At 39, should I restart a career with uncertainty?

Hello, I'm Evan.

The questioner is in a dilemma. They want a career but are afraid of being unable to support a family.

This is a tough choice. I understand the questioner's mood.

It's hard to make decisions when you're facing so many pressures. We can't make a decision for the questioner, but we can give them some simple suggestions to help them make the best decision for them.

Here are some suggestions based on the question:

Look at your age.

As the old saying goes, "At thirty, you have established yourself; at forty, you have no more doubts." The questioner says that he is almost forty, and we play different roles every day.

What does the questioner know about himself? What other roles does he play in society? Our roles may include father, engineer, boss, programmer, or baking enthusiast.

List your identities on a piece of paper. Which roles are the most important to you?

Think about the roles you want to play in the future.

Some roles stay the same, like "father" or "programmer." These are the words people use to describe you when you die.

Think about which roles are stressful and negative. You can eliminate them.

You can help yourself by thinking about what you want to do. Do you want to start a business?

If so, add "career woman" to your list.

Why do you want to take on this role?

Think about why you took on your current role or want to take on a new one. Make a plan for your life. Know your priorities.

Think about the roles you play now and the roles you want to play in the future. Why do you want to take on these roles?

You listed "father" because you have two children and want to give them a stable life.

To get the OP to think about these reasons, imagine your funeral. Who would come?

What would people say about you? You want them to say you were a good entrepreneur and that your project improved the industry.

They want to hear that others think they are a good father and take care of their home and children.

Understand the root of the problem.

Don't rush to solve the superficial problems. Sometimes, people seem to be in conflict because of something, but the real cause is not there.

To solve a problem, you must first identify the real problem.

The questioner feels that if they devote too much energy to their career, they won't be able to take care of their family or raise their children well.

What solutions have you considered? Have you discussed this with your family?

Find out what resources you have.

The questioner can think about what resources they have to solve problems. Everyone has resources to solve problems, such as money and time, understanding from family and friends, and their own qualities (such as wisdom and determination).

Sometimes, people don't know what resources they have.

You have strong interpersonal skills. You know you can use them to solve problems. You haven't found a solution yet, but you will.

If the questioner is confident in the project, why didn't they find support when investing in the early stages? Or set aside money to support their family?

To maintain a positive attitude, Ma Yun and his team ate instant noodles at home and raised funds to run Taobao. Life will change, so adjust your plans. Do what you want to do and you won't regret it.

I hope this helps the questioner.

Hello, I've read your situation. You seem capable, with dreams and a sense of social responsibility.

Thank you for chasing your dream to develop the industry, even though it may put you under financial pressure.

You want to start a new business at 39. It seems like you really want to do this.

You're stuck between ages 39 and 40 and facing financial pressure.

Is 39 too old to start a new business?

Zong Qinghou started the Wahaha brand and milk beverage business at 45. Today, almost all children drink Wahaha.

Zong Qinghou was advised not to take risks because he was getting old. But he felt it was his dream and did it anyway.

Zong Qinghou is today's Zong Qinghou. Chu Shijian started the Chu Orange brand at 72.

Chu Shijian is still a trendsetter in his 80s. If you really want to do it, age is not a problem.

The question is whether you really want to do it. What matters is the value and prospects of the business.

You also mentioned financial pressure. You need to invest 1 to 2 million yuan in the early stages.

This is a lot of money for an ordinary person. You have to decide if it's right for you.

If you lose your investment, can you afford it? What's the worst that can happen?

If you can afford it, money is no problem.

Let's talk about your dream. You say this new business will help the industry.

It's your dream. You think about it a lot.

Not doing it would make you unhappy. You have the chance now.

You have the chance to do it now, but you haven't. Think about it: if someone else succeeds in a few years, will you regret it? Even if you don't succeed, you tried.

If you have no regrets, your choice is right for you.

Look at the conflict in your heart. It is between living comfortably and pursuing your dreams despite the pressure.

Every choice has pros and cons.

Every choice has pros and cons. This is known as the psychological conflict of attraction and repulsion.

How do you choose? It's not just about the pros and cons. It's also about what matters most to you.

You've had success and failure in pursuing your dreams. You've failed more than ten times, and now you're raising this issue again.

Your dream is forward-looking. If you make this decision well, it will help the industry grow.

If you don't succeed, you won't be poor. You'll just have some financial pressure. Think about how you'll cope.

If you can handle it, go for it. If you can't, don't.

It's your choice. Choose what you love and love what you choose.

I hope this helps. The world and we love you.

Dear Landlord,

I can appreciate the challenges you're facing. It's natural to encounter different choices and dilemmas at different stages.

It is possible that no one can provide a direct answer to the landlord's dilemma. The landlord must make the most beneficial choice based on his actual situation and affordability, and then consider the potential consequences before making the choice.

Perhaps the best course of action would be to choose not to do it.

I appreciate your dilemma. I'm 39 years old with two boys at home. I'm a programmer who has read extensively about economics and marketing. I started my own business in 2008. I'm not the type to do business.

If the status quo is maintained, it would seem that there would be relatively little financial pressure.

It might be helpful to remember that this is just a business that makes money.

If you choose not to do it, it may be relatively easy in the future, with less pressure on your finances.

It might be helpful to consider that the current landlord is not single and has the responsibility and burden of supporting a family.

It is understandable that if you do not take action, the financial pressure on your family life may be less significant.

It's possible that the family members are reluctant to take that risk.

However, the host feels that it is just a business, just making money, and that it does not help others. It does not seem to have met the host's need to pursue their dreams.

If you are interested in pursuing a path that the host believes is more meaningful as a "career,"

I would like to respectfully inquire of the original poster whether they truly believe that their current undertaking is devoid of meaning.

