Am I too daring to say everything in front of my partner? Can such a relationship last long?

Be kind to yourself and comfort the hurt, anxious, and confused you.

First of all, I'm not sure how long you've been with him. You mentioned that you've always been dependent on him, but recently, his attitude has changed! Could it be that he's encountered something troubling at work or in his personal life?

Or you could meet someone else of the opposite sex! It's all possible. Just observe and see what changes. See if he encounters any difficulties or worries.

Second, a relationship is all about finding that perfect balance between interdependence and independence. If you find yourself becoming overly dependent on your partner, it might feel a bit suffocating at first, but it's also an opportunity to learn and grow!

As a girl, it's totally understandable to rely on your boyfriend like this because you trust him and care about him very much. But it's also important to learn to face things and deal with problems independently, because even if you are in a relationship and get married, there are still so many exciting things that you will need to face later on, such as your work and having children!

Third, his attitude is problematic. This is very wrong, and I don't know if it was like this before. We must be patient with people in close relationships, but it is inevitable that impatience will set in over time, especially in men. But don't worry! We can work through this together.

Sometimes, as a man, I also have this and that kind of problem, so I need to understand him more. Find an opportunity to communicate with him, express your feelings and thoughts, and even the two of you can talk about the future and what kind of expectations you have.

Take it slow and see what happens! You've got this!

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Hello!

I am a mindfulness coach, and learning is the treasure of the body!

From your description, I can feel your inner doubts, confusion, entanglement, disappointment, pain, and helplessness, and I am excited to help you work through them!

I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty of your relationship woes with your partner, but I've got three awesome tips for you!

First, I suggest you try to accept your current state. You've got this!

Doing so will make your heart feel slightly lighter, which will help you think about what to do next!

You say that you and your partner used to get along very well, that you shared everything with him and relied on him a lot. But recently, whenever you speak, express your views and thoughts, he gets angry with you. You find it hard to understand, but you know you can work through this together! Before, when you discussed problems, you would admit when you found something wrong with your thinking or when you didn't do something well. He would never admit when he was wrong. You feel that he has changed, and you find that he doesn't seem to like you as much as before. So you don't want to speak much in front of him. But you can! In fact, this state of mind is understandable, because everyone longs to be recognized and to be treated as an equal when spending time with their partner. So try to accept your current state of mind, "see" the confused, torn self inside you who doesn't know what to do for the time being, and this will give you extra mental energy to think about other things. Otherwise, your mind will be filled with all kinds of negative emotions. But you know you can work through this together!

The good news is that you can change your situation by simply accepting it! It may sound a bit contradictory, but it's true. Change is all about allowing for no change.

Secondly, I suggest you take a rational look at your situation.

Rational thinking is a great way to understand yourself and reality better!

To rationalize, you need to do the following two things, and I know you can do it!

One of the best things you can do is understand that it is only after spending a long time together that you can truly understand a person.

You said in your description that you feel he has changed. It is probably because you have been together for a long time, and in fact, this feeling is normal because it means you really know him!

When you were together before, he probably showed more of his "good" side, and you were also very happy. However, as time goes by, you will see each other's "bad" side (no one is perfect, everyone has some shortcomings or inadequacies, as well as aspects that the other person does not approve of). This is also the reason why you feel that he has changed. He hasn't changed, it's just that you don't understand him—and now you have the chance to get to know him better!

From this perspective, the fact that you feel he has changed is actually a great thing! You're seeing the real him, not just those aspects that meet your criteria for a partner.

Second, get this: the status quo can be changed because you can change!

In other words, after you have exercised your subjective initiative, you will probably know whether you are afraid that he will end the relationship or whether you don't like him anymore when you don't speak in front of him. This is an amazing opportunity for you to gain clarity and move forward with confidence!

When you look at it rationally like this, I'm sure you'll find that the various negative emotions in your heart will be resolved somewhat!

I have one more suggestion for you: focus on yourself and think about what you can do to make yourself feel better!

When you look at your own state rationally, you may also know what to do! At this point, you focus on yourself and try your best to do it!

For example, you can ask yourself what you liked about him in the first place, whether those likes still exist, whether you still want to be with him, and whether you feel confident and hopeful about the future with him. This kind of self-examination can help you determine whether you still like him, so that you know what choice to make next and your heart may feel a little lighter.

You can also try communicating with him sincerely, calmly, and without any emotional involvement. Tell him your thoughts and feelings about him without judgment. Listen to what he has to say, and then decide what to do next. This will also help you determine whether he still cares about you.

You can also try expressing your true thoughts to him or asking him questions to see if he still yells at you or ends the relationship after getting angry. I think that even if he really ends the relationship because of this, you probably won't be too sad! After all, if the stability of your relationship depends on your not daring to speak up, then there is no true love in that kind of relationship. In this way, you will also know what decision to make, and you'll be ready to take the next step!

