After working for two months, I increasingly feel like a waste of space. What if I keep making mistakes?

Good day, host. I am aware of your disappointment and frustration.

From your description, it appears that this is your inaugural experience with the workforce. You perceive the responsibilities inherent to the position for which you are currently applying to be exceedingly intricate, and you are relatively slow to acquire the requisite knowledge and expertise. You lack experience and are unfamiliar with the typical work process, which often results in errors. Furthermore, your colleagues, who are understandably impatient, have been critical of your performance and have even resorted to labeling you as "worthless," which is disrespectful and hurtful.

It is reasonable to assume that the majority of individuals would prefer work processes to be somewhat more straightforward to learn, even in the absence of any potential for simplification. Furthermore, it is likely that the majority of individuals would also prefer to be able to quickly learn any necessary skills or knowledge.

In the workplace, it is reasonable to expect colleagues to demonstrate patience and respect for one another's contributions, rather than undermining the value of others through casual remarks or actions.

Is this the desired outcome of one's life? If this is the case, are you prepared to muster the courage to identify the root cause of the problem and determine the appropriate course of action?

If one desires a more straightforward workflow or a more studious environment, it may be beneficial to consider whether the current position requires a specific level of experience or is ill-suited to one's personality.

It is inevitable that there will always be individuals within any given society who are unable to perform certain tasks. To illustrate this point, consider the following scenario: if I were to attempt to learn how to cook a simple dish, such as boiling an egg, I would inevitably make one of three mistakes. Either I would over-salt the egg, under-salt it, or burn it. Even if I were to attempt to chop green onions, I would likely chop them incorrectly. The dish I cooked would be completely inedible, and I would eventually have to give up.

I assisted a friend in selling items, but I became so nervous around strangers that I was unable to speak. I could only stand back and process the transactions. Even then, when it came to collecting the money, I made mistakes and collected fake money, so I was too ashamed to continue. Ultimately, I sought employment in the service industry to support myself financially. Interestingly, I was quite proficient at it. I grasped the tasks quickly, and I discovered that I was also interested in the accounting work of my company's accounting colleague. I gradually learned to perform the accounting tasks with my colleague.

It is evident that the process is not straightforward and requires a significant investment of time, given that it typically takes more than a few days or two to acquire a new skill. Fortunately, my colleague in accounting was remarkably patient, and I took the opportunity to treat her to dinner every other day. Despite her impatience, she was too embarrassed to express her frustration or even acknowledge that I had a slower learning curve. The entire process spanned over a year, nearly two years in total. This illustrates the considerable time and effort required to learn a new skill, unless it is particularly straightforward, or even as simple as eating.

The complexity of the skill in question is a significant factor in determining the time required for learning. For instance, it is unlikely that I would be able to build a rocket, given the level of complexity involved. Conversely, I could potentially learn to handle the accounts of a company, provided that I am interested in the skill of accounting. However, if I lack interest in accounting, I would likely struggle to perform even simple tasks, such as frying an egg.

It is a fallacy to assume that one must be interested in order to learn. In fact, people must fail 100% in the early stages of learning, just as babies fail when they first start to learn to walk. It is evident that no baby is born able to run around giggling in front of their parents. They all have to fall over and cry as they learn to walk.

If one is interested in a certain piece of knowledge or skill, even if one faces failure or setbacks, one will become more and more interested. This phenomenon can be observed in the context of video games, where the more one loses, the more interested one becomes. This interest then leads to a focus on how to win and pass the level. Over time, one becomes an expert through a process of trial and error. In contrast, if one is not interested in playing video games, one would likely have stopped playing after losing multiple times and never played again.

Finally, let us examine the reasons behind your reluctance to pursue a new position. Do you perceive your current role as a hindrance, with your colleagues' actions causing you distress and negatively impacting your self-esteem? Do you feel unable to adapt to this social environment?

Thus, the individual's inclination is to seek solace within the confines of their domicile, where they believe they are less vulnerable to harm.

