Alcohol dependence, how to cope with the irritability during the alcohol detoxification period?

Hello! As you said, your main issue is to get rid of your alcohol dependence.

I just wanted to say, first of all, that I think you're amazing! It's so admirable that you've taken the initiative to quit smoking and drinking. Not only did you have the idea, you also put it into practice, and with three days of success, you've shown that you're a person with relatively strong execution skills.

It can be really tough to break free from alcohol and tobacco dependence. One reason is that they're so readily available in our lives and can be easily obtained if desired. So, it's especially important to clean up the alcohol in your home when you decide to quit drinking.

It can be really helpful to make sure there's no alcohol around when you're trying to drink less.

Second, when quitting drinking, it is a great idea to change your plan to not drink today. This plan is much easier to complete! Each day is a long period of time, but it is much easier to get through one day than an indefinite period of time. This idea comes from the book "Micro Habits." A book that helps people quit smoking also mentions the same idea. At the same time, tell the most important people in your life with principles about your plan to quit drinking, such as your best friends and relatives. Let them serve as supervisors and encouragers!

Be sure to check in with them every day. If you have a rough day, just remember to keep up the good work and abstain the next day. You're doing great!

It's also worth mentioning that friends who usually smoke and drink, especially those who are addicted to both, often have anxiety issues. Smoking and drinking can help to reduce and relieve anxiety, which is why many people find it difficult to live without them.

In this regard, it's a great idea to go for a walk or a run. Exercise has been shown to reduce anxiety, so it'll really help you feel better. And of course, listening to music you like and going to a comedy club can all effectively help you get through the difficult time.

Finally, if you feel you need some extra help, it's a good idea to go to the hospital to test the degree of your alcohol dependence. The previous suggestions are all for cases where the dependence is not very serious. If you feel your alcohol dependence is very serious, it's a great idea to go to the hospital to seek help from a doctor.

I really hope this helps. You've got this! Stay strong and I wish you a speedy recovery from alcohol dependence and a long, healthy life!

Greetings,

After reading your description, I am able to empathize with the pain you described on the fourth day, despite the absence of physical contact.

It is encouraging to note that the individual in question has already demonstrated a significant achievement by reaching the fourth day of abstinence. This is a notable advancement in the journey towards recovery. For an individual with a high level of alcohol dependence, maintaining sobriety for a mere three days would be a challenging feat. However, this individual has managed to abstain from alcohol for over three days, which is a commendable achievement.

It is important to note that discouragement is unwarranted, and hasty action is unnecessary. It is crucial to recognize that the formation of an addiction is a process that cannot be compressed into a few days or weeks.

It is evident that correcting a maladaptive behavior, let alone an addiction, is a challenging endeavor. If "bad habits" can be conceptualized as the superficial layer of an onion, addiction may extend to the core of our being, akin to an integral part of our identity. It is crucial to recognize that quitting such a deeply ingrained habit is not a short-term endeavor. Therefore, it is essential to approach the process with patience and understanding. The mere act of taking the first step is a significant achievement in itself.

I am aware that the experience of being temporarily defeated by the "addiction" is challenging. It can be likened to the process of detoxification. When that uncomfortable sensation arises, there is a voice within that suggests, "Just take a puff." However, after the act is performed, feelings of self-reproach and guilt emerge, and in some instances, doubt may even be instilled. This form of psychological distress is arguably more difficult to endure than the pain associated with the alcohol craving. Therefore, I empathize with your situation. When the alcohol craving arises, it is indeed painful.

While a sip may provide temporary relief from physical discomfort, the psychological pain associated with addiction is immediate and therefore more intense.

A review of scientific literature reveals that excessive alcohol consumption can result in alterations to brain structure and neurochemistry. Furthermore, individuals with an addiction often exhibit a lack of control over their behavior.

A study conducted by the German Central Institute of Mental Health involved the use of magnetic resonance imaging to examine the brains of 90 individuals with alcohol use disorder and a comparison group of 36 individuals who did not consume alcohol. The findings revealed that the damage caused by alcohol to the brain extends beyond the immediate effects of intoxication and persists for at least six weeks. The communication of neurons in the brains of individuals with alcohol use disorder was observed to undergo changes, accompanied by a restriction in nerve signal transmission.

The process of quitting alcohol addiction is complex and challenging, and the success rate of quitting alcohol depends on the individual's willingness to quit and the strength of that willingness. It is ineffective if the individual is not prepared to quit on their own. Fortunately, the question asker has also expressed determination to quit drinking.

The question thus arises as to how one might alleviate this pain.

1. It is recommended that the individual join an association for alcoholics, as these groups are comprised of individuals who have also sought to quit drinking and are therefore able to provide support and guidance.

It is frequently challenging to achieve sobriety without external support. Maintaining abstinence requires significant fortitude, whereas relapsing is a relatively simple act. However, forming a support group with individuals who comprehend your struggles and are committed to assisting you can instill a sense of assurance.

To illustrate, as the questioner stated, when confronted with significant challenges, it is possible to seek the support of individuals with more extensive experience in managing alcohol dependency, such as those within Alcoholics Anonymous. With their encouragement and guidance, it may be possible to navigate through this challenging period. However, if one attempts to confront the issue independently, the likelihood of succumbing to the addiction is considerably heightened.

2. Additionally, psychological treatment may be beneficial as, from a psychological perspective, there is often a rationale behind any form of addiction. In the case of alcohol addiction, for instance, drinking may represent the only means by which individuals can find solace.

It is possible that pain or trauma may be hidden from view, and therefore it is important that others are able to provide care and understanding. This will enable the individual to quit drinking. The psychological dependence is gradually replaced by other positive things. Alcohol addiction may protect the individual from certain psychological pain. However, if it is not replaced with other things, the body often cannot adapt, and even the subconscious mind will not agree, so it is easy to "drink again."

Furthermore, during the course of psychological counseling, the counselor can assist the individual struggling with alcohol dependency in developing greater self-awareness, reducing or avoiding the negative emotions and stress associated with alcohol abstinence, and learning to regulate their behavior when faced with the urge to drink.

Ultimately, regardless of the chosen treatment plan, it is essential to anticipate the long-term implications. This is a protracted process that necessitates external support, underscoring the importance of seeking assistance from others.

Furthermore, repeated failures may lead to a loss of self-efficacy and a questioning of one's ability to maintain sobriety. A lack of self-belief may ultimately impede one's ability to achieve and sustain abstinence.

I wish you the best of success.

Good morning,

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a heart exploration coach. I've taken the time to read the post carefully. First and foremost, I want to assure you that I understand the complex feelings you're experiencing.

I also noticed that the host has courageously shared his struggles and sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help him gain a deeper understanding of himself and make positive adjustments.

I hope that by sharing my observations and thoughts in this post, I can help you to view yourself from a more diverse perspective.

1. Consider your own alcohol dependence.

From what I can gather from the post, it seems that the host is trying to quit drinking. I can imagine that the process might be quite challenging, as it can be for many people. It's understandable that it can be difficult and even depressing at times.

Perhaps now is a good time to consider how we might help ourselves. Let's explore together why we are addicted to alcohol.

I believe we may be physically and psychologically dependent on alcohol. Perhaps we could explore the psychological dependence together?

The renowned psychologist Wu Zhihong posits that the reason we may find it challenging to alter our "vices" is often because they offer us certain benefits. It stands to reason that people are unlikely to engage in behaviors that do not yield some form of benefit.

Perhaps we could take a moment to consider the benefits of drinking together? This is an opportunity for the host to explore their own needs. We can review the feelings that drinking brings us.

It is not uncommon for people to drink alcohol. Some people believe it provides a way to relieve stress, while others view it as a means of avoiding some of the challenges in reality.

Some people believe that they can temporarily alleviate their concerns in the real world and improve their mood. It's possible that this approach may not align with the original poster's needs, but understanding the underlying reasons for alcohol dependency could potentially be beneficial in making the decision to "quit drinking."

From a psychological perspective, it could be said that our behaviour is an external manifestation of our mental activity.

2. It might be helpful to spend some time with our repressed emotions.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what it means to spend time with our repressed emotions. Many of us go through a phase like this as we work to give up alcohol.

On a rational level, we recognize that excessive alcohol dependence is not beneficial. However, on an emotional level, there may be a voice that suggests drinking may offer certain benefits, and we may feel inclined to drink in order to experience these benefits.

At this time, we may experience an internal conflict. This can be frustrating because it can feel like there are two opposing voices inside us. It's natural to feel this way.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try spending some time with these emotions.

