Am I inherently emotionally indifferent at the age of 20?

I understand the original poster's feelings.

Some people can sense others' emotions and try to cheer them up. But they don't feel anything themselves.

They're just a pronoun to their relatives and friends. Even if they don't see each other for a long time, they don't feel anything. When they meet, they can also communicate very well.

I've thought about this for a long time. I don't think I'm too cold-blooded. I want other people to be happy.

Is it due to childhood experiences? When I was young, my parents worked during the day, and my grandmother looked after me. I looked forward to seeing them every evening.

Am I too alone to connect with others?

I listened to a book called "High sensitivity is a gift." It was inspiring. Some people are very sensitive and this can cause them trouble.

If we can face the positive effects of this ability, it can stimulate a lot of potential. This book seems to be closest to the truth.

People are different. Some have strong emotions, others don't.

Everyone is one in a billion, so there's no need to be troubled.

We can be proud of our sensitivity, which makes it easier for us to help others. Confucius said, "If you seek benevolence and obtain it, what is there to complain about?"

We've received feedback that we're more likely to help others.

Read "High sensitivity is a gift." Check if you're gifted too.

Dear Valued Reader, My name is Susu Zitong, and I am a psychological counselor.

Regarding your question, it seems that you are wondering whether your nature is indifferent.

The teacher senses that you may be experiencing some inner resistance, harsh judgment, and remorse. You feel that all the suffering you have endured may have come from your indifference and lack of emotion, and you think this may be just your natural character.

The teacher gently suggests that no one is inherently emotionally detached. Some people may not always show their emotions on the surface. As we mentioned, they may not be as adept at expressing and communicating, and may suppress their feelings inside. Despite their inner turmoil, they may still appear calm on the surface.

Some people are able to express their emotions and feelings through facial expressions or actions.

We are all emotional creatures, but some people's emotions flow deep inside, while others show them on their faces and in their skin, and express them through different channels.

If I may, I would like to discuss you and your parents.

From childhood to adulthood, you have been accustomed to asking your parents for money to cover your expenses, including those related to learning and living. You believe this is a necessary aspect of your relationship with them.

If it involves spending money on going out to have fun or taking classes to learn special skills, you and your parents will be very careful when asking for money, because you don't want to add to their burden. You understand that your parents go out to work every day to earn money, which is very hard. Here, the teacher feels your thoughtfulness and is very touched by this warm-hearted child. The teacher feels that your parents can also feel it, so they love you very much.

You can empathize with your parents' difficulties, consider their perspective, and do your best to avoid causing them inconvenience. Your empathy can foster a sense of warmth and happiness in those around you, which is a wonderful quality to possess.

You and your friends

You mention that you've had just a few close friends since childhood, perhaps three or four. You feel that this may be because you're somewhat detached and unsociable. However, there's a common saying that it's enough to have two or three close friends in life. Therefore, having a few good friends is already a blessing. You've done very well.

Your best friends have been with you for a minimum of four years and a maximum of ten years, which shows that you and your friends are both very loyal people. The flow of emotions between you is very smooth, and although there may be some bumps along the way, your tolerance and acceptance of each other has made your friendship evergreen.

You mentioned that while you love your friends dearly, you might feel a sense of sadness if one of them were to leave. However, you also noted that when you think about the future and the possibility of separation, your heart remains calm. This suggests that you possess a remarkable ability to remain emotionally stable in the face of challenges. The human brain is capable of conceiving a vast array of ideas, including those related to separation and death. When we dwell on these concepts, they can evoke a profound sense of sadness, making it challenging to maintain control. It's understandable that many of us might find ourselves grappling with these emotions to varying degrees. Your ability to remain composed in the face of such challenges is truly admirable. It's a quality that can serve as an inspiration for us all.

I believe that only someone who is able to control their emotions and is emotionally stable can be a winner in life. So, you are doing a great job!

Regarding your grandfather's passing

Teacher, I'd like to offer you a hug. When facing death, we all have a fear inside. The death of loved ones always makes us incredibly sad. Your cousin cried very sadly, and it was hard for you, but you had no expression on your face and seemed cold. After you went back, you had vomiting and diarrhea and showed signs of poisoning. You think that was your grandfather punishing you. He was such a kind and gentle old man, treating all the children the same. When he died, why did the other children cry so sadly, but you were so indifferent? You feel very self-reproachful inside, feeling ashamed of your grandfather.

I believe that may be the case, dear. It seems that you are experiencing a great deal of grief, which has led to the accumulation of pain from the loss of your loved ones. It's possible that your emotions are blocked and trapped inside your body, preventing them from being expressed. This could explain why you developed food poisoning after eating the same meal as everyone else. It's possible that this was a form of emotional release, rather than a punishment from your grandfather.

This suggests that you are an emotionally rich person.

It seems that you have placed yourself in a certain category.

