Being admitted to a top 211 university graduate program, the future appears bright, yet feeling of low desire within?

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* From your description, it seems that you currently lack a serious fighting spirit and have gradually lost interest in everything around you. You seem to have little motivation, so you doubt whether you have a mental illness. But don't worry! There's no need to be concerned. You can absolutely overcome this! It's totally normal to lose interest in things sometimes. We all go through phases like this. It's just a matter of finding ways to reignite your passion and interest. You might find it helpful to try some simple techniques to boost your motivation. There are plenty of resources out there to help you. Remember, you're not alone in this. Many people have been through similar experiences and have found ways to overcome them. You can

Since there's no more information, it's actually pretty tough to judge your current state. Not pursuing something doesn't mean you have a mental illness, and just because everyone else is actively striving, it doesn't mean you have to do the same.

There are millions of people in this world, and each person has their own thoughts. Everyone is a unique individual with their own unique life experiences and outlook on life. Other people's thoughts and pursuits are only suitable for their unique individuals, and they do not represent what is suitable for everyone—but that means there's plenty of room for us all to find what's right for us!

In our country's Buddhist and Taoist cultures, people often like to pursue a simple life and to be free from desires and wants. This is also a way of life and an attitude towards life. And it can be a great reference point for anyone looking to embrace this way of living!

Let me tell you, even if you are a person with no aspirations, it does not mean that you are a person with problems. You just choose to live this way, and that's okay!

So, let's dive deep and explore ourselves! Let's find our unique selves! Do we feel calm, content, and at peace with our current lives? And most importantly, what kind of life do we really want?

I really hope this helps! The world and I love you!

Hello, question asker! I'm glad we met here.

Let's go through what you've described.

You're currently a graduate student at a 211 university, so your future prospects are within your ideal range.

I currently have no expectations, so I have no interest in making money in a part-time job or doing academic research.

I am currently unmotivated about many things, but I am determined to take the civil service exam when I graduate so that I can continue in this state.

You used to care a lot about fame and fortune.

From your words, I can tell you still have aspirations, but they don't require much effort at the moment. After all, applying for the civil service exam or doing a PhD is still in the future. You are only in your first year of graduate school, so you have reason to relax.

You say you feel gray. Describe what that means to you. Does it simply mean that you have no desire, or does it also include a bit of a down mood?

I'd like to know how long this has been going on for.

You said you used to be competitive and aggressive. What made you start thinking about how to live the life you like instead? Did something happen?

Topic Master, everyone has different pursuits. You want to take the civil service exam and continue to lie down. You need to consider how you will get a job when you graduate.

Tell me what you want to examine. What about a civil servant in a position?

What abilities and qualities are needed to be able to lie comfortably while working? You should consider these.

Questioner, you've come here to ask a question, which shows you're still holding on to the past. You want to find something you enjoy doing. You may have cared about fame and fortune in the past, perhaps even for the sake of getting a postgraduate degree. There may be other factors as well, but they're probably less related to your career planning. Now, while completing your studies, you can improve your professional abilities and the professionalism needed for your future work.

Integrate your current studies with your future career development to prepare for success. You can achieve your desired work-life balance only after you succeed.

Questioner, you seem relaxed now, but you're actually considering what you really want. You may have once considered not striving for honors that weren't given to you internally. Now you want to live the way you want to and develop your abilities from this foundation.

Questioner, if your "gray and gloomy" mood has a depressed part that lasts for a period of time, you need to pay attention to whether there are significant changes in your sleep, diet, and weight. If there are significant changes, you must go to the school psychological center for consultation.

I am who I am. Speak your mind. I'm here to offer you a perspective and help in any way I can.

Greetings!

From the information provided and the outcomes achieved, it is evident that you are a highly competent and dedicated individual, with a strong sense of self-discipline and high standards.

I would like to offer my encouragement and support.

You are experiencing a sense of despondency and a lack of motivation in the context of the predicament you are currently facing, to the extent that you are contemplating seeking solace in inactivity.

The situation you describe as challenging is, in fact, quite typical and realistic.

From a psychological perspective, it is reasonable to assume that you have invested a great deal of effort, exerted considerable effort, and exercised considerable self-discipline in preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination for Beijing's 211 universities.