Regardless of the circumstances, life must continue. Furthermore, even if one isolates oneself, one is still susceptible to harm from others. The perpetrator of this harm is, in fact, oneself. One must listen to one's own self-talk, which may include statements such as, "I am becoming increasingly lazy and useless."

The question thus arises as to why one might engage in self-scolding.

In life, parents always admonish their children when they see them stray from the expected norms, with the hope that their children will mature and alter their way of thinking. Similarly, students are reprimanded by their teachers when they exhibit disobedience or receive poor grades, with the expectation that they will study harder and improve their performance. This begs the question: Why do we scold ourselves?

Indeed, one's inner self is aware of the tendency towards laziness, prompting external self-scolding in the hope of fostering greater diligence. The inner self may also perceive a lack of value, yet the underlying motivation is the aspiration to muster the courage to rise, acquire a skill, and become a valuable contributor. When this transformation is achieved and one is able to perform tasks that others cannot, the risk of being labelled as incompetent by friends and colleagues is reduced, thus safeguarding self-esteem.

In reflecting on your own actions, you have been overly critical of yourself, which suggests a lack of confidence in your abilities. However, your self-blame is driven by a deeper desire to take action, to learn, to adapt, and to change. You are unable to discern your true desires, and instead believe that your heart is urging you to retreat and decline. Consequently, your prolonged isolation at home only serves to intensify your sense of loss and distress, as you are in conflict with your genuine aspirations.

Good day, inquirer. My name is Jia Ao, and I am not seeking any particular outcome.

I have carefully read your confessions and concerns on the platform. It would appear that you have only been working for two months. You state that you "keep making mistakes at work, and I can't figure things out even after studying them in my spare time. I don't feel like asking people for help, and I feel like a waste of space. I can't get anything done, I don't want to do anything anymore, I don't even want to go out, and I'm afraid to go to work anymore..."

From these descriptions, it is evident that a series of negative emotions have been triggered by circumstances at work that are perceived as unfavorable, and a strong sense of frustration has been elicited due to the lack of success at work. The question then arises as to how one might adjust.

In response to your question, I will assist you in analyzing and sorting out the issue.

[Examine the issue with objectivity and composure]

From an objective standpoint, it is reasonable to conclude that the initial stages of any endeavor are inherently challenging. Given that you have only been employed for two months and are still in the probationary period, it is understandable that you may be experiencing difficulties in acclimating to your new role. Could you please elaborate on the specific aspects of your job that you find particularly challenging?

The initial stages of any undertaking are inherently challenging, regardless of the nature of the task at hand. The process of learning and growth necessitates a significant investment of time and energy, particularly in the early stages of a new endeavor.

The individual in question has developed a sense of inferiority as a result of external denials. This has led to feelings of inadequacy and a perception of being a waste of space, given the difficulties encountered in learning the new job. This is an extreme way of thinking, and it is recommended that more time be allowed for understanding and learning. It is premature to draw conclusions at this stage.

[Regain confidence]

It is important to recognize that everyone has both strengths and weaknesses, and this is also true of you. It is unproductive to dismiss yourself based on a single issue at work. Such an approach is arbitrary and undermines your self-worth. A temporary setback at work does not indicate a fundamental problem. It is simply that you may not have fully grasped a particular detail. It is crucial not to give up. Instead, cultivate confidence in yourself. Identify your strengths and use them to identify the source of the problem. If the issue persists despite your best efforts, it may be time to consider a more suitable position.

[Positive Mindset Adjustment]

It is important to recognize that work is not the sole aspect of one's life. Even in the face of adversity, it is essential to maintain a sense of purpose and resilience. It is neither constructive nor beneficial to simply abandon one's responsibilities and aspirations due to a change in circumstances, such as losing one's job. Instead, it is crucial to actively adapt one's mindset, overcome any tendencies towards complacency, and strive to find new opportunities for growth and success.

No matter how challenging a problem may be, with sufficient effort, a solution can be found. If the answers sought are not forthcoming from colleagues, it may be beneficial to consult with one's direct supervisor. Their experience is likely to prove invaluable in providing guidance. There is no need to be concerned about them withholding information; it is implausible that they would do so. It is therefore advisable to proceed with the request.

