After recovering from depression, how to give oneself love, companionship, and warmth?

I can tell you're depression/over-30-struggling-to-find-motivation-for-work-and-life-feeling-miserable-what-to-do-4749.html" target="_blank">struggling with a lot of things right now. It's totally normal to feel this way. I'm here to help you work through your concerns. We can talk about how to live well after depression, how to overcome stress, emptiness, and trauma, and anything else you're struggling with. You're doing great just being open with me about your situation.

It's so important to give yourself love, companionship, and warmth because these are things you value greatly. While it's wonderful to recover from depression, it can sometimes leave a void in your emotions and affect your motor skills.

It's totally normal to feel a bit empty inside, like you don't have any privacy, and like the May holiday doesn't really apply to you. It can feel like happiness is all around you, while you're still trying to improve your social skills and enhance your interpersonal relationships.

I can see that you're looking for counseling, which is a great idea! It shows that you're open to help from others and trying to heal yourself. We can accept guidance from others, but it's also important to be aware of the light within ourselves.

If you can see the resources you have now, you may not feel so deprived. It's so helpful to write down the resources you have. These are worth taking the time to sort through, so that you can see that you actually have many advantages. When you can look at yourself patiently and start from the other side of the coin, you can focus on the good things about yourself.

Even if you feel lonely and isolated, there are still lots of interesting things you can do that will make you happy. As your dedicated and honest life coach, I'd love to recommend you read some books on contemporary healing. I think you'll find "Life Organizing Action Plan", "The Psychological Thing: 25 Secret Words Hidden in Everyone's Heart", "Loneliness Is a Kind of Freedom", and "One Day One Shelter" really helpful.

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Hello!

Host:

I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I understand you want to love and support yourself.

The host has also sought help on the platform, which will help her understand herself better.

Next, I will share my thoughts on the post, which may help you see things differently.

1. How do you relate to yourself?

The post says you can build a close relationship with yourself. This is the most important thing. After reading this, I agree with what you said.

Let's look at how we relate to ourselves.

To relate to ourselves, we have to look within and understand ourselves. We can think about how we relate to others.

We need to understand others to have a good relationship with them. The more we know about someone, the better we understand them and the closer our relationship will be.

Is this not also true when we build a relationship with ourselves? We get to know and understand ourselves better.

I knew why I felt that way, what I needed, what I was feeling, what I liked and didn't like, and what I allowed and didn't allow.

As we learn more about ourselves, we develop a deeper relationship with ourselves.

2. Connection

When you know yourself better, you feel more connected to yourself.

I'll share my sense of connection with you. When I met people who lived nearby, they would always ask me what I did and where I went.

I would often say, "Go play," and then leave them alone.

Later, after I studied psychology, they asked me again. I said I was going out to play. I didn't like being asked like that. I didn't want to tell them what I was doing.

I felt like I understood myself and knew myself. I also felt a sense of connection. Another time, I noticed that my heart was beating faster. I felt discomfort in my heart area.

I focused on this area and asked myself what was going on. I realized I was anxious. That instant, I felt connected again.

Knowing and understanding ourselves and being aware of our bodies and emotions can help us have a better relationship with ourselves.

3. Love is understanding and acceptance.

The host talked about how to love yourself. Then we can explore love together.

Rogers says love is understanding and acceptance. What does that mean?

A deep understanding is knowing and understanding oneself. It is knowing one's actions, heart, emotions, and why one is the way one is today.

You know your strengths and weaknesses. And acceptance?

It's about accepting yourself, your good and bad parts, and not blaming yourself. Acceptance is about letting yourself be yourself.

4. "The Art of Love"

In "The Art of Love," it is said that love comes from maternal and paternal love. Maternal love is unconditional, while paternal love is conditional.

These two types of love help us to love ourselves. The book says that love can be learned.

I won't go into detail here. The book explains it much better. If you're interested, you can read it.

I hope this helps and inspires you. If you have questions, you can find a coach for one-on-one communication, companionship, and growth.

Hello, landlord. I hope my answer helps.

I admire the host for exploring, experimenting, and practicing. I can see your progress. Keep it up! It will get better.

