At 32, I'm anxious about marriage and dating, anxious about studying. Why am I always anxious?

Anxiety is about the future. It's a feeling of uncertainty.

We may also feel worthless and ineffective. We may feel that we don't get enough support from others. When we're anxious, we look outside ourselves for solutions. We want psychological security, but we're often frustrated and become self-doubting.

Can we turn to our inner being? What makes us unhappy?

If we imagine the problem is solved, can we stop being anxious? If we're anxious about not getting married, we know many people are in a state of panic in their marriages.

If we look beyond the problem, we may find parts of ourselves that are empty and deprived. We care about what other people think, and we cannot turn off the voice inside us that accuses us. We need to search for the true self within to discover the truth. We are all actually growing.

Host: It's usually anxiety and fear that come from expecting a certain outcome and worrying about a different result.

It seems like you're afraid of marriage. You've set a lot of conditions, like the person being rich, considerate, and most importantly, not cheating, especially not thinking about your father.

You might even want to start from scratch and rewrite the ending to your original family story.

You're not looking forward to the future of your family. You want to rebuild your original family and change the ending. This is what most children expect.

You might want to think about why you want to be a housewife. I'm not sure if your mother is a housewife.

Are you trying to recreate your mother's role in your family, but with different results?

Maybe you're afraid of dealing with the pain of your original family.

2. Learning and research can be tough. It's normal to feel overwhelmed. Are you a part-time postgraduate student?

You should talk to your teacher more and decide on a research topic based on your abilities and teaching requirements.

3. Character issue. It seems like you have a negative opinion of yourself, which makes you feel inferior.

You also recognize that you don't have the security you need. Think about what kind of security you need.

Money, fame, love, or control of your own abilities? There's no rush.

If the medication isn't working for you, let your doctor know right away. It might be time to explore other options, like a psychological intervention.

There are a lot of anxious and restless people in this world. Why? Because our world is full of people who let us down, people who repeat the same mistakes, different standards for evaluating things, and comparisons with our peers. Once you start comparing, this kind of hurt and restlessness will never stop.

Your parents will pressure you to get married, your kids will pressure you for school fees, your siblings will come to borrow money, you're now 30 but the doctor said you have anxiety and depression, and you still need to take meds for treatment. You're still single and longing for marriage.

The divorce and marriage rates have both dropped, which shows that marriage isn't as stable as it used to be. It's also tough to find a man who won't cheat, smoke, or drink after marriage. You can also find someone online, but you have to be careful.

Everyone has different standards. It's possible that while others are being selected, you're also being selected, and that could lead to harm. We can also see that there are matchmaking parks in various cities where older unmarried men and women publish their information.

On top of all that, you're also dealing with postgraduate studies. Essays aren't your thing, and you're looking to get certified, but it'll take time. You need a solid plan to help you. I suggest taking a career personality test to plan your future. Take it one step at a time. Worrying about too much won't help. At the same time, I recommend that you seek psychological counseling to relieve your anxiety.

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Give the anxious questioner a hug. I once had a similar state of mind as the questioner, so I feel like the questioner wants an answer, not some comfort.

So I'll try to be a bit more straightforward in my answer, and I hope the questioner will listen carefully and think it over.

First and foremost, it's important to accept yourself as you are, including your strengths and weaknesses. Why can't the OP find a partner?

It's not that you can't find a partner, but you're not interested in someone who's just "okay." You want someone who's much better than us. At the same time, you don't want to work. You want your partner to support us, provide emotional value, and even meet all of our needs.

Just put yourself in his shoes for a second. If the person you're dating thinks the same way, would you want to marry him? I think most of you would say no.

If you don't want it yourself, why would you expect someone else to want it? Even if you find someone who does want it, you might still end up parting ways down the road.

From this perspective, it might be better not to find one.

Similarly, if you have the same mentality in your studies—wanting to get something for nothing, doing less work, but still wanting a good result and wanting your tutor to pass our thesis with ease—of course it will be painful. But this is not the pain caused by your tutor, but the pain you bring upon yourself.

