At the age of 30, with an average education, how do you find a new journey in the quagmire?

First of all, it's important to understand the confusion and anxiety you're currently facing. Many people feel lost and constrained at some point in their lives and want to make a change, but lack the courage.

It's important to remember that change is possible and that every step is worth trying.

You also said you want to find a job that's more literary and in technology. That's a great goal, especially since there's a lot of room for growth in both fields these days.

Don't let your age or experience hold you back. Remember, age isn't the only factor, and you can gain experience through learning and practice. It's also important to improve your communication skills. You can do this by taking training courses or reading relevant books.

When you're on the hunt for a new job, it's a good idea to look beyond job fairs. Try online recruitment platforms and social media too. You could also reach out to cultural, literary, or tech-related companies to see if they have any openings that might be a good fit.

Apart from work, you also said you wanted to improve your hobbies and find a group of like-minded people. This is a great way to enrich your life and expand your social circle.

You might want to think about joining some interest groups or community activities to meet people with common interests. This could help you feel more fulfilled and satisfied, and it might also bring you more opportunities and possibilities.

Regarding the inferiority complex and social barriers caused by your personality and experiences, this is something you need to face and overcome. It's a good idea to try some methods of self-acceptance and confidence building, such as keeping a diary or participating in some psychological counseling activities to better understand and accept yourself.

At the same time, you can start to reach out to others, get involved in some social activities, and gradually expand your network.

And don't forget to give yourself some time and patience. Change is a gradual process that requires time and effort.

Have confidence in yourself, be courageous, and explore new possibilities and opportunities. You will undoubtedly be able to identify your own path to success and happiness.

I empathize with the questioner's predicament. On the one hand, he aspires to a life of fulfillment; on the other hand, his circumstances, capabilities, and professional background present constraints on his pursuit of a life of fulfillment. He is apprehensive about making an ill-advised choice and facing the unknown and daunting challenges that may arise, and he finds himself in a state of uncertainty.

Many people have encountered this problem. Many employers are willing to hire people with high education, high ability, and good character who can create more value and benefits for the company. They are less likely to hire people who may bring risks or unnecessary trouble to the company. Therefore, when recruiting personnel, they will give priority to such talents.

If a person is interested in pursuing a particular job opportunity with a specific employer, it would be beneficial for them to possess certain relevant qualifications and attributes. In the event that they do not currently possess these qualifications or attributes, it may be helpful for them to explore ways to develop them. During my own experience applying for adult college courses, I observed that many individuals, including myself, were able to successfully balance their academic and professional commitments.

It would be beneficial to gain knowledge in the classroom, learn from experience at work, improve your thinking and hands-on abilities, and enrich the content of your brain.

If you are willing to put your heart and soul into any job, you will likely discover something that others have not discovered and create something that others have not created. If you are willing to learn, you can do so at any time, but it is important to remember that these things cannot be rushed. It may be helpful to take things one step at a time and work steadily.

It's not realistic to think you can acquire these abilities and opportunities immediately. Rather, you can only seize them when you have accumulated enough knowledge, experience, and abilities and encounter the opportunity. Of course, in the process of learning to improve yourself, you will encounter many difficulties, as well as various forms of criticism and resistance from the outside world. You need to face these challenges and find solutions on your own. Only by doing so can you constantly improve your abilities in all aspects, become more confident, and achieve greater success.

It may be helpful to consider that when choosing a goal direction, it's often beneficial to avoid ones that are overly ambitious or stressful. Instead, it might be more constructive to select a goal that you can achieve with your own efforts. This approach can not only make it easier for you to feel a sense of accomplishment, but it can also help you to better manage feelings of failure when you encounter them.

Similarly, when it comes to improving your interpersonal relationships, it's important to take the initiative to greet and establish contact with the first person, and then the second, third, and fourth. You might consider choosing those who seem more talkative and easy-going. It's also worth noting that if you don't take the initiative to seek to establish relationships with others, or don't take the initiative to learn to improve yourself, find job opportunities, and change your life, it might be more challenging to achieve these goals.

The above are my personal opinions, which I hope will be of some use to the questioner.

Hello. It's clear you have a lot of ideas about what you want to do in the future. You want to develop your skills in the literary and scientific fields at work, pursue your hobbies in life, and find people who share your interests in interpersonal relationships.

However, some past setbacks and the current situation have made you feel inadequate. You want to break through but feel like you lack competitiveness, and you feel a bit "stuck."

