Are you often bothered, disliking everything around you, and feeling that everything is not to your liking?

Good day. My name is Qingxiang, and I would like to discuss this matter with you.

I have reviewed the issue you have raised on numerous occasions. Despite the paucity of information you have provided, I am able to discern that you are experiencing considerable distress and adversity, to the extent that you are fatigued and exhausted.

The atmosphere and environment of the family can have a detrimental effect on one's physical and mental well-being. At times, it can evoke feelings of discomfort and irritability, leading to a sense of dissatisfaction with one's circumstances. In such instances, the desire to escape from this predicament and distance oneself from the surrounding environment can be overwhelming.

Upon each reading, I experience a sense of unease. I am unaware of the circumstances you are facing or the specific challenges you are confronting. However, it is evident that within this family, you are the sole source of support. The other family members are unable to provide significant assistance or emotional sustenance, leading to a buildup of stress and emotional distress. This can ultimately result in a state of chronic stress and an inability to cope effectively.

What alternatives are available?

1) While escaping is undoubtedly a straightforward and immediate solution, it is imperative to carefully evaluate the potential consequences of this decision.

The decision to leave is predicated on the expectation of a superior outcome. In making this choice, it is possible to consider the potential impact on the external environment, the efficacy of this approach in addressing existing challenges, the possibility of enhancing familial relationships, and the likelihood of improving one's standing in the eyes of others. Additionally, it is essential to assess one's willingness to embrace this decision and to confront the attendant consequences.

2) If we do not elect to escape, what course of action should we pursue? If we select this alternative, the environment in which we reside will remain unaltered. However, we may modify our perspective of that environment.

What other options are available to us in life?

A renowned psychologist once posited, "What doesn't kill me makes me stronger." One may choose to perceive the challenges they encounter as impediments or instruments of torture, or alternatively, as catalysts for growth and transformation.

1) It is recommended that you attempt to view yourself and prioritize self-care in your daily life.

It is recommended that within the numerous hours of the day, one should identify a period of approximately ten to fifteen minutes during which one is solely responsible for one's own actions. This period may be utilized for a variety of activities, including closing one's eyes and taking a brief rest, turning on one's mobile phone and listening to a preferred song, or expressing one's emotions through vocalization. This time is intended to be exclusively for the individual's personal use, allowing for any desired activity.

Gradually, the designated period of time can be extended to allow sufficient time for emotional adjustment.

2) Attempt to convey to your family members the degree of discomfort you are experiencing.

We are all ordinary people, and we experience a range of emotions and physical sensations. When we reach a point where we feel we are unable to cope, it is important to communicate our feelings to the rest of the family. A family cannot be supported by one person alone; attempting to do everything yourself can be dangerous. If everyone contributes a little, it can make a significant impact on the family dynamic and overall well-being.

The notion that collective benevolence can engender a superior tomorrow is a pervasive one. It suggests that when individuals contribute to the collective, they become stakeholders in a future that is, in some sense, a shared enterprise. Consequently, they are motivated to anticipate a more auspicious tomorrow.

The role of the housewife is of significant importance.

In light of the aforementioned, it is important to note that the role of a housewife can also be multifaceted. It is essential that this perspective is clearly articulated and comprehended by other family members.

1) The role of the housewife is distinct from that of other family members.

The domestic environment is a shared space for two individuals, rather than a domain exclusively for either the male or the female.

If both individuals pursue careers and dedicate their efforts exclusively to financial gain, they will be unable to provide the necessary support and care for their families. Even if their financial circumstances are favorable, the family unit may still be adversely affected.

Indeed, within the context of a family unit, it is important to recognize the distinct responsibilities that each gender carries. While women often bear a significant portion of the responsibilities within the family, it is imperative that men also assume their own share of responsibilities.

The choice of a family model and the decision of who will work outside the home are both valid. These are simply different forms of labour division within the family. It is important to recognise that the role of the person who stays at home is also a valuable one. The sacrifices and hard work of this individual should be respected and acknowledged.

2) The role of a housewife can be considered a form of career.

One might posit that a capable nanny, even if her duties are limited to cooking, cleaning, and childcare, could earn a considerable income. The value of a housewife, however, is likely to exceed that of a nanny. A housewife's responsibilities are extensive and ongoing, spanning the entire year.

As a housewife, despite the perception that one's contributions may be limited, the work undertaken by this group has long exceeded that of many ordinary people and is a noteworthy achievement.

The value of an individual can be divided into two distinct categories: one quantifiable in monetary terms, and the other immeasurable. The latter encompasses the intrinsic worth of companionship, care, affection, and education.

In conclusion, it is important to note that life is not about avoiding setbacks or deviating from one's chosen path. It is perfectly acceptable to experience failure; one can simply recover and persevere. Furthermore, it is possible to serve as an exemplary figure for one's children.