For the time being, it can at least guarantee material conditions for a family to have no worries about food and clothing.

If I were to choose to do it, would it be possible to guarantee that it would not affect my current situation?

If I may, I would like to suggest that you consider the option of doing it.

I would like to pursue a career that has the potential to help others, support the industry, and contribute to society in some way.

It is possible that you may need to invest 1-2 million yourself in the first one or two years, which could potentially affect your financial situation and mindset in the future.

It is important to consider whether the landlord has control over the investment, regardless of the amount involved.

Some people may find it challenging to come up with 100,000 to 200,000 yuan, while others might not hesitate to invest 10 to 20 million yuan.

So, what might the worst-case scenario look like? Even if things don't go as planned, do you have the courage to keep going?

Some people earn a few thousand yuan a month and feel they are doing just fine, perhaps because they don't have to take risks.

However, it should be noted that starting a business does entail certain risks, as well as a considerable investment of time and energy.

It is possible that you may inadvertently neglect your family, your children's growth, and your partner's companionship for the sake of your career.

If you do it well, it will undoubtedly be a significant improvement. It ultimately depends on the host's determination to live the life they truly desire.

If you want to do a good job, it would be helpful to have the strong support of your family and team members with professional abilities.

I believe that if all of these factors are taken into account, the host will be able to make the best choice.

From my perspective, it seems that the owner is driven by a desire to achieve his dreams and ideals.

I believe that our lives are not just about making money; they are also about reaching a state of inner peace and contentment.

One possible explanation for the host's obsession with his dream is the application of Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory.

Human needs can be divided into five levels, from low to high, like steps. These are:

I believe that there are five levels of human needs, which I will attempt to describe briefly. The first level is that of physiological needs, followed by safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and finally, self-fulfillment needs.

Once people have taken care of their most basic needs, such as food and clothing, they may find that their interests and activities shift.

In time, our needs evolve from the basic to the more complex, encompassing not only our physical well-being but also our spiritual growth and the pursuit of self-fulfillment.

It is important to understand that the process of realizing oneself is not something that can be achieved overnight. It requires constant effort on one's part, as well as the support of those around you.

I hope that, no matter what stage you are in, you will not lose sight of your initial aspirations or your original self, and that you will remain true to yourself and in control.

Once a choice has been made, it would be advisable to give it your all.

Whatever the outcome may be, it would be best to face it with an open mind and let it be.

I believe that everything we experience in our lives is an invaluable part of our journey.

I'm hopeful that the landlord will be able to realize his dream soon.

I hope you are having a lovely June, and that the world is treating you well!

Perhaps someone will offer a different perspective. After years of hard work in business, you have finally earned enough to support your family. Why not consider that the business you already have could be a fulfilling career in itself? It's possible that others may not fully understand the value of a business that can generate income.

Furthermore, your years of entrepreneurial experience have taught you that business is not easy. You have barely survived for many years, and only in the past 2 or 3 years have you made money when opportunities arose. However, I suspect that the money you have made is not sufficient to fully support the cause in your heart, which is your dream.

I can understand how you might feel torn, confused, and lost inside. I've been in a similar situation myself. Someone once complained to me that she really disliked her current job. Although the pay was good and the pressure was not great, she felt that she was just repeating the same boring routine day after day. She had wanted to quit several times, but could not make up her mind.

It might be thought that money and dreams are contradictory, but this is not necessarily the case. Money can support our dreams, but what if, as you fear, you need to take financial risks?

Could I perhaps ask why it is not possible to simply live a peaceful life like everyone else? Is it necessary to realize that seemingly unattainable dream?

In fact, Maslow's theory of human needs in psychology and humanism suggests that every individual has their own unique psychological needs. From the basic physiological needs, such as the need for food, clothing, and shelter, people also have social needs and the need to be respected in society. From this, they may then aspire to achieve the higher need of self-worth realization.

A psychology teacher once shared some wise words with me: "We can live a simple life, but we can't be mediocre for the rest of our lives." This led me to reflect on the nuances between "simple" and "mediocre." What does "simple" truly mean to me?

Could you kindly shed some light on what mediocrity is? I would also be grateful for any advice on how I can tell the difference, and whether it really matters to me.

As one's knowledge increases, it is not uncommon for people to become more intelligent. However, this does not always lead to a more fulfilling life. My life, which had been simple and uncomplicated, suddenly became dull and boring. I was left wondering if I was leading a mediocre life.

I searched Zhihu for answers about the difference between the ordinary and the mediocre. One highly-liked answerer said that he believes mediocrity represents stagnation, like a pool of stagnant water without vitality or enthusiasm. Every day is a drab routine, without the slightest bit of enterprising spirit. A mediocre life can be boring, powerless, and lead to depression due to a dried-up soul.

It is said that there are many people in our society who are currently struggling with depression. They may appear to be leading normal lives on the surface, but in reality, they are facing significant challenges within their hearts and minds. Unfortunately, they may not fully comprehend the nature of their struggles or feel empowered to seek help.

Upon closer inspection, it seems that these people may not be as passionate about life as they could be. They appear to be somewhat lazy and listless, living from one day to the next. Their lives seem to be passive, negative, and boring, and they barely get by just to survive.

As a famous person once said, "Someone may have lived a whole life, but if all they do is repeat the same day over and over again, then that whole life will be just like one day. This quote really gets to the heart of the matter. Perhaps being mediocre means just repeating the same old days over and over again without any renewal?

The term "ordinary" is open to interpretation. It can be seen as a true portrayal of the lives of all people who have ideals and pursue spiritual enjoyment. It's important to recognize that 99% of the world's population can be considered ordinary. Even the most exceptional individuals represent a small fraction of the global population. It's essential to acknowledge that even the most extraordinary individuals only shine brightly for a limited time. Their entire journey, from birth to departure from this world, can be seen as an ordinary process.