It's only natural to feel a bit out of control when you're facing setbacks, confusion about your job situation, difficulties in finding another job, and a gap between your current reality and your career goals. When you add in the age anxiety that's common in today's society and the lack of support from your colleagues, it can make you feel like you're going it alone.

We all need to feel in control. When we don't have that sense of security and self-confidence, it can affect our ability to make decisions and take action. It's a natural psychological reaction when our sense of security and confidence are damaged.

But at the same time, you can also see how you've handled a tough situation. Setbacks and challenges haven't made you lose sight of your goals. You still have a clear vision and motivation for change, and that's where it all starts.

It's okay to feel a bit nervous about the challenges you'll face in reality. It's only natural.

Then you can try something new in your thinking. For example, when negative or obstructive thoughts arise, you can record them and then try to replace them with another expression. For example, you could say, "I have no advantages, age, education, and experience are not good, how can I compete with others?" and then think of something like, "I'm a little worried about not getting this opportunity, but sending in my resume and fighting for an interview is also a way to learn about this new industry." And then you could say, "I may lack some relevant skills right now, so I'll gather some information to see which knowledge and skills I can acquire through self-study and training." Or you could say, "I can't do it" and then think of something like, "I don't know if I can do it, but opportunities are tested, I can give it a try." And then you could say, "I may have some disadvantages, but I must also have my own advantages, so I'll take this opportunity to reflect on and sort them out."

If we think about personal growth over a longer period of time, career development is a process of exploring different possibilities. It's not necessary to see the choice as a one-time decision. An iterative approach to getting closer to your ideal may be more helpful.

Think about what industries and positions can help you achieve your goals, give you the chance to develop your skills and experience, do some research, or find related forums to check out.

When it comes to hobbies, you can explore them with your social circle. For example, you can find out what you like and are good at, and which activities boost your confidence, by learning and trying them out, and find opportunities for group activities and meet new people.

For instance, there are book clubs, writing boot camps, and sports groups (like running groups), to name a few.

Greetings! I am a heart exploration coach. I believe that life is a beautiful journey, not just for appreciation, but also for growth and development.

I can sense your confusion and distress when you encounter a turning point in life and seek a breakthrough. It can feel as if fate is like an invisible net, trapping you in a whirlpool, where you cannot see a way out. Let's share and discuss.

After listening to your story, I was reminded of the movie Groundhog Day.

At the beginning of the movie, the male protagonist is just like you, starting each day in a somewhat mechanical state of mind: getting up, going to work, getting off work, going to bed. He is not particularly engaged with life, and he can't see any hope, so he goes through each day without much passion. He thinks this is how his life will be forever, but one day he finds himself caught in an endless cycle...

The meaning of life is hidden in each day. How might we live a meaningful life? Rita, the optimistic colleague and close lover of the male protagonist in "Groundhog Day," offers Phil a different perspective: "Maybe it's not a curse. It all depends on how you look at it."

Life is a cycle, either a virtuous or vicious one. You are 30 years old and are now ready to move on from your current job. You want to leave your comfort zone and seek a new direction in life. This awakening is a positive one, as it shows that you have the willingness to take the initiative to break the deadlock.

Since ancient times, there has been the saying "at 30, one is established." If you were to ask yourself "soul-searching" questions at this point in your life, it is possible that this saying would influence you subconsciously, and you might hope that you can grow and change in stages.

2. It may be helpful to identify the situation, find resources, and consider making changes within your capabilities.

There are often multiple solutions to any given problem. If you're seeking new opportunities and directions, you don't necessarily have to quit your job and change careers. One option is to "ride a donkey to find a horse," using your current job to support yourself while continuing your studies and developing a second skill set. You can also develop a second career in your spare time. Another possibility is to explore ways to support yourself through your hobbies.

Furthermore, you are aware of some potential challenges, including your age and limited experience. If you were to "burn your boats" and "bet everything on one card," the cost and risk would likely be significant.

If, as you mentioned, the current work environment and interpersonal dynamics are causing you to feel unmotivated or even depressed, then it might be beneficial to consider making a decisive change.

3. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider taking a step back and allowing yourself to process things with a more neutral outlook.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to consider the metaphor of driving a car. Just as we would shift into neutral before deciding how many gears to shift into or whether to put it in park, it might be helpful to take a moment to reflect on your current situation. It seems that you are feeling overwhelmed by a sense of boredom, and that you are tired of your current work and life situation. This is an understandable feeling, and it's natural to want to change direction.