How can you keep yourself company?

Accompanying means being there for you when you need support and encouragement, and helping you to be brave.

Companionship is not just between people, but also with yourself. Many people don't know how to be alone. This is an important topic.

We can:

Keep exercise as a companion.

Do the sports you like to relax your body and mind while improving your fitness. Sports help you feel strong and happy. They help you feel good in mind and body.

2. Write as a companion.

Writing can help you heal. Expressive writing is for your mind. It helps you feel better. It is different from other types of writing.

We can write our feelings and thoughts on paper without worrying about how they look or make sense.

3. Spend time in nature.

We are part of nature. When we go into nature, we feel relaxed and happy.

When you have time, go for a walk in nature, see the natural wonders, and feel the greatness of life. You can also go to a nearby grove, walk by a stream, climb a hill with flowers...

When we feel connected to nature, we feel at peace.

4. Keep painting as a friend.

Painting is also good for your mental health. When you paint, you feel calm and in control. You can also use special types of painting, like mandalas, to calm yourself. "The Secret Garden" is a good example.

5. Keep books with you.

Books contain wisdom from authors' lives. Read books you like, and they can help you.

We can also listen to books, such as those in the Yixin Reading Club, as well as audio recordings of courses and articles that interest us. These are my favorite things to do when I'm alone.

6. Do your hobbies.

Do things you enjoy. Read, learn an instrument, join a club, go hiking, go jogging, paint, meditate, grow flowers and plants, make tea, cook, bake, walk the dog...

When you know how to be there for others, they will be there for you.

How can we be better companions in relationships?

People have always lived in groups.

In ancient times, people lived in groups to survive. When we encounter difficulties, we feel less anxious when we return to the group.

During the recent floods in Henan, many people felt scared when they were alone. But when they moved to a higher floor and waited with others for rescue, they felt safer.

People will develop relationships with each other. This is called an interpersonal relationship.

How can we be better companions?

The best company is the kind that shares your emotions.

When you feel wronged, I feel wronged; when you are sad, I feel sad; when you are angry, I feel angry; when you are nervous, I feel nervous; when you are happy, I feel happy; when you are excited, I feel excited.

This is empathy.

Empathy is about sharing your feelings with someone who is angry, upset, or sad. It's about being there for them and feeling what they feel.

We can use the "monkey technique" to improve our emotional sensitivity and understanding of others.

The monkey technique is about accurately reproducing the physical changes that an emotion causes.

If you laugh, walk with a spring in your step, and look around, you will feel happy.

If you frown, moan, and put your hand on your head like you're sad, you'll feel sad.

Mimicking someone's posture lets you share their emotions.

This method can sometimes comfort others by showing you understand them.

Repeating what he says makes it even better.

However, we still need to be careful not to exaggerate when imitating. This can make the other person feel mocked. What we need to do is adjust our body language so the other person doesn't notice. For example, when you are with a generous person, you can imitate them by laughing loudly and making hand gestures, but don't use their voice.

If you don't understand someone, imitate to feel them. If you do, imitate to show you share their attitude.

If someone feels the same way, I'll like them.

Companionship is not one-sided. I hope you have many ways to enjoy yourself and good relationships.

Best wishes!

Good day.

I am pleased to see your question and respect your courage in asking it.

I imagine that going through ten years of depression and this process was challenging for you. I believe that only those who have truly experienced these situations can fully understand them.

I would like to take this opportunity to pay my respects to you. I do not mean to flatter you, but I see that when an individual is facing challenges in life, they still strive to persevere and find a way to overcome them. This demonstrates that you possess a strong resilience and a strong desire for positive outcomes.

This is a noteworthy achievement. I commend you for your ongoing learning, exploration, and practice, as well as your humble demeanor.

In light of the above, I will proceed to share my personal thoughts.

When you mentioned your confusion, you stated, "How can I provide myself with love, companionship, and warmth without spending material things or through other people?" It appears that you are attempting to eliminate certain elements, including material things and other people, and that your feelings towards them have shifted.

