An 18-year-old girl went to the psychological department for an assessment, it was normal, but I felt very disappointed.

Hello, my name is Mustard, and I'm a psychology enthusiast!

"I hope I'm the most special one." Of course, a memorable life is more attractive than a dull one.

I think the degree of my misery might satisfy me, haha. :)

In high school, I developed bipolar disorder, and my grades took a bit of a tumble. My father was seriously ill, and it was a tough time for the whole family.

The university kindly urged my mother to take me to the psychiatric department of Zhongshan Hospital in Shanghai. After a few words, the other party said that there were only two ways to help: medication and exercise. I already knew the answer, so I went home feeling a bit helpless but determined to find a way to help myself.

My current plan is to save up money to go to the Sixth Hospital in Beijing for an examination, but I'm not sure the results will be as good as I hope.

Let's dive into the fascinating topic of the nature of the self!

As a child, it's really important to feel like you're you and that you exist as a separate person.

We all need to feel good about ourselves, and we do that by connecting with other people and the world around us. When we feel good about who we are, we feel stable.

It's totally normal to want to get seriously ill or die. It's just that it's also totally normal to want to live! And it's totally normal to get a response from the outside world when you want to die.

It's so interesting how arrogant adults can be!

In elementary school, we were taught a very important lesson: everyone is unique!

When you get to high school, you'll probably hear something like, "You're not special, you're just one of millions."

The good news is that the process of self-discovery is actually similar.

You confirm your wonderful self in your interactions with your environment, and then you become a part of it.

I'd like to make a point, if I may.

I'd love to help you find your own value, the value that is unique to you and cannot be taken away or changed.

I'm so happy to be able to guide you towards the same values I was guided towards. If someone is helped, then this value cannot be taken away.

I really think you'll love the "Road Less Traveled 1: Growing Up Mindfully" series!

I'd also like to mention some other great resources: Nonviolent Communication, The Art of Communication, and The Five Languages of Love.

Talking to your mother late at night is also an experiment. And of course, the most important thing is to take care of yourself, my dear.

I truly hope that you and I will finally have the love and courage that we deserve.

Greetings.

I acknowledge your inquiry and empathize with your emotional state. It is evident that disappointment is a pervasive emotion, yet it is often overlooked or dismissed.

It is important to accept oneself and allow oneself to experience a range of emotions.

It is evident that you are experiencing a heightened emotional state. Adolescence is a period marked by a multitude of emotions, particularly for your generation of high school students, who have spent the majority of their high school lives in the midst of the pandemic. You are even confined to the domestic environment at every turn and are compelled to interact with your parents on a regular basis.

The ongoing pandemic has resulted in numerous instances where individuals are unable to venture outside to socialize or engage in leisure activities. This lack of expression has led to the gradual accumulation of unresolved emotions. Despite outward appearances of normalcy, individuals may experience a pervasive sense of unhappiness, coupled with a lack of clarity regarding the underlying causes of their distress.

It is recommended that you embrace yourself, as you are already accepted. It would be beneficial to share a line from Zootopia, which states that one must explore their inner self and understand that all change must originate from within. If you have the time, you may also wish to watch this movie.

It is recommended that you engage in introspective dialogue with yourself, asking yourself the following question: "What do I want?"

It is not unreasonable to conclude that a medical practitioner may not fully comprehend the nuances of an individual's emotional state, given the limited scope of their involvement in that person's life. Furthermore, it is important to recognise that self-report instruments may not fully capture the complexity of an individual's inner experiences.

In order to perform the "butterfly hug," one should cross their arms, rest their hands on their shoulders, and pat themselves gently.

This method allows for more frequent self-hugging. One should inquire as to the underlying issues and potential solutions for improving one's mood.

"I am experiencing feelings of sadness and a sense of being adrift, as a result of my parents' preoccupation with their own activities, which leaves me with the impression that they do not care about me. I am so distressed that I am even contemplating illness and the prospect of missing school as a means of attracting their attention.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether it is possible to elicit attention and demonstrate affection from the relevant individuals. Should this be a viable option, it would be advisable to communicate this to them.

Dear Mother and Father, It is my hope that you will be able to set aside some time to spend with me. I would appreciate it if you would take the opportunity to talk to me and demonstrate your affection.