It's fair to say that your mentor is a good teacher because he wants to really cultivate you and is strict with you. If your mentor indulges you, you may not feel the pain and you'll probably avoid seeking help, which could lead to an even more challenging situation down the line.

And you should be grateful that you're not working right now. If you think this way at work, your leaders and colleagues won't like you, and it'll be hard for you to get things done.

The world is fair. You get out what you put in. No effort, no reward.

Of course, if you want to reap the rewards without having to put in the work, you'll feel the pain. It's a good thing to feel this pain now, after all, you're still young. Give up your naive fantasies, face the real world, and grow yourself, and you'll find that you can slowly usher in a new and beautiful life.

This is a great chance to reflect on your personal growth. In your previous experiences, has your desire to achieve things without putting in the work led to unfavorable outcomes? There must be more than just these two instances.

You might as well look at your family of origin while you're at it, since there might be a lot of similar negative outcomes. The worst thing is not being capable enough, but wanting to achieve a big goal when you're not capable enough, and being greedy.

As the ancients said, "small strength, heavy responsibility" is a dangerous combination.

But it's not too late to realize this today. After all, you're still young and studying for a master's degree, so the basic conditions should still be quite good. If you can accept the status quo and start working hard today, you can also have the wonderful future you want.

The method to success is actually pretty simple. As they say, "A thousand-mile journey begins with the first step." Just make a little progress every day, and you'll see great results over time.

I hope the original poster can see reality clearly, work hard to start with writing a good thesis, and lead a truly self-sufficient, independent, and confident life.

Hello!

I am a mindfulness coach, and learning is the treasure of the body!

From your description, I can feel your inner anxiety, worry, pain, and helplessness, and I'm here to help!

I won't go into the details of your worries about love and marriage and your anxiety about studying, but I do have three pieces of advice for you that I think you'll find really helpful!

First, I suggest you try to understand your state. It'll be worth it!

Doing so will make your heart feel slightly lighter, which will help you think about what to do next—and you'll be amazed at what you come up with!

You've been taking medication for two years to relieve your anxiety, and while it hasn't worked yet, you're still optimistic that it will. You're anxious about finding a partner, but you're 32 years old and ready to start a family! You have high standards for your partner, and you're excited to find a rich husband who loves and cares for you. You want to be a housewife, and you're ready to take on the role. You worry that your father was unfaithful and went bankrupt, but you're confident that you'll find a partner who will love and care for you and be financially stable. You also mentioned anxiety about studying. Many people may be in the same situation as you, and you're not alone! You have high expectations of yourself, and you're ready to complete your thesis with high quality. You're excited to graduate successfully and start your next chapter. You're ready to take your brain off other things and focus on your studies.

And the best part is, allowing yourself to understand and accept yourself will make it possible to promote change in the current situation! It may sound contradictory, but this is the case because change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, I highly recommend that you take a rational look at your own state of mind.

Rational thinking is a great way to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and the world around you!

To gain a rational view of things, you simply need to do two simple things:

First, get excited about the amazing opportunity to choose your perfect spouse! When you choose your partner based on rational criteria, you'll be able to escape from your anxiety about love and marriage.

In other words, you need to set realistic and rational criteria for choosing a partner if you want to find someone—and you can do it!

Embrace the reality of life with a healthy dose of realism. Let go of the fantasy of perfection (because nobody's perfect, and you're no exception). Know what you care about most, what you care about second, what you care about third, and what you can ignore.

Let's say you want to find someone rich. This can be the most important point, but what comes second? You might say someone who loves and cares for you, but this is too subjective a standard and hard to define. Also, you can't expect too much from this second point. If you say you want someone who is always with you, that's hard to achieve, because people with good financial conditions and who can achieve wealth freedom are hard to find at home. They are basically very busy, so you have to set reasonable criteria for choosing a spouse based on the actual situation. At the same time, you should also rationally evaluate yourself and see if you are worthy of the rational criteria you have set for choosing a spouse, because finding a partner is a two-way choice.