If I may enquire, how might this be achieved?

It is often the case that our bodies react in a corresponding way to the emotions we experience. For instance, anxiety can manifest as discomfort in the heart area and an increased heartbeat.

Perhaps we could also consider the possibility that tension may cause the body to become stiff.

It might be helpful to focus on our body when we feel irritated to see if there is anything wrong with it.

Then, perhaps you could focus on the uncomfortable part, stay with your emotions for a while, and even have a conversation with them. It may be the case that, after doing this, your emotions will ease.

It is possible that the emotions may not disappear entirely, but often after doing this, we seem to be observing our emotions and are less likely to be carried away by them. This method is described in more detail in Wu Zhihong's "The Body Knows the Answer."

If it would be of interest to the host, you may wish to take a look.

3. Consider learning to distract yourself.

If we find ourselves feeling particularly restless, we might like to consider focusing on the present. This can be a helpful way of avoiding getting caught up in our emotions and allowing ourselves to remain in control.

One way to deal with frustration is to take action in a productive way. Some people find it helpful to do chores or even move furniture around the house.

This can be an effective way to focus on the present. Additionally, completing these tasks can provide a sense of accomplishment and a sense of control. This can also help to build strength.

With strength, we may be able to help ourselves to "quit drinking." It could be said that it is easier to run 5 kilometers when we are not hungry than when we are.

It may also be helpful to learn to distract yourself and not let yourself get caught up in your emotions.

I hope these will be of some help and inspiration to you. If you have any questions and would like to explore the psychological motivation behind your drinking further, you might like to try clicking on Find a Coach for one-on-one communication services. This could help you to get more timely feedback that is better suited to your needs.

Dear Question Asker, I am honored to have the opportunity to address your question.

From the questioner's description, it is evident that they are interested in quitting drinking. In terms of health management, there is a recommended daily alcohol intake: one glass of beer for women and two for men; one to two glasses of white wine for women and two to three glasses for men.

From the questioner's description, it appears that he does not wish to rely on drinking as a means of expressing negative emotions when he is in a negative mood.

This is an important first step towards improved health, and I commend the poster for taking this initiative. However, it is essential to understand that quitting drinking is a challenging and often painful process.

If the questioner is determined to quit drinking without professional assistance, it is likely to be a challenging process. They may wish to consider seeking guidance from a medical doctor, psychologist, or counselor. These professionals can provide support in making the transition to sobriety more manageable. Quitting drinking can positively impact physical health and promote mental clarity.

It can prevent heart attacks, assist with weight loss, prevent hangovers, reduce the risk of liver disease, and improve breathing.

Given that this question was posed on an online forum, I will offer some straightforward advice on quitting drinking, with the aim of assisting the questioner.

It is advisable to seek professional medical assistance.

It is inadvisable to attempt to quit drinking without professional assistance. Due to the potential for complications, it is important to be aware of your physical condition. Sudden cessation of alcohol consumption can result in withdrawal symptoms, including anxiety, tremors, palpitations, and tachycardia.

Without professional medical assistance, quitting drinking can result in physical discomfort and, in severe cases, even pose a life-threatening risk.

It is important to note that quitting drinking is not a personal matter that can be handled alone. In fact, many professional medical institutions and doctors are equipped to assist individuals in this process. Seeking professional medical help can be a more effective approach than attempting to quit drinking completely on one's own.

It is not uncommon for medical professionals to prescribe medication to alleviate discomfort during the abstinence period. These medications are generally considered safe and are unlikely to cause fatalities when used in excess.

It is important to understand that quitting drinking is not a process that can be completed overnight.

To achieve successful alcohol cessation, it is essential to adopt a mindset that views the process as a challenging but achievable journey. It is crucial to recognize that abstinence from alcohol is a long-term endeavor, and it may entail experiencing temporary setbacks. During these periods, it is normal to feel discouraged and even tempted to resume drinking. However, with resilience and determination, individuals can successfully navigate these challenges and reach their desired outcome.

The decision to abstain from alcohol is akin to removing an adversarial presence from one's life, rather than welcoming a supportive ally. It is essential to continually reflect on this distinction.

It is not uncommon for individuals undergoing alcohol cessation to experience physical discomfort during the process. While they may be aware of the benefits of abstinence, they may also find themselves thinking about drinking. In such instances, it is important to note that controlling the quantity consumed can be an effective coping strategy. For instance, if an individual typically drinks a glass of alcohol, they may choose to reduce their intake to half or a third of a glass initially, and then gradually decrease the portion further.

It is not advisable to attempt to give up alcohol all at once. A more gradual approach is recommended, with the exception of certain important days.

Avoid all products related to alcohol.

If you have guests over for dinner, you are under no obligation to offer them alcoholic beverages. Non-alcoholic alternatives such as Sprite, Coke, apple cider vinegar, and other drinks are perfectly acceptable.

It is also advisable to limit contact with friends who drink excessively. When social events involving alcohol are unavoidable, it is important to exercise restraint and control your drinking. It is crucial to identify situations or occasions that may trigger drinking for individuals and avoid them if possible. If the questioner finds themselves in a similar situation, it is essential to avoid it and resist the urge to drink.

It is particularly important to limit contact with friends who drink frequently. It is essential to prioritize self-care and avoid being influenced by others to drink, as this could disrupt one's own alcohol abstinence plan.

Please consider the potential consequences of excessive alcohol consumption.

The number of individuals whose health is adversely affected by excessive alcohol consumption is on the rise. Frequent drinking is a contributing factor to a range of ailments, including hypertension, cerebral hemorrhage, cirrhosis of the liver, and gout. It is crucial to consider the impact of these diseases on an individual's well-being.

If you consume excessive amounts of alcohol, you may experience adverse effects such as vomiting, cognitive impairment, and headaches. It is possible to envision these unfavorable outcomes of alcohol consumption.

Frequently contemplating the unfavorable outcomes of consuming alcohol may evoke discomfort in the individual, intensifying their aversion to alcohol. This is an important step towards achieving the goal of abstinence and a sign of hope for personal transformation. It is also beneficial to frequently envision the potential for a fulfilling and positive life after successfully quitting drinking, which can reinforce determination to achieve this goal.

Do not experience any feelings of guilt.

The decision to abstain from alcohol is an autonomous choice made by the individual in question, and it represents a positive step towards personal transformation. Even if there are occasional lapses in this decision, such occurrences are to be expected and should not be a cause for self-reproach. During the process of abstaining from alcohol, it is crucial to maintain a sense of self-compassion and to recognize that alcohol is a source of adversity.

Alcohol often presents a temptation to the host, and those who sell alcohol frequently speak highly of it in advertisements, creating the impression that alcohol is beneficial. However, this is not the case. Nothing is more important than your own life, and alcohol can pose a threat to your wellbeing.

It is oppressive to the questioner, causing the questioner to submit to it, and it is dangerous to the questioner's health, so it is the questioner's enemy.

The most important thing for the questioner to consider is their health. Without health, the questioner is unable to function effectively. Without health, the questioner is unable to provide care to their family, friends, and other individuals who rely on them. It is essential to commit to abstaining from alcohol and to seek support from family members and other individuals in your life who can provide encouragement and assistance. With the support of those around you, it will be easier for the questioner to abstain from alcohol and to avoid feelings of guilt.

Please list the reasons you have chosen to abstain from alcohol.

Xi Jinping often states, "Don't forget your first heart." What, then, is the rationale behind the topic owner's decision to cease drinking?

You may choose to write it down or even print it out and display it in your home for convenient reference. When you find yourself tempted to drink, will seeing your note about your reasons for quitting and your commitment to sobriety provide the motivation you need to resist?

This will enable the host to remain sober for a longer period of time and resist the urge to drink. For example, "I quit drinking to improve my performance at work. I don't want to be under the influence and make mistakes that could negatively impact my pay."

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"I abstain from alcohol consumption to avoid embarrassing myself in the presence of colleagues, friends, and family. It is highly embarrassing to be in such a situation."

"I don't want to disappoint friends and family by appearing intoxicated."

"I would like to assess my mental state after quitting drinking."

It is important to record the positive feelings you experience after quitting drinking. Every change is worth noting, and after quitting drinking, you will feel more energetic and happier. It is essential to remember that your health is the most important thing in life, and quitting drinking is one of the most effective ways to improve your health.

There is no reason to delay. Quitting drinking will lead to improved health and a better quality of life.

I hope my response provides the information the questioner was seeking.

Greetings. I extend my support and encouragement in the form of a 360-degree embrace.

From the information provided, it can be inferred that the subject is experiencing mild withdrawal symptoms.