[Overcoming Mental Depletion]

Your work situation has caused you significant distress. You are fearful of being perceived negatively by others, of social interaction, and of attending work. This indicates that you have experienced a profound state of "mental depletion." You are engaged in self-defeating behaviors, including self-blame, self-criticism, and self-abandonment. You lack hope for positive change. To alter your circumstances, it is essential to address your mental depletion and cultivate sufficient energy to effectively address the challenges you face.

[Strengthen your inner self]

Self-confidence serves as a foundation and a form of therapy. As long as one possesses sufficient self-confidence, they will possess the courage to begin anew, even in the face of repeated failures. They will not succumb to complete despair in the presence of adversity, as they often do. In the future, it would be beneficial to engage with additional psychological literature, to reinforce one's inner self and to enhance their mental resilience. Setbacks and difficulties, however significant, will not impede one's progress. It is essential to recognize one's own value and to prioritize the development of one's abilities in this domain. I extend my best wishes to you.

It is my sincere hope that this response will prove beneficial to you. Best regards, [Signature]

Good day, my name is Xin'an Zhi.

"Despite having been employed for a period of two months, I am still unable to discern the specific responsibilities of my role. I am left with the impression that I will never be able to fully grasp the intricacies of my job, which is a source of considerable frustration.

"Due to my lack of comprehension of the requisite tasks, I continued to err in my duties, and my colleagues expressed their disdain and disapproval of me."

It appears that the two months of work experience have resulted in a significant negative impact, manifesting as frustration, inferiority, and a sense of worthlessness.

I believe I can empathize with the feelings of powerlessness and helplessness that you have described.

Upon entering the workplace, you were eager to gain familiarity with your duties and to be acknowledged by your colleagues and superiors for your efforts. However, the reality of the situation proved to be quite challenging.

In the aforementioned description, the term "worked for two months" is unclear. Does this indicate that the individual in question began their professional duties in a formal capacity, or was their involvement an internship?

"I have yet to gain a comprehensive understanding of the job content. Despite seeking assistance from colleagues and conducting independent research, I remain uncertain about the specifics of my role."

Your dedication and work ethic are evident in your willingness to seek assistance and engage in self-directed learning. What factors contribute to your continued lack of understanding?

What is your opinion on this matter?

Please indicate whether you applied for this position independently or if it was arranged by your family. Additionally, please describe your opinion of this job.

Please describe the discrepancy between your preconceptions of work and your actual experiences upon commencing work.

I inquire as to whether you have previously experienced and felt similar emotions and sensations.

"Presently, I am experiencing a decline in motivation and a desire for solitude. I am grappling with a sense of hopelessness and a perception of being a burden to others. My colleagues have expressed negative sentiments towards me, which has further exacerbated my feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness."

You are perceived as worthless and unwanted by your colleagues. Is this a reflection of the attitudes of all your colleagues, or is it a perception you have internalized?

Is this a universal sentiment, or is it a personal perception?

"I'm afraid to go to work now." Can this be interpreted as an indication that you experience fear, unease, and apprehension on a daily basis when going to work?

This must be a significant source of distress.

It appears that you have considered potential strategies for modifying your emotional state and the circumstances at hand.

Given the lack of detail in the description, it is not possible to ascertain the precise nature of the work in question. Consequently, it would be unwise for me to offer any advice without further information.

It may, however, be beneficial to consider this from an alternative perspective.

In the event that the task at hand necessitates a period of familiarization through practical work, would it be reasonable to conclude that mastery of the content is not feasible within a two-month timeframe?

The question thus arises as to whether the sense of failure and worthlessness is a consequence of an inability to comprehend the requisite work content or the experience of ridicule and contempt from one's colleagues.

If the former is the case, it may be beneficial to consider working harder, being more patient, more attentive, more proactive, and setting small daily goals. By consistently achieving these small goals, it is likely that the desired outcome will eventually be reached.