Naturally, I am merely speculating, and I would appreciate your confirmation.

As you have observed, your previous spending habits were driven by an underlying fear of facing your inner feelings of deprivation. With the gradual disappearance of these feelings, you now have a greater need for money to support a wider range of expenses, and you are more cautious about how you spend it.

You made a crucial point: a sense of deprivation. I believe that each of us has the capacity to heal ourselves. When we spend money frivolously, it is often a result of previous emotional deprivation, which we attempt to satisfy through such means.

You made a very important point: the sense of deprivation. I believe that each of us has the capacity to heal ourselves. When we spend money frivolously in an attempt to satisfy our needs, we are actually attempting to satisfy the emotional sense of deprivation caused by past denial.

It is therefore important to understand the emotions that drive our spending decisions. While it is clear that excessive spending is not beneficial, attempting to restrict ourselves without understanding our true inner needs may result in greater unhappiness.

Furthermore, you mentioned that you have cultivated an intimate relationship with yourself, providing yourself with love, warmth, and companionship. I concur with this assessment.

I believe I understand your meaning. After years of learning and personal growth, you have come to recognize that your relationship with yourself is harmonious, that there is no internal conflict, and that you can interact with yourself in a productive manner. Is that correct?

To illustrate, I am not only capable of satisfying my own needs, but I also maintain an openness to human interaction. I am able to trust others and seek the comfort of others when needed.

As posited by self-psychologist Kohut, the relationship with the self-object is a fundamental aspect of psychological activity throughout an individual's lifespan, from birth to death.

For example, our relationships with people are fundamental to our well-being. It is natural for us to seek connections with others and to desire empathetic responses from them.

As in the context of counseling, the establishment of a trusting relationship with a counselor allows for the expression of needs in a safe and non-judgmental space. This can be seen as a replacement for the important self-object that may have been lacking in the early years. However, the empathetic response from the counselor is not the same as that of an important self-object in the past.

By mirroring, idealizing, or twinning responses, counselors can enhance clients' self-confidence and self-esteem, and help them re-integrate and consolidate their sense of self. This process allows clients to confront and address past wounds in a safe and supportive environment.

It should be noted that this will also require a lengthy process. The more profound the wounds from earlier

It should be noted that this process will take a considerable amount of time. The more significant the wounds from earlier years, the longer it will take to heal.

At some point, you will come to recognize that you can view yourself with objectivity and neutrality, without relying on a counselor. You will also understand that you can manage your bad mood effectively, that your shortcomings are not as significant as you perceive them to be, and that you possess distinctive and invaluable qualities.

I would like to extend my congratulations to you on gaining a new corrective experience. At this point, you may wish to conclude your meeting with the counselor.

I would like to extend my congratulations on your new corrective experience. At this point, you may wish to conclude your meeting with your counselor.

You may then wish each other farewell and embark on a new venture.

The above is my response. I have not provided specific instructions, but I believe that when you can truly understand one day: "What am I conflicted about? What am I trying to avoid? What do I really want?", you will be able to determine the best course of action.

The above is my response. I have not provided specific instructions, but I believe that when you can truly understand the following: "What am I in conflict with? What am I trying to avoid? What do I really want?," the solution will become apparent.

The answer is already within you.

I wish you the best in your journey, warrior exploring life!

Good day, question asker. I can discern the confusion you are currently experiencing. I extend my support and encouragement to you.

You are currently experiencing some difficulties in your personal growth. I extend to you my sincerest support and encouragement.

I previously suffered from depression, but I have since recovered.

In conclusion, the question is posed: "How might I best provide myself with love, companionship, and warmth?"

First and foremost, it is essential to identify an area of interest.

In a variety show on CCTV-1 (Avenue of Stars), two of the finalists revealed that they had previously suffered from depression. However, they subsequently demonstrated that they had been able to overcome this condition through singing.

It is acknowledged that singing may not be a strength for some individuals. This is an acceptable response.

As a case in point, I rely on answering questions from others on this platform on a daily basis, which provides me with a sense of meaningful contribution.

Additionally, one may educate themselves in psychology by reading literature pertinent to the field.