Should this prove ineffective, it is also possible to seek the advice of friends and grandparents by telephone. This is an additional avenue for obtaining constructive responses and fostering feelings of love and warmth.

Learning enables the individual to develop the capacity to engage in dialogue with their inner self.

There are three methods by which this can be achieved. Firstly, one can gain a deeper understanding of oneself and achieve a state of inner happiness.

It is advisable to avoid psychiatrists who employ a simplistic approach, relying on scales and discussing topics such as puberty without offering a comprehensive understanding of the underlying issues. Counselors may be a more suitable option, although their services are often more expensive and require a longer-term commitment to address complex problems effectively.

Nevertheless, it is still an option to attempt this. One may proceed to the Listening Room, located at the top of the homepage of the app, and open a room with a listener on the platform.

A one-on-one discussion to address any confusion that may arise.

The second option is to enroll in courses and join a WeChat group that provides resources such as online feedback and mutual assistance. Given that everyone is here to learn and grow, they will demonstrate greater tolerance and will refrain from attacking or accusing others. They will encourage and support individuals, helping them to gradually gain the courage to become themselves.

Third, it is recommended that you read books. The following are some suggestions: "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist" is a book about psychological counseling. The main characters are all small animals, which contributes to a warm and welcoming atmosphere.

One may explore confusion regarding the process of maturation and emotional distress with the character of Mr. Toad, gradually resolving the enigma. Additionally, there is a book entitled "Emotions, Please Open the Door." Emotions are the conveyors of the soul. Each emotion is a message transmitted from within us. By interpreting our emotions, we can gain a deeper understanding of our inner selves and live a more relaxed and enjoyable life.

It is my sincere hope that my response has been of some assistance to you. With best wishes, [Signature] [Name]

Hello, question asker!

You said you'd been hoping to go to the psychiatric department of the hospital for a while to get assessed, but you didn't. Now you don't want to, but if your mother makes you, you know it'll just tell you there's nothing wrong, but you'll still feel sad.

The original poster stated that she wished she had a serious illness.

We all want to be healthy, but you want to be seriously ill. I want to know why. I want to know what you expect to gain from this way of thinking.

For example, is it possible to temporarily escape from certain real-life pressures by getting sick? Do you think your parents will pay more attention to you if you get sick?

These are just examples, and you must explore the underlying desires yourself.

2. If the original poster is not satisfied with the result, they can choose to go to a professional counseling agency and seek one-on-one counseling with a counselor. Your assessment shows that the symptoms are not serious, so you are more suitable for psychological counseling. It is clear that symptoms that are not serious can recover faster through counseling intervention. In contrast, those that are serious still require medication + psychological treatment.

3. He's basically saying, "You don't have any problems, you're just a little waste. This is the way you are, everyone is like this, nothing special..." I was really sad when I heard what he said. I don't understand.

After listening to him, you must feel like even the doctor doesn't understand you. You're obviously not feeling well, but they just see it as a simple "no problem, everyone's like that in adolescence..." They don't understand how you feel, and they don't ask what's wrong with you. They just dismiss you with a few forms.

You need to see a counselor. They will listen to you patiently and work with you to slowly unravel the mysteries within.

From a psychological perspective, there are three factors that cause psychological problems: social, physical, and psychological.

Apart from physical problems, there are also social and psychological problems. Social problems refer to our interpersonal relationships, peer relationships, and parent-child relationships. Psychological problems refer to our beliefs, perceptions, and habitual ways of thinking.

Some unreasonable beliefs are a major cause of trouble for adolescents.

Psychologist Ellis was clear: "What causes emotional distress in people is not the event itself, but our perception and interpretation of the event."

There are three main types of unreasonable beliefs:

1. Absolute demands

2. Generalizing too much

3. It's terrible.

Absolute demand refers to people taking their own wishes as the starting point and having the belief that something must or must not happen. It is usually combined with words such as "must" and "should." For example: "I must succeed," "others must treat me well," and "my classmates and parents must respect me."

People with such beliefs are prone to emotional distress because objective reality is not subject to human will.

Overgeneralization is an unreasonable way of thinking that generalizes from a few examples. It is like judging the quality of a book by its cover.

People often think that they are worthless when they fail.

You must stop evaluating yourself as a whole based on the outcome of one thing or a few things you have done.