If the latter is the case, an attempt should be made to confront one's authentic inner self and acknowledge the presence of a small, weak, cowardly, and helpless aspect that craves recognition, comprehension, acceptance, affirmation, and care.

Affirm the individual with a warm embrace and a firm assurance: "I see you. You are no longer that weak and helpless child. You have now grown up, and have the strength and ability to express yourself and protect yourself. Be brave. I will always be by your side, giving you support and strength."

"One must believe in oneself and possess the conviction that one is capable of achieving the task at hand."

It is evident that individuals vary in their ability to master a given task. In the event of slower progress, it may be beneficial to temporarily set aside negative emotions such as remorse, frustration, and feelings of inferiority, and instead adopt a more resilient approach to confronting the challenges at hand.

I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello, question asker!

I'm excited to give you advice on your current state of resignation!

I'd love to give you advice on your current state of self-abandonment, but it's quite difficult to do so in just a short description of 200 words or so. However, I'm excited to have a chat with you in my answer and help you see more possibilities when you feel tired of this and want to lie down.

[Don't rush to label yourself negatively]

Don't rush to label yourself negatively!

It's totally normal to feel a bit down when you're going through a rough patch. We've all been there! Sometimes, we even give ourselves a bit of a hard time, calling ourselves names like "useless," "lazy," or "worthless." But here's the thing: those negative labels don't make us feel better. They're more like self-deprecating comments or a way to express that we need help.

In a completely new position, it is not uncommon to make mistakes at work sometimes, as everyone needs a period of learning and adaptation. This is a great opportunity to learn and grow! What is the situation with the "constant mistakes" you mentioned in the text?

How often do you make mistakes? Once a day or once a week? It's great to know how often you make mistakes so you can work out whether they're harmless or detrimental to the company's interests.

So, are the consequences of a mistake the blame of a colleague or a financial penalty? Absolutely not! When you look at the consequences of a mistake in concrete terms, you can more objectively assess the extent to which you are suited to your current position.

[Identify your own patterns of behavior]

In the last two months of work, you have encountered some setbacks, mainly including "still unable to understand the work content" and "always making mistakes." At the beginning, your attitude was positive, and you were eager to learn! You would "ask others for advice" and "study privately."

Later, your attitude shifted. You said, "I have no motivation to learn," "I don't want to do anything," and "I'm too lazy to socialize." So, what happened in these short 60 days to make you change so much?

Think back to your past experiences. Have you ever done the same thing in other situations, where you went from being ambitious and motivated to self-deprecating and giving up completely in a short period of time? It's totally normal to feel this way sometimes! But it's also a pattern of behavior that you can change. Is this a pattern of behavior that has only happened this once, or have you experienced it before?

[Give yourself more opportunities to try]

In your text, you mentioned three fears: "fear of asking," "fear of going out," and "fear of going to work." Behind these fears is a certain emotion that you are avoiding. It could be fear of being rejected by others, fear of being unpopular, or fear of criticism and rejection from the outside world. But you can conquer these fears!

You can absolutely stand up to these emotions that are holding you back and try a more flexible and comfortable behavior pattern! For example, find out what the job involves by asking a colleague. If colleague A refuses, go to colleague B. If colleague B is unwilling, switch to colleague C.

I'm sure that if you stick with this job for a little longer, you'll get the hang of it and start making fewer mistakes. And who knows, you might even find that you're better suited to other roles! So, go for it and try as many as you like!

I really hope the questioner will stop belittling themselves and find their self-confidence again!

Hello, question asker.

From what you've shared, it seems like you might be experiencing some feelings of anxiety, powerlessness, and confusion. Is that something you've been thinking about?

At the same time, I also sense that you possess a strong capacity for resilience and courage, the fortitude to confront your own challenges. When you sought guidance, you were aware that you were experiencing confusion, and it was commendable that you approached this situation with courage and determination.

Could I ask what might have happened to make you feel this way? Did someone else accuse you, or did you feel that you were having difficulty doing something?

Could it be that you feel a little embarrassed, which makes you feel uncomfortable?