An ordinary life can be seen as a positive thing because it allows us to renew and change ourselves every day. For example, many of us find it meaningful to watch the news every day to find out what is happening in the world. Frequent communication with friends and family, such as sending messages to show concern and greetings, can nourish the soul in friendship and family love.

An ordinary life is certainly worthy of praise, as we are constantly renewing and changing ourselves on a daily basis. For instance, what is the significance of watching the news every day to find out what is happening in the world? Talking and communicating with friends and family often, sending each other messages to show concern and greetings, nourishing the soul in friendship and family, and sparking off each other are all part of a flowing life.

There are many ways to enrich your life. You might consider cultivating reading and writing, playing the piano and singing, calligraphy and painting, dancing and fitness, traveling and walking, cooking and decorating, tending to flowers and plants, and so on. These activities can foster positive habits that contribute to your overall well-being. They may seem ordinary, but they can gradually bring about positive changes in your daily life and help you make progress in your personal growth. This is a valuable and rewarding journey.

From your letter, it seems that you're seeking a life with more fulfillment than what an ordinary person might experience. You want to gain a sense of worth in life, to have a real career and make a contribution to society, that is, to be someone who is not mediocre. Of course, your initial intention is good and positive. However, I wonder if it's truly necessary to take risks at the age of 39.

I sense that you might be concerned about your age. If you could go back ten years to when you were 29, would you take risks? Perhaps not, because you might not have had the capital to start a business, and risks often come with a price. Not to mention that you also have two young sons to raise and support, and you want to ensure that they can lead a carefree life.

I believe it's important to consider the potential risks of pursuing unpredictable things in order to make your life more exciting. However, it's also crucial to never give up on your dreams. You can gradually build assets during your regular days, and when the time is right, your age will no longer be a limiting factor. When you're doing what you love and feel passionate about, it can help you feel younger because your mindset becomes more youthful and energetic.

I hope my advice will be helpful to you. Wishing you the best, and sending my love to you.

I hope my advice has been helpful to you. Wishing you the best, With love,

When you're young and full of enthusiasm, it's natural to want to make a difference. But sometimes, despite our best intentions, we end up losing our jobs and facing financial challenges. I'm still working through this myself, but I've learned so much from this experience. It's made me more reflective, helped me settle down, and encouraged me to keep learning.

So, from the bottom of my heart, I want to say something.

1. If you're thinking about starting a business, the first thing to think about is money. Starting a business requires money, learning requires money, and the family needs money for food and other necessities. If your family supports you, you have a way out and can go ahead. If they don't support you, I'd advise you to think twice.

2. If you choose to start your own business, you will bear a greater responsibility, not only for you and your family, but also for your employees and their families. It's so important to think about whether you can afford it. What if the business fails?

3. You don't have to quit your job and go all out to start a business. Sometimes what we lack is the entrepreneurial mindset. If you can't guarantee that starting a business will definitely be successful, you might as well cultivate an entrepreneurial mindset first, and then keep learning and looking for a platform.

I just want to say one last thing: there are so many more ways to start a business nowadays, and they're getting easier and easier! But the tricky part is finding the time to figure out what you really want to do and where you need to go next.

It's so important to choose the right direction for you. Once you've done that, put your heart and soul into it and you'll succeed!

If I put myself in their shoes, I'd ask myself some questions.

You need to ask yourself why you want to start a business again.

If you want to contribute to society, there are other ways to do it besides starting a business.

I failed the first few times for a reason.

If I choose to continue my entrepreneurial journey this time, I will improve my personal skills. I will identify the most important part.

I will take action to achieve a breakthrough in my skills in the shortest possible time.

The focus should be on how to succeed in starting a business, not whether or not to start a business. This will help reduce anxiety and make you feel more at ease.

And I'll ask you one more time: Are you happy?

Don't overthink it. Give yourself a hug first. Feel your heart beating, the temperature of your palms, and your never-ending breath. They've always been with you, loving and caring for you. What do they want? Do you love them? What do you want to give them?

Your mood and emotions also protect you at all times. What does your heart truly desire?

Feel it. You'll discover what you really want. It might be starting a business, or it might not. Either way, you'll no longer hesitate. If you do hesitate, you'll no longer be afraid. You've found a way to explore your inner self and talk to your heart again and again.

Take your time. Everything will get better.

I wish you the best.

1. As an industry veteran, you should have a good understanding of the industry's pain points and trends. If you don't, you can find out for yourself, do some market research, and discover the real market prospects—it's a great way to get started!

2. Why not invest a little bit right away? You can definitely find two or three friends to start a business together and share the risk. After all, starting a business requires a team! Even if your business model has profit margins, one person cannot do everything. In the end, you still have to face the difficulty of hiring and managing people. You might as well start with something simple and first find a small team to work together and share the risk!

If it doesn't work out, you can either find someone else to continue or just go home. But from your description, I still feel that you have a certain amount of viable capital, which is great! Here, I would like to remind you to pay attention to the family conditions and subjective willingness of the team. You are the big brother in the industry, so it shouldn't be a problem to find people who are willing to follow you. It might be helpful to look at Liu Bei's entrepreneurial history of starting from a poor person and becoming rich, which is an inspiring example of what you could achieve!

3. You've got this! You can't afford to have any shortcomings on the road to starting a business. You've just got to improve the skills you need, such as marketing, business management, human resources, and so on.

4 Finally, it is recommended that you fully analyze the amount of money you need for your future living expenses, set this aside, and do not let starting a business affect your life. Seek professional advice from someone who understands the market, the market conditions, and entrepreneurship.

