Balancing school and part-time work is incredibly exhausting, I want to go home, but my parents always fight?

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

You feel strongly misunderstood, unsupported, and unaccepted because you can feel the pain and helplessness caused by your parents' quarrels.

You hurt yourself to relieve the pain caused by your parents' quarrels because you believe you are not good enough. You want to change this through your own efforts, but you feel powerless.

Let me be clear: your parents argue not because you are not good enough or have done something wrong. It is probably because in their own families, their parents dealt with conflicts in this way. Without learning a better way to deal with conflicts, they may instinctively copy the way their parents dealt with conflicts in their own families.

This hysterical arguing has deeply hurt you, and you need to recognize it.

You must face the harm caused by your parents' quarrels head on. Do this by sincerely and bravely expressing your true feelings and how you want to be treated at the moment they quarrel.

You should also record the emotional feelings caused by your parents' quarrels in the form of words in an emotional diary. This will help you better perceive and understand your emotions, explore the needs hidden behind your emotions, and try to respond to and satisfy your needs through your own efforts.

My name is Lily, and I'm the little listener at the Q&A Center. The world and I love you.

Good day, colleague. I can see the confusion you are facing right now, and I extend my support to you.

The situation you are currently facing is the result of internal family issues. It would be beneficial for you to give yourself a warm embrace once again.

You harm yourself because you have a powerful negative emotion that lacks an outlet, so you direct it inward and attack yourself.

I believe you would benefit from participating in some aggressive sports.

One possible solution is punching.

As an additional option, you may wish to consider keeping a sandbag or similar item at home.

In the event of further instances of parental conflict, it is recommended that the individual in question engage in physical activity, such as punching or kicking a sandbag.

It is also recommended that you purchase a pillow that is not particularly appealing.

In the event of a recurrence of the aforementioned circumstances, it is recommended that the pillow be struck with a degree of force commensurate with the intensity of the negative emotions experienced.

It is possible that parents arguing may be communicating in a way that is unique to them.

Should you find the manner in which they interact disagreeable, you are encouraged to engage in an open and honest dialogue regarding the matter.

It is not reasonable to expect parents to be mind readers. They cannot be expected to know if their child is unhappy with the way they argue if the child does not tell them.

As an alternative, the next time you return home and observe your parents engaged in a dispute, you may wish to take the opportunity to go downstairs and engage in some exercise.

Upon returning home, you may find yourself in a happier, more carefree state of mind, with less concern about your parents' disagreements.

I hope you will be able to find an effective solution to the problem you are facing as soon as possible.

Please be advised that these are the only suggestions I can offer at this time.

I hope my above responses are helpful and inspiring to you. I am available to answer any further questions you may have.

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