You mentioned that you don't think you're very good at empathizing with others. It seems like your empathy might come across as somewhat inauthentic. This could be because something happened recently that didn't elicit a strong emotional response from you. While everyone else was discussing it with great enthusiasm, you found yourself sinking into those difficult emotions as you listened to their discussion. However, after the emotions passed, you were able to calmly do what you needed to do.

In this case, the teacher offers a different perspective, suggesting that you may not be an emotional person. It is possible that you can experience sadness or distress, but you seem to be able to maintain a separation between these emotions and your work or daily life. It seems that you have developed a capacity to regulate your emotions effectively.

In conclusion, Teacher ? would like to say that you are a person of stable emotions and can control your emotions well. This is something that many people need to work on, and you have achieved it, so I would like to give you a big thumbs up!

Teacher also offers a gentle reminder that while you have a wealth of emotions, sometimes they can become suppressed, which can cause knots in the heart and congestion. It would be beneficial to be more aware of yourself.

I encourage you to allow your emotions to flow freely. I love you, and I know the world does too!

Hello, question asker!

I opened your question on purpose. After reading it carefully, I felt a sense of déjà vu. It was fate, or maybe it was an encounter between our souls that allowed me to see your confusion! I hug you, dear child, are you okay now?

I have seen many excellent answers from the respondents, and in particular, the answer from the respondent Xing Ying has also touched me. I am confident that you now have a new perspective on your question. In any case, I am still willing to chat with you about the topic "Am I essentially an emotionally detached person?"

Let's talk about this topic.

I'd like to know why you decided to ask this question on this platform at this time.

I don't know what kind of answer you're looking for, but I'm not going to give it to you. And I don't care what kind of answer you want.

At 20 years old, we reach a critical juncture in our development. We may choose to find employment or continue our studies, live independently from our parents, enter into a relationship or even get married. In short, at 20 years old, we are at a stage of self-differentiation towards maturity and completion. Many unknowns await us to be revealed, tried and experienced. Of course, more confusion will arise. This is our life, and it is also the motivation that drives us to grow. Therefore, your confusion is a normal part of the growth process, no matter what the reason or desired outcome is. You don't need to care too much or dwell on it. At the same time, it shows me that you are a girl who is good at exploring yourself and has a good sense of awareness. Kudos to you!

Let's go through your description together.

From a young age, I could ask my parents for money without any burden. If it was something I wanted to do, like learning a special skill or going out with friends, I would be very careful when facing my parents. I knew I could ask my parents for whatever I wanted, and they would give me whatever I wanted as long as they could.

I can see the love your parents have for you, and I can also see how considerate you are towards them. I can also see how careful you are and how you worry about things. You are a very thoughtful person.

Tell me, how did you feel when you asked your parents for money for school and living expenses without any hesitation? And how did your parents react each time you asked for money?

Tell me how you feel.

Tell me, how do your parents typically approach your academic studies and special learning? And how do they interact with your friendships?

You need to stop being so cautious and burdened when it comes to your needs in this area. I need to know what your family's financial circumstances are.

When we want others to meet our needs, we will feel relatively comfortable and unburdened in an environment of great safety, trust, and unconditional support. Conversely, we may feel burdened, guilty, uneasy, anxious, scared, or even fearful. It is essential that you further observe the reasons behind your different states of mind. This has nothing to do with whether you are emotionally indifferent. As other respondents have said, you are a person with delicate and rich emotions.

I don't have many friends, just three or four. They are my best friends. The longest has been ten years, and the shortest has been four years. If they leave me, I will be sad. But when I think about this scene, I feel nothing.

Having three or four friends you can spend time with for a long time is a lot. It's often said that "having one true friend is enough." You have great friends.

Tell me, are you and your friends about to face separation? Are you anxious about a possible or impending separation?

You say you feel no emotion when you think about the separation, but I can already feel your sadness in your words. I hug you again!

Every feast ends, and the separation of friends may be brief. In today's society, transportation and internet networks make it easy to get together and keep in touch. If you both want to, you can.

Furthermore, true close friends don't need to be together all the time. They may not keep in touch often, but when they do get together, there are no barriers in their hearts, and distance cannot separate them.

The absence of emotions does not mean you have weak emotions. Everyone expresses emotions differently, so it's not always sad when friends part ways.

Emotional expression is also conveyed through body language, behavior, and somatic reactions. The absence of emotions or feelings can also be a form of emotional expression. Some individuals are emotionally detached, driven by fear of self-harm or avoidance of reality. Others are emotionally overdramatic, unable to express sadness or grief.

When my grandfather died, I was a child. He treated all his grandchildren equally, so my cousins and I cried. I stood by and watched, and inside I didn't feel anything. Maybe because I was so cold, my grandfather got angry. After we went back home, we all ate the same things, and I was the only one who got food poisoning.