For a nominal fee of 79 RMB per year, one may also subscribe to a book club and engage with literature pertaining to psychology.

It is my sincere hope that the issue you are currently experiencing can be resolved in the near future.

At this juncture, I am only able to offer these suggestions.

It is my sincere hope that my above response is both helpful and inspiring to you. As the respondent, I endeavor to study diligently on a daily basis.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and the entire world. Best wishes!

Good day, question asker. I am grateful for the opportunity to answer your question.

First of all, I would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to the questioner. It is a truly joyous occasion to witness the recovery from ten years of depression and the subsequent ability to resume a normal lifestyle. Depression can have a profound impact on an individual, leading to feelings of emptiness and detachment from the world. Now that the questioner has made a remarkable recovery, they are seeking ways to nourish themselves with love, companionship, and warmth. It's understandable that they might feel uncertain about how to achieve this.

Perhaps you could offer the questioner a pat on the shoulder and some encouragement. It seems that self-respect may be an important factor in developing self-love.

If you want to love yourself, you have to love and respect yourself as much as you love and respect others. When you truly love yourself, you generate positive energy, make your life more exciting, and have more love to give to others.

As the question was posed on this platform, I will offer some brief advice.

It would be beneficial to show love and respect to others.

One way to love yourself is to try to care for and respect others, and bring joy to others. This can lead to happiness for yourself. The questioner will also likely receive kind feedback for being kind to others.

Over time, the questioner came to recognize the value in their own smile, reflected in the gratitude of others. It's important to remember, however, that not everything we do for others will necessarily be reciprocated.

You might like to consider sharing your love with others in a variety of ways. Perhaps you could share knowledge in a kind way, or donate a small amount of money to those in need or poor children.

There are many ways to show kindness in our lives, such as using Alipay or volunteering. These small acts of kindness can sometimes make the questioner feel truly happy and grateful to others.

Perhaps it would be helpful to view the past as something that is in the past.

It would be beneficial for the questioner to consider making a fresh start. It might be helpful to recall the saying, "You were in the past, but you don't live in the past."

Many people have experienced misfortune in one way or another. It would be beneficial for us to focus on the present.

Buddha said, "The mind of the past is unattainable, and the mind of the future is unattainable." It is important to remember that dwelling on the sadness and disappointment of the past or the worries about the future is unproductive. While it is natural to experience these feelings, it is also helpful to acknowledge them and then let them go.

It is important to forgive those who have wronged you, but perhaps even more so to forgive yourself. It is likely that nothing that happened in the past was your fault, and it is unlikely that you chose to become depressed.

Consider forgiving yourself.

It is not helpful to punish yourself for things you have done in the past. It may be more beneficial to view your past depression as a learning experience.

You may wish to consider saying to yourself, "I forgive myself for _______." It might be helpful to look in the mirror and say it out loud.

Gently gaze into your eyes and speak the words of forgiveness with sincerity. Avoid belittling or mocking yourself.

If you find yourself mocking yourself, try to laugh it off and remind yourself that it's time to move on and embrace a fresh start. Every day is an opportunity for a new beginning, and you have the chance to start anew. Learning to love yourself and others is an important step in the journey to self-acceptance.

You might find it helpful to get active.

Once depression has been treated, it is possible that some memory issues and difficulties concentrating may persist, along with negative emotions. One way to manage these feelings effectively is to become more active.

If you're looking to shift your mood and feel more energized, it might be helpful to get active and spend some time outdoors. The fresh air and sunshine can be a great way to boost your mood. It might feel challenging at first, but with a little perseverance, you'll likely notice a difference. You might even feel more energized and your mood will start to lift.

It is thought that exercise can help to speed up blood circulation and provide the brain with more oxygen, which may help to improve feelings of comfort. It is also believed that exercise can help to relieve tension in the nervous system. Some people may find that when they exercise, their brain secretes a substance that makes them feel happy. This feeling may encourage people to use exercise as a way of helping to dispel negative emotions.

It might be helpful to talk about your worries.