Withdrawal is defined as a series of unbearable symptoms and signs that occur when an individual addicted to a substance or drug stops taking it. Medically, it is referred to as withdrawal symptoms, which can include cravings, anxiety, depression, restlessness, headaches, increased salivary gland secretion, lack of concentration, sleep disorders, elevated blood pressure and heart rate, and in some cases, weight gain.

Withdrawal symptoms are often characterized by a high level of discomfort. The consumption of alcohol at this juncture can provide temporary relief from the withdrawal state, but it can also impede the process of cessation. Withdrawal symptoms represent a significant obstacle to the successful termination of addiction.

Given the brevity of your description, it is not possible to ascertain with certainty whether the symptoms you are experiencing are a result of withdrawal. However, it is evident that you are not in a state of optimal wellbeing.

The question thus arises as to how one might deal with withdrawal symptoms in a positive manner.

Firstly, it is recommended that you seek out a confidant or form a support group with individuals who are similarly situated. The following book is suggested for your perusal: "Family Can Hurt." The author of this book was an alcoholic who ultimately achieved sobriety through group counseling. The book delineates the twelve steps of recovery.

It should be noted that the book was written by an American, and therefore some parts may not be culturally relevant for Chinese people.

Secondly, when experiencing irritability, engaging in a walk or a session of Tai Chi can be beneficial. It is recommended to stop and close one's eyes, take a deep breath through the abdomen, allowing the air to fill the lungs until the abdomen is fully expanded, hold the breath for a moment, and then slowly exhale through the nose. This breathing technique can be repeated as needed.

Thirdly, it is recommended that the individual engage in physical exercise. This may take the form of competitive sports such as basketball or boxing. The release of aggression and the subsequent production of dopamine during exercise can contribute to an improvement in mood.

Fourth, one may consider the use of pressure-increasing devices, which are widely available online, or the use of chewing gum.

Should one wish to relieve their symptoms through the use of medication, it is advised that they do so via a formal channel, such as a hospital.

As a final recommendation, I suggest reading a book entitled "This Book Will Help You Quit Smoking Forever." This text addresses the topic of smoking cessation and acknowledges the physiological aspects of addiction. I hope that this book will provide inspiration for those attempting to quit smoking.

I am a psychological counselor who experiences depressive episodes and periods of optimism. I extend my love and appreciation to the world.

Good day.

One of the challenges in overcoming alcohol dependence is the issue of self-efficacy. Self-efficacy plays an important role in guiding us to set ambitious goals and to persevere through difficult times.

To achieve the goal of quitting drinking, it would be helpful for the questioner to consider factors such as self-efficacy, learned helplessness, and self-determination.

If you believe you can quit drinking, how might this belief affect you? It may depend on whether you feel you have the ability to control the outcome.

You may feel that you can quit drinking, but you may also feel that you can't live without alcohol, and that it has become a habit. This could make you think that it is very difficult for you to quit drinking.

The questioner may wish to consider taking the Farris test to gain insight into their beliefs about destiny and control. This could help to identify whether they tend to view their destiny as being controlled by themselves or by external forces.

It may be helpful to consider that if you believe you are in control, you may be more likely to succeed in quitting drinking, maintaining a healthy body, and being more satisfied with your life.

It might be helpful to consider spending more time outside, socializing with friends, exploring new places, or enjoying a picnic. When we're feeling depressed, it's natural to feel passive and helpless. Similarly, when we feel like we have no control over our circumstances, it can affect our mental state.

This may be why the poster felt depressed on the fourth day of abstinence and ended up drinking after all. One option to consider is changing the environment and finding a place where there is no alcohol.

If you're looking for a solution to your problem, we suggest visiting a regular hospital and speaking with a professional physician about your options. We're not qualified to prescribe medication or recommend drugs.

It's natural to find it challenging at the outset, but with perseverance, I'm confident you'll succeed in giving up drinking.

1. Replace the addictive behavior with a new habit. Make a list of things that will bring you happiness. When you experience the urge to drink, do not resist or give in to it. Instead, observe the emotion, as you would in mindfulness practice. Take a deep breath, and when you have calmed down from the most impulsive state, engage in the habit you selected to replace the addictive behavior.

2. It is important to note that the substitute behavior will not provide the same level of pleasure as drinking. This should be kept in mind when making decisions.

3. It is important to note that self-control is a finite resource. Therefore, it is crucial to avoid testing one's limits and to refrain from exposure to potential trigger mechanisms.

4. Addiction is, in fact, a substitute behavior. It is erroneous to associate addiction with self-punishment. There was a speech on TED that I do not recall the name of. However, if you are interested in viewing it, you can search for the relevant keywords.

Related psychological experiments include the observation of mice in a cage with toxic but addictive water and ordinary water. As would be expected, the mice continued to drink the toxic water. However, when the environment of the experiment was altered and the mice were provided with a more favorable setting, they began to drink the ordinary water.

Another noteworthy observation is that the majority of Vietnam War veterans had minimal responsibilities in their daily lives and spent a significant portion of their weekly allowance on drugs. However, it is notable that these soldiers would use the drugs while on the front lines but exhibited no addictive behavior, no withdrawal symptoms, and in many cases, no interest in the drugs at all after returning home. They were preoccupied with reuniting with their wives and children and resuming their lives. An even more intriguing observation is that when these soldiers returned to the battlefield, they resumed their use of these drugs.

In discussing this example of observation in class, we addressed the notion that personality can undergo significant transformation in response to environmental shifts.

The individual presenting the TED Talk ultimately concluded that a profound connection with others and society at large is a significant factor in understanding addiction.

In my personal experience, addiction is a conscious decision, driven by the belief that alcohol can provide a level of happiness that one's current circumstances cannot. This may be the result of a lack of awareness or a deeper psychological factor.

In conclusion, it can be stated that effective management of one's life and alignment with one's personal values are key to achieving a life that is in accordance with one's preferences.

5. Additionally, it bears noting that prior to selecting an alternative behavior, it is essential to ascertain the underlying motivation for engaging in the behavior in question. This may entail identifying the specific emotional state or sensation that is sought, such as the social lubrication provided by alcohol, or the alleviation of discomfort. It is imperative to recognize that each individual's reasons for engaging in a particular behavior may vary.

Subsequently, one should identify alternative activities that can fulfill these psychological needs.

I am aware that this question was posed several months ago, but I recently came across it and felt compelled to contribute my insights. Having grappled with various addictions for an extended period, I have accumulated a wealth of information from diverse sources that I believe can be beneficial in addressing such challenges.

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I wish you the best of luck.

Hello, host. I understand that you have previously struggled with alcohol addiction and are currently trying to quit drinking. This is undoubtedly a challenging process. I believe that it can be compared to having relied on a crutch for an extended period and then suddenly discarding it. It is natural to experience setbacks and feelings of frustration, anger, and powerlessness during this transition. Reaching for the crutch again can provide a sense of relief and support.

However, I can also see that you have confidence in yourself. I believe that with the right support, you will be able to overcome this challenge and succeed!

I hope that by sharing some ideas from my personal experience and understanding, I can be of some help.

It might be helpful to consider developing a new "dependency."

(1) I believe that when we attempt to alter or terminate a past habit or reliance, we often perceive it as challenging and require significant self-control to persevere for a few days. This may be because our brain has become accustomed to the previous pattern and form of reliance. When we introduce a new approach, the brain may perceive it as discordant with past experience, eliciting a range of emotions that impede our progress.

(2) It is possible that the brain may respond more directly to this approach. If we say that we want to "change" our past dependence on alcohol, it may feel that this is an "unhappy" decision and that it is denying past behavior. Then, if we say that cultivating a new habit and a new dependence is for the brain to gradually accept a new thing, it may be a different reaction.

(3) If it would be helpful, you might try writing down the situation, mood, and feelings after drinking when you first developed an alcohol dependency. This could be beneficial because the brain may release signals to drink when it encounters these scenarios and emotions.

(4) You might like to consider some other things that can make you feel relaxed and comfortable, such as taking a bath, playing boxing, eating desserts, watching funny videos, etc. If you think of any others, you could write them down on a piece of paper.

(5) The next step is to consider developing a new form of dependence. For example, if there are five situations or emotions that make you want to drink, you might try splitting these situations and emotions into the things that can relax you. It may be helpful to experience these things separately from the sense of satisfaction that drinking can provide. This could help to avoid a single thing becoming an "over-reliance" again.

It may be helpful to use external methods to accompany irritable emotions.

