As a freshman in college, I can't let go until I feel accepted?

Hello, question asker.

From your description, I sense that you may be experiencing some discomfort in your heart. I admire your courage for recognizing the issue early on and seeking solutions.

I believe I have identified the root of the questioner's problem. It seems that the questioner's mother did not provide guidance and care in a gentle manner, which has led to the questioner feeling detached from others and struggling to initiate social interactions. The questioner tends to be passive, reluctant to open up to others, and may occasionally feel defensive. Is this an accurate interpretation?

I am curious to know what might have transpired to make the questioner feel this way today. When might the questioner feel differently?

I wonder what the questioner did when she didn't feel like this.

It would seem that the questioner's final analysis is correct. It is possible that the questioner's current state of mind is related to the way he gets along with his mother. When a child is born, it could be said that the only people he trusts are his parents, so it might be the case that the attitude and education that parents use to treat their children has a profound impact on them.

The renowned psychologist Adler once posited that those who are fortunate are able to heal from their childhood experiences, while those who are less so may spend their entire lives attempting to do so.

But when you become aware of it, that's the beginning of change. It's important to remember, though, that you can't change your mother; you can only change yourself.

I would like to kindly invite the questioner to consider a scenario in which they wake up tomorrow and no longer feel lonely, and they can communicate with others happily and easily. What kind of feeling might they have in such a situation? Who might be the first to notice the change?

Could you kindly share some of the things you have done that have allowed you to communicate easily with others?

It is important to recognize that everyone experiences some level of insecurity.

This may be the result of growing up in an unhappy family environment, or having to deal with difficult people and situations during your upbringing. It could also be the result of feeling uncertain about the future due to social unrest.

It's important to remember that when we see someone who seems confident, sunny, and positive, there's more to the story.

On the other hand, he also has a self-deprecating, weak, and negative side. When encountering sudden situations or major setbacks, he may also feel instantly overwhelmed and uncertain about how to respond, and this side of him is often not shown in public.

I hope my suggestions will be helpful to the questioner.

You might find it helpful to adjust your mindset and become more in tune with your body and mind.

If you can do everything every day and always do what you say you will do, you may find that your self-confidence improves significantly in a short period of time. It could be said that to keep your word is to do what you say you will do.

It is important to be true to yourself and to others. Speaking from the heart means that what you say comes from your inner emotional feelings.

It might be helpful to consider learning to believe in yourself.

It is important to have trust in oneself. Self-confidence is a key factor in many aspects of our lives, including our careers and relationships. Having self-confidence can lead to happiness and a sense of strength. Believing in oneself is essential for achieving one's dreams and forming positive relationships.

Having confidence can help you find the courage to move forward and succeed in anything you do.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to discover your potential.

People who are different are often willing to try new things, discover their potential, and ultimately find their true selves. If you would like to be different, you might consider re-examining your daily life from a new perspective and making changes you've never made before.

It would be beneficial to keep learning.

It would be beneficial to keep learning new skills, reading new books, and challenging yourself. It is important not to let your biological age, IQ, experience, etc. hold you back from trying new things.

It is also important to remember that we should not be afraid of failure, as it is natural to feel that we are not as impressive in other people's eyes as we think we are.

You might consider exercising more.

It is thought that exercise releases a lot of dopamine, which can make us feel happy. There is also evidence that exercise can improve bad moods, make people feel happy, and also effectively prevent and treat the effects of emotional stress and other aspects.

If you're feeling down, it's important to keep moving. Whether you go for a walk or go for a run, it's good to get out and about as much as you can.

Hippocrates, the father of medicine, once offered the following insight: "Sunshine, air, water, and exercise are essential for maintaining good health."

I believe that exercise can be a mood regulator and a cure-all.

You might find it helpful to speak with a professional counselor or learn more about psychology.

Life has its share of challenges and difficulties, but there is also much to be grateful for. You are not alone in this.

From the small loneliness and depression to the heavy pressure, pain, and anger, and then to the physical and mental wounds that feel like a strong thunder, we must all acknowledge that we have no choice but to make a living.

It is possible to adjust our state of mind, integrate our resources and strengths, and strengthen our inner selves.

It would be beneficial for us to consider creating a separate space for ourselves, a quiet space. A stable and safe space where we can cultivate our inner selves, soothe our wounded selves, and give ourselves the greatest support.

No matter what challenges you may face, I encourage you to persevere and to have courage. I am here for you, ready to offer support and guidance whenever you need it.

I encourage you to try your best.