It's been a while, but the emotions of your grandfather's death are still affecting you. I can see how much you love and miss your grandfather, and I'm sure he feels it in heaven too. Give him a big hug from me! Take the advice of the respondent Xing Ying and go through a psychological mourning and farewell with your grandfather (you can face the mirror and imagine your grandfather looking at you in the mirror, and talk to him about your thoughts and what you want to say to him. If you can, you can also seek help from a professional psychological counselor to help you relive the sad event of your grandfather's death.

I believe, like other respondents, that you are not suffering from food poisoning. However, your sadness is expressing itself internally, attacking yourself, and your stomach is just taking it.

Tell me, are you an emotionally detached person when faced with the death of your grandfather?

♦️Something happened recently that made me feel like I had no feelings at all. When I saw many people commenting on it, I felt sad too. Once the sadness passed, I still felt nothing when I looked at it.

The recent events have clearly had a significant impact on you. Not feeling anything is also a feeling! If these events have affected your mood, life, or studies, you can still use the mirror exercise or seek help from a professional counselor to help you release your emotions.

I am a highly empathetic person, but I am aware that my empathy is not genuine.

I'd like to know why you evaluate yourself this way.

Empathy is not about being true or false. It's about understanding and empathy.

I believe my nature is to be emotionally detached.

I'm waiting for your answer or some different thoughts. You've read this far, so I'm sure you have something to say.

My answer will bring you enlightenment. You must slowly try to express and release your emotions outwardly, rather than attacking yourself inwardly!

I am a psychological counselor at Happy Cow. I love you all!

Good question.

From what you've said, it seems like you're really confused. It seems like you feel like you don't have a deep emotional connection with others, so you can't experience or express your inner feelings. You also seem to doubt that you're essentially an emotionally detached person. But everyone has a lot of emotions and feelings. These are determined by our nervous system and have a long biological basis. Apart from physical illness, people will have emotions in their hearts when encountering things.

It's just that everyone deals with these emotions in their own way, based on their experiences.

You say that although your parents have treated you very well, it would be a burden to ask them for money for things that aren't really necessary. I'd guess that when you were young, your parents didn't spend a lot of time with you, so you couldn't trust them unconditionally. You felt like you had to be sensible and not burden your parents too much. Your relationship with your parents is a foundation for your relationships with other people. If you don't feel secure with your parents and can't trust them, it'll be hard for you to trust other people and form close relationships with them. So, you wouldn't be particularly sad when your imaginary friend left because you'd already prepared yourself mentally, telling yourself that you couldn't trust other people.

This doesn't mean you don't have emotions, but that you've suppressed them, which creates emotional isolation. In other words, because of emotional isolation and suppression, you seem to be very indifferent when your grandfather passed away. This is all about how you deal with your emotions and feelings. It seems that you no longer feel anything, that you can't feel very sad or very happy.

It's important to have the right amount of emotions and feelings to live a rich and fulfilling life. Having too many or too few can affect your mental health. You seem to be somewhat emotionally isolated. Here are some ways to help you experience and express your emotions and feelings more:

Mindfulness meditation is all about being aware of your body and your feelings.

You can try meditating for 10 to 30 minutes a day. During meditation, take a moment to calm down and become aware of your body's state. Which parts are tense and which parts are relaxed? Scan your body from head to toe and feel its presence. Then become aware of your inner feelings: Are you calm and free from distracting thoughts?

Or are you feeling happy and excited? Or maybe you're feeling a bit sad and upset?

Ask yourself, is there someone or something that makes you feel this way? With a bit of practice, you'll be able to identify your inner emotions.

2. You can do some invigorating exercises or have an in-depth heart-to-heart with someone to stimulate your inner emotions.

You can get your body going a bit to give you a boost, like going for a run until you're sweating or climbing some rocks. Exercise can release dopamine and other hormones that can help you feel emotions more strongly. You can also talk to friends and family about emotional topics, which will bring up memories, experiences, and feelings during the conversation.

3. Keep an eye on how you're making progress, and learn how to handle your emotions.

Everyone's experiences and personalities are different. Accept that your current emotional feelings are not as outwardly expressed as they once were. Practice gradually, allowing yourself to become more vivid and emotionally expressive at a pace that's comfortable for you.

You're used to dealing with emotions that arise deep within you in isolation. Through meditation and exercise, you'll gradually learn to let your emotions come out and learn how to deal with them. If you're unable to deal with emotions that make you feel very painful and afraid, you can practice imagining creating a safe island for yourself where you are completely safe and accepted.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by your emotions, take a deep breath and imagine yourself back in a safe place. This can help you to calm down and think clearly.

I hope you can learn to accept and love yourself more.

I have been granted the opportunity to engage in verbal communication through the issuance of a system notification. I am grateful for this chance to interact through the medium of language.

From the comments, it is evident that you present yourself from multiple perspectives, which appear to demonstrate a paucity of emotion. Concurrently, these perspectives do not seem to persuade you profoundly, prompting you to pose a profound question:

The question thus arises as to whether the essence is perceived as a person with minimal emotional involvement.

From this question alone, it is evident that the questioner is a perceptive individual, striving to delve beneath the surface to grasp the underlying essence.

