Always in a sad mood, unable to let go of the past. Unable to erase the past hurts

Listen up, girl.

Hello, I'm listening coach Liu Yong.

There have been countless infatuated men and women since ancient times. You are just one of them. How many people have fallen in and out of love? It's clear that your encounter is nothing extraordinary. Being dumped can indeed make people feel ashamed, but we can pick up the pieces and move on!

You can do better next time. Take things seriously and pay attention to the people and things around you. There are plenty of opportunities!

I'm sure you've chased after a star at some point. You probably have your own idols, right? If you do, there must be more than one. This shows that the people we like can be many, not just one. You only met this one person at that point in time, and there was no one else in your eyes. This only shows that he may have something you want, but it doesn't mean that only he has it and no one else does.

You jumped in without hesitation, despite knowing the other person might just be using you. What attracted you to him?

Everyone looking for a partner hopes to get from their partner what they didn't get from their parents and other close relatives. You want what you want, not the person themselves. Think carefully about what you want.

If you don't have that person, you'll never get it.

The saying is right: it's better to seek within oneself than to seek help from others. When we hope that others will love us, we should ask ourselves whether we love ourselves well. There's no way that there's someone in this world who knows how to love themselves better than we do.

You must learn to see yourself, cherish yourself, and love yourself if you want to stand strong like a tree.

We are human beings first and foremost. We must learn to be independent, both in life and in spirit. To achieve great things, you must stand like a tree and rely on no one. Then, like a bird flying to the top, a flower blooming in your shade, or a landscape with other trees, you will soar to great heights.

The pain of a relationship can make you depressed, but it can also teach you valuable lessons. What we experience is already happening in that moment. The next step is how you perceive and deal with it. If you are angry about being treated badly by a man, take it out on the person who wronged you. Do it reasonably and legally, and don't do anything extreme, as that will only make the person feel worse.

What makes that person so special? What makes him or her so special that you would abandon your life, your parents, and your one and only self?

He's not worth it.

He's not worth it.

You've reached this point, and you've developed depression. We're going to cure it. If you've been diagnosed with moderate depression in a regular hospital, the doctor will teach you about depression. You've learned something yourself. Let's focus on ourselves and cure it. Whenever you think of unhappy things, find someone to talk to and release the bad emotions so that they don't accumulate in you.

Life is long, and as long as you are alive, there are countless possibilities. Life is also very short, so focus on the present: your life, your work, your parents, yourself, and all those other people you love and who love you. The present is the only thing you can hold onto, the surest thing there is.

The world and I love you, and our hearts will always be here. You will get over this injury, even if it takes a long time.

I am a listening therapist, Liu Yong.

Hello, From what you've shared, I can sense your profound sadness. You've even expressed a desire for the day of his wedding to become your death anniversary, so that he will remember you for the rest of his life.

I believe it is fair to say that this relationship has had a significant effect on you, resulting in some unfortunate consequences for your physical and mental wellbeing.

I truly want to help you, and I want to look at this from my perspective. These may be some guesses on my part, and they may not be entirely accurate.

You mentioned that you had already anticipated the conclusion of your relationship from the outset, yet you proceeded to enter into it without reservation.

It's possible that grief chose you, or perhaps you chose to embrace it.

You mentioned that you didn't think the ending would be good, but you still entered into the relationship. It's possible that the choice you made at the beginning might not have been the best one. Have you ever considered what you were longing for when you entered into the relationship, even though you expected a bad ending?

I wonder if the initial sweet love made you, who had rarely experienced such beauty, perhaps a little too eager to embrace it. It's possible that you were so hungry for it that you didn't fully consider the quality of the food or the potential consequences.

It seems that you still have some feelings for him.

Perhaps it is better to have a relationship, even if it is not ideal.

I sense that you may be afraid of losing the relationship. Even if he is not the best partner and he has treated you poorly, you still value the relationship.

You were seeking a relationship, and he happened to be in a relationship with you, so you clung to him desperately. You were longing for a relationship very much.

It's natural to crave relationships because they offer a sense of love, warmth, care, and the feeling that we're worthy of love.

When he chose to end the relationship, it made you feel as if you were not worthy of love or of being cherished.