These are just some of your thoughts, but there are no concrete and feasible practical plans yet. The "gap period" can be a helpful time to reflect on your goals and consider your options. It's natural to have different desires, such as resigning, changing jobs, or rekindling your passion in your current role. It's also important to assess whether you're seeking development and hope through self-planning.

It's not possible to have your cake and eat it too. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider developing new opportunities within the platform and resources you currently have. It might also be beneficial to make rational judgments, "rush out" of various emotions, and then take concrete actions.

If I might add one more thing, I think it's important to remember that 30 is a pivotal age, and experience is something that can be accumulated gradually. Even if you don't have professional experience, you have gained valuable insights through life and social experiences. There are endless possibilities in life, and the choices we make can shape our future.

I hope these words are helpful to you. I wish you well in all your endeavors.

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Hi, I'm Xin Tan Coach Yu, and I'd like to talk about this topic with you.

The person who asked the question said that right now, they feel like they're repeating the same things every day and that they're unhappy at work. They also said that the management of their unit is vague, tasks are not evenly distributed, there's no room for advancement, and they're beginning to feel dissatisfied.

Let's start with work. Many people aren't happy in their current job because they haven't found the right opportunities or direction. If you like your job and your colleagues are like-minded, you'll have passion and vitality, and do a better job.

This kind of thinking is based on replacing the goal of "success" with "interest." In real life, even if a job is in line with your interests, you might not be able to do it well.

Since the work has to match your skills and abilities, if you can't do the job, it'll be boring.

We can ask ourselves what we've done to advance in our current job. How much do we know about the company's career development opportunities?

Do you talk to your boss about task allocation? Have you thought about asking for help from others when you're unhappy at work?

We can also think about what this job brings to us and what our ideal job would be like.

We should also think about whether the new job will help us figure out what we're interested in and what we want to make.

So, how can we find a job? And what materials do we need to prepare for job hunting?

We can also ask ourselves, compared to some young graduates, what our respective advantages and disadvantages are. What is my past work experience?

If we can switch from focusing on the uncertainty to focusing on the certainty, it'll be easier to get out of our confusion and find the direction we're looking for in our search for a new job.

Let's revisit the topic of emotions:

Emotions are made up of three things: what we think and feel, what we see and hear, and what happens physically in our bodies. Each emotion is our body's way of responding to something we need, whether that's something we want or something we don't have. If we don't get the promotion or pay rise we were hoping for, we feel sad. If we lose something we've had for a long time, like a treasured possession, we feel angry.

As the questioner wrote, in recent years, I often feel overwhelmed, bored, unproductive, and unable to achieve my goals.

We can ask ourselves what we were thinking when we were unemployed for several years, and what emotions and feelings it brought us.

We can also think about past experiences of job hunting and ask ourselves what emotions and feelings that brought up for us.

We can also ask ourselves, "What do I really need at this point in my life?" And what about this anxiety?

It's important to remember that emotions aren't good or bad. We can allow them to exist without judging them as right or wrong. Instead, we can ask ourselves questions like, "What am I worried about?" and "What does this remind me of?"

When we start to accept our emotions and let them flow, we're less likely to distort our behavior due to emotional suppression. You can also record your emotions through writing therapy. Your writing is only for yourself, so feel free to write about your feelings honestly. This can help us understand the origin and impact of emotions, as well as clarify the root cause of the problem.

Finally, love yourself. Start by caring for yourself, taking care of your body and your feelings. At the same time, objectively evaluate yourself and get to know yourself.

We can change our mindset, let go of our expectations for perfection, and realize that the success or failure of a single endeavor or a single bad experience is not enough to affect our lives. Life is a long-distance race, and we should accept our own inadequacies and be true to ourselves. There's a popular online saying: Wu Zetian proved that success has nothing to do with gender, Jiang Ziya proved that success has nothing to do with age, and Jackie Chan proved that success has nothing to do with educational background...

You can spend more time reading and learning, developing your interests and hobbies, and spending time with friends and family. This will not only improve your inner self, but also enhance your interpersonal skills and better prepare you for the workplace.

So let's take a deep breath now, calm our minds, give ourselves a pat on the back, shake off the labels, set ourselves a goal, put together a great resume, choose some companies we're interested in, arrange a few interviews, and remember, change starts with our own actions. Best of luck!