In light of these considerations, it seems pertinent to share some thoughts for your consideration, with the hope that they may prove helpful in penetrating the phenomenon and understanding the essence.

1. From the perspective of biological brain science, there may be an interruption between the cerebral cortex, which is responsible for cognitive processes, and the limbic system, which is responsible for emotional responses, at specific points in time.

This part of the hypothesis is most likely to explain the part about the death of the grandfather.

The questioner indicated that her grandfather treated his younger generation equitably, which suggests that he did not abuse or neglect her. The responses of her cousins are also typical reactions of younger generations when confronted with the death of an elder. However, the questioner's conduct differed from these responses.

I observed the situation with no emotional response.

At this juncture, the subject had a particularly intimate relationship with the deceased grandfather, which commenced during the subject's formative years.

It is unclear precisely how young the questioner was at the time; however, other younger individuals appear to be older than the questioner, as they are referred to as "cousins."

In the event of a young person's proximity to death, particularly in the case of a close relative, the brain may engage its self-protection function at this juncture.

The amygdala is a part of the limbic system that is responsible for fear and threat. It secretes a large amount of neurotransmitters, which it attempts to transmit to the cerebral cortex through the nuclear group. However, due to the concentration of these emotions exceeding the "standard," the cerebral cortex will automatically disconnect, similar to a circuit tripping, preventing the transmission of emotions to the cognitive system. This results in a state of insensitivity.

However, the human body's intestines and stomach are populated with neurons that are sensitive to emotional stimuli, and thus capable of perceiving emotions in a manner analogous to the brain. Consequently, it is a possibility that, despite the brain's inhibition of neurotransmitter release from the emotional system, the "gut brain" may be receiving a substantial influx of subconscious anxiety related to loss, grief, and death, which could potentially result in food poisoning.

The aforementioned factors contribute to the formation of an emotional state that may be perceived as insensitivity. However, it is important to note that the human body's intestines and stomach are full of sensitive neurons that can perceive emotions just like the brain. Therefore, it is possible that although the brain is blocking the release of neurotransmitters from the emotional system, the "gut brain" is receiving such a huge amount of subconscious anxiety related to loss, grief, and death that it causes food poisoning. Second, the importance attached to emotions means

It can be reasonably deduced that the aforementioned phenomenon is the result of the amygdala secreting a substantial amount of neurotransmitters, which it attempts to transmit to the cerebral cortex via the nuclear group. However, due to the overwhelming intensity of the emotions in question, the cerebral cortex is unable to perceive and process them effectively. This results in a state of emotional insensitivity. It is important to note that the human body's intestines and stomach are densely populated with sensitive neurons that are capable of perceiving emotions in a

Secondly, it could be argued that the significance attributed to emotions makes it challenging for individuals to be readily persuaded or convinced.

The question remains whether

In the context of learning a new skill or socializing with friends, I tend to exercise a high degree of caution in my interactions with my parents, accompanied by a sense of considerable pressure.

It is still

From my perspective, these individuals serve as my closest companions. The longest-standing relationship has spanned a decade, while the shortest has been four years. Given the length of our acquaintance, it is reasonable to assume that I would experience a sense of loss if they were to depart. However, when I reflect on this scenario independently, I find myself devoid of any emotional response.

Or

Recently, an event occurred that elicited no emotional response. However, upon observing the reactions of numerous individuals, a sense of sadness emerged. After the initial sadness dissipated, a lack of emotional response persisted upon reflection.

This phenomenon is common.

In the context of interpersonal relationships, it is important to pay attention to one's own state of mind in response to certain events. This attention allows for the identification of underlying assumptions that may be indistinct but nevertheless significant.

The assumption that one should not feel burdened is in direct contrast to the emotional state that is actually experienced.

The expected emotional response would be sadness, yet when I reflect on the scene or after the initial sadness has dissipated, I do not experience this anticipated emotion.

These predispositions are, in fact, a more typical manifestation of highly sensitive individuals. Those who are highly sensitive tend to pay close attention to details and nuances that are not readily apparent to others.

These preconceptions are, in fact, a typical manifestation of highly sensitive individuals. Those who are highly sensitive pay close attention to details and nuances that are not always perceptible to others.

An individual who is emotionally insensitive may not conceptualize the "shoulds" underlying these scenarios. Instead, they may permit these events to occur and become a part of them, remaining unaware of the full range of emotions involved. In such cases, the individual in question cannot be considered emotionally sensitive.

The question then arises as to why the questioner does not experience these "shoulds," but instead feels burdened or insensitive.

The question then arises as to why the question asker does not experience these "shoulds," but instead feels burdened or insensitive.

This is related to the biological basis mentioned in the previous question. The sensitivity of the body may be much higher than that of cognition or awareness. However, when the body feels something, the brain will automatically activate a protective mechanism, known as "emotional isolation," to prevent overwhelming emotional responses.