Second, remember that you can do this! Completing a thesis is a process that takes time, but you can do it!

You're eager to finish your thesis and make it the best it can be! You're also aware that thesis writing takes time and that your learning ability is limited. But you're ready to put in the work and see it through to the end.

At the same time, you should also see the good things in yourself. You say that your learning ability is limited, but in my opinion, that just means there's room for growth! The fact that you were able to get into graduate school shows that you have a certain ability to learn. So you should look more at the bright spots in yourself (there are other good things about you, because everyone has good points, and you are no exception).

When you look at it rationally like this, you'll be amazed at how much better you feel!

Once again, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel better. You can do this!

When you take a step back and look at the big picture, you might just see what you need to do to make things better! It's time to focus on yourself and give it your all.

For example, you can address your anxiety about love and marriage by considering whether your criteria for choosing a partner are reasonable and rational. You can think about the kind of partner you want, and whether you have one already; if so, what are the chances of you meeting that person; and if you do meet that person, what are the chances of that person being willing to be with you. This process of rational thinking may allow you to formulate reasonable and objective criteria for choosing a partner, which may make you feel better, because if you look for a partner according to such criteria, you are more likely to find one. And when you find that special someone, you'll be so excited!

You can also target your reading anxiety by giving yourself some time. This is a great opportunity to see your strengths! Follow the tutor's suggestions for revision and complete them step by step. Here, you can make a plan for writing your thesis. The more specific the better! Set a date for each step, and you'll be well on your way to success. This kind of compulsory completion may improve your writing progress. Of course, you should not set too high a goal, otherwise if you fail to complete it, it will make you even more anxious. The plan should be appropriately difficult, so you'll have a great chance of success!

You can also target your own shortcomings, accept the things you cannot change, and change the things you can. When you make targeted efforts to become a better person, you will not only gain confidence in yourself, which will alleviate some of your inner anxiety, but you will also increase your chances of meeting a guy who meets your standards for a partner, because you will make yourself more worthy of love. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the situation, and you can do it!

Once you start taking action, you'll be amazed at how quickly those negative emotions start to disappear! It's incredible how action can be the best remedy for so many problems.

I really hope my answer helps you! If you want to chat some more, just click on "Find a Coach" at the bottom and I'll be in touch!

Hello, question asker! I'm thrilled to answer your question.

From the questioner's description, it's clear that they've been through a lot. They've been dealing with anxiety and depression for two years, and they've been taking medication for that time. Now, they're feeling anxious, confused, and anxious because they're single and preparing for postgraduate exams.

With a warm pat on the shoulder, I send the questioner my best wishes for finding their ideal man soon and ending their single days. I also hope they'll finish their postgraduate studies early and complete their thesis according to their own standards!

There are so many older singles out there who are looking for a partner! There are many reasons for this, but one of the main ones is that they are looking for the perfect person. They don't like the ones who are too bad, and there aren't many who meet their conditions, so they remain single. But don't worry if you are too demanding and cannot find a partner! Being very demanding of your partner is not a big problem.

Everyone wants the person they're with to be the one looking at them. And why not? It's a great way to show your love and appreciation! But remember, the two sides must be balanced and integrated in all aspects in order to be stronger and last longer.

Make sure your conditions meet your high expectations!

The questioner is new to love, too! If they've had a normal relationship, they'll soon learn that any intimate relationship is built together by both parties. Even if you meet someone who really meets your expectations, the other person may also feel that you are not his type.

When looking for a partner, the questioner is on the hunt for someone who meets their high standards. And why not? They deserve the best! But it's also important to consider whether they are a good match for each other in every way and whether a balance and integration can be achieved in every respect.

If your conditions do meet your high requirements, then it has to be based on feelings — and it will be!