You mentioned that you had been working for two months without fully understanding the work content, which made you feel a bit embarrassed about asking for clarification. When things aren't going well at work, it's natural to question your abilities and feel like you're not as valuable as you'd like to be. It's understandable that you'd want to avoid that feeling as much as possible.

I believe these feelings are quite common, and I imagine many people have experienced something similar. When you first started working, you seemed a little nervous, helpless, and embarrassed.

You mentioned that you were sorry for always asking others for help. I can sense that you are an introverted and shy person. The lack of success at work and the attitude of your colleagues have made you feel uncomfortable and have made you lose sight of your purpose in life. Is that right?

I would like to suggest that it is okay to feel this way. Everyone has their own unique qualities, and it may simply be a matter of finding the way to unlock them. It is possible that the difficulties you are experiencing at work are intensified by other people's doubts. It might be helpful to consider how other people are targeting this at you. If other people are not targeting things at us, it may be beneficial to pay attention and do it more often in the future. Practice makes perfect. I hope that this will help to make you feel better.

I believe that when we encounter a problem, our natural inclination is to avoid it. However, I have come to realize that this is also an opportunity for growth. We have the capacity to change ourselves. When you muster the courage to come here for an inspection, it is a testament to your resilience. With perseverance, you will continue to improve.

I'm not aware of the specifics of your situation, but I hope that the advice I'm about to give you will help you to overcome these negative emotions and boost your self-confidence, so that you can go out and do things.

Perhaps it would be helpful to adjust your mindset.

In life, we find ourselves in different positions and have different perspectives, which can lead to a range of feelings. When you say that you don't have a good grasp of the content of your work and feel uncomfortable when you are doing things and being disliked by your colleagues, it's understandable that you also feel uncomfortable inside. In this case, you may be intensifying the feeling of discomfort in yourself. It's a very normal feeling to have in this situation. Many people will have this kind of feeling when they encounter your situation. This is a very normal feeling.

Have you ever considered that perhaps your colleagues are not targeting you, but rather the situation itself? If you would like to make a change, it might be helpful to adjust your mindset and separate the situation from yourself. This could be an effective way to detach yourself from any negative emotions.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to learn to believe in yourself. With practice, you will find that this is indeed possible.

There will always be things in life that we may not like. It's important to remember that we can't let others' lack of faith in us or their doubts about us make us feel even less confident in ourselves. To do something well, it's essential to believe in ourselves and have confidence in our abilities. This will help us to face the challenges we may encounter and to keep trying again.

It might be helpful to consider using positive mental suggestions.

When we encounter difficulties or are questioned by others, it is important to remember that questioning ourselves is not the answer. Instead, we should give ourselves positive mental suggestions to adjust our negative emotions and transform them into positive emotions, such as encouraging ourselves and telling ourselves that we can do it. In fact, whether it is self-doubt or doubt from others, it is a negative form of hypnosis. We need to use our own mental suggestions to adjust our mentality.

It would be beneficial to learn how to release negative emotions.

It's important to remember that everyone experiences a range of emotions in life. Whether you're able to hold back your emotions for extended periods or not, and what impact they have on your body and mind, it's essential to find ways to release them. One way to do this is through exercise, which can help to release dopamine and produce a sense of pleasure. Talking to someone or keeping a diary can also be effective.

Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that you used to be the owner of the couple and that you can control him.

You might also consider finding a hobby to help boost your inner strength.

If I might make a suggestion, I believe that finding a hobby could be beneficial. Succeeding at something you are interested in can boost your true strength and give you a sense of accomplishment. This could help you boost your inner strength, so that you might gradually become more confident.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to seek external resources.

While we can often cope with many emotions on our own, there are also some emotions that we may find difficult to deal with. In such cases, it can be helpful to seek the support of a professional. For instance, we can turn to professional counselors, who can employ their expertise to help us identify the root cause of our subconscious issues and create a safe, inclusive, and gentle environment where we can grow in strength.

If I might make one more point, I would like to reassure you that it is okay to feel this way. We all feel powerless at times, and it is natural to want to escape from difficult situations. However, we cannot change others, but we can change ourselves. If you encounter problems at work, it might be helpful to ask for help in a direct way. This can help you to make improvements.