In psychology, the formation of a goal leads to a significant increase in the intensity of the activity and the psychological motivation. However, once the goal is achieved, the desire diminishes, and the intensity of the psychological motivation also decreases. It should be noted that individuals may experience different desires at different stages of their lives. Consequently, this phenomenon is considered to be a normal process.

From this perspective, the current emotional state, characterized by a lack of motivation and low desire, is a typical psychological phenomenon.

However, your question also prompts me to engage with you from two distinct perspectives.

The initial aspect to be considered is:

Individuals' lives and the routes they pursue are distinct. It is therefore advisable to refrain from making comparisons with others and instead pursue one's own path. Doing so will result in positive outcomes, including the emergence of joy and beauty.

Comparisons with others inevitably result in the introduction of unnecessary concerns into one's life.

The second aspect is as follows:

Each individual's life can be conceptualized as a journey on a road. During this journey, it is not uncommon for individuals to be uncertain about their desires at each stage. Additionally, it is possible that changes may occur at each stage. Therefore, regardless of the changes that occur, it is advisable to follow one's heart.

The course of any individual's life is not preordained.

It is always possible for life to change.

It is therefore imperative to simply adhere to one's own moral compass, accept one's identity, and embrace one's true self.

In conclusion, it is my sincere hope that your life will unfold in accordance with your desires and that you will experience nothing but positive outcomes.

Good day, my name is Huang Xiaolu.

The original poster has consistently demonstrated high energy and competitiveness, which led to their acceptance into a postgraduate program at a Beijing 211 university. This is viewed as a notable achievement by the general public, and it requires significant effort and a certain degree of aptitude. I believe the original poster is also aware of this.

Furthermore, it is important to ascertain whether this is the first time the landlord has encountered this situation, or if it has occurred on numerous occasions in the past.

If this situation occurs frequently, it is important to identify the circumstances that contribute to this state of mind, which may include a lack of energy, interest, or motivation to pursue interests in life. It is also essential to determine whether this condition will improve on its own over time. If so, it may be comparable to seasonal mood fluctuations that occur at specific points in the year and can be managed through adjustments in lifestyle and habits. In most cases, there is no need to be overly concerned about this issue, as it is a natural consequence of the body's internal processes. However, if this situation has persisted for more than a month and has significantly impacted your daily life, it is advisable to seek professional guidance.

If this is the first time this has occurred, we need to pay some attention to it. It may be that we spent all our energy and time preparing for an exam, and both our body and mind were overtaxed. Now that the dust has settled, our body and mind are suddenly relaxed, and in order to adjust to our original state, our body is accumulating energy on its own, so we are not as passionate as before. However, this is all temporary.

It is also possible that you previously set a goal to gain admission to graduate school but did not consider the reasons for your desire to do so or what you would do after gaining entry. Now that you have achieved this goal, you are unsure of your next steps and feel that you lack a sense of purpose. If this is the case, I am confident that you will be able to adapt.

If none of the aforementioned scenarios apply to your situation and you simply wish to pursue a career in the civil service and maintain a stable lifestyle, there is no inherent problem with this approach. Adopting a positive mindset and embracing a simple lifestyle are both viable options. It is essential to align your thoughts with your choices and recognize that not every decision requires constant confrontation. Life is multifaceted, and each individual possesses a unique perspective on how to navigate it.

If your life is significantly impacted by this condition, such as if you are unable to study effectively, have no interest in maintaining your personal space, are reluctant to interact with others, and experience severe depression, it is advisable to seek professional guidance.

It is important to understand your own state of mind, reconcile with your own hopes, and live your life. It is crucial to recognize that your life is your own and that others may have different perspectives. Perhaps you previously believed that success, wealth, and power were the ultimate pursuits in life. However, as you mature, you may realize that this is not necessarily the case. Your beliefs and values are shaped by your experiences, thoughts, and judgments. As you gain more knowledge and experience, you may find that your views evolve. This process allows you to develop a unique philosophy of life that aligns with your personal beliefs and values.

If your body is indicating that you should cease your current activity, do so. Allow sufficient time for recuperation so that you can resume your activities in a more optimal state.

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We are pleased to introduce Yixinli's answer provider, Huang Xiaolu.

Hello!

From what you've told me, I can see that you're feeling pretty negative, with low motivation and a lot of doubt, confusion, worry and helplessness.