This is terrible. The idea that if something goes wrong, it will be a disaster is wrong. If you fail an exam, you don't have to give up on your life. If you fail to find a job, you can still find work. And if you fail in a relationship, you can still find love again.

You need to find someone to talk to, preferably a professional. Open up your heart little by little. You can even choose to do family therapy. I know you can get through this dark time.

The world loves you, and I love you, too.

Hello, host. I'm July.

After reading your description, I believe I have a better understanding of the question you want to ask. If I may, I would like to give you a hug in four dimensions.

From your description, it seems that you're seeking attention and concern from your parents through a psychological assessment. It's understandable that you'd want to understand your own issues better so that your parents can show more care and concern for you. In this regard, perhaps a warm hug could be a good way to start?

It is not wrong to want to gain your parents' care and attention through the results of a psychological assessment. However, it is also understandable that you would use this test to gain the care and attention you want, given that you feel you lack this from your parents.

It's worth noting that the issue you've raised is one that many teenagers at your age may also face. While it's natural for teenagers to want more freedom and to push back against strict parenting, they still need a certain level of care and attention from their parents. It seems there might be room for improvement in the communication between you and your parents, which could help address some of the challenges you're facing.

In light of these considerations, I have also compiled a few suggestions that I hope will prove helpful in addressing the current situation.

It might be helpful to try expressing your feelings and thoughts to your parents, rather than keeping them bottled up inside.

(2) It would be beneficial to find an appropriate time and place to talk to your parents about your feelings and thoughts. If you don't say something and your parents don't ask, it might lead to a slight deterioration of the parent-child relationship.

(3) You might consider talking to a friend you get along with to help you release your emotions.

(4) Consider reframing your negative self-talk. Sometimes we find ourselves in challenging situations and may ruminate on the negative aspects. However, it's important to recognize that the truth may not always align with our initial assumptions.

(5) It would be beneficial to relax and avoid excessive stress, as this can exacerbate the challenges you're currently facing.

I just wanted to say that I love you and the world loves you too.

Please take care.

Hello!

Host:

I'm Zeng Chen, a coach at XinTan. I've read your post and I understand your feelings.

You have also sought help on the platform, which will help you understand yourself better.

Next, I'll share my thoughts from the post. They might help you see yourself differently.

1. What would it be like to be sick?

The original poster went to the hospital for an assessment. The doctor said there was nothing serious. Puberty is hard to manage. I was told I have poor self-control.

I would rather have a serious illness. I understand the original poster's thoughts.

Let's look at why you have these thoughts.

Why do you want to be sick? Let's look at the benefits of being sick.

How do you feel? Let's talk about it.

This helps us understand ourselves better.

People often think this way because being sick can bring them benefits. For example, some people feel that they are only like this because they are sick.

This is normal. If you can't do something because you're sick, it can affect your self-esteem.

2. Let's talk about what makes adolescents tick.

Adolescence is difficult to manage. Why?

Let's look at the psychological characteristics of adolescents.

They care about what others think of them, their self-worth, and their desire for respect. They also have a strong sense of independence.

People at this stage want to be independent but can't always be. This causes conflict.

People at this stage care a lot about what others think because they don't have a mature internal evaluation system. They need external feedback to understand themselves.

They need to prove themselves and want to be liked.

This is a normal part of growing up. We all go through it.

This desire to be "perfect" may also hold us back.

Many people want to be perfect, but they don't accept themselves as they are. If they don't achieve their goal, they give up.

If you can't score 100 points, don't take action. There's no difference between 80 and 60.

We can't do it. Why try?

3. Accept yourself.

To get out of adolescent narcissism, we must accept ourselves.

When we accept ourselves, our ideal self doesn't attack our real self. This helps us avoid mental depletion.

If we stop criticizing ourselves, we can stop feeling depressed and have more energy to do things we enjoy.

Improve yourself. Accept what you cannot change.

Accept what you can't change and focus on what you can.

This will help us become better, more confident people. We'll also be able to see our strengths and weaknesses.

4. Find out why you hate school.

The original poster said they don't like learning. Have you thought about why?

The perfection we mentioned may also make us hate learning. We cannot achieve it even though we have tried our best, so we just give up.

This kind of explanation is that we couldn't do it.