This is a business behavior, not a psychological problem—and you can overcome it!

5. Keep your core competitiveness strong and make sure it's protected from being copied!

Dear Sir/Madam, I have carefully read your question and analysed it with you as follows:

Your current business may generate revenue, but it may not provide the fulfillment you seek. It may not offer the sense of purpose and contribution that you desire.

Your dream project will provide a sense of achievement and dedication while also ensuring a sufficient income.

There is a key point you have not mentioned, which is a crucial consideration. First, please reflect on the following:

Is there a conflict between your current business and the business you want to start?

Is it necessary to relinquish your current business in order to fully dedicate yourself to your new venture?

Is it feasible to launch the new venture while continuing to oversee the existing business?

If you have to relinquish your current business in order to pursue your new career, you may have concerns about the financial implications and the time commitment involved. I have carefully analyzed these concerns and they fall into two categories: financial and time-related concerns.

From a financial standpoint,

The education of your two children

The initial investment in the business

Family life

Please indicate the time frame you are considering.

The most crucial factor is opportunity. By leaving your current business to pursue a new venture, you will forfeit the current business opportunities you are currently experiencing. If you intend to resume your original business in two years, you are concerned that you will never encounter opportunities as favorable as the ones you currently have. Additionally, you are worried that as you age, if you face more pressure at that time, it will impact your ability to effectively manage your business, leading to suboptimal outcomes.

After this analysis, you will have a more clear and concise understanding of the situation.

In the event of a business failure, do you have sufficient contingency funds to weather the resulting consequences?

I recommend the following course of action:

It is advisable to set aside sufficient funds to provide for the worst-case scenario. This should include making arrangements for your home, car, and your family's living expenses for the next two years. The remaining funds can then be used to consider whether to start a business. This will help to mitigate the impact of any negative outcomes.

In addition, I will assist you in developing a process for evaluating the current situation. Once you have conducted a thorough analysis, you will be in a better position to make an informed decision about whether to proceed with a new business venture.

Is it feasible to launch your current business and the new venture simultaneously?

2. Please describe your ideal career path.

3. What are the key performance indicators for success in your dream role? Can these be quantified in figures? If so, what level of performance is required to be considered successful?

4. Please describe the current situation.

5. Please identify all relevant parties and your role in the project.

6. Please describe the challenges you are currently facing and the steps you have taken to address them.

To whom can you turn for assistance?

7. In the event of a business failure, would you be able to cope with the consequences? How would you react to such an outcome?

I hope you find my analysis useful.

Hello, I'm Flower.

From the questioner's words, I can see the questioner is passionate about pursuing a career, has the courage and practice to try to realize his dreams, and is concerned about whether to make a career transition at the age of 39. I have some thoughts on the questioner's questions and will expand on them.

You must find a balance between your personal dreams and your family's development.

I am 39 years old and I have two boys.

The question is about having two children at home. You need to invest in their education, provide for the family financially, and devote emotional energy to them. You also need to pursue your personal dreams.

The questioner should then consider how to balance the two. Alternatively, the resources around you, such as the degree of financial and emotional support that your family can provide, should be taken into account, as well as communication with your family.

The 39-year-old questioner is not just an individual, but also a member of the collective family. Therefore, the collective must be considered in addition to personal dreams. Personal dreams and family development are not completely opposing relationships; they must be taken into account.

2. Decide whether pursuing your career is more important than your financial situation.

You will be financially stable if you stay in your current job.

That's just a business that makes money.

I want a career that helps others, benefits the industry, and contributes to society.

I will not let financial concerns dictate my future.

I am prepared to invest 1-2 million of my own money in the first one or two years. This may affect my financial situation and mentality in the future, but I am confident that it will be worth it.

The questioner must analyze their current financial situation. If they are pursuing a new career, they must consider their current financial situation and expected future income to determine how far they can advance in their chosen field. They must also consider the worst-case scenario. If their business fails, they must understand the potential financial implications for themselves.

In the event of a worst-case scenario, the questioner must take prompt action to minimise losses and ensure a smooth continuation of their daily life. When starting a business, the questioner should also set aside a portion of their reserve funds to guarantee their basic living.

Once you've considered the financial possibilities, it's time to make a decision. If you're ready to go for it, do it. If you're still on the fence, weigh the pros and cons and make your choice.

3. Age should not be a limiting factor. A comprehensive assessment is required.

Over the past decade, I have tried many projects, and I have failed. But that is my dream, and I will succeed.

I have a new project idea and I've already started it. Due to the pandemic, it's currently on hold.

You can start a business at any age. There's no rule that says you can't start a new business at 39. Regardless of age, you must do a comprehensive assessment before starting a new business.

The questioner should look for projects that have been tried and failed in the past 10 years or so and find out why. The timing was wrong, the idea lacked competitiveness, or it wasn't integrated into the business system. The questioner has learned entrepreneurial lessons from past experiences and should be cautious about the pitfalls they have encountered.

The question asker has a new idea now, and it's time to evaluate it in the market. The question asker needs to consider the current market opportunities, challenges, and risks, as well as the future development of this idea, how far it can go, and what other possibilities there are. The question asker also mentioned that due to the pandemic, the project is currently on hold, so in the future, there is a high risk that the project will be suspended many times.

The questioner must also consider the combination of career aspirations and business economics.

4. You've thought it through. Make a decision and take the next step.

I'm going to share some transformation ideas I learned before with the questioner:

Take action! Write down your goals, find the resources you need, assess the risks, make a plan, and then take action.

I am confident that the above sharing will be helpful to the original poster.

(Note: If the questioner has any additional information, they must supplement it by answering this question.)