Once you know how he thinks and what he does, and whether you still have confidence and expectations of him, you'll know the answer! And so on. The bottom line is, you need to know that you can do something to improve the situation.

Once you start taking action, you'll be amazed at how quickly those negative emotions start to melt away. It's incredible how taking action can be the best way to beat those negative feelings!

I really hope my answer helps you! If you want to chat some more, just click on "Find a coach" at the bottom and I'll be in touch!

Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

It's totally normal to feel a bit angry and frustrated when you feel like you're not being listened to, understood, or supported.

It's often the case that how others treat you is a result of what you teach them. I know it sounds a bit harsh, but when you let go of your emotions and feel and experience it, you'll actively reflect on the changes in the people in the relationship and the changes in the way they interact with each other. You'll ask yourself if there's something you could have done or something you lack, and whether you're responsible for the changes you feel because you weren't the same when you first started dating.

For example, when he refuses to let you express your thoughts and feelings, it can make you feel strongly ignored, uncared for, and unimportant. Have you been brave enough to tell him how you really feel at that moment, and what you want him to do to make you feel valued and cared for, rather than criticizing his behavior out of fear and insecurity? I know it can be tough, but I'm here to support you!

It's also possible that your excessive dependence on him is hiding a lack of acceptance of your inner self, a lack of self-confidence, and a deliberate attempt to please and ingratiate yourself. You might be unconsciously hiding from him many of the things you can do, which you're not even aware of! So, it's possible that your unintentional dependence on him has put him under a lot of pressure, making it difficult for him to respond to your needs and expectations. This can cause him to feel a strong sense of frustration, guilt, and self-blame. To avoid experiencing these painful emotions, he might release them by attacking, denying, and refusing to listen to you.

It's also a good idea to be aware of the support you get from him, to listen, understand, and accept. Have you tried giving him a certain response through your own efforts? A lasting and harmonious relationship is all about mutual giving and receiving. It's not just about not giving, or just about giving and not getting anything in return. That will drain the relationship, and we don't want that!

So, what you can do is take a good, honest look at yourself by noticing his changes and grow yourself, to see what you can do to better repair the relationship, because you want this relationship to continue. Right?

First, in a relationship, you want to be treated a certain way, so it's important to try to treat your partner in that way first. For example, if your boyfriend refuses to admit that he is wrong, have you considered his feelings from his perspective? He longs for your respect, understanding, appreciation, and admiration. He is afraid that admitting his mistakes means that he is not good enough, and you will dislike, reject, and distance yourself from him because of it. When you show enough acceptance of his mistakes, lack of goodness, and lack of excellence, and let him feel that he is safe with you, unconditionally accepted, and that even if he is wrong, he will not be disliked or rejected, then he will be able to try to give you acceptance, understanding, and support when you need him, right?

Second, try to be as confident as you can be and make sure you feel good about yourself. It's important to remember that your boyfriend's rejection of you doesn't mean you're a bad person. It could be that he's going through something emotional and needs support too.

Apart from work, it's a great idea to cultivate some interests and passions in your life. This will help to make your life full and rich, and you'll be able to take control of more and more things. You could even keep a gratitude diary to record your daily growth and progress!

And finally, the most important thing of all: grow yourself! Intimate relationships may seem like a relationship between two people, but they are actually a projection of each person's relationship with their inner self.

It's so important to accept yourself from the inside out. And remember, you can give yourself the love and care you need by trying to do it yourself first. For example, you can learn to accept and care for yourself, listen to and respect your emotional feelings (by keeping an emotional diary, meditating, taking deep breaths, etc.), and try to respond appropriately.

I love you, world! And I love you, too!

It's possible that your fear is a sign that your relationship has changed and you have more reservations. We all have concerns and secrets that we don't want to share easily. Even if you trust and rely on your partner, there are still things you might not want to tell them.

I get that you've always relied on your partner and are able to communicate honestly about everything. That should make you feel trusted and respected, but the other person scowled at you and yelled at you, affecting your personal feelings and making you feel like you're not being listened to or understood.

You said a lot, but in the end it was just dismissed, leaving people confused. That impatient attitude is still fresh in people's minds. You also feel your emotions are low and you don't want to talk, while at the same time your self-esteem has been hurt.

He's very smart, but that doesn't mean he can easily dismiss you. You often reflect on your actions and words, are very honest, accept some of your mistakes, and are willing to make corrections. The other party has always been stubborn and unwilling to change.

This is clearly a double standard. You might also have concerns about the other person having an emotional outburst. You have a lot of worries, which make it difficult for you to express your feelings freely. This might be part of the process of developing the relationship.

And in the process, you can figure out if you really like the other person, or if you can help each other improve the relationship, appreciate each other, and find common ground while keeping some differences. After all, two people still need romance and appreciation when they're together. You can talk to a counselor about your views. Best wishes.

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