This will help us feel better about ourselves. There might be other reasons for not going to school, like family, teacher, or peer issues.

I won't go into more detail here because there isn't enough information.

I hope these help and inspire you. If you have questions, you can also try clicking on Find a Coach to talk with someone one-on-one.

Good day. For whatever reason, when you receive negative feedback from others, such as "You're nothing special, just a little loser..."

It is important to note that when such negative comments are made, it can be very frustrating.

Firstly, you previously expressed a desire to visit the hospital's psychiatric department for an assessment. Given the timing, it is likely that you were still in high school at the time. Could you please clarify the reason for this desire?

What outcome do you anticipate from this assessment? It is likely that you have already been evaluated as not trying hard, so you want to demonstrate that it is not a lack of effort, but rather a genuine challenge. Is this an accurate assumption?

The transition from junior high school to high school can be challenging for many students. It is not uncommon for students to experience difficulties in adjusting to the new environment.

Secondly, you have indicated that you are disinterested in learning. It is unclear whether this is a personal perception or whether it is a reflection of external opinions. It is likely that the latter is the case. This may impede your ability to identify solutions to your learning challenges. While you do not dislike learning, you have expressed frustration with your inability to learn effectively and a lack of understanding on how to do so.

Adults often claim that students do not work hard, but rather act as if they dislike school. It is important to demonstrate the opposite to them.

Furthermore, you expressed sadness regarding the results of this assessment. While the results are within the normal range, your sadness is likely due to the fact that they will not result in any immediate changes.

You will still be required to cope with the same level of pressure as before. If there are any issues, your parents will be aware and will be able to provide more support. If there are any difficulties, there will be a clear explanation as to why.

Given the limited information available, I have made some assumptions based on common sense. I hope this is helpful.

The high school experience can be challenging, particularly in terms of setting and achieving goals. Having a clear objective in mind is essential for maintaining motivation and driving better results. This is a positive cycle that can be reinforced through the use of effective methods and strategies.

Identify the area that requires a breakthrough. Best of luck!

Let me extend a gesture of support and understanding with a hug.

There is no clear benefit to be gained from undergoing testing at the hospital's psychiatric department. As you have stated, the process simply involves completing a few forms and then determining whether or not a mental illness is present. This approach is highly irresponsible. It is important to recognise that the hospital's psychiatric doctor will have a basis for their judgement, and therefore it is not possible to either wholly believe or disbelieve their assessment. To gain the most accurate results, it is advisable to seek out a professional psychological consultation conducted in a one-to-one setting. This will ensure that the assessment is as precise as possible. The consultant will listen to your story, ask relevant questions, get to know you, and make an accurate judgement based on this information.

It is possible that the reason for these thoughts is related to the issue of face. The doctor informed your parents that you are fine, yet you have demonstrated that you have problems. It is important to note that this situation does not necessarily indicate a psychological illness. Rather, it is more likely a case of psychological confusion. If you occasionally experience severe distress, this is normal, as it is not possible to maintain an ideal state at all times.

In general, most of our difficulties originate from interpersonal relationships, with our parents, friends, classmates, colleagues, and so on representing the most common sources. It may be helpful to consider whether you find it challenging to resolve these interpersonal relationships, which may contribute to feelings of psychological distress, or whether you are unable to resolve your own issues due to underlying psychological factors.

The answer lies within yourself. If the former is true, you may be avoiding interpersonal relationships and using psychological problems as an excuse. I advise you to identify the root cause of your issues and address them with courage.

If the latter is the case, it would be advisable to seek professional assistance. However, it is important to note that the medical evaluation did not indicate the presence of a mental illness.

Right now, you're going through a lot. You're an adult, but you're also in high school, which can bring a lot of negative emotions and feelings. You went to the psychiatric department for an assessment, and it showed that you have mild depression. Some psychiatrists might consider this normal.

Theoretically, there shouldn't be any major problems, and you should be quite happy about it. But you feel disappointed. I wonder if you secretly expect some major problems to arise. You've been looking forward to the assessment, as if you want to get some answers, but then your feelings have changed again, and you don't feel like doing the assessment anymore.

From this, we can see that there are still some clues to your emotional fluctuations and changes in thinking. Perhaps a lot has happened during this period of waiting, causing some changes in your thoughts and ideas, as well as a state of school refusal and poor communication.