If you choose a spouse based only on requirements and not on feelings, you're setting yourself up for a long, unhappy married life! No matter how normal a relationship or marriage is, it needs to be based on feelings as well as requirements to be truly happy.

It's important to remember that if you're demanding a lot from your partner, he'll definitely have conditions for you too. You choose someone, and someone chooses you back. It's a two-way street, whether it's a relationship or material things.

Marriage is often a real test of love. Some people are ready to jump in headfirst, while others are ready to move on. Some are curious about what the future holds, while some are ready to move on.

So, even if there is someone who perfectly matches the questioner and you get together, is the questioner also perfect for the other person?

And the best part is, you can adapt to each other! And who knows, there might even be a lot of people of the opposite sex flocking to your perfect partner!

How can you be sure that he only loves you? It's a great question! Human nature cannot withstand tests, so it's important to find someone who will respect, understand, and progress together with you in order for your marriage to last.

Since the question was asked on a platform, I'm excited to give you some simple advice on choosing a partner!

1. Conditions for finding a partner

It's time to get creative! The questioner can write down on a piece of paper what requirements and conditions they have for their lover. Then, rank their partner search criteria in order of importance.

It would be great if you could find some guys who meet your requirements and write down those who meet some of the conditions!

2. Now, picture this: a day you spend together.

Now, imagine what your happy day would be like if you found a close lover. The more detailed, the more specific scenes and images, the more details, the better! Write down the happy day you are imagining now, close your eyes and think about it.

Just think for a moment. What kind of lover could possibly live like this with you? And what new knowledge and discoveries have you made about yourself, the lover you want, and the life you want?

3. Make trade-offs based on your own conditions — it's an exciting part of the process!

Just imagine for a moment what it would be like to have already imagined how it is to be with a lover! You can even try writing down what kind of lover you really need.

The questioner can try something really fun! They can write down the conditions for the first point, gradually make trade-offs, and see if they can reduce the conditions for selecting. Finally, there are three conditions left, and they can see if there are any boys who fit these conditions. Maybe the conditions are suitable, and the boy the questioner likes will be found soon!

The topic of the thesis is giving the exam candidate a headache. I don't know how to write it, but I'm excited to figure it out! Here are some simple suggestions:

1. Get ready to conquer your thesis anxieties!

Why are you anxious about the thesis? It's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed when you're facing the literature for the first time. But don't worry, you've got this!

No clue after reading the literature? That's okay! We all have to start somewhere. Can't find the innovative point of the thesis? That's okay too! It's all part of the journey.

Anxiety about not being able to frame a thesis? No problem! Make a detailed list of your anxieties, be specific and detailed, and then solve them little by little. You'll gain confidence in no time!

Absolutely! Other people's advice can be really helpful.

If you're stuck on how to start, why not take a look online at how other people get their ideas down on paper? Then, take a deep dive into other people's essays, as we talked about in the first point. Once you've done that, you can compare notes on how you should write your own essay. This is a great way to build your confidence!

3. Learn to express your anxiety and accept yourself!

When facing anxiety, it's essential to understand it correctly. It's a natural, instinctive defense mechanism of the human body. When people encounter certain dangerous situations, it stimulates their anxiety, which is a great opportunity to learn and grow!

Once you realize that anxious emotions are not the answer, you can start learning to express them! Do something you love in your spare time to distract yourself and focus on your usual ways of venting emotions.

If you have anxiety, you can absolutely do something to accept yourself! For example, if you love buying electronic equipment, you can buy one for yourself at the end of the year as a reward for your hard work over the past year, or go out and treat yourself to a big meal you've always wanted to eat. In short, learn to make yourself happy!

Everyone should have their own interests and hobbies! But there's one thing to bear in mind about interests and hobbies: if you are a person of mental labor, your interests should ideally be the opposite of your mental labor; conversely, if you are a manual laborer, your interests and hobbies should ideally be the opposite of your manual labor. The mind and body are unified. You cannot get used to manual labor without using your brain, and you cannot use your brain without using your body. There needs to be a balance between mental and physical strength, and it's so important to find what works for you!

