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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I'm sending you a hug.
I'm glad you've asked for help. I hope my advice helps. I also want to praise you for being aware that you've always been on the receiving end in relationships and for trying to change.
You get along with others because you've always benefited from this approach. It makes you popular at the start of a relationship because you see and meet others' needs. Even if it's at your own expense, it makes people feel valued, cared for, and respected. But there's a reason behind it. It's not a sign of weakness, but a hope that others will treat you the same way. When they don't, you feel angry and hurt.
So, you have to accept that you can get along with others in this way in relationships. This approach has also brought you a lot of benefits. As you gain more knowledge and experience, you will want to face your true self and protect your rights and interests in relationships.
You need to be afraid to be true to yourself and fight for your rights.
Saying no in a relationship and standing up for your choices lets others know you're not a pushover.
I'm Lily, the listener at the Q&A. I love you.
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Comments
I can relate to feeling stuck and unsure of how to move forward. Maybe it's time to start small, setting tiny goals for yourself that you can achieve. Each success, no matter how minor, can build your confidence.
It sounds really tough what you're going through. Have you thought about speaking to someone who can provide support, like a counselor? Sometimes talking things out helps clarify our thoughts and strengths.
Feeling this way can be so isolating. It might help to surround yourself with positive influences and people who uplift you. Their encouragement could give you the courage to step out of your comfort zone.
I understand the hesitation and fear. Perhaps practicing selfcompassion can make a difference. Remember, it's okay not to be perfect, and learning to accept yourself as you are is a powerful first step.
When I feel inadequate, I remind myself of my past successes and the skills I've gained over time. Writing down these accomplishments can serve as a reminder of your worth and encourage you to push forward.