The questioner is already aware of this and can reinforce the interconnection between the body, cognition, and emotion. When the body responds, direct attention to the emotions, refrain from relying on cognition to provide explanations, and engage in further experiences. The brain will come to perceive that the perceived threat has not actually materialized, which will facilitate the simultaneous emergence of the body, cognition, and emotions, and provide the questioner with the opportunity to confront a more authentic and comprehensive array of inner experiences.

I am not an explorer of human nature; rather, I am a therapist who cares about the human heart. I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello, question asker!

When I read your question, I thought of a sensible and kind little girl. I bet you're a good girl in front of your family and friends. It seems like you have high expectations of yourself!

As a child of parents, it's only natural for parents to raise their children. It's their duty to take care of them, provide for their basic needs, and give them a good life. However, you have a different standard in your heart. You think living expenses and non-study related expenses are a burden on your parents. You feel guilty if you want it. You think of your parents so thoroughly, let alone others. You're really too kind.

You're only 20, but your longest-lasting friends have been with you for ten years, and the shortest for four. You have three or four friends, which also shows your kindness. It doesn't mean you have a friendship with everyone that is just a passing affair. You can get along with your friends for a long time, which shows how gentle your heart is and how kind you are. You can be friends forever. You're in the passionate age of youth, and suddenly you think about parting with your friends. You feel that it should be hard, but you feel no emotion when you think about this scene. When you write this down, I feel that a young girl's heart is really too sensitive and thinks too much.

It's not like it hasn't happened before. With all the advances in transportation and video technology, it's hard to say it's truly over. It's true that long-distance love was a challenge in the past, when communication and transportation were more difficult. It's understandable that you feel nothing when you think about it. In our information society, the pain of separation is less common.

Then there's the story you told about your grandfather's death when you were a child. I'm not sure how young you mean, but I was about 13 when my grandmother died. I grew up with my grandmother, and I remember that during the Spring Festival, my father went to get me, but I was still at my grandmother's house and didn't want to go home. That's it. When my grandmother died, I didn't feel any particular pain. Now that I think about it, I think it was because I had my own mother, and my mother took care of everything for me, so I didn't want to feel any particular pain. Not to mention that I wasn't very old yet. So in my opinion, your behavior was consistent with the state of mind of a child, which is a normal response. With our deeply loving parents by our side, the pain really isn't very deep.

You also mentioned that you don't know what to say. I don't understand why you want to completely immerse yourself in the story and become the protagonist. If we all did that, our lives would be in chaos. If we heard that someone was sad, we'd just get even more sad. How would we get through the day? We have friends and family around us, and we have friends and family of our friends and family. We hear a lot of things, and our day wouldn't be good. You said that once the sad emotions pass, you don't feel as bad anymore. This is all very normal!

It's because of this that we can move forward in life, and it's because of this that we humans have developed to the point we are today!

I think the analysis above should help you see that your doubts about yourself are unfounded. Your behavior is normal, and you're not emotionally detached. This is the emotional state of a typical person in a normal situation. I think this is how you should behave in every situation. Regarding your last point about empathy, you think your empathy is fake. I'd like to refer you back to the research mentioned above, which suggests experiencing more grief, suffering, and despair than they did. You think that kind of empathy is real. But we must also be able to control the degree of empathy. So I don't think your empathy is fake. It's just that empathy has a time limit. And even empathy for others has a time limit. Even the person in the eye of the storm will slowly come out of their grief on their own after a while.

So, don't doubt yourself. This is all part of the norm in our lives, and it's all the same. Let's not be too demanding on ourselves and just live according to our hearts so that we can make our lives better.

I hope you can grasp the concept of emotional indifference, embrace your feelings and nature, enjoy the present, and remember that the world and I love you!

Hello, question asker. I am honored to answer your question. From your description, I can say with confidence that you are very normal. Everyone's personality will show great differences due to different experiences. In your question, you describe that you generally do not ask for tuition or living expenses, and you only make special requests if you want to learn a special skill or go out and play. You should be considered a relatively self-disciplined girl in life. This kind of girl usually behaves more rationally and is not like her peers, who are more talkative and outgoing.

Having few friends means you are more cautious about making friends. At 20, you have a mature mind and are excellent in the eyes of your teachers and parents. However, you have suppressed too many of your feelings, which will harm your future physical and mental health. Normal expression of emotions such as joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness is a way to release pressure in our work and life. If the pressure in life is not properly released, it will accumulate over time and have a negative impact on our character.

Your question about your grandfather's death is understandable. Other cousins and siblings were very sad, but you seemed very calm. From a professional point of view, you were not sad, but you were using the defense mechanism of emotional isolation to protect yourself. When we encounter huge emotional shocks, such as joy, sadness, and anger, our bodies will activate the defense mechanism of emotional isolation to prevent us from being harmed by these huge emotional changes. It is precisely because you were too sad due to the sudden death of your grandfather that you appeared more indifferent than others. You don't need to blame yourself too much for these things. One of the signs of psychological maturity is also the ability to flexibly use various defense mechanisms to protect our mental health.