Find a professional counselor to make adjustments. If the questioner finds the above methods more troublesome to do on their own, not fast-acting enough, and wants to dig deeper into the root cause of their subconscious anxiety, then the questioner can also go to the platform to find some counselors for a consultation. Let the counselor make a detailed adjustment plan based on the questioner's situation, which I believe will be more helpful for the questioner's emotional adjustment. It's an amazing process!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

First, stop taking medication. You are now on the road to recovery! While medication may alleviate the symptoms, it won't cure them. In the end, it will only make things worse. Plus, continuous medication will have various side effects. You can see that in movies, novels, TV dramas, and even reality, many serious psychological problems are actually cured by not taking medication and persevering. Therefore, I believe that in the long run, medication is more harmful than beneficial for mental illness.

Is marriage really that important to you? Or is it important to everyone?

After reading what you said, you want to find a good partner who can not only take care of the living expenses, but also retire directly and enjoy life at home. Isn't this a bit like wanting to get something for nothing? Absolutely! That's normal. Which girl doesn't want to find a rich and handsome partner to cook and raise children at home? Exactly! Who doesn't want to be rich and relaxed? Exactly!

But if you don't have the conditions (such as being more beautiful than Xi Zi), you should stop thinking about finding someone who is rich, handsome, and appreciates you. You can only encounter these things by chance, not seek them out. Always thinking about these things will only waste your time. To put it bluntly, if you are afraid that your partner will cheat on you, it is because you don't think you are better than others. Then when your partner cheats on you, you will just go crying to the psychologist like in the TV dramas. Isn't this just asking for trouble? So first, stop thinking about finding a partner. It doesn't matter if other people have a hundred kids. Just do your best to constantly improve yourself and find a goal that you are truly interested in. It is not impossible to turn your hobby into a career. It's just that you are not daring enough to think about it, and you are even more afraid to take action. Even if you really can't find the right partner, then don't look. Take care of yourself. You are not incapable of enjoying life. Who cares?

The institution of marriage is a ridiculous one, so why is it that the more developed the country, the more open the system in this regard, or in fact the more people choose to remain single? It's not beautiful or reasonable, but it sure is exciting!

As for your postgraduate studies, I don't know what you're studying, but from your description I want you to ask yourself what you're doing it for. Do you really like the subject? If you hate the subject but are doing it just to find a suitable job or the person of your dreams, I advise you to rethink what you're doing as soon as possible. If you keep plodding on like this, you'll only get half the result with twice the effort and even waste all the time you've spent before. But it's never too late to wake up! The key is whether you have the determination. If you're even thinking about buying essays to get by, you should first calmly think about your life for a while, what you want and what you're interested in, and then set a goal and work every day to achieve it. You'll find that there are actually many more worthwhile things to think about in life. The person you were before, who was thinking about how to find a partner while working part-time, was silly. And by this time, you yourself don't even want to pursue postgraduate studies. You can give it up as soon as possible and study what you're really interested in. You don't have to worry about being unable to make a living doing what you're interested in.

You can be the best at anything! Plus, in today's online society, there's no limit to what you can do.

If you're feeling a bit lost right now and worried about not finding a partner, try thinking about the three big questions in life: where did I come from, where am I going, and who am I? These aren't just idle chatter, but the real questions to ponder in life. But to actively ponder these questions, you've got to achieve financial freedom first. And there's no standard for financial freedom. Do you think the person living in a humble alley with just a bowl of rice and a dipper of water is financially free? Think about it in terms of what they think, not what you think. They feel financially free if they don't want for anything and if they have enough for themselves. So there's no need to deliberately pursue how much money you can make before retiring. If you still have this kind of thinking, it only shows that you've not yet found something that you're truly interested in. It's great to keep learning as you get older! If you don't have a goal for the time being, you might as well spend a little time every day thinking about the three big questions in life. You'll find your own answers, and all your current problems will be solved!