All these situations are making you uncomfortable, and your parents are also worried about your situation and took you to the hospital. Maybe you're feeling a bit rebellious during adolescence, and maybe the academic burden of your second year of high school is also very uncomfortable. You can see what state you are actually in.

The psychologist said you have poor self-control, which means you don't know what your purpose in studying is or why you're studying. This is something you need to think about. You hope you have a serious illness, because maybe that will help you give up on studying.

The psychologist said you're just mildly depressed, and a lack of willpower can also lead to fluctuations in academic performance. You're very sad and at a loss, and you need to accept that. If you can, it's best to get the psychological counseling you need so you can figure out what you want right now. After all, learning is still your own business. You probably don't want to be constantly worried about by your parents or have your life planned for you. I wish you well.

ZQ?

Hello, young lady! Thank you so much for trusting me enough to answer your question.

You're facing some emotional challenges right now, but I'm here to support you! Let's take a moment to embrace each other with a warm hug.

I think that the assessment your parents took you to the psychiatric department for can be a great reference!

I'm not sure what kind of test form they gave you, but I'm excited to find out!

I remember when I first came to Shanghai five years ago, I went to another private institution for psychological counseling. It was such an eye-opening experience! After the counseling that day, the counselor used an SCL-90 scale on me.

I later made the great decision to switch to this platform two years ago, where professional counselors use the SCL-90 scale for me.

The great news is that this scale is now more commonly used, which means the test results will be more accurate!

However, I absolutely believe that you, young lady, may have experienced the above situation!

That is: you go to the psychiatric department with the mentality that you are sick; then our human brain is very clever. As long as you go to the test with this mentality, most of the time it will show the answer you want to hear!

I would definitely not recommend going to the hospital's psychiatric department in your situation. Doctors see so many patients every day and have very little time for each one, so they will inevitably interpret the test you take in a hasty manner.

I highly recommend that if your family's financial situation allows, you should definitely seek professional psychological counseling. One-on-one counseling would be the absolute best option!

And there's another great option: you can consult with one of the live listeners on the platform! Their fee is currently 29 RMB per unit, and a unit is 15 minutes.

And the best part is, when you place your order, you can choose the length of the consultation: 15, 30, 45, or even 60 minutes!

I know it can be tough to find the right balance when it comes to money and mental health, but I truly believe that a professional counselor is worth every penny!

The good news is that as a student, you can get 50% off the platform's consultation fees! All you have to do is fill out a form and submit a school certificate to get started.

I really think you should go to a counselor for one-on-one counseling. She can help you so much better based on your current situation!

As for the test results the hospital psychiatrist told your mother about you, you can definitely use them as a reference! However, just keep in mind that they may not necessarily accurately reflect your current situation.

I really, really hope that you can resolve your problem soon!

That's all I've got for now, but I'm excited to see what the future holds!

I really hope my answers are helpful and inspiring! I'm the answer, so study hard every day!

Here at Yixinli, we love you so much that we want to share our love with the whole world! Best wishes!

Hello. I can see you're upset. Let's hug.

I'm not a psychologist, so I can't give a professional answer. I'm just a tourist.

I am a student too. I want to be valued. I have a lot of pressure to learn. I think self-relief is a good way to go.

Your health is the most important thing, especially your mental health.

Take 15 minutes to go somewhere nice by yourself or with friends.

Just walk and focus on the scenery. You can also chat with someone close to you.

Don't keep your negative emotions inside.

You're not wrong. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. These are the methods I often use when I'm under pressure. They may not be for everyone, but I hope they'll be useful to you.

I hope you will recover soon.

Wishing you the best.

Hello! I'll give you a 360-degree hug.

From what you said, it's clear you're disappointed the psychiatrist said you have mild depression and that it's not a big deal.

The psychiatrist also said that adolescence is difficult to manage and that self-control is poor. These are characteristics of adolescents, and they are generalizations that refer to a category of people. I don't think they are specifically directed at you. As we often say, children are just naughty.

I can only say that most children are naughty, which is just their nature. It doesn't mean that a specific child is naughty, but only that the probability of a specific child being naughty is quite high. However, it doesn't mean that the child is definitely naughty.

Once more, the psychiatrist's words are just a generalization, and they don't necessarily apply to you. You're free to disagree.