When you encounter setbacks and need help, you may find that it comes from within yourself or from friends. However, it is important to remember that seeking and accepting help from others is an essential part of the process.

It would be beneficial for you to find someone you can talk to from the bottom of your heart, and to try to overcome your tendency to be quiet and unsociable. I would gently suggest that you consider finding some psychological counselors or listeners on some psychological platforms, and pouring out your troubles to these professionals. I believe they could help to change your mood.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider accepting yourself as you are.

It might be helpful to try to accept yourself.

It might be helpful to do more of the things you enjoy, and to try to find a sense of purpose and direction in your life by focusing on the things you like. It can also be beneficial to accept your current state after recovering from depression, and to try to do something that makes you feel good when you are feeling low.

Consider making yourself happy, and you might also enjoy something sweet. Sweet things can make the body happy, and they can also make you feel happy. In any case, it is very important to make yourself happy without hurting others.

It would be wise to avoid allowing negative emotions to take over your life.

The healed poster still has a long way to go. It might be helpful to embrace yourself and show yourself love; believe in yourself, you have already healed, you are no longer the person you were; be true to yourself, learn to sincerely express your feelings, and don't care about what others think. Treat your current self as your own child and love him wholeheartedly. It's possible that the poster will be able to feel the love, warmth, and companionship.

I hope my answer can be of some help to the person who asked the question. I also hope that they will be able to return to a normal way of life as soon as possible.

Dear questioner,

From the questioner's description, it's clear they've done a great job. They've overcome depression, become aware of their inner feelings of lack, and are on the road to healing themselves. It's now time for the questioner to begin a new phase. Learning to care for ourselves is a lifelong topic we all need to learn.

I'm going to give you some suggestions on how you can meet your own needs and get along with yourself better.

1. Pay more attention to your feelings and needs. When we have some negative emotions, we can calm down first and identify which emotion it is. Or we can describe the feeling in two words. You may be surprised to find that there is more than one kind of emotion. But you will discover deeper needs hidden by the surface emotions. Make a list and write down your current feelings. Write down the emotions you feel strongly about in one line, and the emotions you feel lightly about in another line. Don't rush to judge each emotion on the list. Ask yourself honestly what the reason behind the emotion is.

2. Accept yourself. Accept your own powerlessness in some areas, or admit that you are an ordinary person. You may be vulnerable to a certain extent in some things, but you must not deny yourself, doubt yourself, bravely face and express your needs, and learn to satisfy and please yourself.

3. Learn to express rejection in relationships. Rejection is a right. When faced with bad behavior or a violation of our boundaries, we can and should refuse. We must let the other person know that his behavior hurts us and that we need him to stop his behavior and protect us from harm.

4. Know yourself, understand yourself, and take responsibility for yourself. When you have negative emotions, identify the underlying needs. This is how you get to know yourself and take responsibility for yourself. You are an independent individual, and you are responsible for your own life. Learn to take responsibility for yourself.

5. You can enrich your life by discovering the beauty of life or doing things you like. These can all give you self-satisfaction and better establish your relationship with yourself. Or you can pour out your heart on the Yixin platform and solve problems in a timely manner. When we have resolved all our inner worries, we will find that in fact these worries are all imagined by us. At the same time, this is also an expression of loving ourselves. When we learn to love ourselves, we also learn to love others. If you bloom, the butterflies will come.

I wish the original poster the best and I know they will succeed.

Hello! I'm smiling.

I understand your question better now. I'm here for you.

You've gained a lot from counseling. You've changed and reflected a lot. You're still good at thinking and have different insights about yourself. This is valuable because many people haven't reached this point. You've already advanced several stages.

You can give yourself love, companionship, and warmth without using material things or other people. You can do this by exploring yourself through things like reading and traveling. You can also explore yourself and the world through things that interest you. This will help you understand yourself better and feel more peaceful.

You know you can't rely on counseling alone to achieve self-reliance. You also know you can't rely too much on counseling. This shows you're a person who has differentiated themselves well. You understand yourself and don't rely too much on others.

The lack of social skills you mentioned is normal. People are born alone, so being sociable is inevitable. We integrate into society well because staying away causes trouble.