Your future self will look back with a huge grin, grateful that you didn't waste any more time looking for a partner or buying essays to find ways to

I really hope my experience is helpful to you! I may not be the best analyzer, but I hope you can be inspired by me to become an even better version of yourself!

From what you've told me, I can see that you're feeling anxious. When people are anxious, they often feel restless and like they're being rushed.

But because of this restless and anxious mood, it's hard to calm down and get things done. I really understand your anxiety and suffering.

When anxiety arises, what happens? If you trace it back, you might find that understanding what caused it can relieve your anxiety.

It's not always a major event that causes anxiety, but it's often something in the world that affects your overall state of mind.

So please take a moment to reflect. It's okay if you can't remember—just calm your mind and slowly sort through your life.

The act of combing your hair can actually help relieve anxiety. It's a way to externalize your anxiety. If your anxiety had a shape, what would it be?

Why did he come to you? Maybe he just wants to tell you something, but if you don't understand what he wants to tell you, he'll just keep on existing.

You can also ask him what makes you anxious and what your life would be like if you didn't have anxiety.

In addition to medication, there are also some lifestyle and behavioral adjustments that can be really helpful for anxiety. The most common one we use is exercise.

If you're tired, you're more likely to feel anxious. Get a good night's sleep and your anxiety will naturally subside. Sleep is important for managing anxiety.

It's also a good idea to work yourself into a tired state and then get a good night's sleep.

Then, listen to some light music. Find someone you can confide in.

This can help you feel safe, and anyone who can listen to you and support you can do so. You can also seek help from a professional psychologist.

Finally, it's about your attitude towards anxiety. The more anxious you are, the harder it is to calm down. Since you've noticed that you're anxious, just accept it and go with it.

It's important to accept that anxiety is just a part of life. When you acknowledge it and allow it to be there, it'll have less of an impact on you.

People with anxiety are often driven by ambition. Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword.

The truth is, nobody's perfect, and we all have our own limitations.

Accepting your current situation might help you calm down and ease your anxiety. I hope this helps. Don't forget to keep the world and us close to you.

The questioner is facing a number of significant challenges, including the pressures of love, marriage, and academic studies. These issues are likely weighing heavily on the questioner, making it difficult to find moments of respite. It's possible that the questioner has been dwelling on these concerns for some time.

It seems that the direction of these thoughts may have contributed to the questioner feeling more anxious, which could have led to a sense of being caught in a difficult situation.

It is our hope that the following sharing will provide you with some perspective shifts, which may offer you a chance to talk to your anxiety and truly get out of the quagmire.

It would be helpful to understand what recent events may have contributed to the increase in anxiety.

From the message, we can see that the questioner has been taking medication for two years. It seems that, at least for the past two years, anxiety has been a companion to the questioner.

This may also be seen as a process of adaptation.

However, it seems that something may have recently changed, as the anxiety index has increased significantly, accompanied by insomnia. This could indicate that there may be a specific event affecting your current emotional state.

It may be helpful to consider that this event/these events require our attention. They may be the source of our concerns or areas of interest.

I believe that understanding it, seeing it, and trying to find opportunities to work with it on a practical level is a good place to start in relieving anxiety.

I believe that understanding it, seeing it, and trying to find opportunities to work with it on a practical level is a good place to start in relieving anxiety.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to consider ways of de-stressing in the face of challenging situations.

It is understandable that these two major anxieties, one about love or marriage and the other about studying, can be very stressful for any individual to deal with simultaneously.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider which of your relationships and studies is the source of your immediate anxiety.

From what I can gather from the message, it seems that academic pressure may be a significant concern at the moment. It also seems that you are hoping to study more.

Then another event is added to the original event.

Anxiety can often be a fear of the future. With so many tasks on our to-do lists and our time and energy often limited, it is understandable that we can feel overwhelmed and stressed again.