I'm more interested in why you're disappointed and why you want to be mentally unhealthy. What's in it for you?

What are you really trying to achieve by disliking school?

It also seems like you think the psychiatrist is saying you don't have any problems and are just a bit of a failure. Do you want to be a bit of a failure?

It seems like you don't agree with this idea. Or maybe you need to embrace your inner loser.

You're currently in your second year of high school, and next year you'll be facing your third year and the college entrance exam. It's a big moment in your life, and it'll have a big impact on your future.

Some parents may have been more involved with their children before they went to university, but once they go to university, they feel that their children have become adults and so they become less involved.

I don't know the specifics of your situation, but from my experience, you may have a bit of separation anxiety, fear of being separated from your family, fear of growing up, or fear of what will happen at home after you leave. These may be subconscious, and the result could be that you'll do something so that you don't have to grow up. It's difficult to say exactly why, but I suggest you talk to a counselor.

Psychologists don't just work with people who have mental health issues. They can also help with family issues.

I'm a counselor who is often both Buddhist and depressed, occasionally positive and motivated, and I love the world and all of you in it.

After hearing the doctor's explanation, it seemed like he was saying that you're not sick, you're just a little weakling, and that's okay. He said that everyone is like that, and there's nothing special about you.

This is your heartfelt, self-assessment: you are not in a good state, and even being sick is nothing special, nothing worth paying attention to.

I get the feeling you're longing for that "special" feeling, that feeling of being valued and noticed, more than you are for being sick, don't you?

Psychiatric assessments are tools for determining whether there is an abnormality in mental state. Psychiatrists have also seen many, many patients, and what seems serious to them may indeed be more serious and require regular visits, even medication or hospitalization.

I'm happy to tell you that your situation is optimistic and not that serious. The doctor said something to comfort your mother, which may seem a bit excessive to you, but I'm sure you'll see that it was meant in the kindest way.

I'm sure your pain needs to be taken seriously.

You can start with your feelings, if you like.

Take some time for yourself to ask yourself these questions:

- How do you feel about your dislike of school? Is it avoidance?

Could it be stress? Or maybe it's indifference?

Or maybe I have other plans!

I'd love to know how you feel about not communicating with your parents. Do you ever feel resentful towards them?

Hey there! Do you ever feel like you're not being understood? Or maybe you're just trying to avoid certain topics? We've all been there!

Or maybe it was a form of punishment?

I'd love to know what you think about the fact that my mom took me to see a psychologist. Do you think she was just trying to help, or do you feel differently?

Do you feel appreciated? Or do you feel annoyed?

It's so interesting how the more casually you talk about something, the stronger the emotions behind it can be!

It's so important to discover these feelings and truly understand and know yourself.

I'd love to know what your needs are and what kind of life you want!

What can I do to help myself?

I really hope this is helpful for you!

I will comfort you in your conflict, confusion, and anxiety.

First, it's clear you're conflicted. You've been looking forward to it for a long time, but now you don't want to go.

First, the doctor said it was nothing, but I wished I had a serious illness. I feel full of anxiety and anticipation about what I am like now, what I want to be like, and what the future will hold.

I am currently experiencing a lot of conflicts and struggles.

Second, doctors are right half the time. Adolescence is a complex period of contradictions, confusion, and depression, but the severity varies from case to case.

But you're speculating and offering your opinion when you say "little waste" and "nothing special." Maybe you think you're just like that, but you're wrong.

I'd like to know your understanding of the term "little trash." Is it positive or negative, or is there another meaning?

Third, you are currently sad and confused. You mentioned earlier that you dislike school and don't communicate much with your parents.

The key is to maintain an interest in learning, which is the main concern of parents. As for communication, adolescent children have unique and closed hearts. It's good to be able to communicate with good girlfriends at school, let alone parents.

First, they must focus on their studies and not let the physical and psychological changes of puberty affect them. They should also try keeping a diary when they are young and ignorant.

Talking online? Chatting with your best friend?

You should definitely check out dramas, play sports, and so on. Find out what you're into and take your mind off things.

I look forward to hearing your details and improvements. You need ideas and confidence first. Get to it.

I look forward to maintaining communication with you on my personal public account: A Young Person with a Pretentious Air (ID: qingnianJIA2020).

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