I have also summarized some methods to help you.

You want spiritual independence, not material independence. What you really need is solitude.

Try meditation and other methods to understand yourself better.

(3) Reading can help you gain spiritual satisfaction. For example, the books "The Courage to Be Disliked" and "The Courage to Be Happy" are both very helpful.

(4) Think more and try new things.

Anyway, you still have to take action to be effective. Try your best, because only then can you make a better change.

(6) Your resources can help you achieve spiritual freedom. Don't ignore material help. The two are mutually reinforcing. Combine them for greater value.

The world and I love you!

Best wishes!

Good morning, questioner!

I would like to begin by congratulating the original poster for taking the first step in moving forward.

I would like to begin by congratulating the original poster on their courage in overcoming "a decade of depression." It is a significant achievement, and I empathize with your feelings and state of mind. From what you have shared, I can sense the original poster's longing to fill an empty heart and their urgent need to rely on their own strength to give themselves more love, companionship, and warmth. Let's explore this together:

"In order to earn money, it would be beneficial to work hard to learn the social skills you may lack and do your best to make the most of the present moment. It would also be helpful to learn, explore, discover, and put your knowledge into practice without being arrogant or subservient. " "Previously, I spent money recklessly because I was afraid to face the feeling of inner emptiness.

"In order to make money, it would be beneficial to work hard to learn the social skills you may lack and do your best to make the most of the present moment. It would also be helpful to learn, explore, discover, and put your knowledge into practice in a way that is respectful and considerate of others. I used to spend money recklessly because I was afraid to face the feeling of inner deprivation. Now that the feeling of deprivation is gradually disappearing, I need money to do many things, so I am learning to be more mindful of how I spend it."

It seems that the questioner has already made significant strides, and compared to the previous self, some changes have been made accordingly, which is commendable. One way to track these changes or methods you have tried could be to keep a small notebook where you can record your progress and identify areas where you have succeeded and where you might still make improvements.

It is also worth noting that sometimes hard work and results are not immediately rewarded. In such cases, it may be helpful to allow yourself a little more time. It is possible that a certain method may not have an effect for the time being, but as long as you persevere, you may find that unexpected rewards emerge in time. Believing in yourself is a valuable asset in this endeavour.

It is worth noting that sometimes hard work and results are not immediately rewarded. In such cases, it may be helpful to give yourself a little more time. It is possible that a certain method may not have an effect for the time being, but as long as you persevere, you may find that unexpected rewards emerge over time. Believing in yourself can be a valuable asset in this process.

"There is nothing wrong with being alone, given the limitations of the objective environment. I have found that it is beneficial to establish an intimate relationship with myself, even if it is not limited by the objective environment. This allows me to give myself love, warmth, and companionship, which I believe is an important aspect of self-care."

I believe the OP has some very insightful ideas. It seems to me that the OP must have

I believe the original poster has some very insightful thoughts. It seems they have reflected on these conclusions, but there may be room for improvement in the methods used to reach them.

I would like to discuss some ways to adjust.

It may be helpful to accept yourself.

It is important to accept yourself, warts and all.

It is important to consider one's own strengths and weaknesses, as well as one's past experiences. It is natural to feel empty at times and to recognize that there are limitations to what we can achieve on our own. It is therefore important to maintain a healthy balance and to avoid excessive stress and guilt.

It is also important to accept that nobody is perfect. From the bottom of your heart, admit that you are not as good or as perfect as you would like to be. At the same time, believe that you have the ability to change the situation and do better.

It may be helpful to consider using positive affirmations.

It may be helpful to summarize and categorize some of the negative suggestions that are likely to arise in your thoughts and words in your daily life. These could include phrases such as "I can't," "I'm afraid," or "I'm afraid of failure." Once you have identified these, you could write them down and draw a "×" or strike them out to remind yourself to discard them from your mind.

You might also consider writing some positive affirmations next to it, such as "I can," "I am a little strong, there is nothing to be afraid of," and "Failure is the mother of success."

