At 14, I have many misunderstandings with my parents. How can I persuade them to see a psychologist?

Hello, dear. First of all, I'll give you the biggest, warmest hug you've ever had! Can you feel it?

You said that you have a lot of problems with your parents, that you can't resolve some of your emotions and worries yourself, and that you want to see a psychologist. I think you must have a reason for wanting to see a psychologist! I can imagine it's really tough when your parents can't understand how you really feel and keep saying things like "you're still so young, you'll be fine." I can see how you might feel very sad and upset, and like you don't feel valued or understood, too.

If you're not comfortable talking to your parents about this, I think someone else can take a message to them for you.

It would also be really helpful for you to talk to someone you trust about your worries.

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Or maybe you could ask the auntie in the neighborhood to help you find some resources or talk to your parents about this matter?

Have you had a chance to talk to your teacher about this? Your parents will listen to their teachers, so don't be shy!

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Then the auntie will be happy to tell you a few more ways to relieve your worries.

1. Write down all your worries on a piece of paper. Then, tear it up and think of it as a symbol of letting go of those worries.

2. If it's convenient, don't be afraid to tell anyone about your worries.

3. If it's not convenient, you can always talk to your doll, pillow, or even your quilt.

4. Take the time to appreciate the little beauties around you every day. There's so much to see! Think of the beautiful flowers blooming in spring, the blue sky, your mother's care, and your father's advice.

5. And guess what? You can run and jump more because exercise makes people happy!

Dear baby, remember that there are always more ways than problems. Just believe and you can do it! I really hope it comes true for you, my dear. Cheer up!

Hello, I hope my answer is helpful to you.

When we feel the need to seek psychological counseling, it's really important to communicate with our parents.

This is because:

1. It's possible that your parents are the cause of your illness. A lot of psychological problems may be caused by things that happened to you when you were a child.

2. Parents play a big part in family therapy.

3. Your parents are the people closest to you who can provide you with the most psychological help and support.

4. Your parents can help you recover more quickly with the right support.

5. Parents can give you more intense and more abundant love than most people, and parental love has a healing effect.

That's why parents play such an important role in their children's psychological growth. If they can get the support and understanding of their parents, it'll be easier and more effective for them to achieve psychological rehabilitation and growth.

So, how do you broach the subject with your parents and let them know you'd like to go to counseling?

I think you're looking into counseling because you feel like you need help, but you're not sure how to tell your parents. Do you think they'll be okay with it?

It's possible that your parents don't know much about psychological counseling, so you can explain to them what it is and why you need it. It's helpful if you have a good understanding of psychological counseling yourself.

Psychological counseling is a process that uses psychology principles and methods to help clients solve their psychological problems. It's not just about the symptoms; it also looks at the reasons behind them. This helps clients understand the root of the problem and change and grow.

Moreover, the goal of psychological counseling is to help normal people. This normalcy includes two main aspects: normal intelligence and normal brain function.

If your mental health issues are caused by a lack of intelligence or brain damage (such as schizophrenia), you should visit a neurologist at a hospital or mental health center. These require medication and medical treatment. However, for severe depression, etc., drug treatment and psychological counseling are more effective together, because severe emotional distress can damage brain function.

What are the different types of psychological counseling?

1. The different types of counseling are based on what the client needs.

Developmental counseling covers things like personal growth, career confusion, and healing past family-related trauma.

Health counseling covers a range of issues, including emotional distress, such as depression, anxiety, emotional outbursts, and unexplained sadness and tears. It also addresses interpersonal relationship difficulties, such as challenges in forming and maintaining healthy relationships with family members or colleagues, as well as feelings of loneliness and isolation.

2. The scale of the consultation also determines whether it is individual or group psychological counseling.

3. The length of treatment can be broken down into three main categories: short-term (1-3 weeks), medium-term (1-3 months), and long-term (more than 3 months).

4. The theoretical basis of psychology says that counseling can be divided into four main types: psychoanalytic, behavioral, cognitive, and humanistic.

5. There are three main types of psychological counseling: outpatient, telephone, and online. Outpatient is the most effective, but the other two can be useful too.

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If you feel like your parents aren't convinced by what you're saying, you could go to the school's psychological counseling room and ask the counselor to assess your situation. You might also want to invite the counselor to speak with your parents and give them advice.

When you're talking to your parents, it's a good idea to use the method of non-violent communication.

The point of communication isn't to debate right and wrong. It's to help you understand each other better, strengthen your relationship, and find a solution that works for everyone.

The steps of non-violent communication are: state the objective facts, express your feelings, express your needs, and ask the other person to take action.

For instance, you could say to your parents, "Mum and Dad, I've been feeling pretty low recently. I don't have the energy to do anything, I don't want to go to class, I don't want to read, I don't want to play. I'm feeling bad, I feel very uncomfortable, and I don't know how to solve it myself. I need your support and care. I hope you can take me to see a psychologist to help me adjust my state. Can you take me to see a psychologist this weekend?"

This kind of communication helps parents understand your true feelings and thoughts. If they're also willing to express their feelings and needs, you can invite them to do so. This will promote deeper communication and connection, allowing you to understand and appreciate each other more.

If you're not comfortable talking to them directly, you can always send them a letter. They'll be able to understand you better when they read it.

If your parents don't understand and you're really struggling, it might be helpful to speak to a professional psychologist. You could look for a school counsellor, or you could contact a public welfare psychological counselling assistance organisation on an online platform, or you could ask a relative who works in the psychological industry for advice.

In closing, I'd like to say that when you start to find a way out of your own distress, this is the beginning of growth and healing.

Hello! I just wanted to send you a warm hug from afar. I also want to applaud you for your keen awareness of your emotional state and physical and mental feelings, as well as your concept and awareness of wanting to receive timely counseling and treatment.

You're feeling a bit uncomfortable, but it's not having a major impact on your studies or life. The good news is that you can learn to manage this discomfort through self-awareness and self-learning.

For instance, you can enhance your life by reading some psychology books and developing more interests and passions in your free time. You can go to more outdoor activities, and you can also keep a diary to better understand your emotions. These are all ways to improve your emotional state through your own efforts.

I recommend that you first try to adjust your emotional state through your own efforts. It's not that you can't receive counseling or treatment. When you feel like you can't achieve the expected results through your own common sense and efforts, you can try counseling. At this time, you should tell your parents about the distress caused by your uncomfortable emotional feelings so they can support you.

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