Boring study, time flies day by day, what is the meaning of life?

Dear questioner, My name is Duoduo Lian, and I hope my reply can be of help to you.

At boarding school, I missed home a lot and felt like the days were passing by really quickly. I didn't understand why people lived, and I felt helpless and frustrated. Do you want to make your life more meaningful and live a worthwhile life?

Life at boarding school is different from life at school. You have to face a lot of things on your own, including a heavy workload and various interpersonal relationships. I don't know how you get through the hard times. At home, as a child, you have the care of your parents, and you can express your emotions. Your parents are your companions and supporters.

Do you feel like you're just going through the motions, uncertain about the future and wondering what the point of all the hard work is? The current environment is not optimistic, the employment situation is fierce, and the pressure of competition is intense. Do you feel the crisis? In fact, crisis is also opportunity. Compared to some people who just get by, you have already surpassed many people.

As a student, your main focus should be on learning. What you learn is knowledge, and the ability to transform that knowledge is a valuable skill. It's also important to integrate into a group, be able to resolve problems when they arise, and allow yourself the ability to transform happiness. These are the key things to focus on.

For most of us, there are times when we're alone with our thoughts. When there's no one to keep us company, it's important to give ourselves the energy we need to last a long time. Ask yourself what you truly want, and if you get it, will you really be satisfied?

Contentment is always bliss. At school, you have a safe environment where you can focus on your studies without being disturbed by others. You don't have to worry about financial pressure either, because someone else is taking care of it for you. Studying can be stressful and boring, but it's also a necessary path, a path to light, and a life experience.

When you enter the real world, the pressure to survive can be overwhelming. Compared to the present, it is not a big deal. There is no smooth life. Everyone has their own worries. It depends on how you look at it.

You can also find friends you can talk to, work through things together, support each other, move forward together, accept the unpleasant as the norm, not expect anything, live in the present, and remember that the past is the past and the future is not written—you have the power to make it what you want.

I wish you the best of luck.

Hello, questioner! I'm Rose, and I'm here to listen and support you.

Even though your message is short, I can picture what your life is like and how you're feeling. I get it. Every day is the same, and it can feel boring and tedious. It might seem like you're going through the motions, but you're actually awake.

Let's chat! I think even words can bring you some warmth and company.

Even if they're strangers, people who care about you will always make you feel less lonely.

1. It's normal to feel homesick at boarding school.

I don't think there's anyone who doesn't feel homesick. After all, family is the closest thing you have. Especially when you feel lonely, you want your family to be there with you.

I get it. I know that not being with your family as much as you'd like is only temporary. It seems like every child with dreams has to go through a period of growing up away from home.

During our conversation, I also thought about my own experience at boarding school. Initially, I was thrilled, but after a while, I often felt homesick and isolated, and my heart felt cold.

2. The days just fly by, filled with studying.

Yes, even if it's just studying, time still seems to fly by. I think the reason for this feeling is the pressure we feel in our hearts and the anxiety we have about our ultimate goal of going to university!

Sometimes these days can be really tiring because you're constantly striving for a goal that's years away. People have limited energy every day, and when it's almost completely exhausted, the kind of tiredness is beyond words.

From what you've written, I can see that you're aware of your own feelings, which shows that you're a person who takes themselves seriously and is attentive to yourself. This is an important point in the growth process, especially when you're lost on the journey of growth.

3. Why do people live?

This is a question that people have been asking themselves for a long time: why do people live?

When we're physically and mentally drained, it often seems like the things that used to matter to us lose their appeal. It's then that we start to question what it's all for.

Take a moment to close your eyes and reflect on how you feel when you think about this question. Do you feel tired? If so, it's likely that your body is telling you to take a break and recharge.

If not, think about how you feel about this question.

What are your thoughts on this?

This question often comes up during a person's growth journey. I'm a 35-year-old mother, and my child is only 7 years old, but she also asks this question. I asked this question often during my growth process, but my parents would tell me it was to live a good life, and my teachers would say it was to become a useful person.

But then I read a book by the psychologist Bi Shumin, who said that there's no inherent meaning to life, but we can give it meaning. At first, I thought this was a great way of looking at it. We need to set ourselves a goal to make life meaningful.

But then, after some self-reflection, I realized that the purpose of life is to become who you really are.

As psychologist Wu Zhihong puts it, there's no need to try to become a better version of ourselves. Instead, we should focus on becoming ourselves in a better way. I believe that the best way to become ourselves is to embrace the journey of growth, live according to our own wishes, and respect ourselves.