(1) One approach to managing challenging emotions is to engage in a form of emotional "aversion" therapy. When you experience an irritating emotion, you can find a comfortable place to sit, put a pillow or something soft in your lap, and gently tap the pillow while talking about the emotion. Continue talking until you feel ready to address your needs or feelings. If you feel thirsty, drink water. If you notice any physical sensations or feelings, address them first, and then return to talking. Continue talking until you feel less irritated, and you may find that you no longer have any reason to feel annoyed. You may have successfully navigated this challenging period.

(2) Another option is writing therapy. If you're feeling irritable, you might try this approach: Take out a piece of paper, a pen, and a timer. Set the time to 10-15 minutes. During this time, simply write on the paper without stopping or overthinking. Just let your thoughts flow, even if you're unsure of what to write. It's okay to just write the sentence without judgment or overthinking. Once you're finished, you can tear the paper up, imagining that all your irritability has been released.

(3) There is also a form of Zen dance, where you dance naturally to a piece of music. You don't need to think about how to dance; just dance naturally. It doesn't matter if you feel like a fool, because this is also a good way to release emotions. You might like to try not using your brain. The brain will always have judgmental thoughts, such as whether the dance is good-looking and how it could be better. So we just give the brain a holiday, don't use the mind, just go with the feeling, flowing naturally. This method is best done with a teacher.

(4) Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can be a helpful way to heal. You can find a teacher on the platform that you feel comfortable with, and confide in him when you are annoyed. The teacher will also guide you to release your emotions and alleviate this feeling of annoyance.

I hope you find the strength to push past your own limitations. You are not alone in this, and we are here to support you.

Dear Questioner, Many people can relate to the feelings expressed in your query. The decision to give up alcohol is similar to quitting smoking, and it requires a high level of determination.

From your correspondence, it appears that you have already abstained from alcohol for three days. However, on the fourth day, you were unable to resist and consumed alcohol.

I would like to begin by asking you a few questions. Why do you consume alcohol so frequently? Do you genuinely enjoy the experience of drinking?

Or do you find the effects of alcohol to be agreeable?

I have experienced the effects of alcohol on two occasions, and I found it particularly challenging. I admire those who can consume alcohol without adverse effects.

Secondly, an objective assessment of your situation indicates that you have identified drinking as an unhealthy habit. You have previously attempted to quit, and this time you have successfully abstained from alcohol for three days. I have observed individuals in my immediate circle who have successfully quit smoking. I am curious if they share a similar sentiment.

It is often said that if you do not smoke, you will not smoke. However, if you are unable to refrain from smoking, you may be more likely to do so again. Furthermore, the influence of those around you, who may be drinking and smoking, may also affect your behaviour.

Then, take a moment to reflect. This time you managed to last three days, which is a significant achievement. I can sense your determination and courage, but why suddenly quit everything?

Have you considered a gradual approach? This time you were able to maintain your goal for three days. Next time, you can try extending that to five days, then eight days, and so on, gradually increasing the time frame.

Once a behavior is established, it can be challenging to make sudden changes. Adapting to new circumstances often requires a gradual process. Without knowing your age and gender, it is difficult to provide tailored advice.

I am unable to provide further details at this time.

Finally, conquering your inner obstacles requires time and an acceptance of your imperfections. In fact, you can identify more than three solutions for each issue. You may wish to consider an alternative approach to gradually overcoming your problem in a step-by-step manner.

Rather than abruptly ceasing the activity in its entirety, it would be more beneficial to gradually phase it out. This approach allows for a smoother transition and a more positive outcome.

Additionally, it is advisable to engage in activities that will distract you from your current situation. It would be beneficial to plan your time each day in a structured manner. The internet offers a wealth of resources that can help you develop your inner abilities.

For example, you might consider going to the gym, taking online courses, watching videos, or binge-watching dramas, etc. You may also find it helpful to record this process of quitting drinking in written form to monitor your progress. There may be other individuals who could benefit from this approach.

If you are willing to put in the effort, I am confident you will achieve the desired results.

I wish you the best of luck.

Hello, question asker!

I saw your question on the platform. You said that you have an alcohol dependence, but you really want to quit drinking. From what you described, it seems that you have tried to quit before, but it didn't work out. Now you want to try again, which shows that you've made a big decision. Whether you succeed or not, you've already taken a big step, which is much better than those people who are forced to quit drinking without realizing the harm of alcohol.

Alcohol withdrawal is just psychological and physiological. You're already very self-aware because you know the dangers of alcohol dependence and want to quit on your own. You're feeling very depressed, irritable, uncomfortable, and down. This is normal for withdrawal.

The symptoms of alcohol withdrawal syndrome can be mild or severe and include:

The first symptoms to look out for are headaches, trembling, and profuse sweating.

The second thing to look out for is nausea or vomiting.

3. Anxiety, depression, and discomfort

You might also experience stomach pain and diarrhea.

5. Trouble sleeping and eating

6. You might also notice your heart rate and blood pressure going up.

7. Other alcohol withdrawal symptoms

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Within a few hours of stopping drinking, you'll start to feel the effects of alcohol withdrawal. These will peak within the next day or two, but should gradually improve within five days. Treatment should be tailored to each individual's situation.

What can I do to get through alcohol withdrawal more effectively?

1) If you want to quit drinking, you've got to have the willpower and self-control to make it happen.

It's actually easier to quit drinking than smoking. Typically, if you can go six weeks without drinking, you'll basically be done. The negative effects of alcohol on the brain and nerves last about six weeks, during which time it continues to stimulate our brain nerves, forming an alcohol dependence.

2) Is there a miracle cure?

Specific drugs should still be prescribed by a professional doctor. As long as you can safely get through this period, you'll be fine. If the reaction is severe, you should seek medical attention immediately and protect yourself.

3) Interest transfer method.

One of the best ways to get through this is to use other hobbies to replace drinking. It's amazing how much of a difference it makes! Try taking up running, hiking, swimming or any other outdoor sport. Spend more time with friends, go on trips or fishing together. Don't let yourself get lonely or depressed, because when people are in that mood, they're more likely to turn to alcohol.

If you're more open-minded and have more friends, you'll become a happier person. You won't have the problem of alcohol dependency. Even if you drink, it'll be for pleasure.

4) Substitution Method

In a nutshell, it's best to avoid alcohol! Keep alcohol in the house to a minimum, and try to avoid or limit your participation in parties and banquets.

If you have to drink at a drinking party, try drinking tea or water with the alcohol, and then drink plenty of water or other drinks. This should help you feel less inclined to drink.

5) Gradually cut back on drinking.

Alcohol withdrawal is similar to quitting smoking. Since you're addicted, don't expect to be able to abstain from alcohol completely. You should still quit drinking in a planned manner. Quitting all at once is likely to cause withdrawal symptoms like the ones you're experiencing now. If you experience withdrawal symptoms, you should seek immediate professional treatment at a specialist hospital.

6) Consider trying alcohol "alternatives."

There are still lots of fruit wines and beers on the market that don't contain alcohol. If you really can't control your desire to drink, you can try these non-alcoholic drinks. If you can't buy non-alcoholic drinks for the time being, you can also replace them with lower-alcohol drinks.

7) Don't go it alone.

Once you've made the decision to quit drinking, it's important to let your family and friends know. You can ask them to keep an eye on you so you don't drink casually, and you should never let your friends pressure you into drinking. This is the only way to truly quit drinking for good and never touch alcohol again.

8) Look after yourself.

As you quit drinking, you'll likely experience mood swings and inner struggles with alcohol. To manage this, ensure a balanced diet and adequate sleep, treat yourself a little better, and exercise regularly. This can relieve stress and help you stay calm.

There are lots of ways to do this, depending on what works for you. No matter which one you choose, as long as you're truly determined, you'll succeed in giving up drinking. I'm afraid you don't want to give up drinking. I wish you success in giving up drinking!

I'm proud and uninhibited, and I love the world! ?

Hello, landlord! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

First of all, the host said that he really wants to quit drinking, which is a very important driving force. It is also very normal to experience these reactions during the withdrawal process. Therefore, quitting drinking is indeed not an easy task—but it's worth it!

During this process, you might want to consider talking to a professional doctor about whether you can use some medication to relieve your "pain." I know there are such medications out there, but I can't give you a definitive answer. You'll have to consult a professional doctor and make some targeted adjustments.

Ready to make some positive changes? Here are some awesome suggestions on how to adjust your mentality to cope with withdrawal symptoms on the psychological level:

Keep your original intentions in mind and remember why you made the great decision to quit drinking!

