At the age of 14, I was criticized by my parents all the time. A few days later, I became depressed and super inferior. Depressed?

I believe the questioner is doing a good job.

I must admit that I am somewhat challenged in answering the question posed by the original poster, as the description provided is not sufficiently detailed.

However, in terms of description, there are a number of possibilities to consider.

It is not uncommon for individuals aged 14 to be in the middle school stage, and it is also not unusual for them to be two grades above or below their actual birthday.

Unless you are exceptionally bright and have the opportunity to skip grades to go straight to university, or you have repeated grades many times or at least finished grade one.

At the age of 14, did you come to understand that this criticism was contributing to feelings of depression and inferiority?

Or perhaps, at the age of 25, you have come to recognize that the source of your depression and inferiority complex may have its roots in this incident from when you were 14 years old.

If you are the latter,

If I may be so bold, I would like to offer my congratulations. You have indeed identified the root of the problem, and I am optimistic that you will find a solution in due course.

If you came to realize at the age of 14 that this problem had not yet been resolved, it seems that from the moment you began seeking answers from others, you were already taking steps to find assistance.

As described by the original poster, it is a rather subtle situation. It involves parents who suddenly come home and have never been seen before.

It is worth noting that in fiction, single-parent families are not uncommon, whereas in reality, it is more often the case that parents are away working and have never met. This person, who is clearly within the scope of their duties, has been confirmed for many years, but then suddenly appears.

He feels that criticizing you is a discrepancy between his perception of you and your actual feelings.

From an adult's perspective, it is important to consider that...

If he has never had the chance to spend any time with you, to experience anything together, and if he has only a name on the list,

It would be more helpful to have an objective evaluation of the situation.

Perhaps he is not the best person to be making such a judgment.

It could be suggested that these are typical of people who are not in the same situation.

It is also worth noting that if a child is brought up with high expectations, negative comments and harsh demands,

I believe they are based on,

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the extent of your feelings for him, the expectations you once had for the relationship, and the extent of the current discrepancy between those expectations and reality.

It is likely that the hurt and discomfort you felt at the time will be proportional to the size of the problem.

It is not within a child's power to choose their parents, but it is fair to say that not all parents are equally suited to the role.

It is also worth noting that there are individuals who may be perceived as elders in certain contexts.

Perhaps if you simply switch, you will understand.

Could it be that your discomfort is not solely due to this person's criticism, but also stems from the possibility of being criticized by someone else, whether it's someone who is kind to you or someone you don't particularly care for?

Could it be that it's not so much the words themselves that are the issue, but rather the way they're delivered and the context in which they're said? Is it perhaps the mere presence of this person that causes you discomfort, even if they don't say anything at all?

Could it be that the critical words make you feel so uncomfortable, whether they are about you, someone else, or even something you see, that you feel sick?

Could you please tell me what exactly you are afraid of facing?

"From an early age, I have been somewhat apprehensive about the prospect of being the subject of criticism from others."

I believe there are at least four things in this.

For instance,

I wonder if, when we were young and vulnerable, we suffered any setbacks as a result.

Perhaps you didn't have the opportunity to learn how to face things during your upbringing?

Have you perhaps not yet had the opportunity to reconcile yourself with your past self after growing up?

Could it be that fear is a lack of security in facing up to things?

Could it be that fear stems from an overreliance on interpersonal relationships and a fear of experiencing conflict?

Could I just check whether you think people can be either an individual or a group of people, or just an unfamiliar group of strangers?

Could it be that it's certain people you care about?

It could be that criticism stems from an inability to accept other people's opinions, a denial of them, or even their negative views of you.

It might be helpful to remember that elephants, with their impressive physiques, don't necessarily appear weak from a distance.

It could be said that circus animals are not as strong as wild elephants, having been tamed and even oppressed.

You are just because you have been caged since childhood and told that you are weak and should stay in your little corner, but you are not weak.

Perhaps you recall hearing a story about

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that you are also talking about being a captive elephant.

When it was a child, it was captured, kept in captivity, and surrounded by locks. Despite its best efforts, it was unable to successfully escape because, at the time, it lacked the strength to do so.

Then, in the process of its slow growth, it actually has the strength to escape and can break all the ropes. However, due to past experiences where it was unable to escape, it has not attempted to do so again, even when

The door was unlocked, and it could be pushed open with just a light push. This suggests that the staff's actions may have reinforced a tendency to think in a certain way.

So, whether you are asking this question or whether you have already grown up and are 25 years old today,

I kindly ask you to believe that you already possess the ability, the method, and even the psychological strength to face it all.

It is important to remember that the experiences of depression and feelings of inferiority from the past do not necessarily reflect who you are in the present or who you will become in the future.

I believe that the you of the past, who may have felt lost, and the you of the present and the future, can find the strength to face it.

I believe that the old things cannot hit the brand new you. I hope you will believe that you have been accumulating the strength to face and deal with it all.

If you feel it would be helpful, you might like to consider seeking the support of friends you trust, other loved ones, and professional personnel.

If I may make a suggestion, perhaps it would be helpful to have a reference.

My name is Teng Ying, and I'm a psychological counselor. From what you've shared, it seems that you've been dealing with depression since you were 14 years old. I can only imagine how challenging that must have been for you. I'm here to offer you a listening ear and support in any way I can.

