Anxiety over whether others have replied to me, feeling like my heart is being suffocated?

It is evident that you are experiencing a considerable degree of distress. I can empathize with your situation. If I were to send a message and receive no response for an extended period, I would likely feel similarly. You have indicated that you are experiencing chest discomfort. Have you considered seeking medical attention to rule out any underlying issues and alleviate your concerns? After a comprehensive examination, you will likely feel more at ease. We can collaborate to identify strategies for enhancing your well-being. This clarity will contribute to a reduction in your distress.

There are a number of potential reasons for a lack of response, including a failure to notice the message or a lack of desire to reply. It is important to recognise that these are not indicative of any fault on the part of the individual. It is not reasonable to expect a response within a specific time frame or to take it personally if the other person chooses to stop communicating after a few words. The individual should not feel bad about a lack of response. Prolonged feelings of distress can have a negative impact on mood and affect one's ability to engage in activities that contribute to mental wellbeing. This can include exercising, which can help to relieve stress and improve mood. It is also beneficial to engage in activities that allow one to relax and connect with nature, such as walking in a natural setting. This can help to reduce feelings of frustration and anxiety. It is important to recognise that there are times when we are alone and no one is available to chat with, and this should not be a cause for concern.

Good day, I am Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach. I am here to provide you with a warm and attentive ear as you share your emotional experiences.

Upon experiencing a lack of response from the other party, you may begin to doubt your abilities and feel as though you are not meeting their expectations. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and a loss of confidence, which can be detrimental to your performance and overall well-being.

The sensation of tension and oppression in your throat is indicative of a state of unease. Let us commence with a brief, comforting embrace to ascertain the source of your distress.

It is human nature to desire recognition and affirmation. Consequently, it is normal to crave a response.

Attention will be reinforced.

A psychological phenomenon known as the "pregnancy effect" occurs when chance factors influence an individual's perception of their surroundings. For instance, if you are pregnant, you may find pregnant women more easily; if you drive a Mercedes, you may see more Mercedes on the road; if you carry an LV bag, you may find LV bags all over the street.

When there is a particular concern about how others will respond to you, and if they do not respond in a timely manner or in a way that is effective, it can lead to feelings of anxiety/how-to-cope-with-self-doubt-when-one-cannot-accept-it-and-it-seems-unchangeable-10531.html" target="_blank">self-doubt and self-denial, which can result in anxiety.

This indicates that the emotions of worry and fear have already manifested themselves in your body, with tension and difficulty breathing. Doubting that you are not accepted by others is an unwarranted assumption. We are the masters of our emotions, and no one is responsible for our emotions.

Anxiety is defined as a feeling of worry and fear about what might happen in the future. The most effective way to deal with anxiety is to take action. This can be achieved by "living in the moment" and taking some actions, such as taking a deep breath, to shift your focus from the outside world to your inner self.

In general, meditation can help individuals cultivate the ability to calm down, connect with themselves, and love themselves.

It is important to remember that there is no failure, only feedback. The fact that the other person does not respond does not mean that you are "bad" or "have failed."

There are various responses, including positive, negative, and non-responses. Each individual has their own way of responding, and it is not appropriate to expect others to respond in the same manner.

The underlying cause of excessive concern about external responses is a lack of self-worth.

Self-worth is a subjective evaluation of one's own capabilities and value. It is not influenced by external factors.

Frequently, during our formative years, we were subjected to criticism, rejection, and blame from our parents. Over time, these experiences were internalized, leading to a diminished sense of self-worth and an inclination towards sensitivity and suspicion, along with a fragile ego.

A child who is consistently affirmed, praised, and approved of by their parents develops a high sense of self-worth and exhibits confidence.

Your concern about how others respond to you stems from a low sense of self-worth. You are driven to "prove yourself in everything."

There are two levels of self-confidence. One is to appear confident with the help of external, material, or other people's support. Once this external, material, or other people's support is removed, one will experience a loss of confidence.

