An eighth-grade girl feels life has no hope, I want to commit suicide, I am really frustrated.

Hello! I'll start by sending you a warm hug from afar.

It's normal to feel angry, afraid, uneasy, and helpless when you see your mother being too intimate with other people of the opposite sex. It's also normal to feel a sense of grievance, restlessness, and longing for understanding and support when you're criticized and blamed by your teachers at school.

You could sense your mother's fear, unease, and helplessness when you saw her chatting with other men. You felt a strong sense of being unloved and abandoned. Parents who love each other and have a happy marriage are the main source of a child's sense of security and self-confidence. If a child feels that their parents don't love each other, the child will, to a large extent, develop a deep inferiority complex, become insecure, and feel uneasy and fearful as a result.

So, you need to accept and respond to the emotional feelings you have about your mother. From what you've said, it's clear you've chosen to suppress and hide this part of your true feelings because it's too painful.

People naturally try to avoid pain, and of course, there's also the need to adapt to real life. You can choose to ignore, avoid, or suppress painful emotions, but they won't just disappear just because you ignore, suppress, or hide them. They'll be remembered and stored by your body, temporarily remaining in your subconscious. When you encounter a similar uncomfortable situation, your emotions will be awakened again.

It's not right for your teacher to criticize you and scold you at school. That just adds to the pressure and frustration. You should also try to find out whether your teacher criticizes you because of how you're feeling after seeing your mother's behavior with the opposite sex at home.

One way to do this is to keep an emotional diary. This is where you record all your emotional experiences in words over time. This helps you to better perceive and understand your emotions, explore the needs hidden behind them, and thus seek better responses and ways to meet your inner needs.

For instance, you could try telling your mother how you feel when you see her chatting with the opposite sex and what you'd like her to do to make you feel loved, without judging her actions.

I'm Lily, the little listener from the Q&A Pavilion. I just wanted to say that the world and I love you.

Hello!

I'm Yi Ming, a heart exploration coach.

One of the respondents has already given an answer, and I would like to add a few more things for you.

1. Grow slowly and support yourself.

Seventh grade is a confusing time.

We can have mood swings and feel frustrated.

This depends on your age.

If your parents can't give you a happy home, it will make you unhappy.

You're young and don't understand adult feelings.

Tell your mother what's on your mind.

It's an adult matter. We don't want adults to interfere in our affairs. We can express our opinions, but not too much.

It's a kind of growth to separate adults' affairs from our own.

Everyone is responsible for themselves.

Mum did that, even though we thought it was bad. It was her choice.

If Dad never listens to Mom, they fight a lot. Mom has someone of the opposite sex to chat with, which calms her down.

2. About being scolded by the teacher.

You said, "I'm the class representative for Chinese again, and there's a lot of work. I'm tired. I'm also the class monitor on Mondays, and I'm often punished." "I'm annoyed."

The teachers were wrong to criticize us. They didn't pay attention.

We can learn to reassure ourselves.

Nobody likes criticism.

It can be annoying if you've put in a lot of effort and are still being picked on.

You may have felt helpless or frustrated.

Think back to what the teacher said.

Did they help you improve?

We can achieve a better balance when we don't mind what the teacher says, but try to understand what they really mean.

People feel differently about what others say.

Some people think that if a teacher criticizes them, it means that they like them.

If we don't like someone, we don't want to criticize them.

This is not arrogance, but a way to get feedback from criticism.

Know the difference between criticism and the person giving it.

If a teacher or relative says you're not good at something, it doesn't mean you're not good. It just means they expect you to do well in certain things.

Next time, support and encourage yourself instead of thinking they're being mean.

We decide if we're doing well.

You said, "I'm really annoyed when I think about suicide." Learn to comfort yourself when you're feeling emotional!

Don't hurt yourself.

If you want to die, you want to end the pain, not your life.

You have to learn to love yourself!

Just share these.

I love you!