1. [Identify the issue]

The age of 14 marks the onset of puberty, a significant phase in an individual's physical and mental growth. It is also a crucial period for the emergence and consolidation of self-awareness.

And you suddenly face constant criticism from your parents at this stage. Do you feel scared and ashamed when facing criticism?

Such constant criticism, particularly from parents, can lead a child to feel rejected and criticized inside, which may then result in the child believing that they are worthless and bad.

Adolescents may feel powerless to resist their parents' disapproval. They may unconsciously agree with and accept their parents' judgments, which could potentially lead to feelings of worthlessness or depression.

2. [Consider reorganizing your mindset]

The family in which a child is born and the kind of parents they have are not within our control. It's like the cards fate has dealt us—we only know what we've been dealt when we receive them.

Your parents, on the other hand, returned home unexpectedly when you were 14 years old, and you had never met them before. It's understandable that this could have caused some challenges in your upbringing.

Furthermore, your parents suddenly returned home when you were 14 years old and had never met them before. This could have resulted in some challenges during your upbringing.

Given that we have recognized that we have not been dealt an optimal hand, it might be beneficial to consider ways to navigate it in a way that minimizes its impact on us.

You are welcome to ask this question here, and I can already see your determination to get out of this situation. I would like to give you my encouragement for that!

Some people say that the best time to plant a tree was ten years ago or is now. Perhaps we could apply this to ourselves and say that the best time to take control of our destiny was ten years ago or is now!

Some people say that the best time to plant a tree was ten years ago or is now. Perhaps we could apply this to ourselves and say that the best time to take control of our destiny was ten years ago or is now!

3. [Finding a solution]

I'd like to offer three suggestions for your consideration:

If I may, I would like to offer three suggestions for your consideration.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try writing down your five best qualities on a piece of paper, with an example for each. You could then read this list to yourself every day.

You might find it helpful to write down your five best qualities on a piece of paper, with an example for each. Reading this list every day could also be beneficial.

If I may, I would like to help you write down the first one: your first strength is perseverance. The example is that you have been dealing with depression for quite some time, but you have not given up hope and are still searching for a way out.

On the following day, the third day, perhaps we could consider allowing these advantages to become six, seven, eight...

You might find it helpful to set yourself small goals and try to stick to them.

For instance, you might consider activities such as running, exercising, maintaining regular work and rest schedules, reading, listening to music, traveling, cooking your own food, and so on.

You don't have to do a lot. Just find one or two things you enjoy and make them a priority. Over time, you may find these activities bring you unexpected joy.

If you feel you would benefit from additional support, you may wish to consider speaking with a trusted professional.

You might consider speaking with a psychiatrist for a diagnosis, attending regular counseling sessions, or calling a listening hotline when you're feeling down.

It might also be helpful to talk to friends or relatives you trust.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

Hello. I hope my answer helps.

I know that feeling because when I was 14, it was also the period of social formation. At that time, what others thought of us affected how we thought of ourselves. The parent who appeared must have been very important to you. You cared a lot about what he said, didn't you? But all he gave you was criticism, so you felt that you were not good enough. If this complex is never opened, you will still feel that way.

It's hard to change what's already happened. But you can change how you think about it and accept your situation. You can build inner strength and confidence by changing your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and playing to your strengths.

My advice is:

Understand yourself and think about how important others affect us.

From ages 3-13, we learn about ourselves based on how others see us. If we're constantly told we're ugly, have a bad personality, etc., we'll internalize these negative comments. As adults, we'll be more likely to self-negate.

The more positive comments you get, the more confident you'll become.

You will understand why you feel inferior and depressed because you have taken his negative comments to heart and have not received the recognition you crave. But you can adjust and look at his comments objectively.

Why did he say those things about you? Have you found out why?

Is he always critical of others? Has he also praised you?

Have other family members said good things about you? What did they say?

People's opinions of us are based on their mood. If they're angry, they'll be quick to criticize. This is not a good way to behave, but they don't know there are better ways. We can try to understand ourselves by thinking about that time. We can also see that other people's opinions are not necessarily correct. We need to accept their opinions of us, rather than agreeing with them and then doubting and denying ourselves.

2. Find and adjust the core belief that causes your inferiority complex and depression.

When you feel inferior, what do you hear? It's your automatic thinking. This happens because of a core belief.

For example, when you have thoughts like "I can't do it," "This is too difficult," or "I'll never be able to learn it all," you'll notice that the core belief is "I'm not good enough." This belief stops us from doing many things, finding them difficult, and believing we can learn them.

Believing you can't do something will cause you trouble. It will make you feel inferior and passive, and you'll fall into a bad cycle. You'll feel depressed.

To break this cycle, adjust your beliefs and replace old ones with new ones. For example, you can adjust your beliefs to "I believe I can do it."

Our changes won't happen overnight. We need to give ourselves time to adjust, replace old beliefs with new ones, and act as if we believe in our new beliefs.

3. Believe the new belief and act accordingly.

Our beliefs and behaviors are usually connected.

If our beliefs are weak, we can easily change our behavior without much thought. As we change our behavior, our beliefs will become weaker, making it easier to continue doing the new behavior.

From now on, you can act as if you believe in your beliefs. Your new belief is "I believe I can do it." When you face a difficulty, you should find a way to overcome it and keep pushing forward. Even if you fail, you can still succeed next time.

Adjust your beliefs and take action. You will break free from depression and gain confidence. Good luck!