Am I a workplace baby? What should I do if I lack work ability?

Hello, and thanks for sharing. I'm Liu Nian.

After reading your text, I totally get where you're coming from. I can imagine it's pretty confusing, and you're feeling anxious and unsure of yourself. It's natural to feel stressed and uneasy when we're faced with new challenges and relationships at work.

First of all, I want to say that you're not alone. Lots of people have had similar experiences in their careers.

The "workplace baby" and "poor work ability" labels you mentioned are often the result of a mix of self-criticism and external pressure. They don't fully capture your true abilities and value.

Everyone's path to growth is different, and there's no need to push yourself too hard to keep up with others.

From a psychological standpoint, the "sensitivity to please" you mentioned might be tied to an overemphasis on what others think, which can limit your self-confidence to some extent.

It's really important to have a healthy sense of self-awareness and self-worth in the workplace. You can try to adjust your mindset in the following ways:

First, remember that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Accepting your own imperfections is the first step to growth.

Second, you need to switch up your thinking. Focus on your progress and achievements, and don't dwell on your failures and setbacks.

Third, you need to learn to manage your emotions. From what you've said, it seems like you're really disappointed in yourself and can't seem to shake these feelings of disappointment and worry.

Learn some great ways to calm down and stay rational when you're feeling stressed. Try deep breathing and meditation.

I've got a few suggestions for how to tackle the issues you're currently facing, which I hope will be helpful.

First, try to communicate proactively when you can. Even if your boss is younger than you and has a real knack for spotting when someone's not being serious, effective communication is the key to solving problems.

You can choose a good time to talk about what you're confused about and say you're open to help. At the same time, try to steer the conversation with specific questions and examples to avoid any misunderstandings or conflicts.

Self-development and self-improvement are key to ensuring your own invincibility, especially in the workplace. Use your spare time to learn and improve your professional skills. You can gain knowledge and increase your knowledge base and practical experience through online courses, books, industry reports, and other means.

Also, take the initiative to take on tasks that are within your abilities and improve your work ability through practice.

It's also a good idea to reach out to people around you for support. Sometimes, mutual support can be really powerful. Don't be afraid to ask colleagues or friends for help and advice. They may have had similar experiences and be able to offer you valuable insights.

You might also want to think about joining some industry communities or forums to exchange ideas with your colleagues and expand your horizons.

As a worker, you should think carefully about what you want from your career and what kind of work you're good at. If you find that you're more suited to creative work than to purely executing tasks, then you should look for opportunities that are more in line with your interests and development direction.

At the end of the day, it's important to be aware of and actively prepare for risks. You can prepare for the risk of possible unemployment.

Updating your resume, looking for new job opportunities, and participating in interview training are all great choices. At the same time, you've got to keep a positive attitude and take action, believing that you can get through the difficult times.

I actually faced something similar at work. I had just started in a new field and was feeling overwhelmed by the complex tasks and demanding boss.

However, through continuous learning and adjusting my mindset, I've gradually found a way of working that suits me. At the same time, I've also learned how to communicate effectively with different types of people, which has been a great foundation for my career.

Questioner, I think you've got what it takes to face the challenges you're facing right now. I'm sure you'll be able to find a way to solve them.

Every setback is an opportunity to learn and grow, and every failure is a step towards success. Stay positive and take action, and believe that you can overcome challenges and embrace a brighter future.

Stay strong!

Hello. I am a Heart Exploration coach, Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu.

I have been in the same position, and I can tell the questioner that nobody is born knowing how to do something. All expertise requires long-term deliberate practice. The questioner should not deny themselves completely just because they did not perform well during their internship.

I'll tell you about myself. I spent the first two years of my career in a job that wasn't a good fit. I often mentioned that I wanted to quit, but I couldn't. The new people I replaced left even faster than I did. After two years, I suddenly understood everything, saw the logic, and everything became smooth. I thank my former employer for being so tolerant and giving me so much time to learn.

Another friend of mine changed jobs six or seven times a year before finally finding a job that he was good at and settling down to do. Everyone's situation is different, but there's no doubt that trying to find a job that you're good at, or persisting until you become good at it, is the way to go.

Not all leaders are good at mentoring. Some leaders are result-oriented, while others are detail-oriented. Find a communication style that suits you and your leader. This will help you feel less confused and improve faster.

It is true that companies will have projects with very low fault tolerance and they will not let interns handle them because of their concerns. However, this does not mean that you cannot familiarize yourself with them. You can do this by following other people around more, seeing how they do things in areas you don't know, and learning from other people's experiences. This will help you to grow faster.

If you're not heading in the right direction, all your efforts will be in vain. Don't doubt and deny yourself just because you chose a job you are not good at. If you're someone who is good at trying, try different fields like my friend did and finally settle on one. If you're not someone who is good at trying, focus on one thing and never give up until you get good at it.

Don't label yourself. Some people complement each other, while others emphasize their strengths and avoid their weaknesses. I prefer to emphasize my strengths and avoid my weaknesses. It'll take you further and get you better results. You'll find a job you like and excel at.

Change your perspective from "I can't do it" to "How can I do it?" When you think positively, you can face problems head-on, focusing on solutions, not internal conflicts.

Be more patient and tolerant of mistakes. You may not be suited to one role, but that doesn't mean you won't be suitable for any job. Avoid generalizations and sweeping statements. They'll help you feel less anxious and more positive when facing problems.

Use your dull talent. It's better than crooked talent. The leader's feedback suggests he's experienced this process too. It may not have an impact, but a diligent attitude towards learning will make the leader see your dedication and be more willing to give pointers. Don't wait for the leader to make arrangements. It may affect your growth and the leader's perception of you.

Read these books: "Managing Up," "Reviewing the Past," and "A Single Thought Changes Everything."

Best wishes!