If I might make a suggestion, you could try a systematic review of your life events. This can be done by dividing them into four quadrants according to two dimensions: importance and urgency.

If it is not too much trouble, you might consider taking the time to review your life events in a systematic manner. You may find it helpful to divide them into four quadrants according to two dimensions: importance and urgency. These could be classified as follows: important and urgent; urgent and unimportant; important but not urgent; unimportant and not urgent.

As a general rule, we tend to prioritize important and urgent matters first, followed by urgent but not important matters. Those that are neither urgent nor important are often placed at the bottom of the list or even overlooked.

Once we have attempted to prioritize the various events in our lives, we may find that the originally chaotic events begin to take on a more organized structure. This process can also help us to make some trade-offs based on our own actual situation.

If I might suggest, perhaps the best way forward is to take small steps, one at a time, to get closer to your ideal place.

It is evident that many of us have expectations and hopes for our lives, whether it be in the realm of love, marriage, or studies. These aspirations serve as a driving force, motivating us to strive for a better life.

However, if there are too many driving forces and the reality is limited, it can sometimes result in pressure and anxiety.

If I might suggest another method, you could try breaking down your goals in a similar way. Perhaps you could start by breaking down your most important goal into smaller goals, and then use the resources and advantages you have at hand to achieve and overcome them little by little.

I'm not trying to understand human nature, but I am trying to help people understand themselves better. I hope you have a good day.

Hello, young lady. I can see you're feeling a bit confused, and I'm here to offer you a hug if you'd like.

I believe what you are experiencing now are some anxiety/do-you-look-at-your-phone-to-deal-with-emotional-problems-feel-rejected-and-criticized-and-sometimes-blame-yourself-17141.html" target="_blank">emotional problems. If it would help, I would be happy to give you another warm hug.

I believe you may be facing two anxieties.

The first is dating anxiety, and the second is study anxiety.

It is possible that your anxiety about marriage and love may be related to your own family of origin.

It's possible that you've formed the idea that marriage is a challenging experience because your father's marriage wasn't particularly happy, and you're concerned about potentially facing similar challenges.

Another potential cause of your anxiety about marriage may be related to your age. It can be challenging to find a partner at any age, and now that you are 32, it may feel even more difficult.

It is worth noting that there are still many people in China who have not yet married at your age.

It is possible that you will find someone in the future, even though you haven't found someone now.

Regarding your personality, as you mentioned, it is indeed something that can be shaped and influenced.

You might find it helpful to start keeping a daily mood diary.

After writing for a while, you may be able to identify the factors that contribute to your emotional outbursts.

Once you become aware of it, you may be able to prevent it from occurring.

It seems that you are experiencing some anxiety about studying. You may feel that pursuing a master's degree is simply a means of obtaining a qualification.

It may be worth reconsidering this idea. Many jobs nowadays emphasise the importance of having a diploma, and there is often a greater chance of successfully finding a job the higher the degree.

Indeed, the pursuit of knowledge is a lifelong endeavor, with the ultimate goal of securing a fulfilling career.

It seems that your supervisor is not fully satisfied with your thesis, despite your best efforts to revise it.

If I might share a similar experience from my own studies, I found it helpful to draw on the work of my fellow students who had already completed the program.

It might be helpful to know that different institutions have their own specific standards for passing research papers.

If it is not an inconvenience, I would suggest asking your seniors who have already graduated with a master's degree. They may still have their thesis from that year, which you could use as a reference.

You may find it helpful to avoid unnecessary detours and meet the school's standards sooner.

I hope you don't mind my asking, but I'm curious: before you went to graduate school, I imagine you must have also written a thesis, although it was much shorter.

If it isn't an imposition, could you possibly share how you passed your thesis?

In any case, I sincerely hope that the problem you are currently facing can be resolved as soon as possible.

I'm afraid I've nothing more to offer at this time.

I hope my above answers are helpful and inspiring to you, the girl. I'm happy to be of assistance in any way I can.

Here at Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and wish you the best.