Once you've made the decision to quit drinking, it's time to make a detailed plan! This usually lasts for 1-3 months. Record your drinking for a week to understand your habits and the reasons behind them. Then, you'll know which drinks you can easily avoid and which ones you'll need to work on.

It's time to learn some medical knowledge about drinking! You'll discover that drinking is harmful to human health and that it's addictive. You'll also learn that quitting drinking is a test of your perseverance, faith, and character. And you'll find out that quitting is bound to succeed! You'll also learn how to maintain a happy mood and good mental state. This will help you devote yourself to quitting drinking. And you'll learn how to seek the support and encouragement of family members, friends, and colleagues. This will increase the success rate of quitting drinking!

It's time to create a favorable environment to deal with withdrawal symptoms!

Let's create an environment that's perfect for quitting drinking! Start by discarding all the bottles of alcohol and wine at home. Then, try to attend as few drinking parties as possible or not at all. Keep a diary of quitting drinking and gradually reduce the amount of alcohol you consume according to the plan. You don't have to quit drinking successfully in one day. Use the step-by-step method to systematically reduce the amount of alcohol you consume and extend the time between drinks. This will help you reduce withdrawal symptoms and alleviate discomfort.

Let's say you drink 200ml a day before quitting. In the first week, you'll be amazed at how easy it is to cut back to 150ml. By the second week, you'll be down to 100ml, and by the third week, you'll be at 50ml. In the fourth week, you'll be at 30ml, and in the fifth week, you'll be at 10ml. By the sixth week, you'll be at 5ml, and by the seventh week, you'll be at zero!

You can absolutely deal with withdrawal symptoms effectively!

Depression: Call your friends and family, go to the movies, go shopping or visit an exhibition with someone else, and silently reaffirm your decision to quit drinking. You can do this!

Insomnia: No coffee after 6:00 p.m., read in bed before going to sleep, and maintain a quiet time of 1 to 15 minutes before going to sleep. You've got this!

If you're feeling irritable, frustrated, or angry, go for a walk or exercise! Stop, close your eyes, and breathe in deeply through your nose and out through your mouth a few times.

Anxiety: Take 10 minutes to relax, stretch, and focus on one thing at a time. You've got this!

There are so many simple ways to cope with your symptoms! Try going for a walk, brushing your teeth, taking deep breaths, taking a bath, going shopping, or reading the newspaper.

If you're having trouble concentrating, take a break! Do something important when your concentration is at its lowest, and don't sit in the same position for too long.

Restlessness: Try squeezing a balloon or other "pressure reducer," or devote yourself to a hobby.

Tell yourself all the things you want to hear! "I'm getting healthier," "I'm moving in a better direction," "I feel better," "I want to be confident."

And there's more! You can also treat yourself for staying strong and sober. Put up "no alcohol" signs at home and work to remind yourself of your progress. And get moving! Exercise releases endorphins that will boost your mood and make you feel great!

Best of luck! You've got this!

Hello, landlord! I'm smiling.

After reading your description, I understand your question better. I want you to know that I'm here for you.

From your description, I can tell you're determined to quit drinking. That's why you're seeking help on social media. I admire your determination and courage. Keep up the good work.

Quitting is hard. It's like quitting smoking. You're used to it, so it's tough to give it up quickly.

For example, you like chocolate very much, especially when you are sad. You really want to eat chocolate to adjust your mood. When you first feel that this behavior is useful, you will continue to use eating chocolate to adjust your emotional state. This is what psychology calls reinforcement, which refers to the process of strengthening a certain behavior through something. Using chocolate to adjust your emotional state is a positive reinforcement, which is a good way to strengthen the occurrence of behavior.

Let's get back to your decision to quit drinking. I'm not sure what led you to become addicted, but I can make an informed assessment based on your description. I'll give you some different ideas.

Many people turn to drinking or smoking when they're in a bad mood. This doesn't solve the underlying issue. It only temporarily relieves the pain. This reinforces the idea that drinking is the solution. When they're in a bad mood again, they don't address the problem. They escape by drinking.

If it reaches the level of alcohol addiction, it's clear the individual is under a lot of pressure. This will manifest in the future when they encounter a bigger problem or nothing at all and are just upset for no reason. They will think about drinking. This is when the psychological term "generalization" appears. It refers to the fact that after a certain response forms a conditional connection with a certain stimulus, this response will also form a certain degree of conditional connection with other similar stimuli.

Let me be clear: in the past, you only encountered some setbacks before you would escape through drinking. Now, as soon as you become emotionally irritable, you will want to escape and drink.

I have also summarized some methods to help you alleviate the current situation. I am confident that these will help you.

(1) Find problem-solving methods that suit you. This will help you move beyond your previous single mode of problem-solving.

(2) Distract yourself by focusing on things that interest you, rather than staying in the same environment all the time.

(3) Capture your emotions and feelings, and understand why you have them. Is something going on? Or are you just feeling down?

(4) Relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself. When you feel bad, you can release the pressure in your heart through sports, music, confiding, etc. Don't let it build up inside you.

(5) Set a schedule and implement alcohol abstinence in stages. Don't be too aggressive. You can change in a few days, but you have to take it one step at a time. Give yourself more positive self-suggestions to encourage your current self to succeed in alcohol abstinence step by step.

The world and I love you!

I wish you the best.

Hi, and thank you for having me as your host!

It is very disappointing, frustrating, and difficult for anyone who encounters an 'addiction' that they want to quit but often cannot. But don't worry! There are solutions out there.

The respondent can see that you are currently going through a very trying period of growth. But if you can get through this, I absolutely believe it will give you more support for self-affirmation afterwards!

I'm so excited to share my insights on understanding and solutions to the topic of addiction from several perspectives!

One fantastic idea we hold about all drugs is that they are "neutral" rather than "absolute."

In other words, if we can better control the amount of "smoking" and "drinking," then we can do it for pleasure without harming our bodies! Do you think so?

So, I would love to confirm a few points first. What is the current state of your alcohol dependence? To be more specific, what is the degree of dependence?

Have you tried anything other than controlling it in your consciousness? I'd love to hear how it worked out for you!

And there are so many other exciting things to explore! Things like gambling, smoking, alcoholism, and sexual addiction.

And so on!

And the behavior displayed by these addictions is not particularly different from that of other people in everyday situations. But here's where it gets interesting! At certain unexpected times, it displays a completely abnormal state from the norm. This is a particular characteristic of addiction, which is always triggered by some special "trigger."

Second, the effect of "addiction" as a form of behavioral relief or catharsis is caused by some negative complexes within the human heart.

Or as you said, "irritable," "uneasy," and longing for relief; or "aggrieved," "talent has nowhere to be placed," and "depressed and frustrated," or it could be "the inner desire to be loved and have an intimate relationship" and the hunger of the body and soul.

However, if we simply try to control this action with our consciousness, we can make a conscious choice to change our behavior. This will have a positive effect that will last long after the initial action. It will help us gain confidence and make positive choices about our actions.

It's so important to understand the reasons behind the behavior and the deeper motives behind it before embarking on a treatment that goes beyond the emotional motives behind the behavior. This process will be more thorough and complete, and it's going to be so rewarding!

It all starts with understanding your inner needs and connecting with yourself.

* When did you first notice that you were becoming dependent on alcohol? What significant events (including family, work, even career, intimate relationships) had happened around you at that time, and what changes had you experienced?

I'd love to know how you felt at that time!

* You wholeheartedly disagree with the idea that alcohol can bring you some kind of relief. As you said: {I didn't want to drink, I wanted to cry, but I was so irritated that I drank anyway} – what kind of state is this feeling of wanting to 'cry'?

Can you describe or draw it? Is it sadness, pain, helplessness, or something that can't be broken through?

2. Care about the factors that make you feel "painful" inside. You can understand them, resolve them, and even transcend them!

Many people may feel that suffering is suffering, but there is so much we can learn from it! If we could just imagine a world where we didn't have to suffer, what would it be like?

The amazing thing about our emotions is that they bring us different experiences. For instance, failing an exam can lead to a sense of self-worth negation, and the breakdown of a parent's relationship can also lead to a sense of abandonment and a feeling that we are unworthy of love.

Even the dissatisfaction at work and periodic failures can make us feel our own incompetence. But don't worry! The accumulation and superposition of these feelings can often become the last straw that breaks the camel's back.

So, if we can remove the 'pain' factor from our hearts and purify it, we'll definitely feel a sense of stability and refreshment!

For this part of the work, the respondent wholeheartedly recommends that you find a professional counselor to help you.