I am thrilled to have a date with 1983. The world and I love you!

Hello, question asker!

After reading your description of yourself, I get the impression that you're a pretty indifferent person. This is especially true when you describe specific facts. For example, when you talk about good friends, you say, "If they were to leave me, I guess my first feeling would be sadness, but when I think about that scene myself, I feel nothing. When I was little, my grandfather died (and he treated all his grandchildren equally), and my cousins and I cried so hard, but I just stood there watching, without any feelings inside." When I read these descriptions, it really gives the impression that you are somewhat cold!

Psychological description of emotional indifference is indifference and apathy towards things. Emotionally indifferent people lack enthusiasm in their romantic lives, and are indifferent or even resistant to others' active communication. Emotionally indifferent people like to be alone, don't like to share their thoughts with others, and lock themselves firmly in their own world, treating others with indifference. But here's the exciting part! Emotionally indifferent people have the opportunity to learn and grow in ways that others may not. They can choose to embrace their individuality and develop their own unique perspective. They can choose to prioritize their own personal growth and happiness above all else. They can choose to be alone and enjoy the solitude, or they can choose to seek out new experiences and connections. They have the freedom to decide how they want to live their lives.

They lack empathy. No matter how big the matter is, they will not be internally moved, as if it has nothing to do with them. They will not react to heartfelt conversations or jokes.

In a relationship, they usually feel nothing, and may even find it boring. But here's the good news: they are even less likely to invest in the other person!

So, what should you do in this situation? I've got some suggestions for you that I think you'll find really helpful!

1. First, don't randomly label yourself!

It's fantastic that the questioner is aware of these characteristics in himself. Awareness is the first step towards change, and it's a great place to start! We all want to make ourselves seem more "warm" and humane, rather than cold and indifferent.

From the way the questioner describes his relationships, it's clear that he has some amazing friendships! The longest one has lasted ten years, and the shortest just four. This shows that you may have exaggerated your "indifference." If you really are an emotionally indifferent person, it is estimated that it would be difficult to have such a long friendship. Besides, you are saying, imagine the scene of your friend leaving, which is different from the actual situation. Oh, your grandfather passed away, and you didn't feel anything, probably because your feelings for him were average.

In short, you cannot judge yourself as an essentially indifferent person based on these two incidents.

Now, think back to yourself. What are the things that cause you to have strong emotional reactions? For example, what makes you sad or happy?

2. Go for it! Take the initiative to care about the other person.

Take the initiative to care about the other person! Try to think from their perspective, and consider and analyze problems from their standpoint. You'll be amazed at how much this helps! One of the main reasons why some people are emotionally indifferent is that we are unable to experience the emotions of others. But we can! We can role-switch, play a character, put ourselves in the other person's shoes, and then observe and ponder the phenomenon. This is actually the ability to understand others. And it's a wonderful thing! Interact more with others and care more about the people around you.

3. Find people who share your interests!

Some emotionally indifferent people may be because they lack people who share a common language with them. But there's hope! They show a carefree attitude towards many things in life, but in fact they have not found anything that really interests them.

It's time to find people who share your interests and like-minded people! When you integrate into a group that accepts them, emotional indifference will slowly heal.

I really hope this helps a little!

Hello! I get the feeling you don't want to be seen as someone with weak emotions. It seems like you're not like that at all! It's just that you're a little worried that others may see you as cold.

—Oh, what a fascinating question! If you could see the old you, what would you do?

If you could see the old you right now, watching your seemingly angry grandfather, carefully eating the same food as everyone else, but feeling uncomfortable, what would you feel when you see that little you? Do you feel that little you is a little timid and lonely?

I know you want to give him some strength. If you try, you can feel the emotions of the moment, and you may discover that you are also full of emotions and not necessarily indifferent.

— I'm really curious, what happened to make you filter some of your emotions?

Your parents are so good to you and try their best to make you happy, but you feel a bit weighed down when you find happiness outside of your studies. I can see that there seems to be some guilt in this feeling. If this guilt could speak, what would it say? You get along really well with your friends, but the scenario you imagine when you leave is without waves.

I'd love to know more about what experience might be blocking the waves of emotion you think you should have but don't. And I'd also be really interested to hear about any comments others have made about recent events.

Is there anything you don't see eye to eye with? Is there another story behind your "lack of feelings"?

—Take a deep breath and explore yourself to discover the warmth within.

If you think about the questions above, you might find that the you who seems to be blocking out the truth is actually full of it. The you who doubts indifference might just be unwilling to make the one you love feel awkward, unwilling to part with the one you love, unwilling to let the one you love see your differences, and a warm person.

Take your time to understand yourself better, and don't be afraid to try to express your feelings. It's okay to be different, and the world is here to love you just as you are! ??

Dear girl,

I admire your awareness of this.