True self-confidence means having confidence in oneself as a person and in the future, without having to prove oneself. Does Jack Ma still need to prove that he is wealthy?

It is only when one has nothing to prove that one can prove something.

Please refer to my article, "It turns out that the root cause of psychological problems is this," available on my personal homepage for more information on how to improve your sense of worth.

One straightforward approach is to consistently provide yourself with positive feedback, affirmations, praise, and acceptance.

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Hello, host! I'm smiling.

After reading your description, I have a better idea of what you're asking. I'm here to support you in any way I can.

From what you've said, I can see what you're up against. That makes it easier for me to suggest a solution.

The issue you mentioned is something many people have experienced in real life, though the severity varies from person to person. It's important to remember that you don't have to rush through this. Putting too much pressure on yourself will only make things more uncomfortable.

From what you said, it seems like you care a lot about whether people reply to you. I think this might be because you always expect a reply from others. You probably have very high expectations of what others will say. If they don't reply, you might think more about your own problems, like whether you offended them.

Another thing to keep in mind is that people who care too much about whether others respond to them actually want to please others. They look forward to their responses because, deep down, they have deep-seated self-doubt. They rely more on others' responses to deepen the degree to which others care about them.

In this regard, I've also put together a few tips to help you cope with the current situation. I hope they'll be useful for you.

(1) The person you need to please is yourself, not others. So, try to slowly adjust this cognitive bias in yourself, rather than just letting it develop as it is.

(2) Try to lower your expectations of others. Don't apply the response you expect in your mind to others, but treat others' responses with an ordinary heart.

(3) Try to change your attribution style. Don't blame yourself for everything. Look for external reasons. For example, if someone doesn't respond to your question right away, it might be because they're busy or still thinking about how to answer.

I'd also suggest reading The Courage to Be Disliked and The Courage to Be Happy. They're both excellent books that I think you'll find really helpful.

(5) Try to take your mind off things by doing something you're interested in, rather than dwelling on the situation for too long.

(6) Try to set some boundaries and not get too involved in other people's business. Remember, once you send a message, it's out of your hands. And don't worry about whether others reply — that's their business, not yours.

The world and I love you!

Take care!

Without knowing the specifics, I can't say what the host said in the group that caused the awkward silence. But that just means there's an opportunity for something new and exciting to happen!

I've been there, and I'm excited to share my perspective! There was a time when I felt lonely or had few friends and rarely had contact with the outside world.

I love chatting with people in the group! Sometimes the conversations are so lively, I feel like the luckiest person in the world. It's as if I'm being responded to and paid attention to by everyone. It's as if I have a lot of friends, someone who likes me, and I'm popular!

Sometimes I also get caught up in this feeling, as if it fills some emptiness and void within me. Maybe sometimes subconsciously, I secretly care about other people's attention. If other people don't pay attention to me, I also feel that maybe I'm annoying, or what's wrong (because of psychology, I feel that it's not good for me to think this way, and other people have their own reasons).

After a while, it seemed that I started to have nothing to say to other people, and I drifted away from some circles. But I missed the feeling of having a good time chatting with everyone, and I could never go back. Slowly, over the past year or two, I have also voluntarily quit a lot of groups. It became awkward and deliberate to continue chatting in some places, and sometimes no one would say anything after a while.

Some changes that have come from within no longer match the previous circle of friends and people (that is, in the past few months, I have come to realize that some people and things I knew, or that the other person had exploded, were not as ideal and beautiful as I had previously seen them. Some changes have come from both sides, and after a clear explanation and communication, they part on good terms.

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It's totally normal for people and things to drift away from you, and for your own thoughts and those of others to change. People change, and that's a good thing! The initial happiness was real, and the current lulls and changes are also real.

Embrace the changes! Accept yourself in every state and every situation. You've got this!

It's time to focus your attention and energy on yourself and other things! This is a great way to grow and develop. Instead of worrying about other people's opinions and trying to have the same lively conversations as before, focus on what you can do and what you can achieve.

Wishing you the very best!