It might be helpful to encourage yourself more.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the following:

You might find it helpful to read some celebrity biographies and inspirational books and movies, and to compare yourself to the protagonists to identify the psychological qualities that you share with them. This could be a way of affirming yourself and motivating yourself.

It might be helpful to consider ways of enriching your life.

You might like to consider developing more hobbies, trying new things, or participating in more activities, such as flower arrangement, reading, writing, sports, etc. Anything that feels new and interesting can be tried, and of course sometimes you only discover something interesting after trying it.

It might also be helpful to consider learning, certification, or upgrading your education. When you are busy, you may find that you feel very fulfilled and that you have a sense of purpose.

It might be helpful to make a plan.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the following:

Perhaps it would be helpful to make a plan. Sometimes there are a lot of good ideas, but it can be difficult to take the first step to take action. In most cases, it is because you haven't made a proper plan. You can start by making a long-term plan or goal, and then gradually work out the monthly, weekly and daily arrangements. When you complete each task, it can be motivating to cross it off the list.

It can be challenging to take the first step to take action, especially when there are so many good ideas competing for our attention. Often, this is because we haven't yet made a proper plan. One way to overcome this is to start by making a long-term plan or goal, and then gradually work out the monthly, weekly, and daily arrangements. When you complete each task, it can be motivating to cross it off the list.

I hope my answer will be of some help to the questioner. Wishing you well!

I hope my answer will be of some assistance to the questioner. Best wishes!

Good day.

Ten years seems like a long time, but it also seems like it just flew by. Our ten years were different from those of others. For ten years, you experienced challenges related to depression.

You mentioned that it was due to an inner emptiness, which I believe may be related to loneliness.

If we compare depression to a cold among psychological disorders, we could say that loneliness is like a headache. In modern society, there seems to be a lot of emphasis on personal fulfillment, which might be a contributing factor to loneliness. At the same time, for work-related reasons, there has also been a long-term reduction in family relationships and social ties, which could be a factor in the increase in loneliness.

It is possible that when people lack social contact and feel emotionally lonely, they may compensate for this with objects, animals, and supernatural beings with human-like qualities. For example, pets like cats may serve this purpose.

In this modern age of the internet, it is not the external environment that presents the greatest challenge, but perhaps our reluctance to nurture friendships across the digital divide. Indeed, as social creatures, we are born with an innate desire for human connection.

Perhaps now you are seeking warmth and companionship. I believe this could be a positive transformation. ———It might be helpful to work hard to earn money and to love yourself.

Could you please suggest how one might give oneself love, companionship, and warmth without spending money or through other people?

I believe it may be helpful to consider going to bed and waking up early as a way of maintaining good health.

You might find it helpful to read, watch movies, and keep a diary. Over time, you may notice a change in your inner world, which could become richer as a result.

You might like to consider developing your own hobbies, such as handicrafts or photography.

I hope that your work brings you success and that you find happiness in your personal life.

I'm so happy to hear that you're doing well now! I just wanted to give you a big, warm hug and tell you how proud I am of you.

I'm so grateful for all the life experiences we've been through together. I can feel the pain that 10 years of depression has brought you, and I admire you for working so hard to get out of it. Now you want to focus on the present, and I wish you all the best.

I once read a book, "I've Been in Love with Depression." At the end of the book, the author wrote that I had tried hard and succeeded. You are just like that. You have tried hard and succeeded. You must praise yourself and cheer yourself on!

In your question, you mentioned that you've been receiving psychological counseling, which I think will be really helpful for you. It's great that you've realized that sometimes, we can't rely on the outside world to help us grow. We need to look inside ourselves to deal with our inner struggles and grow our spiritual energy. It's so good that you've come to this realization. As we often say, "seeing is the beginning of change." You're at the beginning of a beautiful journey of growth and transformation.

It's so great to see that you're already able to accept yourself and build a close relationship with yourself. It's also wonderful that you're starting to recognize the connection between yourself and the outside world. This is the relationship between yourself and yourself. When you're strong on the inside, you're able to give yourself love, warmth, and companionship. This is the core, but it's not the core. We're all shaped by relationships, and interpersonal relationships are an essential part of our lives.