Hello friend, After thinking about your description some more, I wanted to circle back to one key point: what your dream career is.

You want a career that can help others, help the industry, and make a contribution to society. That's wonderful!

"Over the past ten years, I have tried many projects, all of which have failed, but that was my dream."

In a popular definition, the business you are currently engaged in, which you started yourself, has already been successful. This means that whatever you want to do can be successful too!

I'm really interested to know what your dream is, if you don't mind me asking.

Take a moment to think about it. You've always regarded this as a dream, a kind of hope. But deep down, you're afraid that once it comes true, the thing that's been giving you hope will disappear. That's why, for more than ten years, you've been trying to make these projects fail.

I totally get it. I think we all have dreams that we don't want to come true because we're afraid of what will happen if they do. It's like we're protecting ourselves from having to face the reality of what we really want.

I can see that you're worried that if your dream comes true, it won't be the same as you imagined. I get it! We all have dreams that we think will make us happy, but sometimes they don't work out the way we want. That's okay! We all have to learn to accept things as they are. So, I'm here to tell you that you don't really want to make your "business" a success.

My friend, I think it's really important for you to think about what your dream really is. Think back over the past ten years. You've had business ideas that had a chance of success. Have you deliberately missed out on them?

Hello, question asker.

My answer will give you strength as you waver between reality and dreams.

As a man, husband, and father, you want to take care of your family's stability, but also want to take care of your dreams, make a difference, and do something with your career. I can see that you have actually made a lot of efforts, with both successes and failures, and you have a relatively comprehensive understanding and analysis of yourself.

From a psychological perspective, conflicts can be divided into four categories: double-tendency conflicts, avoidance conflicts, double-avoidance conflicts, and double avoidance conflicts.

You are currently facing a complex dual avoidance conflict. Every choice has its pros and cons, and you have to consider all aspects. It's easy to fall into the trap of making a difficult choice. You've done your own analysis, so let's list and categorize the options to find new inspiration.

* Continue doing:

List your strengths.

Name your weaknesses.

What are the advantages?

What are the advantages?

* Stop doing:

What are the pros?

What are the disadvantages?

* Tell me what else you can do:

Tell me your strengths.

I'd like to hear about the disadvantages.

What are the pros?

What are the disadvantages?

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you. If you need to, you can also continue to comment and we will discuss it further.

Hello, question asker!

From what you wrote, it seems like you're caught between what's real and what you want to be true.

1. If you keep things as they are and don't start a business again, your financial situation won't change much and you won't be under too much pressure.

2. I just want to give you a heads-up that if you go for it and start a business again, you may face financial difficulties and the collapse of your mental state if you fail again. You have two children at home and are thinking about the future, so I just want to make sure you're aware of the potential challenges.

3. It sounds like you'd rather have a career than a business. Is that right? It seems like your current business isn't something you're particularly passionate about, and you're just doing it to make a living. Your ideal is the project you're about to invest in, and this new project is something you're really interested in and excited about.

First of all, I want to tell you that everyone in the world is born with different talents. Some people are born to be commanders, some are born to be generals, and some are born to be team leaders. Take the monk Tang, for example. He may be very good at leading a team of four, but he can only obtain the true scriptures under the guidance of Guanyin Bodhisattva and Buddha Tathagata. If you let Tang go do the work of Guanyin Bodhisattva, he may not be able to do it well.

You've taken many courses in economics and marketing, but it's been more than ten years since you've been able to make a living from it. You've also experienced several business failures, and success has been elusive. We all have different definitions of entrepreneurial success, but based on your description, it's clear that you have a strong theoretical foundation and a wealth of social experience. So, what's the reason for repeatedly failing in business?

I'm wondering if you've thought about whether you'll face the same challenges when you start your business.

As your counselor, I'm not in the business of giving advice, but I also don't want to give you too much "chicken soup for the soul" today. This is a very practical problem, and while I'm here to listen and support you, I can't offer you a magic solution.

If you can, take a talent test to see how good you are at leadership and innovation. We all have different strengths, and we can all work on them. This test can help you understand your natural abilities and how you can work on them. Based on genetic theory, this talent gene test may also reveal some mysteries and give you some advice.

I really hope this helps you!

Hello, landlord! After reading your question, I realized that this is a choice many people have faced in real life.

It's a choice between a comfortable life of staying in your comfort zone or following your heart's desire to start over and embark on a path with many unknowns ahead.

I don't have the same level of insight as other teachers when it comes to your specific challenges. I can only offer my perspective on life in general.

How should we live our lives? The conventional wisdom is that we should live a good life and not have any regrets. Or should we keep our passion and pursue our dreams in a more rational way?

Now that we're a bit older, we've already moved on from the days of recklessness and ignorance. When we come across the same thing, there are lots of different ways to deal with it.

The final outcome will also be very different. The more paths you explore, the better you'll be at gauging which direction is best.

So, whether you move forward or stay put depends on how big your dreams are and how strong your motivation is.

No matter which path you choose, it's not going to be easy or simple. It seems like there aren't any more detours, but you never know—there could be a big turnaround just around the corner.

One thing's for sure on the road of life: if you've got confidence and a determined heart, you're ready to weather different setbacks without giving up.

You already know how to walk, you just need to be brave enough to take that first step.

Hello, host, I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to take a moment to respond to your question. Over the past ten years of your entrepreneurial journey, you have experienced some setbacks. However, I admire your persistence in pursuing your dreams, which I know is not an easy task.

I always hope that during this period, I can treat them as a "career" and be able to help others, the industry, and make some contribution to society. I believe that over the past ten years, I have actually done all of this, but I may not have fully met my own expectations. Perhaps I hope to do better.