"I believe there may be some misunderstanding. I don't think this is entirely accurate."

"I believe I deserve to be loved, and I hope you will love me in return."

There is nothing wrong with trying to win someone back, as everyone wants to be loved.

I was so afraid of losing you that I gave you my heart. I gave you everything I had, but it wasn't returned. My love turned to hate.

I loved you so much that I was left with a sense of loss and disappointment when you chose to end our relationship.

I must admit that I am still struggling to let you go and to move on.

A good, deep relationship is undoubtedly one of the most important aspects of life. It is so desirable that you may find yourself holding on to it with great determination, eager to maintain its presence in your life.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to allow yourself to relax a little, even though you are feeling very tired.

If a relationship is causing you distress, it may be helpful to consider letting it go. Even though it is painful, this pain may be a reminder that you could benefit from learning to love yourself better.

I believe that you are worthy of love and that someone is waiting for you somewhere. If a relationship ends, it may be because the person to accompany you for life has not yet appeared.

It might be helpful to consider talking to a counselor to gain a better understanding of yourself. I believe counseling could be beneficial in this case.

I believe that this is an opportunity for change.

Good day, my name is Zhilin.

From your account, it is evident that your emotions and preconceived notions are influencing your decision-making process.

1⃣️ Six years is not a short period of time. During that time, you have gained sufficient insight into each other's personalities to ascertain whether you can trust the other with your life. You have undoubtedly invested a great deal of effort over the past few years, and you can feel good about yourself. Anyone who gives is expecting something in return, and you will want the other person to treat you with the same sincerity.

The unfortunate reality is that the end result is not what you want. This then requires a period of time to adjust to being single again. It is important not to rush to get rid of the negative emotions, but rather to accept them. It is also necessary to accept the fact that he no longer loves you, that you have seen his true colors, and that he is not worth wasting any more of your time.

It is important to note that the absence of romantic feelings from one individual does not diminish one's intrinsic value or imply a lack of affection. The character of the other person does not define one's own identity.

2⃣️ Your statement indicates that you are reluctant to make a scene at someone else's wedding on impulse. This suggests that you have a certain level of restraint and consideration. You appear to be a kind individual who is reluctant to cause harm to others, but it is also important to recognize your own limitations. While your decision may not be justified, it is essential to acknowledge that placing the blame on yourself for others' actions can lead to exhaustion and depression.

If you are experiencing heartache, you may choose to engage in activities such as expressing your emotions through tears, embarking on a journey, engaging in conversation with friends and colleagues, or seeking outlets that provide catharsis. You may also consider nourishing your body with food and drink to alleviate distress.

3⃣️ Despite being aware of the potential outcome, you continue to invest yourself in the relationship.

You are making an unwise decision by investing your emotional capital in a relationship with someone you know will not change. Unfortunately, you are aware of the inevitable outcome from the outset. The risk probability of love is particularly accurate.

The inability to accept the reality of an unfavorable outcome, despite being aware of it from the outset, is a significant obstacle. The discrepancy between the desired end result and the actual outcome leads to a sense of frustration and disappointment. This can manifest as a persistent questioning of the other person's actions and motivations, often accompanied by negative judgments.

4⃣️Be aware of your own family of origin. Do your parents consistently make you feel unworthy? Individuals who perceive a lower standard as the norm are more attracted to it. If they are treated poorly, they may seek out other relationships.

This is the mindset of a typical individual.

5⃣️Here are a few suggestions for you: adjust your mindset and start again, change your environment, get in touch with nature, surround yourself with positive friends and circles, learn more to improve your knowledge and wisdom, and if you always have random thoughts, you can participate in some slow yoga activities. Special meditation will return to your inner strength. Moderate exercise will help relieve anxiety, and sweating and physical exertion will help you sleep soundly. With sufficient sleep, you will improve.

In conclusion, I wish you a happy and prosperous life.

Greetings, esteemed questioner.

I extend a gesture of affectionate embrace from this distant location.

It may be challenging for an individual without such experience to fully comprehend this phenomenon.

One might inquire as to why it is so difficult to let go of someone who does not love you.

I would be pleased to engage in this process with you, and it is my hope that it will prove both comforting and inspiring.