It can be challenging to broach the subject with parents, especially once sad feelings have passed. I'm curious if my emotions might be perceived as shallow.

I must admit that I don't easily ask my parents for anything else. Once the sadness has passed, I don't feel much about it. I'm curious to know if I'm a person with shallow emotions.

I would be delighted to share what I know with you and hope to provide you with a different perspective.

1. It would be beneficial to gain an understanding of our subconscious.

The subconscious mind can be thought of as the part of our mental activity that we are not fully aware of. It is the process of mental activity that has occurred but has not reached the state of consciousness.

It could be said that the subconscious mind is shaped by personal life experiences, and that everyone has their own unique and different life experiences.

I believe that people are different, and it is the subconscious that makes the difference.

I wonder if you've noticed that some children are quite forthcoming with their parents, asking for all kinds of things without any hesitation.

In addition to the necessary expenses for your studies and living, it is possible that making requests in other areas may prove to be a burden.

On the one hand, you are very understanding and appreciate your parents' difficulties. On the other hand, have you ever considered that you may be afraid of being rejected and criticized by your parents?

It is possible that the subconscious fear of rejection causes psychological pain, which may result in a tendency to be cautious or to avoid closer relationships as a form of self-protection.

It might be helpful to consider that this could be due to the parents' unintentional judgments or expressions.

For instance, if your parents have expressed their opinion that other children are inconsiderate and spend money recklessly, you may find yourself judging yourself as a child and adjusting your words and actions accordingly.

It might be helpful to remember that when we make friends and face things in life, many of these decisions are often made on a subconscious level.

It might be helpful to remember that when we make friends and face some things in life, many of these decisions are often made on a subconscious level.

It is not something that we are always aware of.

2. It might be helpful to try to understand your own feelings.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider some of the underlying reasons for this.

Freud posited that once the subconscious enters the conscious, the symptoms will immediately disappear.

Psychoanalysis suggests that making the subconscious conscious can help us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves.

For instance, you mentioned that when you were younger, your grandfather passed away. I understand that your cousins were very affected by this, and you were perhaps not as emotionally invested in the situation. After you returned, you experienced food poisoning, which I imagine was a challenging time for you. I'm curious to know how much younger you were compared to your cousins. It's possible that you were younger and may have had a different experience with your grandfather's passing.

It's possible that your food poisoning was caused by unexpressed grief manifesting itself in a physical way.

It might be the case that this is an emotion that you have unconsciously suppressed or isolated.

We tend to express our emotions less to others and to isolate ourselves, which can be a way of protecting ourselves.

If I may ask, do you have any particular interests or hobbies that you enjoy?

Perhaps you could consider being more involved?

You also seem to feel sad when you read some comments, and you appear to be also prone to empathy. All this shows that you have normal feelings, but you may not be willing to invest as much as others.

Perhaps it would be wise to protect yourself by not getting too involved.

3. It would be beneficial to gain an understanding of self-defense mechanisms.

Self-defense mechanisms can be thought of as the ways in which people protect themselves when they are facing setbacks or experiencing anxiety.

It is fair to say that everyone uses some defense mechanisms to protect themselves in life.

For example, we might consider repression, emotional isolation, or rationalization.

One might say that avoiding contact with one's true emotions is called emotional isolation.

It might be said that emotional isolation is a common phenomenon.

I believe it has a positive effect.

However, it is possible that if one is isolated for too long, one might become numb and ruthless.

You are fortunate to have good friends you have known for a long time, as well as a good relationship with your parents.

It is also possible that you have your own boundaries and are able to understand and sympathise with others.

At the same time, you may wish to consider ways of protecting yourself from becoming too attached to intimate relationships.

Perhaps you might be thinking that when a good friend leaves you, the first feeling should be sadness, but you feel nothing at all.

This may serve as a gentle reminder to consider the ways in which we might isolate some of our emotions.

It may be helpful to consider ways of protecting yourself from the pain of separation and loss.

There is still much to learn when it comes to understanding emotions and oneself.

It might be helpful to explore these things slowly.

It's all about making your life happier, if that's something you'd like to do.

If you feel so inclined, please feel free to share these.

If it might be of interest to you, you may wish to consider reading "The You You Don't Know".

I hope this finds you well.

Good day, host. My name is Xing Ying, a licensed psychological counselor at the national level 3.

I must assure you that you are not lacking in emotional strength. Furthermore, you are highly sensitive, emotional, and perceptive.

From your words, I can discern your true character.

If I were in your position, I would exercise caution when interacting with my parents to avoid causing them undue stress. They are very supportive and will accommodate my requests as long as it is within reason.

Due to the depth of your affection, you are reluctant to impose on your parents, who have been extremely supportive of you. You are aware that they have already provided you with a great deal of assistance, and you are therefore hesitant to ask them for anything more. This is your profound sense of gratitude towards your parents.

In my estimation, they are my most valued colleagues. The longest-standing relationship has spanned ten years, while the shortest has been four years. Given the length of time we have worked together, I believe that if they were to leave me, I would experience a sense of sadness.