It may be beneficial to consider asking directly rather than risk being held responsible for mistakes. Being bold in this way could be a constructive approach.

Hello! You have worked so hard!

You've already tried your best, but it's still not working out. You're in a tough spot and could really use some help. You've asked for help before, but you're still struggling to make progress.

1. I'd like to take a moment to address a few things with you.

You asked for help from several colleagues within a two-month period. How did you ask for help, and how did the other person respond? Etc. Because we can look at how often you asked for help, how you asked for help, and how the other person responded, we can help you find a breakthrough.

2. I can see how the labels you put on yourself, saying that you are worthless and lazy, really make you feel. It's clear that you're hurting and sad, which is why you belittle yourself and attack yourself.

I can see how you might be feeling frustrated, and I'm here to help. It seems like you're caught in a downward spiral of frustration, which makes it hard for you to see your own strengths. When you sent out a cry for help and said, "What if I keep making mistakes?

This shows that you want to avoid making mistakes and succeed. You're eager to improve and don't want to fail, but you're still looking for the right approach or work that suits you.

I can see you're struggling a bit, and I'm here to help.

3. We all want to be able to work with ease and confidence, don't we? It's so important to calm down and think about what we can do. There's a really helpful term in education called "zone of proximal development." It basically means that there's an area between a child's current level and the level that the child can reach with the help of an adult.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. Let's take a deep breath and think about this together. I believe we can find the perfect development zone for you, one that will gradually and spirally increase your work ability and help you feel less frustrated.

4. Finally, please cherish yourself. We all have our own unique set of strengths and weaknesses, and that's perfectly normal. Everyone is a treasure in themselves. You can also find a counselor to help, accompany, appreciate, and explore you. You may well be pleasantly surprised by what you discover about yourself.

4. Finally, please cherish yourself. We all have our own unique set of strengths and weaknesses, and that's perfectly normal! You are a wonderful person, and you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. If you're feeling down, don't hesitate to reach out to a counselor. They can provide invaluable support and guidance. You might be surprised by what you discover about yourself, and that's a wonderful thing!

I really hope you don't give up on yourself. I'm sure that soon, both your work and your mood will emerge from the clouds and usher in a sunny day!

I really hope you don't give up on yourself. I'm sure that soon, both your work and your mood will emerge from the clouds and usher in a sunny day!

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm modest and self-effacing, and I'm consistent.

♥ First, find a direction. Then, find a way.

Entering an industry or an unfamiliar environment that you have not been exposed to before will always require a certain period of adjustment. However, the length of this adjustment period will vary depending on each person's personality. I understand your current mood, the kind of helplessness that comes from wanting to do a good job but really not being able to, and the kind of confusion that comes from wanting to learn but not seeing any results at all.

After many unsuccessful attempts, we turn this dissatisfaction into self-doubt and denial. Over time, you will lose confidence and develop social phobia. You will feel that you are no good at anything, while others are good at everything. Dear questioner, it is okay to deny yourself, but you must not lose confidence in yourself.

Everyone has their own path to growth and a stage that suits them. Find this stage. It requires patience. We always make mistakes, but we learn to correct them and remind ourselves to make fewer mistakes. Find a direction that suits you. It will be fine.

You can go slow, but don't give up.

Mr. Yu Minhong said that he takes five years to do what others can do in one year, ten years to do what others can do in five years, and twenty years to do what others can do in five years. He is not as smart as others, but he is patient and determined. This is the kind of spirit we should all have.

It doesn't matter if you are a bit stupid or slow. What matters is that you persevere and don't give up. You will eventually reach the shore you want to reach. If you say you always make mistakes, then let yourself make a summary after making a mistake. If you say you are learning well but just can't learn, there is really too much information conveyed in this inability to learn.

If it's too specialized and difficult to learn, start with the basics. If your learning direction is off, make a plan and learn little by little. And learn with questions so you understand the content better.