In response to your question, I have two thoughts that you may find helpful when you are feeling torn.

1. Could you please clarify what "career" means to you and what it means to you?

It seems that you have a strong attachment to your career and that it holds a great deal of meaning for you. Perhaps exploring the deeper meaning behind this could provide some new ideas for making a decision.

2. Could I ask why you are starting to feel this way now?

It seems that you have a long road ahead of you. I'm not sure if you've ever been as confused as this before. If not, could I ask why you're confused this time? If you can find out the reason behind this confusion, you may find a new balance. If you have been confused before, how did you overcome it? Perhaps you could use it as a lesson for this time.

You might find it helpful to explore these two parts through self-awareness or by talking to a friend. If these don't help you find the answers you're looking for, you might want to consider psychological counseling. It might be more suitable to find a counselor with an experienced psychodynamic background to talk to. I hope the above is helpful to you, and I wish you well.

Hello! I can see that you've been motivation-for-work-and-life-feeling-miserable-what-to-do-4749.html" target="_blank">struggling with this for three months, and I know it's tough to make a decision. I can feel your hesitation and the anxiety to make a quick decision. But, opportunities to do things need to be seized! So, what will support you in making a decision?

First of all, I think it's really important for you to think carefully about your motives. From what you've told me, it seems that the motivation for this new and uncertain "family-hopes-you-can-persevere-what-should-you-do-3933.html" target="_blank">career" is not based on material gain, but rather your desire to achieve your true calling.

Living a stable life without taking any risks may mean that you are less self-fulfilling. Taking risks may lead to a win-win situation, but it also carries risks. If this is true, then we will decide based on who has a greater influence on you.

Second, we need to think about the possibility of "taking risks" without "taking chances." Your first business was not without its difficulties, but it is now stable and thriving, which shows that you have sufficient control in terms of implementation and management. Your family seems happy and stable, and your two children should provide you with sufficient motivation to continue to develop. Your professional qualities, having been honed through so many years of practice, should be at their peak, and it is the perfect time to connect theory with practice. Your life's ambitions are closely tied to this adventure, and that may be the best reason for you to give it your all.

Do you feel like you've got everything you need right now? It's worth thinking about whether there are other things that make you feel happy too, like the way your project is developing, the team you're working with, your partners, and so on.

I really hope these help you decide!

Ultimately, it's always a good idea to be prepared for the worst. I believe there are two main ways to survive at the end of the day: you can either stay the same and think about what that would look like for you, or you can be ready for the minimal impact on your family life when you face challenges with new investments or entrepreneurship.

I'd love to know which of these bottom-line survival methods you'd like to prepare for!

I'm sorry if I didn't give you a direct answer, but I really want to say: Be yourself, there is no age limit! May you explore, make a decision, and move forward!

Good day, question asker.

I commend your values. I aspire to a career that can assist others, the industry, and contribute to society.

I am inclined to view your perspective favorably, and thus I encourage us all to consider your question with the seriousness it merits.

Please describe the manner in which your desired course of action will benefit others and contribute to the advancement of the industry.

What can you contribute to society? (Here, please describe the conscious mind as desiring that you bring into conscious awareness the knowledge held by your subconscious mind, and use your conscious mind to ascertain the actual probability of manifesting this knowledge in social reality. Given that you have attempted numerous projects over the past ten years and failed to achieve success, why do you believe that this time will be different?)

There are numerous parentheses in the text, but the author is presumably a programmer, so the use of parentheses is to be expected.

If the individual posing the question is indeed the same person and the question is posed from a mental standpoint, it can be assumed that the individual is already aware, at a subconscious level, that the outcome of their chosen career path will result in failure.

It is evident that the individual in question is not adequately prepared mentally for this undertaking.

One might inquire as to the rationale behind this immediate conclusion.

Successful individuals are aware that they will undoubtedly achieve their goals, yet they understand that the path to success is often circuitous and that the ultimate validation of their achievements may differ from conventional expectations.

The situation is more dire than you realize. It is not merely different; it is profoundly abnormal.

Subsequently, the question arises as to why.

It is only then that I will be able to ascertain the requirements of the global community.

It is, after all, your idea.

The reality of the world has not rejected your ideas.

While it may be trivial for you to spend a million or two, refusing to acknowledge reality is a significant issue because it affects the likelihood of achieving a successful high-level vision.

Do you possess the fortitude to acknowledge your shortcomings? Are you able to perceive your present circumstances with unclouded vision, uninfluenced by external factors?

I would be grateful to receive your feedback. Best regards,

I wish you the best of luck.

Hi there, I just wanted to give you a 360-degree hug.

This is a modern version of the story of "The Moon and the Sixpence." In this book, the main character, Strickland, is a successful 40-year-old stockbroker who gave up his old life to go to a desert island to paint because that's always been his dream. While he was alive, his paintings didn't sell well, but after he died, he became world-famous as a genius painter.

This story is inspired by the painter Gauguin.

This person is willing to give up a lot for the sake of the big picture. There are plenty of opportunities to be had, but he's looking up at the moon.

This novel has become so popular because it tells the story of people who are brave enough to pursue their dreams even when they seem impossible to achieve. The protagonist is an inspiring role model who shows us that it's possible to be persistent and courageous in the face of challenges.

Of course, we all want it because we're adults and we don't make choices. Only children make choices. We all want it.

The thing is, we need to keep Sixpence. We can't just walk away like Streetland did. We always have the option of walking away, just like Streetland did. I don't want it anymore, I don't care, I'm giving it all up.

Do you think that's possible? Of course it is. But for Chinese people, responsibility will tie us down. Anyone with a sense of responsibility, whether as a son or daughter, father or mother, will not be able to let go of these responsibilities.