This also means that you're investing in yourself at boarding school right now.

You're at school, and you're hearing a lot about studying, grades, and the future. Is it about work and how much money you can earn? Many people are pursuing material things, trying to get into a good university to have a good future. They're spending a lot of time trying to get into a good university, putting aside the things they like, and spending a lot of money to do it.

But these are material pursuits. There's also something very important for a person to pursue spiritually: becoming yourself, living according to your will, doing what you want to do, going where you want to go, making friends with whom you want to make friends, and living the life you want to live.

If you're feeling lost, take a break and do something other than studying. For example, close your eyes and imagine the future or where you want to go.

You might also want to read your favorite magazines. I remember some magazines that are very suitable for teenagers, such as Youth, Philosophy, Wisdom, and the like. There are also your usual favorite books, which can help you adjust to a boring life and also give you some spiritual company.

The truth is, there's no set pattern to life, and no one situation defines it. We all have the potential to improve, and the future is full of possibilities.

You know your own life best. Only you can define what kind of person you become.

Young man, go for it! Every step you take is a learning experience, even the wrong ones. They show you which way to go to get it right next time.

When you're feeling lost, take a moment to empty your mind and slow down to assess the situation. You'll find the answer you're looking for.

I love you, and so does the world. Keep up the good work and all good things will come your way.

Hello, I am a heart coach. I hope you are able to fly free and enjoy the beautiful journey of life. It is not about appreciation, but about blossoming.

It's natural to feel a bit lonely and helpless when you're adjusting to a new environment. Leaving your parents behind can be a big change, and it's understandable that you might feel a bit overwhelmed. We're here to support you through it. Please know that you can always come to us for a warm hug.

1. You are now beginning to confront the challenges and uncertainties that accompany independent living.

It might be helpful to think of what we often refer to as "leaving the comfort zone" as leaving your usual lifestyle, including your environment, social circle, and the thinking, emotional, and behavioral patterns that give you a sense of security.

When you go to boarding school, you may find yourself facing a range of challenges on your own. You may be accustomed to having parents around and being taken care of. Adjusting to coping with these things on your own can be a period of transition.

It is understandable that you may feel anxious, nervous, and scared because you have left your familiar environment. It can feel like suddenly being held under water and unable to breathe, feeling full of danger and very worried.

In a particularly monotonous school environment, it can be challenging to distinguish between learning and resting periods. This can intensify feelings of loneliness and a sense of longing for the comfort and support of loved ones.

The challenging academic workload can intensify feelings of loneliness and helplessness. It's natural to crave warmth, protection, and attention.

Growing up is a process that we all have to go through, and it's not something we can skip.

As we mature and grow, we gain experience and knowledge. Just as you started boarding school, which was a new experience for you, full of both challenges and opportunities.

A brand new lifestyle, complete with independence, where your parents are no longer as involved in your life as they once were.

You will also have new relationships with teachers, classmates, and roommates in the dormitory. Everything is so new and curious, which presents an opportunity to adapt to your new life in a brand new way.

It might be helpful to consider that changing your thinking can influence your behavior and emotional experience. When you view these things as unfamiliar people and things, it's possible you may feel nervous and stressed, and your behavior might become timid and withdrawn, or even the urge to escape.

When you embark on a journey of discovery with a sense of curiosity, you may find yourself feeling excited and full of anticipation, which could then lead to a more courageous and confident demeanor.

It's not uncommon to feel this way, and it's likely that your classmates are experiencing something similar. It's possible that you and your classmates could benefit from the warmth and encouragement of those around you. You might find it helpful to reach out and show your enthusiasm and friendliness, not only to receive the same warmth from others, but also to give yourself greater confidence.

My dear child, if you're unsure, try smiling at yourself in the mirror. Do you see the same smile? The world is shaped by what you see in your eyes. You have the courage to move forward. If you miss home, give your parents a call. They miss you too. Have faith in your ability to handle this.

I hope these words are helpful to you. I wish you all the best in your journey.

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Hello, question owner, I'm Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu, your Heart Exploration coach.

It's important to understand each stage as it comes up. When we're in the middle of a stage, it can be tough to see the value in what we're doing right now. That's totally normal. The person asking the question doesn't have to feel confused, but it's good to remember that every step we take is important. We'll be grateful for all the effort we put in today.