1. It is imperative to extend compassion and self-care to oneself.

He persisted for six years despite the fact that he could have foreseen the eventual outcome from the outset.

It seems plausible to suggest that he must have exerted a profound attraction on you in some way.

Alternatively, it may have fulfilled a personal need.

The value of one's efforts to pursue and maintain a relationship, regardless of external opinions, should not be underestimated.

In life, the outcome is not the sole determining factor; rather, the process and the experience are of equal importance.

In numerous interviews with individuals nearing the end of their lives, the question was posed as to whether they had any regrets. It was found that the majority of respondents did not regret their actions, but rather the actions they had not taken.

One might attempt to contextualize this relationship within the broader framework of one's life.

Although the desired result was not achieved, it is nevertheless the case that the relationship was pursued and experienced, rather than remaining unresolved.

It is important to acknowledge the challenges you are facing and recognize that these emotions and thoughts are a normal part of the grieving process.

It is imperative that you allow yourself a sufficient period of time to recuperate at a gradual pace.

The dissolution of a relationship signifies a loss for the individual.

It is a challenging experience to confront.

The more one cares for oneself, accepts one's imperfections, and is understanding of one's wounds, the more readily one can recover from such pain.

The more one cares for oneself, accepts one's imperfect state, and sympathizes with one's wounded self, the more readily one can recover from this pain.

2. Reexamine the significance of this relationship in your life.

When individuals are in a romantic relationship, they often anticipate a positive outcome.

However, life does not always unfold in accordance with our expectations, particularly in the context of relationships.

The motivation behind our romantic attachment is not simply reciprocal affection.

What is the essence of mature love?

Such a relationship is characterized by a mutuality of affection, wherein the act of loving the other person is not a personal indulgence, but rather a matter of professional obligation.

I permit you to make decisions in accordance with your preferences.

The notion of love is often misconstrued as a means of exerting control.

One might posit that a reasonable expectation would be for the object of one's affection to reciprocate the sentiment.

Should you choose to terminate the relationship, I will make you regret that decision or cause you to experience feelings of guilt.

It is this author's recommendation that the reader peruse the book The Art of Love.

Love can be conceptualized as a capacity.

Love is a giving process; it is not a taking process. As a result of the act of loving, one gains happiness and satisfaction.

The dissolution of a romantic partnership does not necessarily imply that either party is inherently flawed. It is possible that the relationship was simply not a suitable match for either individual.

Furthermore, there is no justification for doubting one's self-worth.

Memories and efforts are often the most difficult aspects to let go of.

It is important to provide oneself with understanding.

3. It is imperative to practice self-love.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience a heightened level of emotional arousal, which can manifest as a range of intense thoughts and emotions.

For example, one might consider the act of destroying the wedding or even committing suicide.

I commend you for your reflective and rational approach.

Such thoughts and actions have already been rejected by the subject in question.

One must consider the situation, but refrain from acting upon it.

In particular, if the other individual is a pick-up artist (PUA), they have inflicted significant harm.

At this juncture, it is of particular importance to provide solace to oneself.

It is inevitable that we will encounter individuals who exhibit these behaviours. However, once we become aware of the issue, we can take steps to prevent further harm.

It is imperative to advocate for oneself.

In a sense, our own actions permit the other person to cause us harm.

Such experiences may be challenging and distressing, but they can also facilitate personal growth and resilience in the future.

In the event of experiencing discomfort, it is recommended to engage in activities such as writing, engaging in a preferred activity, or consuming a palatable food item. This approach allows for the gradual release of pent-up emotions, preventing the internal conflict that can arise when emotions are suppressed.

It is imperative to cultivate self-compassion and self-love.

This is of the utmost importance.

Please disseminate these materials.

I extend my best wishes to you.

The world and I extend our love to you.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

Give the questioner a reassuring pat on the shoulder and some strength. The questioner made the choice to end the intimate relationship with her boyfriend when faced with a former love.

After ending the relationship, the questioner realized that she had been PUA'd by her boyfriend. She was left ruthlessly abandoned, with no idea whether she had a boyfriend's child. She had fulfilled her boyfriend's needs, but he did not know how to cherish her. Instead, he turned around and married another girl. I am certain that this is what happened.