Furthermore, it is my sincere hope that you will find the fortitude to embrace a new beginning, to traverse the length of the river, to repose and observe the unfolding of the clouds, and to anticipate that each day will bring about a further improvement in your circumstances.

My name is Qingxiang, and I offer these thoughts and suggestions as a potential source of assistance.

The world and I extend our affectionate regard to you.

Hello, dear questioner!

I'm Yi Ming, your heart exploration coach!

Many housewives have similar problems to you, but you can overcome them!

It feels like you can't find a job, you can't let go of your children, and every once in a while you feel miserable. But don't worry! I'm here to help.

I'd absolutely love to go through this with you! I really hope it'll be a little bit of inspiration and help.

1. Look at what unmet needs we have inside — and let's fill them!

Annoyed, uncomfortable, and feeling dissatisfied. It seems like it's due to reality, but it's actually our subjective feelings!

In other words, it's amazing how two people can face the same situation and have such different inner feelings!

For example, some housewives absolutely love their lives! They enjoy taking care of their children and their families, and they make the most of the time when their children are at school by doing something they really enjoy.

It's not easy, but it's worth it!

Whenever we feel troubled, we can think about what we really want!

Wouldn't it be great to have your own job and your own circle of friends?

Or is there a richer life waiting for you?

Wouldn't it be great if someone could help you take care of the children?

We may have an ideal life in our hearts, but we can't achieve it now. So, let's focus on the amazing life we do have!

At this time, you should give yourself a big pat on the back for making it this far! And take a moment to think about whether there are any unfulfilled wishes in your life.

And know that your wishes are worth paying attention to!

We see only the life we want, and it's a great one!

2. Go for it! Try to be down-to-earth.

We absolutely know that the value of what we do for our family is extremely high! It's just that it's not the life we want right now.

But it seems that for the sake of the children, there is nothing we can do but pick them up sooner or later—and we'll be so happy we did!

Of course, we all want to get away from it all!

We feel that everything is unsatisfactory — but that's about to change!

When we feel dissatisfied, it's easy to overlook the good things in our lives. But there's so much to be grateful for!

So from now on, try to see what you have and be more flexible!

For example, look at your healthy children and the elderly. They may not be able to help, but they are still there!

This is a rare blessing compared to those who do not have elderly parents.

Since it's tough to find a job right now, why not try doing some part-time work?

I'm talking about work that's flexible in terms of time!

And think about what you find unsatisfactory about everything. What exactly is it that you find unsatisfactory?

Absolutely! Let's start now and reduce our dissatisfaction a little.

For example, make your life richer and fuller at this current stage!

Go on, try to create some small happiness for yourself!

Try to see yourself as a whole—and see how amazing you are!

Being a housewife is a very rewarding job!

Define yourself in more positive terms and look at your strengths!

Go for it! Set a small, achievable goal.

These are great ways to adjust our state of mind!

We all hate the lack of a sense of inner control. But there's something we can do about it! We can sort out whether our sense of security is sufficient, and then look at our sense of freedom, worthiness, intimacy, and meaning.

And the great news is that almost all of the problems in our lives can be solved by addressing these themes.

For example, if we feel low self-worth, unfree, and unable to find meaning, we have the power to change that! We can choose to be happy and free.

Let's dive into another simple example!

The good news is that the state of affairs in which you find yourself is not due to any personal failings on your part.

When we attribute problems to stable factors, we feel powerless to do anything about them. But there's a simple solution! By attributing problems to factors that can be influenced, we can feel empowered to take action and make a difference.

Attributing problems to other people and external factors is a great way to maintain a sense of self-worth!

It is so positive and useful to attribute problems to factors that can be influenced!

And the great news is that you can supplement and correct these through practice, practice, practice!

Make yourself happy!

If you're interested, you've got to check out the book Parenting Your Inner Child!

The book reveals an incredible truth: behind every feeling and emotion, there is a weak self.

We have some misconceptions about ourselves, some of which are about others and more about ourselves. But we can change that!

We can find the reasons behind our emotions, modify our perceptions, and thus live our true selves!

Absolutely!

Just share these!

Wishing you the very best!

Lack of fun and excitement can make you feel tired and unhappy.

It's hard to make everything work at once. You can't just ignore everything and jump back into the workforce.

Being a housewife for a long time may have made you feel uncomfortable. You may need to go out and about.

You may want a job, but you need to find one that suits you. It's not easy to find a job quickly. Look at why other people weren't hired. There will always be a company that can hire you.

You still need to think about your career plan. You have children to take care of, but your elderly family members cannot help either. This is worrying. If you hire a nanny, it will probably cost money. If you can find a part-time job that gives you freedom or a job that allows you to leave work early, that might be possible.

As a career coach, I suggest you take tests to understand your career needs. Look for solutions other than staying away from trouble. Search for part-time jobs on Alipay to care for your children. Be careful when choosing.

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