I learned to cook when I was 7, to ride a bike when I was 10, and to drive when I was 27 (there were no cars back then). From that perspective, it seems that learning these things was useless and caused me a lot of suffering. But today I am incredibly grateful that I learned so much at the time. My cooking skills have kept me from starving during the pandemic, my bike has allowed me to take the shortest route to work (no traffic jams, no detours), and driving has given me the confidence to just go whenever I want.

My education has given me some freedom in choosing a job.

This is how I see learning, and it's given me more options.

Going back to the question, I actually understand it very well. I also went to a boarding school for most of my school life, and I used to envy my classmates who could go home after class, be picked up after school, and have parents attend parents' meetings. However, it's true that every family has different financial capabilities and chooses different lifestyles. But you can try to believe that the questioner misses home and that the questioner's parents also love the questioner and are willing to support the questioner's studies.

While this approach might not be what the questioner wants, looking at the longer-term future can help them redefine the life they want.

We feel bored because we don't really know why we are studying. We are studying for our parents, and our time is cut into small pieces, each with its own focus and goals. So time flies by. I've also experienced such moments where I couldn't continue studying. In fact, I even skipped class on the eve of the college entrance exam.

There can be a lot of different goals, responsibilities, and ideals in life. Try asking yourself what you want, and it might help you figure things out. It's easier to get lost because what you're doing isn't what you're interested in, and you don't know what you want to do. Most of us are often confused in this way. Try to believe that you're not the only one who's having trouble.

Everyone in the world has their own goals. The questioner may want to ask themselves:

Apart from the current life and studies that you're not used to, what's the one thing you most want to do in your heart? If you need to achieve it, what are the steps?

For instance, things like education and money.

Learning can be tough, but starting with subjects you're interested in and working through some of the big questions bit by bit can really help you feel more accomplished.

Take some time to think about what kind of life you want 10 or 20 years from now. This can help you figure out what you need to do in the present to make that vision a reality.

It's important to give yourself time to adjust. Moving from day school to boarding school means getting used to a new environment and learning to deal with problems independently. It takes time to adjust. You may envy the freedom of day school and the warmth of home, but your friends may also envy you for not having your parents watching over you.

It's important to get positive feedback from a sense of achievement and accomplishment. One way to do this is to set small goals for yourself to help build interest and confidence.

I'd also suggest reading "Who's Youth is Not Confused," "Burns Anxiety Self-Help Therapy," "5% Change," and "Cognitive Awakening" to help the questioner open up their mind.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, my child. I hope you feel my hug and that my answer helps.

Boarding school is tough. You don't see your family much, and you study all the time. It's normal to feel lost at first. But you can adapt and find your way.

My advice is:

Accept yourself, understand your homesickness, and meet your needs.

It takes time to adapt to a new place and way of living. Don't blame yourself, but understand and accept yourself. You can tell your family what you miss and they will understand. You won't feel so lonely. You can also explore what specific needs are behind your homesickness. Do you need someone to keep you company?

Do you miss food or family?

Do you miss your bed and quilt at home?

Once you know your needs, you can find ways to satisfy them. For example, if you need company, you can make friends, go to the canteen, go shopping, play sports, chat, etc. If you miss food from home, you can go home at the weekend and tell your mother what you want to eat. You can also take some food to school to eat. If you miss the love and warmth of your family, you can call them or feel the love and warmth of your new relationships. You can also learn to care for yourself. If you miss the bed and quilt at home, you can prepare a similar quilt.

Learning is boring because it doesn't bring you pleasure. There are ways to help you enjoy learning.

If we find the right approach, learning can be as fun as playing games. We can "level up and fight monsters" in the learning process, enjoying the happiness of passing levels and upgrading again and again, and gaining more and more self-confidence. Games keep us playing and make us feel interesting because they have a clear goal, a level of difficulty that matches our abilities, and timely feedback.

Applying these three factors to learning makes it more interesting. How do you do it?

First, set a clear goal.

Set specific learning goals. If you say you will read every day, it is too general. Set a goal like reading 5 pages of Chinese or doing an English reading comprehension. This makes the goal more meaningful.

Match your goals to your abilities.

Set goals that match your abilities.

Don't set goals that are too ambitious. If they are, break them down into smaller ones. Start with the easier ones and gradually increase the difficulty.

This will make you feel good and help you keep learning.

Third, get feedback when it's due.

Make a daily study list. Check off each task you complete. Take a moment to feel good about it.