3. I'd love to hear your thoughts about the future! What are your expectations and hopes?

This part is really important because we all need "light" and "hope"!

It's like a child taking an exam. If they only get 90 points on an exam once in a while, but their parents don't blame them but instead encourage them and believe in their child's nature or inherent qualities of being a good student, then the child, after being shown their own strengths, will definitely be able to study even harder. No matter who it is, it could be this child!

As long as we have hope and light in our hearts for the future, we can absolutely improve the current situation!

Similarly, alcohol addiction has a numbing effect on the nerves and gives a person a "high" and a very relaxed feeling. Then, after you have experienced this feeling, you definitely have a sense of temporary euphoria within you! But after you sober up, you'll be ready to take on the situation head-on.

Absolutely!

So, let's open up the reality one by one and look to the future! Let's plan a brand new roadmap that will make your future blueprint clearer and more expansive!

I really hope that sharing this answer will help you!

If you're looking for more support, I'm here for you! You can PM me anytime. I'm a Level 2 Psychological Counselor, Fairy Xianren. Wishing you all the best!

It's clear from the message that the poster is ready and willing to quit drinking. It's also evident that they're feeling a bit helpless and frustrated at not being able to do so.

I think there's a good chance that turning to drugs to get through this period is part of the reason why it's been so difficult to quit drinking.

1. The questioner has tried very hard to quit drinking in various ways, and they've had some great successes! Unfortunately, they didn't work out, but they gave it their all and that's what matters.

Some of the life events during this period may have made the questioner feel even more tortured, and he could only escape his annoyance by drinking, which he was familiar with.

Based on the comments and the above assumptions, I'm thrilled to share some thoughts and perspectives on how to deal with this situation. I'm confident they'll be helpful to the original poster!

Based on the comments and the above assumptions, I'm thrilled to share some thoughts and perspectives on how to deal with this situation. I truly hope they'll be helpful to the poster!

First, catch the thief first! And then, try to see if it is possible to reduce the impact of negative events on the individual.

I'm really curious to know what kind of life the questioner has been through during this period, which has caused him to drink again after successfully abstaining from alcohol for 3 days. It's totally possible that such a life event has had a great impact on the questioner's mind, and he has experienced a very depressing, irritating, and difficult situation.

Therefore, in addition to turning to alcohol for temporary oblivion, which is followed by a huge psychological rebound that exacerbates the inner turmoil, such life events themselves:

Absolutely! There are so many ways to reduce its impact.

Absolutely! Seek help from trusted people around you to reduce its influence.

By reducing the impact of life events on the individual, you can indirectly reduce your potential dependence on alcohol!

2. It's time to develop some exciting alternatives to alcohol for coping with suppressed, irritable, and uncomfortable emotions!

2. It's time to develop some awesome alternatives to alcohol to deal with those suppressed, irritable, and uncomfortable emotions!

If the impact of the event itself has exceeded the scope of personal control, then there's no need to worry! There are plenty of other ways to relieve emotions in a positive way other than alcohol. These include but are not limited to:

1. Exercise

Exercise is a great way to feel happy! It releases endorphins, dopamine, and other hormones that make you feel good. So, get moving and feel the difference!

2. Writing and doodling

There are so many ways to release negative emotions! Writing or drawing are two great options. The goal isn't to perfect your technique, but to let it all out and see what comes out on the page or canvas.

3. Confide!

Likewise, if you have someone in your life who you can turn to for support and trust, you can go to them to talk and express yourself. This will help you feel less attracted to the effect alcohol has on you.

4. Get out there and expand your social activities or interests!

If there are no such people around, there are plenty of other ways to get involved! Try integrating into social activities with groups of people, such as dancing, game room activities, camping, etc. Or, develop your own interests and hobbies! These activities can also help alleviate alcohol dependence.

3. The great news is that alcohol dependence is not simply affected by psychological factors, but also closely related to biological factors. This means that there are professionals who can help you!

Some of the descriptions in the message can't determine whether the questioner is just alcohol-dependent or has reached the state of addiction. But don't worry! If repeated attempts at self-help alcoholism recovery haven't achieved the desired results, it's likely that the individual's brain has become resistant to alcohol over the long term.

This is the perfect time to seek treatment at a professional psychiatric hospital! These hospitals offer systematic and professional services such as medication, psychotherapy, and even inpatient treatment, all of which can be supplemented by psychological counseling. These services can help you overcome the problem of alcohol dependence and start your journey to a healthier, happier life!

And there's more! You can also find AA sobriety meetings right here at home. These amazing mutual support groups have helped countless people conquer their alcohol dependence and live happy, sober lives.

I'm a psychologist who cares about people's hearts, not human nature. I wish you the best!

Hello, questioner! It's so great to see your determination to start quitting drinking! The first three days were fantastic, with a happy mood, and the fourth day was a bit challenging, with anxiety, and a feeling of emptiness and self-blame that may have existed after drinking.

You're feeling a little bummed that another alcohol withdrawal hasn't met your expectations. Well, I've got some great news for you! I'm going to give you a hug and share some thoughts that I know will inspire you.

There's no doubt about it: addiction to substances needs to be alleviated on two levels—the physical level and the psychological level!

Let's dive into the physiological level!

It's amazing how our bodies react to different substances! For instance, some drugs can directly stimulate the secretion of dopamine, which makes us feel happy and even more addicted. And it's not just controlled drugs – even everyday things like tobacco, alcohol, tea, coffee, and desserts can have a similar effect. This means that we can become physically dependent on these substances, but it also means that we can take control of our bodies and make positive changes! The key is to understand how our bodies react to different substances. For example, tobacco, alcohol, tea, and coffee all have more or less stimulating effects, so they can lead to physical dependence. However, it's important to note that our bodies need to consume these substances in relatively large quantities and over a long period of time before we become dependent. And once we are dependent, our bodies will crave these substances more often and in larger quantities (tolerance). If you find yourself in this situation, it's best to visit a hospital for a diagnosis and then work with a healthcare professional to find the best treatment plan for you. With the right support, you can take control of your health and make positive changes!

Psychological level:

If you find that you have a relatively small physical dependence, for example, if there is something very interesting that captures your attention for a while, and you simply don't think about drinking, and you don't feel any physical discomfort, then you're in a great position to make positive changes through psychological adjustment! There are a few different methods you can try:

Let's try the traceability method!

Why do I drink?

Everyone has various addictive behaviors to a greater or lesser extent. Some people smoke, drink, drink coffee, eat spicy food, eat sweets... Some people play games, watch dramas, chase episodes, watch short videos, read novels... Some people run, lift weights... Having a dependency on something is to regulate inner emotions, such as the emotions you mentioned: depression, irritability, wanting to cry, etc. On the fourth day, it is the emotional experience of you quitting drinking, and you need to use alcohol to regulate it. Before there was no need to quit drinking, when and in what situations did these emotions appear? When was the first time you drank non-socially? What happened the first time you used alcohol to regulate your emotions? Why did you choose to use alcohol to regulate it and not choose other methods? Every time you want to drink, what emotions, thoughts and ideas do you have? You can slowly become aware of these, or you can record them with a pen. When emotions subside and you no longer need to rely on substances to regulate them, maybe quitting drinking will no longer be a problem.

Why am I quitting drinking?

You've done it before, so you can do it again! Having a strong reason to quit drinking can give you the extra boost you need to make it through the tough times. Think about it this way: some old smokers, after undergoing major surgery, are told by their doctors that they won't live long if they continue to smoke. At this point, every cigarette is their last, and they're determined to never smoke again.

Once you've broken through that defense, you'll find there's a whole new world of possibilities open to you. You might even find that you don't need to abstain from alcohol at all!

There are so many other ways to go about it!

As mentioned earlier, most addictive behaviors are used to regulate emotions, so it's definitely worth trying an alternative approach! For example, you could reduce the alcohol content: if you used to drink baijiu, now you could try red wine, fruit wine, beer, or rice wine.

For example, you can start by reducing the amount you drink. If you used to drink half a bottle every time you were upset, now you can drink five, three, or one glass, and then slowly switch from large glasses to small glasses.

For example, try something new! When you're feeling down, treat yourself to a cup of milk tea or coffee, some delicious crayfish, spicy food, desserts, mouth-watering snacks, melon seeds, or potato chips.

For example, change your habits! When you're upset, go to a karaoke bar, sing your heart out, go for a run, do yoga...

By letting out emotions through other means, you can gradually reduce your dependence on alcohol!

There are so many other ways to make a change! You can start by changing your environment by not keeping alcohol at home. You can also join an alcohol abstinence group where people support and encourage each other. There are so many great options out there!