Of course, in your case, it doesn't mean that you have to abandon anyone, but rather that you may make them bear the risks along the way to achieving your goals. As many people say, you can't compromise on your standards of living.

But there's always some reluctance, not doing your own thing, always feeling like life isn't complete. You start to wonder, is this me? What am I living for?

I think a lot of people face this dilemma. For example, my biggest dream is to go teach in a rural area, just to teach, because I don't have high materialistic expectations anyway.

But I can't just walk away. I used to feel responsible for my parents, and now I also have to take care of my children. So I can only work hard and as steadily as possible. They can't handle any more turmoil.

Needless to say, I'm not saying it'll be easy. I'll face challenges, but only if I'm in pain, and I'm not going to let others suffer with me.

I imagine you'd rather not do it, and if you were going to do it, you probably wouldn't be asking. But not doing it is also a bit hard to accept.

I'll share a little of my own opinion in the hope it helps.

It's important to remember that you still have a responsibility to provide for your family, especially since your children are still in school. Your income is still a crucial factor in maintaining your family's livelihood.

If you want to advance your career, it's important to first calculate how long your current lifestyle can be sustained without your current income and the existing family income, as well as how much of a reduction in living standards you can accept. This will give you a rough idea of your family's ability to withstand pressure and support your career.

The tech and market work you're doing now requires a certain amount of time and effort to keep things running smoothly. Or, you can hire someone else to take over your job. After all, it hasn't been easy to get to this point, and it provides an income, so it will also be your way out in the future.

It's important to have a backup plan. You can't put all your eggs in one basket. We're all middle-aged people, and middle-aged people don't have the right to be so willful.

And for important issues, like your new project, how much money and time are you willing to spend, and how long can you accept not making a profit? Give a time or a figure, like how much money I invest, I can't invest any more. If you can't get back on track, then stop the loss in time.

You might find it helpful to have a detailed plan in place, which will give you a goal to work towards and help you feel more at ease. After all, we really can't be selfish.

I'm a self-help counselor who's often down but sometimes upbeat. I love the world and myself.

Hello, question asker!

We all face similar challenges, big or small.

You've always wanted to start a business that can help others, help the industry, and make a contribution to society. I think that's so great!

I'd be delighted to add a few more points for you, and I really hope they'll be helpful!

1. About indecision.

It's totally normal to feel stuck when we make big choices.

I just wanted to give you a heads-up that if you do go ahead with it, you might need to invest 1-2 million yourself in the first year or two. I know it's a lot of money, but I just want you to be careful.

If you don't do it, there's not much pressure, but I know you may feel reluctant to give up an idea that you think is so good.

So I'm just wondering, should I take another risk?

Some folks say that in the grown-up world, there are only choices and responsibilities, no right or wrong.

If you keep obsessing and worrying about it, I have a little trick that might help. Try saying the following:

It's great to aim for improvement, but don't worry about perfection!

I'd love to know what you think this will mean for the next 10, 20, or 30 years.

It's okay to make mistakes and fail sometimes. Just see if you can afford the consequences.

Others like to ask themselves, "If I die of old age, will I regret not trying to do this?"

We can try to be less obsessed, find out what we really want, make our choice, and then just do it. I know it can be tough, but you can do it!

The good news is that in the process of choosing and doing, you can still make adjustments, and the cost is not always as unbearable as we think.

The future is full of possibilities, and it's okay if it's uncertain.

And that's what makes life so special!

It might also be worth thinking about whether now is a good time to start a business.

2. I really think you'd enjoy reading "Low-Risk Entrepreneurship."

I just had to tell you about this book! I really like it and I think you'll like it too.

We were taught that high risk means high reward, and I think that's true!

It's true! Many successful entrepreneurs and startup founders start their businesses with low risk.

Because the risk is low, you'll feel less pressure psychologically. It'll be easier for you to stay calm, and that'll make success more likely!

There are just a few simple principles that I want to share with you.

For example, just like your aspiration, if you succeed, you'll have contributed to society and helped others, which is a wonderful thing!

And the good news is that the problem you're solving is important enough that someone is willing to pay for your help!

If you have the ability to do so, then don't worry about the risk. You've got this!

And the problem you can solve by starting your own business is big enough to be a real problem, but you can do it!

And you have your own special secrets that no one can take away from you!

Take Haidilao, for example. It has its own unique service that no one else can take away.

Li Ka-shing said that when he started his first business, it was a low-risk venture. Later, when he ventured into real estate, he never took any risks, but instead made value judgments. Later, he reconfigured his business, and the risks became increasingly lower.

Of course, we may not do it on such a large scale, but this is a great way of thinking!

It really helps us to look at entrepreneurship more objectively!

I really don't think age is a problem when it comes to starting a business.

It's always a good idea to consider realistic factors and anticipate various situations.

Also, just a friendly word of advice: be careful of your own capacity trap.

We love doing the things we're good at, so we keep doing them! The more we do them, the better we get at them, and the better we get at them, the more we want to do them!

This cycle is great for gaining more experience in this area! But it is easy to fall into a capacity trap.

Please, just share these!

Wishing you all the best!

After reading your account, I can say with confidence that I don't have a better judgment for you to refer to.

I will remind you of some blind spots in your thinking.

You need to decide what business you're going to do, how much start-up capital you need, how many contacts you have, how many resources, abilities, and other conditions you have. I'm not clear about any of these things, and these are all elements of judgment.

I said at the beginning that I can't give you good advice.

I can see some blind spots in your thinking.

You said you've read a lot of economics and started your own business, despite experiencing failures. I believe you'll analyze why you failed and have your own answer. I just want to remind you that reading books on economics won't help you choose to start a business.

You need to understand what it takes to be an entrepreneur. Not everyone is suited to this role.