Reward yourself after a big goal is reached. Go out to eat or buy something you like. These rewards can help you study better.

If learning is interesting, you'll be attracted to it.

3. Make your life better. Do something that makes you happy or gives you a sense of achievement. It will help you feel better.

You have no time to relax, which makes you tired. Your brain needs to relax too. Relaxing and being tense at the same time helps your brain work better and you learn more. You need to relax every day. Do things you like to do. Read your favorite books, play your favorite sports, chat with friends, sing, listen to music, etc. These things will make you feel better and you will enjoy life more.

For your reference. Best wishes!

Good day. I am Jokerev, and I am aware of the emotional challenges that accompany being away at boarding school and experiencing homesickness. I also recognize the confusion that often arises regarding the meaning of life.

This emotional experience is a natural part of the process of studying away from home, especially when the pressure of study and the living environment change. It is more likely to result in feelings of confusion and loneliness.

It is to be expected that feelings of homesickness will manifest, particularly when one is situated in an unfamiliar environment. The sense of longing for one's family and the comfort of home is likely to intensify. In order to mitigate the effects of homesickness, it may be helpful to consider strategies such as maintaining a journal to document one's emotional state, scheduling regular video calls with family members to share experiences, or engaging in school clubs to foster connections with new individuals.

It is important to note that although physical distance has temporarily separated you from home, family ties and a sense of belonging will not diminish as a result. Indeed, they will become a source of strength as you grow.

The question of the meaning of life is a philosophical one, and different individuals will have varying insights at different stages of their lives. One might perceive the act of studying as tedious and time-consuming, but this is, in fact, a form of life experience. It represents a process of knowledge and skill accumulation that will prove invaluable in the future.

It is not sufficient to merely endure the trivialities of everyday life; rather, one should strive to realize one's self-worth, tap into one's personal potential, and make a positive impact on the world. It is important to find joy in learning, break down your goals into smaller, more manageable steps, and recognize that every effort you make will contribute to the accumulation of knowledge and experience, ultimately leading to a brighter future.

Furthermore, it is important not to underestimate the significance of seemingly ordinary yet meaningful experiences, such as engaging in sincere conversation, reading a book that resonates with you, or setting aside dedicated time for reflection. These activities have the potential to shape your inner world and enrich your overall life experience. Life can be conceptualized as a journey, and it is not uncommon to feel lost or uncertain when we hastily rush through it. However, as long as we maintain our passion for exploration and yearning for a better life, we will always be able to find our own unique path and navigate the journey with purpose.

It is therefore recommended that you afford yourself a little more patience, accept and embrace the current confusion, as this represents the optimal starting point for you to commence the process of thinking and searching for the meaning of life. It is inevitable that every struggle and every effort will result in your growth and eventual illumination of your path forward.

Persevere!

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

We will answer the questions in the title one by one.

"Boring studies, the days go by quickly." We study for most of our waking hours. Our days are filled with classes and activities. If we actively devote ourselves to learning, time will pass more quickly. When we actively do things, we perceive time as passing more quickly. When we do things we dislike, time seems to pass more slowly.

"I miss home when I go to boarding school." I've been there. We can't find the feeling of home at school. We also miss having our loved ones by our side. We also miss the days at home. This is normal. Try to allow yourself to miss home. Try to do things that you think can make you feel less.

We combine "boring learning with the question of why we are alive?" Learning is boring. Happy learning is only for a few. For most people, learning is painful.

If you want to stop being bored and find meaning in life, you need to learn.

In fact, life is about what we do with it. If our goal is to get into a good university and choose a good major, then the meaning of life is to achieve these goals through learning.

If we don't know what we want, why are we living like this? I can tell the questioner that boring learning gives us more choices to decide the meaning of our lives.

Everyone lives differently, but most people live by the standards of society. Learning can help us break through these limitations.

The meaning of life will reveal itself over time. For now, we should live our lives to the fullest and find our own answers.

Hello, I'm Coach Yu, and I'd like to discuss this topic with you.

First, let's talk about confusion.

Confusion means that the old way of doing things has fallen apart and there's no new system in place yet. The solution to confusion is basically about getting your inner order back on track. To do that, you need to understand two things: what was the old way of doing things like?

What should I be like in the new me?

The questioner recently feels very lost in life, and there may be two reasons for this: one is a reluctance to accept choices that aren't as good as before; the other is a vague sense of the future self, which isn't enough to guide the current self.