I'm Consultant Chenjing, and I'm thrilled to answer your question! I hope my answer will give you a little inspiration!

Good day, question asker. I am Heart Exploration coach Heng Yiran, and I am honored to have this opportunity to interact with you.

I am deeply saddened by this question. I hope that my embrace can provide some solace and strength.

First, we must identify the issues that require attention.

1. The individual who posed the question did not identify their gender or age.

2. You self-identify as an individual with an alcohol use disorder.

3. The individual in question dislikes the "alcohol-dependent" aspect of their identity and thus wishes to cease consuming alcohol.

4. During the initial stages of abstinence, I adhered to the decision well for the first three days. On the fourth day, however, I experienced a surge of intense emotions, accompanied by restlessness and a profound urge to cry.

5. In the midst of painful emotions, two conflicting voices emerged, one representing the conscious decision not to drink and the other the urge to do so. Ultimately, the latter prevailed, resulting in the consumption of alcohol.

6. The subject displays a preference for a self-image that is not emotionally reactive.

7. The individual seeks a pharmacological intervention that can provide relief from emotional distress at a specific time and facilitate cessation of alcohol consumption.

[Understanding and Analysis] Allow me to elucidate my understanding of this issue.

From your question, it is evident that you have elevated expectations of yourself.

In response to the inquiry, you have assigned yourself the label "alcohol dependence." It is reasonable to conclude that this assessment is influenced by a multitude of practical considerations. As evidenced by your description of your performance on the fourth day of abstinence, you engaged in alcohol consumption despite experiencing significant discomfort.

This is merely one potential method for alleviating one's own distress. Consider a scenario in which an individual is experiencing significant discomfort, to the extent that it is no longer tolerable, and that it is no longer possible to continue living a happy existence. In such circumstances, there is a sense of being trapped, with no viable alternative options. In the absence of any illegal or criminal actions, and without causing harm to others, the individual may choose to persist with this painful state of being. Is there any inherent problem with this decision?

While this approach may not be perceived as aesthetically pleasing, it is nevertheless a viable means of self-preservation. However, if this approach is deemed unacceptable, it is likely due to a personal aversion to the associated behaviors.

It appears that you are seeking an alternative means of alleviating your distress, or perhaps even hoping to avoid experiencing it in the first place.

It must be acknowledged that everyone has emotions and that everyone also has their own limitations, their own boundaries for the pressure they can withstand, their emotions, and the problems they can solve. It appears that you do not particularly appreciate these boundaries, or that you are unable to be gentle with your limitations.

It is my impression that you have somewhat elevated expectations of yourself. It is unclear whether this has always been the case, but it seems reasonable to posit that such expectations would ultimately prove exhausting.

Secondly, it is evident that there is a lack of self-acceptance.

Indeed, the consumption of alcohol serves merely as a means of momentarily alleviating emotional distress. If the objective is to cease this behavior, then the introduction of an alternative coping mechanism is a viable solution. It is a universal experience to encounter painful emotions and periods when one is unable to cope with them. In such instances, what is the most appropriate course of action?

Alcohol consumption provides a temporary solution to problems. While this may not be a desirable method, it offers a means of escape from a situation that seems without solution. Are there any other ways to relieve this kind of pain?

The final expectation is whether a pharmaceutical intervention is an option. If not, can an alternative approach be considered?

The final question pertains to the potential use of medication to alleviate emotional distress associated with alcohol withdrawal. It is important to note that if one is able to manage their emotions prior to drinking or has alternative means of self-soothing that do not involve alcohol, the necessity for such medication may be diminished.

Emotions are intrinsic to the human experience and are a natural aspect of the self. They are not inherently negative; rather, they serve as a form of communication, attempting to convey a message. In instances where this communication is not welcomed, the intensity of the emotion may increase. This phenomenon can be analogous to the act of speaking louder when someone does not understand what we are saying.

The emotion's objective is to be heard.

It is my contention that if one can discern the message being conveyed by the emotion, it should be possible to achieve a state of calm.

The following methods are recommended for consideration:

First, one may choose to engage in counseling with a qualified professional. In-person counseling is the recommended initial option, though online counseling may be a suitable alternative in certain circumstances. The 壹心理 platform offers a range of counseling options, which can be explored at one's convenience. It is important to note that readiness for counseling should not be rushed.

Secondly, one may consider the practice of meditation. There are numerous meditation apps, both paid and free, that may be utilized. This practice has been shown to be particularly beneficial when one is experiencing feelings of distress. It is believed that this practice may also prove beneficial for the individual in question.

Thirdly, there are pharmacological agents that can alleviate emotional distress. However, these agents are not intended for self-administration. Instead, they are a form of emotional literacy, enabling the individual to understand and accept their emotions, and to identify and contextualise them. It should be noted that this process may require the individual to confront challenging experiences, and it is therefore important to consider the individual's willingness to engage with this process.

Fourth, one can also engage in self-distraction. From your questions, it is evident that you should prioritize your image. In the event that this emotion arises and there is an individual in proximity, it would be advisable to temporarily disengage from the emotion. It may not be feasible to do so at all times with an individual present, but you can still find someone at any time using your phone, WeChat, the internet, and so on.

It should be noted that this is only a temporary method, and it has the same effect as drinking. Subsequently, it is necessary to provide oneself with an explanation and engage in careful reflection regarding the factors that have contributed to the emotional state in question.

In addition, cognitive psychology posits that it is not the event itself that affects an individual's emotions, but rather the perception of the event. Therefore, it is possible to record one's perceptions of the factors that elicit emotional responses.

For example, if an event occurs, such as quitting smoking, it would be beneficial to record how one views oneself while quitting smoking and how one views oneself after quitting smoking. Over time, this process should yield insights.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial. Should there be any points that require further clarification or if further inquiries arise, I encourage you to pose them. I am optimistic that the situation will improve in the near future.

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, your answerer. From your description, it seems like you believe you're dependent on alcohol, but deep down, you really want to quit drinking. You've tried to quit many times, and I admire your dedication! During your most recent attempt, you became restless and agitated, so you ended up drinking. I understand that you still want to find a way to help you get through this period of restlessness, and I believe that this will help you successfully quit drinking.

Let's help the questioner figure out what's really going on here.

1. We all have our own reasons for drinking, and I'm sure yours have made you dependent on alcohol. Long-term drinking can affect your nerves, and trying to quit suddenly can cause an imbalance in your body's environment, which can lead to nervous disorders and affect your mood. It's not easy to quit drinking, but you can do it!

From what you've told me, it's clear that you know the dangers of alcohol dependence and are determined to quit drinking. I can also see how much effort you've put in seeking help and how grateful you are to those who have helped you. This makes me think that you have a very warm and cheerful personality, especially in interpersonal interactions. You're able to grasp the right tone, which is a great personal charm and character strength. However, people with this personality trait are often more outgoing and seek stimulation from interactions with the outside world. This can lead to drinking for social occasions, and before you know it, an alcohol dependence has formed.

It's totally normal for a person's nerves to produce a specific balance of hormones and body fluids when they drink alcohol. But when you suddenly stop drinking, your body has to readjust. Some nerves will also change in the absence of alcohol stimulation, and this can cause various negative emotions. It's only natural to want to drink again to relieve your discomfort. But at the same time, you might feel like you've failed at quitting drinking. This can make you feel like you're still struggling to solve your fundamental problems.

2. The family and surrounding environment are pretty understanding of the questioner's alcohol dependence, which has allowed him to develop an addiction in a pretty free-wheeling way. At the same time, the questioner didn't get the social support he needed to help him in the process of quitting drinking.

From what I can gather from your question, it seems that you have alcohol at home and that you don't want to drink. This suggests that your family may have a pretty high tolerance for your drinking. It's possible that they often prepare the alcohol you usually want to drink for yourself, which could be a contributing factor to your alcohol dependence. Unfortunately, it seems that you didn't receive much supervision or help from your family when you wanted to quit drinking. Not having the right social support can make you feel pretty helpless when you're trying to quit drinking.

3. You're actively seeking to solve a problem in a certain aspect of alcohol abstinence through medication, but you might lack a holistic understanding of the entire process of alcohol abstinence.

When the questioner was feeling helpless, he still wondered if he could find some relief by taking medication to achieve his ultimate goal of quitting drinking. However, although medication is one way, it is not the only way. Therefore, I really hope that the questioner will have a comprehensive understanding of quitting drinking, which will lead to a brand new change in himself.

I really hope these suggestions will help!

