they can only give you their own examples and support, but they will only use their own perceptions to make wild guesses and label you.

It is also important to recognise that children are independent individuals who deserve respect, protection and the maintenance of their self-esteem. They will also speak freely about them in front of their relatives, friends and neighbours.

Start now. It's the best time to get started. It's like earning your first sufficient amount of money through your own work and efforts. You can do the things you want to do, the things that can help you. You can also go to a teacher for psychological counseling. After that, you can gradually achieve the life and lifestyle you want through your own efforts.

This particular environment and other people do not influence us; it is not our fault. Neither is it their doing. This environment and other people have their inherent limitations. We can only perceive the objective existence of the outside world clearly when we look at what we can do in our own way to bring ourselves good feelings and experiences. We can enhance our growth and development, manage our own lives well, and strive for the lifestyle we want through our own efforts. We must pay more attention to appreciation.

You must make time to relax and get along with your parents when you return to your hometown. You should also take this opportunity to become more independent and self-reliant.

Hello! I just wanted to say that I think you're really brave for actively seeking family-refuses-treatment-what-should-i-do-5293.html" target="_blank">treatment for your depression through your own sustained efforts. As long as you don't give up on yourself, no one can give up on you. What do you think?

I can tell you've been putting aside money to get treatment because your family hasn't been able to support you. I can imagine how urgent you want to get this done.

It seems like you don't think there's a safe place for you to go to get counseling because you're worried that if you do, people around you will find out about your depression. This shows that deep down, you're not ready to accept that you have depression.

You mentioned that you've been dealing with depression for four years. If you were diagnosed by a tertiary hospital psychiatric department, it's important to get timely medication because patients with depression often lose some of their self-care abilities and have difficulty adapting. Without treatment, they won't be able to recover on their own. However, from what you've shared, it seems like you don't have the support and company of your family, and you haven't received treatment. You're basically relying on your own inner strength to live independently, which shows that you're not having difficulties adapting to life. What are your thoughts on this?

So, you should try to find out if the depression you describe has actually been diagnosed by a tertiary hospital psychiatrist, or if you've just labeled yourself based on some emotional states and behavioral manifestations that are thought to be symptoms of depression.

What kind of support and help do you want from your family members when you're feeling depressed? For example, you might want to be noticed, valued, or cared for.

When you can try to explore the needs behind your "depression," you may be able to understand and accept your behavior more, and then try to respond and meet your inner needs in a better way.

For instance, you could try expressing to your family members how you'd like to be treated and then try to meet this part of your needs through your own efforts.

You can keep an emotional diary to help you understand your emotions better, reflect on your behavior, and identify your needs. This can help you communicate, interact, and support your family in a healthier way.

Hi, I'm Lily, the Q&A Center's resident listener. I just wanted to say that I love you all and I'm here for you.

It is unfortunate that you are now seeking online counseling but are unsure of where to obtain private psychological counseling. You desire assistance and affection, yet your family dynamics appear somewhat complex, and there is a lack of privacy. This may also be a highly emotional juncture.

The fact that you have now raised the necessary funds is a positive development. While you are now situated in a rural location, there are advantages to this choice. The land is vast and sparsely populated, which makes it easier to find forests or other types of abandoned properties.

There are numerous challenges and obstacles, which are extremely taxing and have resulted in a depressive disorder.

Four years after the initial diagnosis, I am still experiencing significant challenges. I require additional support to navigate these difficulties.

The social work force is in decline, which has resulted in an inability to provide treatment.

Depression

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It is recommended that you find a place where you can receive psychological counseling in privacy. It is important to make the necessary adjustments to yourself so that you can face your current situation effectively. Your current situation requires a significant amount of support.

It is recommended that you consider locations such as the mountains or a secluded house, as these would be ideal for your purposes.

It is essential to have a private space for psychological counseling.

The objective is to become independent as soon as possible.

I am unaware of your age, but I believe you have reached a point where you need to make a decision. It is also important for you to become more independent. In addition to the mountains and forests, you may wish to consider other locations, such as small houses, new houses, old houses, parks, and other places where counseling services are available.

Your objective is to identify a suitable counseling service as soon as possible. You aspire to lead a fulfilling life, and your determination to survive is commendable. This is an asset you possess.

You are currently experiencing a high level of negative thoughts. It is recommended that you engage in some self-adjustment outside of psychological counseling. You may wish to discuss your feelings with someone, or you can meditate when you have some free time.

Additionally, it is advisable to reduce expectations of others and allow for more reflection on personal life goals. It is possible to live a more authentic life, and reading can be a valuable way to gain insights and support this process.

For example, the following titles are recommended for further reading: "Goodbye Codependency," "A Life Not Controlled by Parents," "The Wound of Motherly Love Also Has the Power to Heal," and "Who's in Your Family: The Choices of Individual Chinese Families." These books will help you improve your self-control. It should be noted that breaking through depression is also a process of growth.

Please advise.