Your learning method will determine your results. Set a clear goal and plan, and you'll achieve twice as much with half the effort. Be brave and find your own rhythm.

Best regards,

Good morning, my name is Zeyu.

It is important to allow sufficient time to adjust to a new work environment. I believe that going to work requires more time to become accustomed to and to practice growth.

There is no fixed and unified standard for the ability to accept and adapt to a new job. Therefore, even if you do not understand the work content after two months of work, you should allow yourself more time and energy to learn, practice, and utilize it. If you are annoyed by asking others, you can consult with your direct supervisor or the person who is training you. Even if it is the same type of new job, someone needs to inform you of the details and principles. It is uncommon for individuals to be able to take over immediately. If someone tells you that it is very simple and just do this and that, it is likely a lack of empathy.

From the description, it is evident that you are motivated and work hard. However, you have lost motivation and confidence due to a lack of opportunity for growth. In this situation, it is crucial to regain your confidence. Losing a job simply indicates that the current role does not align with your skills and abilities. If colleagues or supervisors judge you as a person, it is important to ignore such judgments. They are often based on their own standards, and you may have unconsciously accepted this unfair assessment. Instead, focus on affirming your efforts and identifying your strengths and weaknesses based on past experiences.

To be frank, the purpose of work is to earn a living and seek profit in order to survive and then improve one's quality of life. However, in this case, the job does not provide the opportunity for personal development and improvement. Therefore, it is necessary to consider whether it is possible to adapt to this job and the possibility of changing jobs.

It is not your fault if your colleagues tell you that they do not want you there, so you should not feel guilty. The most important thing to do in this situation is to take care of your emotions. You can always find another job if you lose your current one, but you will suffer if your emotions collapse.

It is important to allow yourself time to process the situation as it arises. If possible, take a few days off to relax and adjust your state of mind. Then, you can make an informed decision about your next steps.

Hello, question asker! I'm Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I'm happy to answer your question about Yi Xinli.

From what you've said, it seems like things haven't been going well for you at work. You're feeling anxious and afraid to go in, and I'm wondering if you're feeling depressed.

It's totally normal to not understand the work content when you first start working. You've already persevered for two months, which is great!

Your main issue right now is that you're still not sure what your job entails, even after asking for advice.

I've got a few suggestions for you:

?1. Ask your leaders and colleagues for advice and communicate patiently.

If you're unsure how to get started, it's a good idea to chat with your leaders and colleagues. Let them know what you're struggling with and I'm sure they'll be able to offer some helpful advice.

?2. Get to know the work content inside out until you understand it.

Once you've spoken to your leaders and colleagues, you'll need to get to grips with the work content. If you're unsure how to do that, you can always search the internet for some tips.

☀️ Work is all about learning and growing. You've made the move from student to employee, and it's time to start thinking like a professional.

?3. Switch up your mindset and trust that you can do a great job.

During the work process, you've got to be able to switch on a dime. You've got to be in the right frame of mind to tackle any problem that comes up.

You've got to be able to adapt to the work you do and solve problems when they come up. When you improve your abilities, you'll get praise from your leaders and colleagues, and you'll also gain more confidence, which will help you in your future work.

?4. Read more to improve your self-management skills.

Once you start working, it's a good idea to make reading a habit. It can help you learn new things, gain knowledge, and develop your perspective.

Here's a book list recommended to me by a teacher:

First up is "The Effective Executive."

The second book I'd recommend is "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People."

?3. Minimalist Management

☀️ Teacher's recommendation: Being a manager isn't just about managing other people. It's also about managing yourself. When your self-management skills improve, you'll be able to move up the ladder.

I'd suggest reading these three books in a year to help you improve your problem-solving skills.

☀️Good books need to be read repeatedly, and these three books need to be read and understood thoroughly. The more you learn, the better you'll get at your job!

I wish you the best of luck and all the best!

At Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too!

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

I can see that you are sad and want to talk about it. I hug you. We are not born knowing everything. We all learn slowly, but we can get better at things that we are not good at with time.