1. Try to make some changes to your lifestyle so that you can better adapt to the new changes that quitting drinking brings to you.

It's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed when you're trying to quit drinking. Your physical and mental levels, living habits, and interpersonal relationships are all going to change as you go through this process. It's okay to feel a little lost sometimes! That's why I'm here to suggest some fun, healthy ways to distract yourself while also making positive changes in your life. For instance, now is the perfect time to go fishing with a friend! Not only will you get to focus on the joy of fishing, but you'll also be building a stronger bond with your friend. Or, if you're feeling more active, you can go for a bike ride or play some badminton with friends. If you're on your own, you can go for a run or take a yoga class. No matter what you choose, you'll be developing a healthier lifestyle and feeling better in no time! Plus, exercise is a great way to completely reset your nervous system, allowing you to heal and feel your best. And, who knows, you might even find a new passion or hobby along the way!

2. You can do this! Gradually cut down on your drinking. Start by reducing your intake to small amounts, then work your way up to drinking in moderation.

It's important to remember that alcohol abstinence is a process. Many things in life don't happen overnight, and it's not realistic to expect that you'll suddenly go from alcohol dependence to not drinking at all. That's why it's so helpful to set short-term and long-term goals for yourself. For example, your long-term goal might be to drink the right amount of alcohol in the right place, so that you can adapt to the requirements of a particular occasion and atmosphere without affecting your own health. In the short term, you can control the amount of alcohol you drink, specifically to what range you should limit your drinking each month, week, and day. This way, your body and mind will gradually adapt, and you'll be able to achieve the desired results without worrying about serious physical and mental imbalances.

3. If you feel you need more help, you can go to the psychiatric department or functional neurosurgery department of the hospital. They'll be able to provide you with more professional medical and drug assistance.

If you're still having trouble after making these changes, it's a good idea to get some professional medical help. You can go to a specialized department at the hospital for more advice. They can also do some neurological tests to see if there's anything else going on. With the help of a doctor, you can get medication that will help you adjust and improve. If everything looks good on the tests, it's time to build up your willpower and start quitting drinking. You can also get support from your family to help you along the way.

I really hope the questioner can make some big changes to their lifestyle and use this chance to start developing some great new habits and start a whole new chapter in their lives.

It is important to understand that once an addiction has developed, it is not possible to suddenly kick the habit. You can expect a period of "withdrawal rebound" and "withdrawal symptoms." First, the rebound period may manifest itself as a slight loss of control when you first try to quit drinking.

However, a few days later, you may find yourself craving a drink and going out to drink repeatedly. During this period, you may feel uncomfortable because you have promised yourself that you will quit drinking, but you are unable to do so. You may feel disappointed and frustrated with yourself and want to cry.

Here are some suggestions for how to get through the irritable time of alcohol withdrawal when you are alcohol-dependent.

If you are alcohol-dependent but want to quit drinking, we can help you start here.

Another attempt at quitting drinking. You have alcohol at home, but you're not sure if you should drink it. You're feeling a bit down.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider quitting drinking.

It is also possible that you may experience irritability.

It is possible that this rebound may make you feel a lack of confidence in yourself, wondering if you can trust yourself, and you may not trust your senses. Withdrawal reactions can also make you feel even more painful, and can cause a lot of pain to your rational mind.

It may be helpful to seek professional treatment and to try to understand your own withdrawal reactions.

It may be helpful to consider professional treatment and medication support from traditional Chinese medicine and Western medicine.

It may be helpful to gain a deeper understanding of your own drinking history through psychological counseling.

It would be beneficial to learn more about withdrawal reactions. For instance, if a person is addicted to a certain substance, they may not experience any emotional changes when they increase the amount of a similar substance. However, they may suffer greatly if they lose this substance.

Your heart doesn't want to drink, and your willpower makes you feel like crying rather than drinking. However, a part of your body's energy is fighting against your willpower, which can make you feel very irritable. This may indicate that there is a hidden desire that makes you feel very torn and tormented.

If you are experiencing a great deal of distress, it is possible that you may still drink at the end of the day, and you may regret it. You may find yourself going back and forth between periods of abstinence and periods of relapse. There are a number of Chinese and Western medicines that have been specifically designed to help you quit drinking. You may wish to consult a doctor for more information and to make an appointment to go to the hospital.

If you're wondering if there's a pill that can help you feel better, you might be interested to know that these alcohol withdrawal medications can actually help to reduce the conflict between your weak willpower and your body, so that you can get through this period more safely. This is something you can try, and you may still have some irritability.

It might also be helpful to consider other options after undergoing drug therapy for alcoholism and then psychological counseling. It could be beneficial to explore the potential of using physical drugs to enhance your willpower and stabilize your desire to drink, while also gaining a deeper understanding of the psychological structure and the various levels of willpower, as well as the personal reasons behind addiction. By gaining this insight, you may find that you have the power to make positive changes in your life and achieve a healthier, more active lifestyle.

Could I possibly inquire as to the meaning of ZQ?

During alcohol withdrawal, you feel depressed, irritable, and miserable. You don't want to drink, but you drink anyway.

How do you get through hard times when you're trying to stop drinking?

Irritability is a feeling of uncertainty. It occurs when a person doesn't know what's wrong, but feels uncomfortable. If you can handle it, it will lead to feelings like anger, fear, or sadness.

It's not easy, but facing these feelings is the only way to gain motivation to change.

Avoidance leads to impulsive behavior.

Your alcohol dependence is also a way to escape from unclear but distressing feelings. These emotional experiences require a space for careful discernment. It is easy to get caught up in these emotions, so you need a stable job and work hard to gain certainty.

You also need a genuine emotional relationship to help you break away from alcohol dependence.

Best regards,

Zhu Rong, Counselor Gao Shunyuan

Hello! I can see that you are going through a lot during the alcohol withdrawal process, and you have already tried very hard. However, I know you can do this! Alcohol dependence and withdrawal are both long-term processes, but you can get through them. I don't know how many years you have been drinking, and how much you drink every day, but I know you can make a plan to get back to your best self.

Was the diagnosis of alcohol dependence made by yourself or after a systematic examination in the hospital? You're doing great! You're going through alcohol withdrawal, which can be tough, but you've got this! Check out the symptoms of alcohol dependence to help you through this process.

The symptoms of alcohol dependence are fascinating! They include physical dependence, mental dependence, and damage to various organs of the body. Physical dependence is manifested by the patient having a fixed way of studying, regarding alcohol as their first need, and being reckless in order to drink, knowing that drinking will lead to adverse consequences, but it is difficult to control. When drinking is stopped or the amount of alcohol consumed is suddenly reduced, alcohol withdrawal symptoms will appear, such as tremors, nausea, sweating, irritability, anxiety, depression, seizures, etc.

If you're struggling with psychological dependence, you might find yourself craving alcohol more and more, unable to control your intake, searching for alcohol like a lost soul, and failing time and time again to quit drinking, even when you really want to.

You've probably recently experienced something sad and upsetting, and you've needed alcohol to numb yourself and ease your emotions. But you've begun to realize that prolonged drinking has caused some changes or effects in your body, and you've decided that this habit isn't very good for you. For example, long-term drinking can cause physical damage to various organs, such as Wernicke encephalopathy of the central nervous system and alcoholic toxic peripheral neuropathy, which can lead to cirrhosis of the digestive system, gastrointestinal bleeding, etc. And you've probably heard of alcoholic cardiomyopathy, too. So you've begun to want to quit, and you're excited to get rid of this habit! But at first, getting rid of a habit has caused some discomfort in your body, so you're looking for a way to deal with the discomfort.

The great news is that there are lots of effective treatments for alcohol dependence! The most suitable one for you will depend on how severe your alcohol dependence is. If you have a more serious case, you might benefit from a closed treatment in a hospital. This is because patients with severe alcohol dependence will experience very serious withdrawal symptoms during the acute withdrawal period. These symptoms can include tremors, delirium, impaired consciousness, and a large number of hallucinations and delusions. While these symptoms can be challenging for patients and their families to manage at home, they are nothing a hospital treatment plan can't handle! With regular and standardized drug treatment, you can get back to your best self in no time. So, remember, it's never a good idea to self-medicate with drugs that might make you feel better in the short term.

I highly recommend that you first go to the hospital to determine whether you have alcohol dependence. Then, you can help yourself through medical treatment, psychological assistance, and vitamin supplementation. In your daily life, cultivate some other hobbies to divert your attention. Before you know it, you'll be able to quit! This is a long process, but I'm confident you'll make a speedy recovery.