Some people are suited to cooperation and safeguarding a business when someone is blazing the trail ahead. Some people are suited to cooperating with others and safeguarding a business when someone is blazing the trail ahead. Some people are suited to cooperating with others and safeguarding a business when someone is blazing the trail ahead. Some people are suited to cooperating with others and safeguarding a business when someone is blazing the trail ahead. Some people are suited to cooperating with others and safeguarding a business when someone is blazing the trail ahead.

I have to ask you how much you know about yourself and how clear your position is.

Second, you said that your career should help a certain industry or even the country. I strongly advise against doing this. There is a Buddhist saying that goes something like, "Help yourself and help others; save yourself and save others."

Even the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas know this. If you can't save yourself, you can't save others.

Let me be clear: if you can't even take care of your family's livelihood, you shouldn't be talking about helping others or a particular industry. You're struggling with a point, and you want to invest about 1-2 million to start your business. This will bring financial constraints and confusion to your family, including yourself.

Your way of thinking is not entrepreneurial. Think about it again.

Let me be clear: age is not a problem. Jack Ma founded Alibaba at 38, and there are many other examples like this.

You're struggling with uncertainty. If you want to give it a try now, this is probably your only chance.

You will succeed or fail—that's how your life will be. This also confirms one of the points I made in point 2: your current thinking does not have the mindset of an entrepreneur.

Let me be clear: we actually want to do something. The external environment is one thing.

Luck also plays a part. A person's charisma is another aspect.

You can't develop charisma by reading a few books and having a high degree. It's like the certain talent of entrepreneurs, which can't be taught in books.

Speak to a career planner or someone who has started a business successfully.

Good day. I am pleased to respond to your inquiry.

From your description, I can sense your inner conflict, as if you are torn between responsibility and dreams. On the one hand, you have a sense of responsibility towards your family and are concerned that pursuing your dreams may negatively impact your family. On the other hand, you are worried that not pursuing your dreams may negatively impact your personal growth and development. It seems you are seeking a balance between these two perspectives.

The following is a definition of career anchor:

If the inquirer is undecided, they may benefit from starting with themselves to gain insight into their career aspirations and identify potential breakthroughs.

The term "career anchor," also known as "career mooring," refers to the fundamental aspect of a career that a person will not abandon, regardless of circumstances. It represents the center around which individuals choose and develop their careers and serves as the foundation for career decisions.

Rather, it emphasizes the interaction and integration of three aspects: personal abilities, motivation, and values. There are three key points:

Firstly, a career anchor is based on acquired work experience. In other words, a person needs to form their own career values through practical work experience.

Secondly, the career anchor forms the basis for a person's career orientation. This requires individuals to integrate their talents, motivations, needs and values, as well as their ability to reflect on themselves in the practice of their work, in order to choose a career orientation that is both accurate and gradual.

Third, a career anchor represents a person's stable career contribution area and growth area. However, this does not preclude the possibility of change and development.

By establishing a career anchor, individuals can develop more sustainably and deeply, achieving more. Additionally, they can adapt their career anchor as they grow and change.

There are eight types of career anchors.

Type 1: Technical/Functional

This type of person seeks to develop their technical and functional skills, as well as the opportunity to apply them in a professional setting. They recognize themselves based on their professional level and are driven to tackle challenges within their field. They are not inclined towards general management roles, as they prefer to maintain their technical and functional expertise.

Type 2: Managerial

This type of person is driven to advance their career, demonstrates a keen interest in overall management, looks forward to integrating the results of the efforts of others across departments, is eager to assume overall responsibility, and views the success or failure of the company as their own work.

Type 3: Autonomous/Independent

This type of person desires the autonomy to arrange their own working methods, habits, and lifestyles. They seek a work environment that allows them to demonstrate their personal abilities and eliminates organizational restrictions and constraints to the greatest extent possible.

Type 4: Security/Stability

This type of person seeks a sense of security and stability in their role. They value integrity, loyalty, and completing the work assigned by their manager.

Type 5: Creative

This type of person is driven to establish their own company or develop a product or service that is entirely their own. They are willing to take calculated risks and overcome obstacles. They may be employed by another organization, but they are always learning and evaluating future opportunities.

They will pursue entrepreneurial opportunities when they believe the timing is optimal. They also seek significant recognition for their contributions, both personal and professional.

Type 6: Service-oriented

These individuals consistently pursue the core values they recognize and seek recognition and support from colleagues and superiors who align with their values.

Type 7: The Challenger

This type of person thrives on solving complex challenges, overcoming significant obstacles, and achieving victories against formidable opponents.

Type 8: Lifestyle

This type of person seeks to achieve a balance between their personal, family, and professional needs. They aim to integrate the key aspects of their lives into a unified whole.

They require a flexible professional environment in which to work. They define success in broader terms than professional success and consider the additional effort required to earn more or get promoted to be an unacceptable investment.

What should be done?

First, review your general career anchor classification based on the aforementioned introduction. Determine your current classification and gain insight into your goals and strengths.

Secondly, you may wish to consider listing some of your own career requirements and categorising each as either "must/expect" or "must". The items marked "must" represent your core professional values that you are unable to compromise on.

I would like to conclude by sharing a quote from the writer San Mao: "If you can refrain from writing, don't write." This implies that unless you are driven by an inner passion, you will not be able to produce your best work. Similarly, when it comes to whether or not to continue, you can also tell yourself, "If you can refrain from doing it, don't do it."

"Only when the inner thoughts reach the point where they must be done are they your core professional values, and this value can guide you to achieve the best results. (For mutual encouragement)

The above represents only my personal opinions, and I hope you will find them helpful and inspiring.

I appreciate your consideration.