Your affinity for sentimentality, resilience, and emotional restraint fosters a deep attachment to your friends, akin to a familial bond. However, this takes time to develop.

My grandfather has passed away, and the response from others has been unfeeling. I am returning home, where the same food will be consumed, increasing the likelihood of me becoming unwell.

From your description, it seems that you were the only one to contract food poisoning after eating the same food. I do not believe that the cause was food poisoning, but rather a gastrointestinal reaction caused by pent-up grief.

The gastrointestinal system is an important system that reflects our emotional responses. The fact that you were so overcome with grief that you had no tears is indicative of the depth of your feelings for your grandfather.

In light of the numerous comments on this matter, I also feel a sense of sadness.

I am unaware of the source of your sadness, but it is evident that you possess an acute emotional capacity to empathize with others. Empathy is not a superficial gesture; it originates from the heart and is driven by genuine feelings. This is your profound emotional connection to your fellow beings.

You are not a person with superficial emotions. Your emotions are profound and authentic.

Your sensitivity and perceptivity allow you to experience pain and joy with greater depth than most individuals. When sadness arises, your instinct for survival activates your defense mechanisms to shield you from further distress, which can result in a temporary inability to perceive pain.

I would like to remind you of one thing. The death of your grandfather was a particularly sad event for you, and you may have been reluctant to accept it. This may have contributed to your subsequent behavior, which was perceived as cold and even led you to believe that your grandfather was angry with you, which may have resulted in your unfortunate experience with food poisoning.

My dear, your grandfather loves you very much and would never want to see you suffer. If he were aware of your situation, he would be deeply upset and comfort you with a warm embrace.

He would like to inform you that he has always been aware of your affection for him and hopes that you will lead a fulfilling life, drawing upon the lessons learned from your experiences. Is there anything you would like to convey to your grandfather at this time?

It is important to say goodbye to him and tell him that you will live a happy life and that, although he is no longer with you, you can feel his love. This will help him to find peace.

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I wish to reassure you that you have my full support and that I am here for you should you require any assistance. You are a person with deep feelings and strong emotions, and I wish you happiness. The world and I love you. Best regards, [Name]

Hello, host!

I can feel your heart from the landlord's description. At least you can accurately express your heart, which shows that you are not a person with shallow feelings. That's great!

There are two reasons for my lack of emotion: one is genetic, as the bloodline of this family is relatively cold-blooded, which is pretty cool.

Another reason is that after being emotionally traumatized in the past, I activated a self-protection mechanism, fearing to be hurt again and becoming emotionally indifferent.

Sometimes, I feel like I'm a pretty emotionally neutral person, but at other times, I can totally empathize with others and sympathize with them!

So it's not absolute. People's emotions and state of mind change with age, depending on the things they've experienced and the impact they've had on you – it's so exciting to see how our feelings evolve as we grow!

This is what makes your emotions so rich and exciting! It all depends on whether you feel more moved or more disheartened.

It's not that more friends are better, but a few close friends are all you need!

I don't have many friends, just three or four. In my opinion, they are my absolute best friends. The longest relationship lasted ten years, and the shortest four. We have known each other for such a long time. If they leave me, my first feeling should be sad, but when I think of this scene myself, there is no emotion in my heart.

It's impossible to be enthusiastic about everyone, and that's okay! The original poster's situation is great, too. You don't have to make friends with everyone in the world — and that's a good thing!

All good things come to an end, and friends may also move on to new adventures because of their busy schedules. Some people may feel a little sad about this, but if you are like the original poster and have no inner turmoil, it is actually not a problem. At least this way, you will not be consumed by negative feelings and can focus on the bright side!

It may be a coincidence, so don't pay it much attention!

When I was a child, my grandfather died (he treated all his grandchildren equally). My cousins and their siblings cried so hard. I stood there watching, and inside I didn't feel anything. Maybe it was because I was so cold that my grandfather got angry. After we went back home, we all ate the same things, and I was the only one who got food poisoning—what a blast!

Some people just don't know how to express their true feelings. But you do! You know what's in your heart, and that's what matters.

What are your thoughts on your grandfather? You should be so grateful for the love he once showed you! If you can't say it out loud, then silently say goodbye to him in your heart. Perhaps your grandfather's spirit can read your heart, and he won't blame you, so don't be too hard on yourself!

Focus on your own business and don't let the outside world get in your way!

The feelings that something recent has brought me are no feelings at all. But when I see many people commenting on it, I feel sad too. And then, once the sadness has passed, I feel excited to move on to the next thing!

We don't have to express our feelings about everything, and it's a great thing to pay less attention to things that don't concern us and focus on what we need to do!

So don't worry about what others say! You've done nothing wrong. What others say is their business. Just focus on your own business and don't be affected by the outside world.

And finally, I wish the original poster a happy life!

I am so excited to be here in this wonderful world, and I love you all!