The questioner stated that it took him two months to learn his job. From your writing, it is evident that the questioner has invested significant effort to learn and seek guidance from colleagues. It is clear that the questioner has demonstrated a strong commitment to doing the job well. However, it seems that the attitude and behavior of colleagues, including their expressions and attitudes, have negatively impacted the questioner's confidence.

It's up to you to decide if it's suitable for you.

After graduating, I took a sales job that wasn't my strongest suit. Watching customers come and go, I was intimidated. I was too shy to even introduce the products to customers. The store manager told me to observe how other colleagues worked. I was introverted and a little socially anxious, but I had finally found a job and wasn't going to give up. After a period of trial work, the store manager told me I wasn't suitable for the sales job. I was also told I wouldn't be paid because I had no sales performance.

I later reflected on it and realized that I had rejected a job like sales, and I also realized that I didn't like the work atmosphere. I tried my best, but I couldn't see any results. It wasn't them who gave up on me; it was me who gave up on a job that wasn't right for me. The questioner said that after working for two months, they still hadn't figured out what their job entailed. This shows that this job content is not something the questioner is good at. Sometimes we want to challenge ourselves, but if we have never been exposed to it before and have no foundation, it will be difficult to get the hang of it even if we try our best and in a short period of time.

Colleagues also come to work. If they spend more time teaching the questioner, it affects their own work. They might also want to spend the questioner's time fishing. If they don't know each other, colleagues' verbal attacks make the questioner sad. We need to look at this issue from another perspective. Is this job suitable for you? What can you get by persevering on your own?

You need to decide whether you can work with such a colleague.

You need to be able to see your emotions.

You haven't been able to grasp the work content, which is a source of stress for the question asker. They're afraid that their ability to learn won't be recognized by others. You're anxious every day, and when you keep making mistakes, your colleagues dislike you, which further erodes the question asker's confidence. They feel like they can't do anything and don't want to do it anymore.

Don't give up and wallow in self-pity. Others don't see your hard work, only the mistakes you've made. This is the reality in society. Many people wait for others to make mistakes so they can show off their abilities, rather than sincerely guiding and helping us when they see us make mistakes. These people are not just targeting the original poster; they are also like this when dealing with other people, and seem somewhat indifferent.

We work hard and are dedicated because we want to get what we want, not impress others. When we start something, we do it for ourselves. We don't care about what others think. If you're considering giving up on yourself because of criticism from colleagues, ask yourself why you care so much. Think about why you care about what your colleagues think of you. If you care about the impact on you and your colleagues, who is more important?

Give yourself more time.

We should keep learning as long as we live. We are always on the way of learning. The original poster had his own ideas when he chose this job. He has already taken the first step by starting, so why can't he give himself more time? My child wrote in one of his compositions that in order to make progress, he had to be cheeky and ask his teacher more questions and discuss methods with his classmates.

Dealing with unfriendly colleagues is a challenge, but it's also an opportunity to maintain good interpersonal relationships at work. Not every colleague needs to be a teacher, but when we want to learn more, it's essential to handle relationships well. The questioner should give themselves more time, take things step by step, and not be too demanding of themselves. As long as they make progress every day, they will be able to do it one day.

Relieve your emotions.

The dissatisfaction at work has affected the original poster's normal life. We must face and deal with our emotions to return to a normal life.

1. Choose the right one: We must accept that we cannot succeed in every challenge simply by trying harder. Some tasks are simply beyond our abilities, and we must accept this. If this job is too much for us, then we should stop wasting time and energy on it.

2. Confide: The questioner can confide in a listener who is positive and optimistic and can give him or her understanding and tolerance. When we are in a low mood, we just need a listener who is suitable for us, not someone who will preach at us. Choose someone who will really listen to you and help you release your emotions. This is the only way to solve your emotional problems.

3. Don't be alone: Your mood is affected right now. Don't be alone. Clean up and go for a walk. I like food courts. I don't need to eat a lot, but seeing food and eating warms me up. Walk in a flowery, plant-filled environment. Relax and appreciate the beauty. Let go of the unpleasantness.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best regards.