The past is often a factor, but the questioner must move on. Depression is a challenge, but it can be overcome with the right support. The questioner is already working closely with a therapist, which is crucial. It's time to take stock of the relationship and focus on the positives. Don't dwell on what you've lost. The questioner needs to learn to love themselves.

Since the question was asked on a platform, I am going to give the questioner some brief advice:

Don't blame yourself.

It is important to understand that ending an intimate relationship is often not caused by the questioner. There is no need for the questioner to blame themselves for it. It is perfectly normal for the questioner's emotions to fluctuate when faced with the trade-offs of a long-term relationship.

Don't blame yourself. This intimate relationship ended because the questioner was also PUA. The questioner needs to consider what kind of intimate relationship and kind of relationship he or she wants, and what the previous intimate relationship has given him or her.

The questioner may have been PUA, which is something we need to recognize. A failed intimate relationship is not the fault of one party alone, and a perfect intimate relationship requires both parties to work together to maintain it. When ending an intimate relationship, the questioner should consider giving themselves the space to choose. Even if you are reluctantly together, you need to think about what your future will be like.

The questioner can and should carefully observe and realize that separating is the best way to prevent more and deeper future harm.

Take the time to review your feelings.

The boyfriend's PUA made the questioner feel bad and caused the questioner to suffer from depression. The questioner needs to understand their attitude towards intimate relationships and what they hope to get out of them.

The questioner must summarize these feelings. The once close relationship has plunged the questioner into severe negative emotions, causing the questioner to resent the boy immensely.

The author should record these feelings. Ending one's life easily will only make it easier for the author's boyfriend to forget the author. Since the author has not gone to such an extreme, the author can carefully review what they want from past intimate relationships: an apology from their boyfriend, or the hope that there is no such unbearable past?

Think about your decision calmly.

It is true that it is generally difficult for people to get over the breakup with their boyfriend and end an intimate relationship at the beginning. However, life still has to go on. I strongly suggest that the questioner calmly think about how to move on in the future and consider what the situation would be if you continued to be together. After the breakup, although you may be in a state of grief, what if this emotion changes after the questioner marries the once-scum boyfriend?

Take a short trip for a few days. Use this time to think about how ending this intimate relationship has impacted you. Did you free yourself from something, and what did you gain from the relationship?

Time will heal the wounds.

The relationship has caused the questioner a lot of hurt, and it will take time for the questioner to heal. There's no doubt about it. The healing of emotional trauma will not be that fast, and it will take a long time before you can truly regain your confidence and love for life. No matter what the future holds, this relationship has after all brought the questioner a lot of feelings, and it may take a long time before you can return to a "normal" life.

In any case, this result is not ideal. The questioner needs time to process their emotions and emerge from this emotional state.

The questioner must be prepared to move on with their life and accept that the person who can support them may change.

Accept yourself, and know that you are worthy of love.

You can care for and love yourself, and even accept yourself. Do more of the things you like, and let yourself feel the warmth of being loved in the things you like. You are worthy of love.

Accept your current state. When you're feeling down, do something to please yourself. Make yourself happy, and have some sweets. Sweet things make the body happy, and they also make you feel happy.

Make yourself happy without hurting others. Don't let negative emotions fill your life.

Call a professional hotline for help.

If you feel like you can't cope, call the national suicide hotline. It's there to help. The numbers are: National Hotline 400-161-9995, Student Hotline: 400-161-9995 and press 1, Depression Hotline: 400-161-9995 and press 2, Life Hotline: 400-161-9995 and press 3, China Psychological Crisis and Suicide Intervention Center Helpline: 010-62715275.

The questioner can call these hotlines themselves, and these hotlines will effectively intervene in the questioner's emotions. The questioner's emotions will be released very well.

I firmly believe that when the questioner deals with their emotions, they also need to take care of their health. This bad experience may have exhausted the questioner both mentally and physically, but it is still important to take care of yourself. Life is not easy, so cherish every moment.

I am confident that my answer will help the questioner.

Perhaps a gesture of support and understanding would be beneficial at this time. I empathize with the questioner's inner struggles and the pain they are experiencing. It is an indescribable feeling when we desire something but are unable to attain it.