You mentioned that you were accepted into a postgraduate program at a top university in Beijing, and your future seemed bright. However, you were feeling quite negative on the inside, unable to muster any enthusiasm, and had low expectations. You saw that everyone around you, whether they were pursuing fun, part-time work, or academic studies, were full of enthusiasm, but you always felt that everything was gray and gloomy. You also said that if you had any thoughts, you were thinking about continuing to lie down for the rest of your life after passing the civil service exam in the future. However, you knew that you used to be someone who was full of energy and competed for fame and fortune, so you were very confused and doubted whether you were mentally ill. You want to know why this is so and what to do.

I've got three pieces of advice for you to think about:

First, I suggest you think back to what happened between when you were really excited about fame and fortune and now, when you don't have much motivation and feel pretty uninspired.

Put simply, you need to look within yourself to understand why you want to know.

It would be helpful to ask yourself how the two different personalities came about.

Maybe you were chasing fame and fortune or just had a lot of energy, but deep down you didn't really want it. It might have been your parents or family expectations, and you were living for them. Now that you've been accepted to a 211 graduate school in Beijing, it seems like you've completed your "mission." Without a "mission," you don't know what to do, which is why you're passive and have low aspirations. Or maybe it's for other reasons. In short, you need to think about the reasons why, what has put you in a state of confusion and helplessness.

Once you understand why you're feeling this way, you'll know what to do. And you'll realize that you don't have a mental illness, just a need to adjust your mindset.

Next, I suggest you ask yourself what kind of life you want to lead.

So, what does your ideal life look like?

In your description, you said that you want to become a civil servant in the future and continue to lie down and do nothing for the rest of your life. Have you really thought about whether that's what you want?

Of course, you should also know that becoming a civil servant doesn't mean you can just sit back and relax. Good civil servants are also full of energy. So, you need to think about what kind of life you want and make sure it's something you really want.

I also hope you understand that there's no right or wrong way to live your life. As long as you choose what you really want and don't regret it, that's all that matters.

Once again, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what's most important and what you should do now.

Put simply, if you know exactly what kind of life you want, you need to start preparing for it now.

If you've given it a lot of thought and you still want to become a civil servant, you've got to put the work in to make it happen. It's not easy to become a civil servant, after all.

When you work hard for the life you want in the future, you'll naturally feel motivated and positive.

It's important to remember that sometimes the best way to overcome negative emotions like anxiety, worry, or confusion is to take action.

I hope this helps.

Dear questioner, I really hope my reply can help and support you!

They get the results they want through their own efforts, and they've paid a lot and are the envy of others. Many people feel that getting what you want is just that, and some will lie down and relax, while others will be radical!

There is no right or wrong! Just follow your heart and remember that your feelings are the most important.

❤️A higher platform means greater pressure and challenges—and greater rewards!

Moving to a higher platform will bring greater pressure and challenges, as well as amazing opportunities! Reaching the peak and enjoying the beauty of the moment is something to look forward to.

And it's also for the sake of moving forward better! It's so good to allow the present moment to linger.

Many people spend their entire lives constantly moving forward, proving to themselves that they can do it, and it's a great thing! They're afraid to stop, hoping to gain the approval of others through good results and change the way others treat them. Others work hard to meet their parents' expectations and live up to what others want, and it's a wonderful thing too!

The ability to make yourself happy and the ability to withstand setbacks are the core!

Different motives lead to different results. And the great news is that you can have the ability to make yourself happy and the ability to withstand setbacks throughout your life!

And that's how we can go further! It's not easy for ordinary people to achieve good results, but if we can do it, we can go further!

So, enjoy each moment and do the things you do best! And accept your current situation.

Find that same self-confidence you had back then and that winning feeling again!

Seeing your classmates full of energy, do you doubt yourself and deny yourself? I have thought about taking the civil service exam and living a stable life, and I think it would be a great choice for me!

After so many years of hard work, you feel like you're in a holding pattern, waiting for the right moment to change your current situation. But you have to remember that most people are ordinary people, but now they no longer have the enthusiasm they had in the beginning.

Some people get the results and revel in them, enjoying the happiness of the moment. You don't want to settle for the status quo, and you can do it!

In the past, how did you surpass yourself, step by step, to find the feeling of winning again? The key is to change yourself. You have so much to gain! Look at what you have, what you have gained, and the results of your efforts. The road is not congested, and the only thing is to persevere. You can do it!