As the questioner wrote, after going to boarding school, I really missed home, and the work was so slow-going day after day.

We can ask ourselves, what is it about boarding school that makes us feel homesick?

We can also ask ourselves what the biggest difference is between the current boarding life and the original, and what the biggest difference is between the current learning and the original.

What would the ideal boarding life and study look like? What can I do to adapt?

If we can switch from focusing on uncertainty to focusing on certainty, it'll be easier to get out of our period of confusion.

Let's talk about emotions.

Emotions are made up of three things: what we think and feel, what happens to us outside of ourselves, and our bodies reacting to these things. Each emotion is an unmet need inside us. If we don't get the promotion or pay raise we wanted, we feel sad. If we lose something we've held onto for a long time, we feel angry.

As the questioner wrote, every day goes by quickly and, to be honest, a bit boringly. I'm not sure what I'm living for.

We can ask ourselves how we deal with homesickness and what emotions and feelings it brings up.

We can also ask ourselves, what do we do when learning is boring? What emotions and feelings does it bring up in us?

It's important to remember that emotions aren't inherently good or bad. When we're feeling anxious or confused, it can help to ask ourselves, "What am I worried about? What does this remind me of?"

When we start to accept our emotions and let them flow, we're less likely to distort our behavior due to emotional suppression. We can also try recording what our feelings are at the moment.

Your writing is just for you, so feel free to be honest and open about your feelings. This will help us understand the origins and effects of our emotions and also help us clarify the root of the problem.

Everyone has to adjust to a new environment at some point. It can be tough and you might feel like you've failed, but if you put it in context, it's just a small part of your life. Sometimes accepting who you really are and sometimes letting go of some imperfections can make you feel suddenly enlightened.

Finally, let's talk about self-love. It's clear that the thoughts and emotions of the original poster will affect your life and studies. But if we're aware of our emotions, we can start by caring for ourselves, taking care of our bodies and our feelings.

If you're struggling with something, it's okay to ask for help. It can be tough to overcome challenges on your own. Try to find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to. If you feel the need, you can also find a counselor. It's important to release emotions to relieve the heaviness and blockages in our hearts.

It's also a good idea to take a look at your self-worth, give yourself a pat on the back for your strengths, and accept your weaknesses. Spend some time enriching your inner self, discovering your unique value, and enjoying the beauty of nature on the weekends. Get involved in community activities to gain real interpersonal experience. Life is all about continuous growth and development, and you'll benefit from these processes.

I'd also suggest reading "The Courage to Be Disliked."

It is essential to understand how to genuinely care for and appreciate the people and things in this world in order to feel that life is meaningful.

To truly love others is to wish and give others happiness, and to do so for everyone, the outstanding, the ordinary, including the weak. Psychologically, one should accept and approve of others or let go of the ego to forgive and forget. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, one should be able to correct them. Everyone has the right to happiness. People can bring each other spiritual comfort and even joy. It is beneficial to love and approve of others and oneself, to accept shortcomings and inadequacies, and to be kind at heart. That is, it is beneficial to others or society, not to disdain or reject ordinary people, and not to be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you find yourself incompatible with the magnetic fields of most people, it can lead to negative energy and emotional problems. To foster positive relationships and careers, it is essential to love others, adapt to people and situations, and align your energy field. Sharing your thoughts, interests, and experiences with others, both in person and online, can help you connect with like-minded individuals and build meaningful relationships.

Furthermore, it is important to embrace a positive outlook on life and find contentment in the smaller things.

Negative energy can affect your health. To maintain optimal physical comfort and wellbeing, consider incorporating full-body massage into your routine. Head massage encompasses the forehead and face, which also feature meridian points. Perform these treatments with deep and firm pressure, using your hands or a specialized massage comb. Avoid direct pressure on the abdomen during mealtimes.

If you are experiencing negative emotions or thoughts, feeling uncomfortable or unhealthy, facing challenges in your interpersonal relationships, or encountering difficulties in your career or academic pursuits, it may be due to an excess of negative energy. Individuals who are overly self-centered or self-absorbed tend to accumulate this energy, which can negatively impact their ability to connect with others. To foster positive relationships, adaptability, and conflict resolution, it is essential to learn how to truly love others, adapt to different personalities and situations, and align your energy field with positivity. This can help you avoid or reduce negative emotions, resolve conflicts, improve interpersonal relationships, and better navigate the aforementioned challenges. If necessary, you can also support those around you in their growth and change.