1. You can find a local counseling studio, and you can cultivate yourself by learning psychological techniques. There is a saying in the learning team I belong to that I think you'll really like: "Helping others to help themselves, respecting the soul." Many people also grow their inner selves through such professional psychological counseling techniques or learning. It is a very good method.

2. You can also find some lovely people to grow spiritually with through salons. It's a great way to understand your relationship with yourself better. Or you can join psychology or mutual support salons to have fun with like-minded people and get helpful advice from professionals.

3. When our psychological energy has not been replenished to a certain extent, I really think you should keep up with your psychological counseling. It can really give you a lot of spiritual and exclusive VIP 1-on-1 support!

Hi, I'm Yingying, your counselor!

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Good day, question asker.

I have carefully reviewed your inquiry. I am pleased to hear that you have been in remission from depression for a decade. I believe that the sense of relief that comes with overcoming this condition is a unique experience that others cannot fully comprehend. I would like to extend my sincerest congratulations.

I would like to ascertain whether you believe you can rely on your own strength to overcome the effects of a decade-long depressive episode. You have provided a description of your current state:

It is of greater importance to learn, explore, discover, and practice without being either humble or arrogant.

I commend you for this decision. In my view, it represents a form of self-care, a gesture of warmth and companionship towards yourself. Do you concur?

I commend you for your resilience in overcoming depression and setting higher standards for yourself. Your decision to spend more thoughtfully and avoid impulsive spending is commendable. You demonstrate an understanding of the importance of money and a desire to invest in activities that will enhance your personal growth.

You have now initiated the process of self-improvement and believe you have the capacity to advance independently. You anticipate that you can gradually disengage from the counselor and gradually find your way forward on your own. In order to achieve your goal, you have returned here to seek assistance and identify a superior, more scientific method to facilitate a more seamless future path of self-improvement.

Next, I will share my views based on my own experience.

Firstly, I would like to address the following statement: "You said that it does not cost material." Does this imply that we should not utilise the services of a psychological counsellor excessively? Consequently, reducing this expenditure does not negate the financial implications, does it?

I believe that your objective in coming here was to ask a question. If you feel that the reply from the following respondent is particularly helpful, I would suggest that you make a note of it.

It is important to recognize and reward yourself for your achievements. For instance, if you enjoy dumplings, you may choose to treat yourself to a meal of dumplings. By taking steps to warm yourself, you are providing yourself with a valuable form of self-care. This is an act of self-love and self-care.

Secondly, I'm unclear on your meaning of "three points in a straight line" and the constraints on time. However, I advise against foregoing vacation time. While income is crucial, it is only sustainable in the long term when balanced with rest. Therefore, it is essential to set aside time for leisure. Ten days is sufficient to recharge and recuperate. Allow yourself the opportunity to appreciate the spring sky, the gentle spring breeze, and the blooming roses.

In any case, it is advisable to surround yourself with the visible flora, inhaling their aroma and absorbing the invigorating atmosphere that nature provides. This will bring you joy and is an effective way to care for and support yourself, providing a sense of warmth.

I would like to conclude by discussing interpersonal relationships. It is clear that pursuing these relationships is beneficial, particularly if you feel you have missed out on opportunities over the past decade. However, it is important to proceed with caution. In order to love yourself, to support and care for yourself, you also need to allow yourself time to do so. Therefore, when it comes to interpersonal relationships, it is advisable to proceed gradually. First, make a friend, get to know them slowly, and then make another friend. It is not necessary to have a large number of friends. Among these two friends, or three friends, we can identify which one we can get to know more deeply. It is also beneficial to have just one or two confidants. It is not the case that the more interpersonal relationships you have, the better. It is not necessary to prioritize these relationships. Instead, focus on loving yourself, supporting yourself, and caring for yourself, and then spend time expanding your interpersonal relationships.

That concludes my remarks. I encourage you to use the remainder of your time to practice self-care. I believe you will find that you are able to draw strength from within, and that you will be able to recognize your own beauty in this spring, despite the challenges posed by the pandemic. I encourage you to work hard, and I wish you success.