It is often the case that when a relationship is linked to PUA, it is doomed to fail. This is because one person will inevitably be hurt in the relationship. There is a saying on the internet that puts this very well: "Only a liar can be sincere with you, because they are sincere in lying to you."

It could be said that the same is true of PUA. It seems that the other person's goal in approaching the opposite sex to establish a relationship and develop feelings is not necessarily to love, but perhaps more to satisfy their own desires. At first, the other person may give you patience, gentleness, and care that you have never experienced before, and you may feel like an ideal, perfect man.

In this moment, the person being treated this way may feel as though they have suddenly become the center of the world, like the beloved queen, the happiest person. The feeling of being loved is so good that it can reach a kind of peak. This feeling can even be like taking drugs. Once you have experienced it, it may be challenging to experience it again with someone else, and you may find yourself paying more attention to the relationship with the other person, because only when you are with the other person will you experience this strong feeling of happiness from being loved.

It is evident that even if the other person is not entirely trustworthy, the positive feelings they evoke are genuine. It can be challenging to accept that you have been manipulated by someone you care about, especially when you are still emotionally invested. Many of us have experienced similar situations, and it is understandable that the OP is struggling to come to terms with this. However, it is important to recognise that the OP has made a positive start by seeking happiness for himself. He may lack clarity on certain aspects, but his actions are not necessarily a reflection of a conscious decision.

To return to the topic at hand, the questioner has been in a relationship with the other person for six years. It seems likely that the happiness and love that the other person brings to the questioner is a significant factor in the longevity of their relationship. However, it appears that there are differing expectations for the future of this relationship, which has led to some noticeable differences in the attitudes of the two people towards each other. Nevertheless, when the questioner was caught up in the other person's seemingly sweet and appealing situation, their attention was more focused on the positive aspects and they were perhaps less inclined to consider the potential risks or to seek a different approach.

It is important to remember that the past is the past and cannot be changed. What you can do is accept the situation, acknowledge your own feelings of hurt and pain, and focus on taking care of yourself. This could mean eating well, sleeping well, exercising, adjusting your physical and mental state, making a new life plan for yourself, learning new knowledge and skills, cultivating new interests and hobbies, or participating in group activities you enjoy. This can help you live a fulfilling, down-to-earth, happy life, while also putting the minds of your loved ones and friends at ease.

The clear blue sky is just like this!

We are born as human beings, and we all have seven emotions and six desires: love, hate, sorrow, fear, fright, and so on. We think about them all the time, we see them, and they even appear in our dreams. But they are all illusions. No matter who hurts us, it is just a thorn. We can just pull it out and apply medicine. There is no need to think about so many things and be troubled. Other people are living their lives happily, and you are angry. Is it worth it? Absolutely not!

Are you ready to make a splash at the live wedding broadcast? It's time to spread your wings and fly solo!

We live for our own happiness, not to live in other people's hearts every day. But if they don't remember our good intentions and are unkind, we can restrain them with a sharp sword!

Then we can go looking for solutions! You can talk to friends, or leave a message if you want to chat.

There's nothing better than making money to put your mind at ease. It's the most effective cure!

Busyness is the cure-all!

People can easily fall into sadness in an instant. I have found that often this sadness is uncontrollable. But don't worry! You are just surrounded by this emotion, and you can pull yourself out of it. Just take it one step at a time. You'll be happy and alive when you greet every sunny day and everything goes smoothly.

Let time pass us by, and solve these problems one by one! We'll be happy and alive when we greet every sunny day and everything goes smoothly!

We should live life to the fullest and find joy in the little things! We should be full of energy at such a young age and make every day optimistic! Self-condemnation is really not appropriate because we are here to be happy, not to find pain. Don't you think so?

Psychology is just a temporary exclusion of unhappy emotions in our hearts, but it's a great idea! Our perception must understand what we are doing, our perception must be heightened, and we must courageously move forward to eliminate negative emotions.

We should absolutely strive to respect all emotions without evaluating their value or simply categorizing them as positive or negative. The more equally we accept and welcome the emergence of all emotions, the better we can get along with other people! And we have to get along with the people we are destined to be with.

Friends, you can be happy! You can do it!